I went to pick up some baby stuff from my old coworker yesterday. She wanted to give me her hand me downs that she rarely used for her two kids. She gave me nice stuff, a dockatot, a mamaroo swing, a crib she never used, even an amazing glider/rocking chair. Plus high chair, clothes, mattress, toys, bouncer etc. My SO car was full!! But she just saved us a lot of money!!
Me and my best friend took all our kids to the river. My 3 year old is still the only one with HFM so far. Two of her kids have it. We figured if we both have it might as well hang out together. It was overcast most of the day and it was really cold. So not the best day for the river. We still had fun though.
@emeraldcity603 I hope the HFM stays isolated to the one kiddo and gets better quickly!
Anyone have a good iron supplement you give your kid? Been doing more research on my daughter's night terrors and I'm starting to wonder if she's iron deficient. She eats a great diet, but I actually started paying attention today to iron content of what she ate, and it comes up short of the recommended amount. It turns out iron deficiency has been linked to night terrors, so now I'm curious. I'd ask her doctor but......... But if I can total things up and she likely isn't getting a full 10mg a day even when I'mn paying attention, I'm not too worried about iron poisoning with a kid size dose of a supplement.
@ki1244 we do beef liver, well beef organ complex now. 1 capsule per 20lbs is the general rule of thumb. I do 1 capsule for my 8yo because I hide it in his food and I’m worried if I do two (he’s only like 45lbs lol) he’ll notice it. I can hide one capsule in his oatmeal and eggs. You can also put it in yogurt and applesauce too. We get ours from paleo valley
I’m pretty sure I got some spots on my back and I definitely got one in my mouth but they are already healing. Apparently HFM is everywhere where I live. Honestly it’s been way better than a stomach bug. Only me and one kid got it. My youngest didn’t get it. He didn’t get it last summer when my toddler had it then too.
Passed my glucose test!! I was so worried about it and convinced I’d fail since I had borderline issues pre-pregnancy. But I was so normal it wasn’t even close!
Guess I didn’t need to have my “last ice cream” earlier this week out of self-pity 😂
Rant incoming: I had the wooooorst MFM on rotation the other day. I hadn’t met her yet. She took ages to come into the room, and sent a resident to do like 95% of the appointment which I understand normally but sorry I think I should get the doctors, my baby’s survival is tenuous at best. Anyway when she finally came in (20 minutes between resident and doctor), she basically had nothing to say. I told her the name of other MFM who I had worked with so far, and she goes “oh well he and I have some differences” …????? Ok??? And then she was like “do you have any questions” and I was like well no not really all of my questions are about my baby and the birth process/coordination with cardiology but it’s a little early to talk about that. Then I asked her about my weight because I was slightly worried I was gaining too much. She hadn’t even looked at my chart before coming into the room and then had to log in to the computer to pull it up and check. She goes “your weight gain is probably in the range of normal”…. Probably???? There are actual numbers and standards, could you maybe spell them out for me?? And then she starts talking about how I should eat healthy food. I have gained 17 pounds and my range of normal is 25-35 (I looked this up after the appointment).
I think part of her treatment stems from the fact that my pregnancy is not high risk from an OB perspective; they switched me to MFM because logistically it will make coordination with NICU and cardiology easier as it’s all in the same building. So for birth that’s great but for right now MFM is kind of like “you don’t really have to be here”. I wish I could have just one doctor to monitor my pregnancy and not deal with the rotation/residents/annoying doctors.
@ccmrc143 wow she sounds like a *delight* what a weird thing to say about your colleague right off the bat! I’d ask not to see her again if that’s an option at your hospital!
@ccmrc143 Did you know that you can decline having a resident work on your case? I have done it. I had a resident that did a crappy job when I was in labor. After 2 hours she came in telling me that I was looking at a c-section because I wasn’t progressing fast enough. I had only been in labor for 2 hours. 🙄 I also requested no students when my third baby was in the hospital for pyloric stenosis. She came in to round on us before pre rounds. I was livid. She woke my baby unnecessarily who wasn’t allowed to eat for 72 hours prior to his surgery. So of course he screamed after that. Anyways, my point, decline anyone but the doctor if you feel that’s what you need.
@emeraldcity603 that’s great to know, thank you. For cardiology I’m ok with residents because they’re just observing right alongside the actual doctor. For OB I think I’ll let them know I don’t want to see residents anymore. I can’t believe they suggested a C section after only 2 hours 😭 And then woke your baby! Ugh.
@ccmrc143 I'm so sorry. What a terrible experience! It doesn't matter if you're not high risk from their standpoint, they know why you're there and should treat you as such.
@emeraldcity603 I had no students in my birth plan and they just ignored it lol. I know people have to learn, but I was anxious and allow them in my care 95% of the time. I was not feeling up to it on induction day. I did have a couple of great residents and a couple of terrible ones. I think I'm just going to be more vocal this time around. Or let my doula be vocal for me since I'm a chicken
@ccmrc143@msjaay My husband is a doctor so he gets really upset with me when I decline to let students or residents take care of me. I get that they need to learn but I’m also not a checklist for them to get things marked off. I felt like the resident that was pushing the c-section that day was looking to check some things off. They also informed me that since my water had broke they were only allowing me to labor for 12 hours and then moving to a c-section. I had that baby right at the 12 hour mark. It was crazy because I was able to labor for 15 hours with my first first without anyone threatening me with a c-section and my water broke with that baby too.
Just need to rant about strollers. I went Mano a Mano with our new one for literally an hour trying to get the bassinet extension set up. The instructions were useless, it said “align the brackets” with no indication of HOW to align them. Finally found the answer after searching three different YouTube videos. Who designs these things? I just wanna talk!
@lizdaine456 It’s hilarious how difficult some strollers are to open and close. I have a double I can open and close with one hand and my husband spends so much time trying to work it.
I lost my paperwork for the glucose test rules (1 hr) and my DS had an appointment this morning too, so my diet was completely off. Hopefully all goes well 🤷🏻♀️
@msjaay I never thought about writing down no students. Sorry they ignored it though.
With my last I was in active labor and there was a shift change. They asked if the resident on the new shift could observe and I said nope. I think they were so interested in my labor they thought it would be a “cool” one to be involved with. Luckily they listened to me. I had a few comments from the nurse that everyone at the nurses station was watching my “perfect” contractions. That was enough involvement.
@emeraldcity603 that is so weird that they wanted to give you 12 hours…it’s usually 24 hours?
I had a room full of residents at DS’s birth because I am such a people pleaser that I want to just be the easiest patient. One ended up passing out and cut open her head on the table in the room so that was an interesting turn of events. I’m very much wanting to be mostly left alone this time and would tell no one but my sister that I’m going into labor but either my mom or my in-laws will have to know to watch DS since he doesn’t want to attend the birth anymore. Part of me wants to make him come with😅 both of our families are just not the best with boundaries and I’m dreading it.
@emeraldcity603 yeah, the 12 hours seems so arbitrary! Every time a resident came in to tell me how tired I must be and suggest a c-section, I just pretended like they weren't there Very mature.
My OB said 12 hours too. It wound up being 14 but that was because I pushed for 3. Had it taken one more hour before pushing started I would have had a CS but they didn't think I'd have to push that long so we just rolled with it.
I also didn't have residents, but the LD nurse was playing with my daughter's hair in the birth canal and kept waving people (other nurses, surgical tech, etc) in to see how curly her hair was. At first I was like "ok but seriously I tried to shave, just can't see anything down there" until I realized it was my kid's hair, but everyone was getting a full-on money shot. I'm typically the Never Nude type so it was a little out of my comfort zone...but I just decided what the hell, laugh it off, I'll never see these people again. This time I don't care at all -- as long as my OB is in there, they can invite the peanut gallery and I don't really mind too much.
And my issue wasn't necessarily a modesty issue, but the residents that were on the birth team were just incredibly unhelpful. My regular OB eventually came in after 4 hours of pushing, took a look around at what was going on, and kicked them all out. They hadn't changed my position or tried anything different and were making me feel incredibly frustrated. I would've ended up with a c-section if it wasn't for her. Their bedside manner was just treating me like I was an object and I felt every bit of that.
@ki1244 I laughed really hard at that story 😂 she must have seemed so weird to be doing that until you realized what was going on!!
@msjaay I’m glad you had a good OB! That’s so frustrating. I try to change positions for sure every 30 minutes while pushing with patients, even if it’s just subtle! 4 hours and nothing is ridiculous 🤦🏼♀️
Okay true random: I have a 75 gallon aquarium with lots of live plants and fish. I have a pair of angel fish that has routinely laid eggs for the past year, but they are terrible parents and always stress eat the eggs after 2 days. I’ve been experimenting with isolating the eggs the last 5-6 times and they always die or get a fungus before coming even close to hatching.
Well… somehow this time 5 of the 200 of them actually made it through all the life cycle stages to the point where they are swimming around. And I am completely unprepared and have no food for them since I kept expecting them all to die 😳 I’m a very stressed out fish mom right now lol because I live in the boondocks and there are no fish stores within 70+ miles of me where I can get any supplies.
My stress reliever hobby suddenly became very stressful today lol. Whoops
All your birth stories are making me so anxious! Maybe it’s a USA/regional thing but I’ve never heard this 24 hr ruptured then automatic c-section rule. Granted I’ve never had a baby before but I’ve for sure heard of moms who were ruptured for days, you just need IV antibiotics. Sure they’re living in the hospital but if baby is stable and mom has good antibiotics, why would you possibly need an urgent c-section?
@lizdaine456 that was 9 year ago for me. Not all hospitals have that rule. You can push back on it too. You have the right to decline anything they offer for intervention during labor. You just have to be firm and advocate for yourself. Lots of women hire doulas for this very reason. The never mentioned the 12 hour clock with my other 2 babies who’s water broke at the start of labor. All of my delivers, except my last, we’re at the hospital.
@lizdiane456 I can tell you for my hospital anyway, a few weeks ago we ran into this situation twice, and both docs just recommended antibiotics starting once got closer to the 24 hour mark not an automatic c/s. Whether or not you have meconium stained fluids (baby pooped in utero, which can be associated with a stressed baby) is also a factor as that increases your infection risk.
So I think it’s moving away from automatic c/s, I’ve definitely never seen it after just 12 hours in the last few years, but of course it could vary from place to place. But I think so much of it depends on how you and baby are tolerating things and if there’s any infections signs!
I didn’t have any residents or students for my labor last time and I honestly don’t want any this time around. I usually am alllll for students and helping teach medicine, but my first birth experience was awful and I don’t want that added stressor this time. I’m so hopeful that having a doula this go around will be a game changer for me and help me in my goal of safely VBACing.
My random for the moment: I’ve been vacationing in Spain for the last week and have done SO much walking around. My feet, legs, and back are all on fire. I can’t wait to get home and sleep in my own bed. And to relax on my couch! I have no clue how women take big trips like this when they’re further along. 5/6 months pregnant is definitely my sweet spot for tolerance right now.
I went to a mom swap today. I got an owlet monitor, one of those little flower bath mats that keeps the baby securely in the sink, some shoes, a carrier, and a really nice glider. I saw the owlet monitor when they posted pictures of the event and somehow I was able to snag it.
I can’t make this stuff up y’all. May 6 was DS second birthday. We had a little party and all 4 grandparents! He had the best time. Then we were making dinner and grandparents were watching him. He did a somersault into a wall ???? And gashed his head so so badly. Blood everywhere. At first we thought it would be ok with just butterfly stitches at home but after his bday cake we figured we should try to go to ER because we couldn’t clean it properly. So we’re at the ER from 7-1145 — at first they also thought butterfly stitches, then they didn’t work so they switched to glue. Then when cleaning for the glue, they realized it was too deep after all so they gave him four sutures. Thankfully he gave him drugs for that part but man I wish he had gotten them the first time. So we’re home by midnight and he goes to sleep.
Then he’s sobbing at 3am, barking cough, severe croup. We have prednisone on hand for croup but his stridor was bad enough and he was in distress so we went back to the ER a little after 3. He has received epinephrine twice and because it didn’t take after the second time, they are admitting us to the hospital. Thankfully he’s asleep right now and the hospital is packed so they aren’t going to move us anytime soon. I just pray he stays sleeping as long as possible. Thankfully DH parents are staying at our place so they can handle the dog and can bring us food and things. my poor sweet baby. We’re going to see an ENT specialist after this episode (it’s his third) and I hope we can figure out why he’s so susceptible to croup.
@emeraldcity603 is the owlet the one with the heart or breathing monitor?
@benten24 wow traveling in Spain sounds incredible! Where have you visited? No way could my swollen ankles handle it so I feel you on the exhaustion and commend you for powering through! I have a close friend who is due mid-September. She’s traveling internationally in July with her husband and toddler. I admire that, but no way could I do it solely because of my swelling 😂It’s such an annoying thing being pregnant. You can’t push yourself the way you’ve always done, and it’s a hard mental adjustment.
@ccmrc143 poor little thing. I hope you can get to the bottom of why he keeps getting it and that you’re discharged soon! What a turn of events.
@benten24 what an amazing trip! And also, I’m super impressed as well. We were walking like 16k steps a day in Spain. I would be struggling at this state 😂
@ccmrc143 Yes it’s the one they wear and monitors their breathing. That was a really rough day/night for y’all. Our toddler has busted his chin open 3 separate times in the last week with freak accidents. Like slipping on a blanket or falling while he walks and hitting it on the tile.
@ccmrc that is so stressful, I'm so sorry your poor baby had to go through that! Hoping you get some answers about the repeated croup.
As a physician, I really appreciated all of the women who let me participate in their births way back when I was a medical student. Although I didn't end up choosing OB, it was such a valuable experience for me. I'm sorry that some of you have had less than optimal experiences with residents and students (and attendings, for that matter).
So I am jealous, and slightly annoyed at everyone that looks pregnant and gaining weight. I am really tired of being questioned if I am sure I am that far along, or our you sure baby is growing okay. Baby is in the 90% for length and weight but I have only gained 6lbs and only have a small bump for being over half way. I am 5’9” with a long torso. I was at a friends birthday party and people kept questioning me.
@estadt I was at my women’s church group a few weeks ago and there was a pregnant mom who was 38 weeks along. I swear she was as big as I was at 12 weeks. I can’t remember if this is your first but when I was pregnant with my first I didn’t look pregnant until I was a few weeks into the third trimester. I woke up one morning and my abdominal muscles just decided they could no longer hold it all in and I look liked I grew a ton overnight.
Re: May Randoms
@emeraldcity603 I hope the HFM stays isolated to the one kiddo and gets better quickly!
Anyone have a good iron supplement you give your kid? Been doing more research on my daughter's night terrors and I'm starting to wonder if she's iron deficient. She eats a great diet, but I actually started paying attention today to iron content of what she ate, and it comes up short of the recommended amount. It turns out iron deficiency has been linked to night terrors, so now I'm curious. I'd ask her doctor but......... But if I can total things up and she likely isn't getting a full 10mg a day even when I'mn paying attention, I'm not too worried about iron poisoning with a kid size dose of a supplement.
Guess I didn’t need to have my “last ice cream” earlier this week out of self-pity 😂
@emeraldcity603 I had no students in my birth plan and they just ignored it lol. I know people have to learn, but I was anxious and allow them in my care 95% of the time. I was not feeling up to it on induction day. I did have a couple of great residents and a couple of terrible ones. I think I'm just going to be more vocal this time around. Or let my doula be vocal for me since I'm a chicken
I also didn't have residents, but the LD nurse was playing with my daughter's hair in the birth canal and kept waving people (other nurses, surgical tech, etc) in to see how curly her hair was. At first I was like "ok but seriously I tried to shave, just can't see anything down there" until I realized it was my kid's hair, but everyone was getting a full-on money shot. I'm typically the Never Nude type so it was a little out of my comfort zone...but I just decided what the hell, laugh it off, I'll never see these people again. This time I don't care at all -- as long as my OB is in there, they can invite the peanut gallery and I don't really mind too much.
And my issue wasn't necessarily a modesty issue, but the residents that were on the birth team were just incredibly unhelpful. My regular OB eventually came in after 4 hours of pushing, took a look around at what was going on, and kicked them all out. They hadn't changed my position or tried anything different and were making me feel incredibly frustrated. I would've ended up with a c-section if it wasn't for her. Their bedside manner was just treating me like I was an object and I felt every bit of that.
As a physician, I really appreciated all of the women who let me participate in their births way back when I was a medical student. Although I didn't end up choosing OB, it was such a valuable experience for me. I'm sorry that some of you have had less than optimal experiences with residents and students (and attendings, for that matter).