Gross question....sorry! So when I went for my 20 wk checkup, I told my doctor I thought I had a yeast infection. (And the culture came back positive) He prescribed me the ointment that you insert vaginally. However, I've used the whole tube and it has not gone away. The itching is rare now, but I still have the discharge and I feel like it might be getting worse. Has anyone ever dealt with yeast infections while pregnant that wouldn't go away with medicine? I go back on Monday so I'm going to ask if he can give me something different. I've read that Diflucan (which has cleared them up on a day or two when not pregnant) isn't safe in the first trimester because it can cause miscarriage. I wonder if it's safe in the 2nd trimester?
@whitta1015 You don't need a prescription - any or the three or seven day OTC vaginal suppository tx's are fine (Monistat, Vagisil, etc.). And if the first tx doesn't work, you can do a second one. This is coming from my OB - antibiotics always give me yeast infections, so I've done this game due to the UTI that won't die repeatedly. Diflucan is still generally not recommended.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@kboydbowman Thank you! I might try one of those. I've used the whole tube of Terconazole that he gave me and it helped a little but definitely didn't cure it.
@whitta1015 I agree with @kboydbowman, but I would still give your doctor a call so they know it didn't fully clear up. They may want to try another round or something else altogether.
Not really a question, sort of looking for advice although I think I know the answer.
We have a group of friends that we regularly get together with once weekly for food, drinks and sometimes other events. We had openly discussed that we were actively trying to conceive with one of the other couples after they told us they were as well. We told this group of friends that we were pregnant at my graduation party 2 weeks ago- everything seemed ok, although in retrospect she did make a comment like, "well at least I can have another drink because I'm obviously not pregnant."
Since the party, they have not shown up to any of the group events, which isn't totally unusual. What is unusual is that we had planned to have a pool party at our place this weekend with the group, which they have never turned down (we throw some epic pool parties!). They live just around the corner and can walk over and bring their little dog to play with ours. Last night they text and said "it had been a rough couple of weeks for them" and that they couldn't make it. Everyone else in the group is planning to come.
Maybe I'm reading too much into it, but I can't help but feel like they may be avoiding us, which I can't blame them. After we lost our first, I couldn't look at a pregnant person or a baby commercial. I guess I just feel bad- they are our friends and I don't want them to feel like they can't be around us. But at the same time I don't want them to come around us and feel triggered. My initial thoughts are to leave it alone for now and give them time, but if weeks to months go by maybe bring it up? Thoughts?
@dvmmama It sounds like they are going through a lot. I would reach out and let them know that you’re always there for them, and that you plan to still support them through their fertility journey no matter where you’re at, but you also understand if they need to distance themselves. But then give them space. And don’t take any of it personally. It’ll be a long process!
I was lucky to find a few women I was very close with during infertility and miscarriage. When one gets pregnant, you’re so happy for them but sad for yourself. And those feelings can absolutely coexist simultaneously (the beautiful feelings and the ugly feelings are all valid!)… and now that I’m the pregnant one, I know my friend who cannot have children is drawing away. I give her space when needed, and make sure to talk about other topics when we’re together. If she brings up her family life, we talk about it. If not, we don’t.
It’s excruciating watching those you love have babies, when you can’t. And so I try to show so much empathy and love and gentleness to those around me during my pregnancy.
@dvmmama I will second @melyrae on reaching out to show that you are still there for them but completely leaving it at that. That is really solid advice for a number of struggles including infertility, loss, depression, anxiety, among many other things. Be like a cat. Be in the proverbial room, showing your presence. You can have your butt turned to the person so they don't feel watched, but you're still there for them when they are ready.
@dvmmama tough situation! My husband and I were friendly with another couple back when we were TTC ten years ago, and they conceived pretty much immediately. The woman of the couple invited me out to lunch to "break the news" and to ask me how I wanted her to handle it, as far as inviting me to the shower, talking to me about it, or not, as I felt comfortable. I walked away feeling really sure that she was gloating rather than actually being empathetic, and to this day I have no idea if I was being oversensitive or if I actually picked up on something unkind in her demeanor. All of this to say, no matter how good your intentions are, if you talk to them about it you could trigger an unexpected reaction. I would highly recommend giving them some time before you try to talk to them, if only in the hopes of the situation resolving on its own without you speaking up.
First time mom-to-be, due 9/25/22
Some complicated chromosomal stuff going on - our fingers are crossed, but this may not go according to plan!
@lilienne yes true! I was sure to break the news to my friend via text. Even though it seems not personal, it gives the chance for her to process and respond when she feels ready! Then she doesn’t have to hide the ugly feelings.
Has anyone here ever tried the Snoo smart sleeper bassinet? It keeps popping up in ads and such but it retails for over $1500… although someone is selling their lightly used one for $750 so I’m wondering if it’s as amazing as it claims to be?
@puzzlehead11 Honestly, I was always tempted, but we did just fine with a stationary bassinet. I know some people swear by them, but some also have a really difficult time weaning their baby from it. I highly recommend Harvey Karp's book, The Happiest Baby on the Block, for super easy to implement soothing techniques. He's the creator of the Snoo, but instead of a machine, it's parent power.
There's no shame in using a Snoo or choosing to go without; to each their own as we're all just looking to get some sleep. Just know that the price is fairly high up front if you purchase (you can also rent from them), but it has a decent return if you choose to sell it after bub is too big for it.
Anyone have trouble breathing and exhaustion at high altitude? I live at 5280 ft or whatever and am usually fine. In Vail right now and I can’t breathe and am out of breath from basic stuff. How do I catch my breath? I’ll be home soon, but I’m miserable.
@puzzlehead11 I think they may work ok for when baby is little but when they outgrow the bassinet you still have to sleep train them. That is, if you want them to sleep on their own. Each kid is so different it's hard to have a blanket statement about sleep. I only have 1 kid so kid #2 will pry put a kink in all my good ideas😂 but I really think that just like learning everything else, sleeping alone is something that has to be practiced. Often there's frustrations that come with learning something new but the frustrations don't last forever. It's hard to listen to crying but I can tell you that 3 nights with crying at bedtime (each night crying was progressively shorter) has been so so worth getting full nights of sleep since my daughter was 4 or 5 months. There have been a few regressions in there where we had to start from scratch but everyone is so much happier with sleep in the long run. Oops! That went off from your original question. I'd just get a normal bassinet and spend the extra money on cute pregnancy or nursing (if you're planning to) clothes
@lalarose22 I don’t know about allergies but ever since I got pregnant my nose is constantly running as if I have seasonal allergies. It’s the worst in the morning and then tapers off throughout the day. I always need to have tissues around and in my purse! This is totally normal according to my OB.
@lalarose22 that sucks! I figured everything would get worse with pregnancy but my normally bad allergies have been barely existent this year so far. I have been slightly congested all the way since January as a pregnancy symptom so maybe I am breathing in less allergens??
Thanks everyone- one of the other couples who came yesterday actually brought up they were concerned about them, so it isn't just us overthinking. Our friends who have older children are going to reach out to them and let them know we are all here for them, but understand if they want some space (if that's what's going on).
I just hope that if that is what's going on they can find some help or guidance. It's awfully lonely trying to navigate these things alone.
Here’s a random question - can you feel where baby is hanging out from the outside by now? Noticing that recently, one side of my bump will usually feel harder than the other (not the same side consistently) so I’m wondering if the “hard” side is little man?
@mk2022x yep! I can tell where he’s at just by feeling around which areas are more firm! Sometimes my whole belly is squishy like a jelly fish, sometimes it’s hard as a yoga ball! It just depends where he’s at.
I’m wondering the same! I can feel movements on both sides of my belly at the same time so I assume the harder ones are his feet (kicks) and the less hard ones are his hands ??
@puzzlehead11 my techie husband has concerns about anything that can be remotely triggered to move/shake/rock - he acknowledges this is slightly paranoid and highly unlikely to be an issue, but he says he'd prefer that we stick to devices that can be remotely monitored. I think he's being overly cautious, but I see his point, too. That said, if I could find a good deal on a Cradlewise I would probably do it - similar to the Snoo, but with a longer lifespan, which makes me feel like it's a little more worth it.
@chelsraec I definitely had more trouble breathing when we were in Tahoe at higher altitudes! Glad to hear you'll be home soon. I hate to say it, but I just had to poke around and ask people to pause so I could catch my breath. I didn't come up with anything brilliant that made it better.
@lalarose22 like others have said, I can't tell if my allergies are worse or if it's just allergies + pregnancy nose. I'm definitely sniffly, whatever the cause!
@dvmmama smart approach with your friends! How great that your community can help out with this stuff.
@melyrae don't forget elbows, heads, and everything else that babies can throw around! :P During our anatomy scan the sonographer actually pointed out where I was likely to feel hands vs. feet moving around. Obviously it changes as the baby moves, but it was really cool to have her show me!
Could I just get some reassurance that I'm being silly? A few days ago I'm pretty sure I felt her flip around, which was pretty cool, but whatever position she is in now I'm feeling a bit less movement than before. I'm trying not to worry, and I'm still feeling little jabs and pokes on occasion, but I'm somehow in a panic that our appointment tomorrow will point out an issue or that we won't be able to find a heartbeat. At 22 weeks it's reasonable for me to be feeling sporadic movement rather than regular movement, right?
First time mom-to-be, due 9/25/22
Some complicated chromosomal stuff going on - our fingers are crossed, but this may not go according to plan!
@lilienne I'm at 24 weeks and was reading on the bump yesterday that baby is creating wake/sleep cycles. I wonder if it's something like that? I notice more movement if im resting and especially in the evenings. During the day movements are pretty sporadic. An effective way to get baby to move is to drink something cold and sugary and then lay down. In case you're ever needing reassurance. I'm sure everything will check out fine at your appointment in the morning 😊
@lilienne it's very normal to not feel something this early. Even knowing that, I freaked myself out yesterday. This baby is most active when I'm going to bed, and last night I didn't feel anything. It also wasn't very active all day long, but I went swimming, chased around toddlers, walked around a mall, sat in the truck for 1.5 hour drive home. Cake and brought boxes out to the U-Haul, and was really busy all day without time to focus on if I was feeling movements or maybe they were rocked to sleep by the constant movement. Whatever the reason I freaked out. I can definitely feel movement right now this morning so I feel a bit better.
Also with the flip, they might have turned to face your spine and you don't feel much when they kick in that direction. Later on you'll feel the body coming forward when they do, but right now not so much.
@lilienne I am in the same boat as you. I went to the midwife last week and she told me the baby was sideways and showed me the hard bumps of the butt and head. At that point I was feeling little feet and hands pushing outside all the time. But a few days later she must have flipped around to be facing in because the movements became quieter and harder to feel - almost all internal now. It’s weird but I can still feel her throughout the day - just less obvious that before. I was at my 25 week appointment and the midwife walked me through how to count movements going forward if I like - she said 6 in two hours, but that I can always call them if I am unsure. But they said that would just starting around now (week 25) that they recommend that since it can be more difficult earlier.
@lilienne totally the same. Yesterday I was like why haven’t I felt much. But, then I realized I was super active. I read a couple of things that just said it really depends on baby’s positioning
Can anyone recommend a good, minimalist floor mat for baby that is ideally at least 1/2 thick padding and can be moved around easily? I love the Hugomat but they appear to be out of stock.
@babywiik, @jhysmath, @millygolitely, @chelsraec, thank you all for being kind and reassuring! As predicted by several of you, she jumped around constantly from 9PM to 1AM last night and everything was totally fine at this morning's appointment. I think some of it is about her sleep/wake cycles and some is about her position. There's definitely a reverse correlation between my movement and hers - either my movement rocks her to sleep, or it just makes it harder for me to feel her moving.
First time mom-to-be, due 9/25/22
Some complicated chromosomal stuff going on - our fingers are crossed, but this may not go according to plan!
Can anyone recommend a good, minimalist floor mat for baby that is ideally at least 1/2 thick padding and can be moved around easily? I love the Hugomat but they appear to be out of stock.
I love this mat for my toddler's play area (we actually have two!). It's nice and firm, but also soft enough that you aren't sitting on the floor or hurting yourself if you fall. It folds up nicely and wipes clean too. Highly recommended!
I was reading about the salmonella outbreak in JIF peanut butter this morning and when I got home I immediately checked my 2 jars to see if they were part of the recall. Turns out they are, 1 is unopened and the other my dog and I have almost finished. I’m guessing I would know if I was exposed to salmonella? Going to toss them but should I be worried about the amount of recalled peanut butter I’ve consumed this week? 🤢😅
@puzzlehead11 we were impacted too and I had some. I’m on day 3, nothing. I looked it up yesterday and according to google 😅 even if mama got salmonella, it rarely impacts the baby but to still let your provider know if you think you might have salmonella poisoning. It gave me a little bit more peace of mind!
@puzzlehead11 we were affected as well. I think I read if you got it, it can take up to 72 hours to show up. So, sounds like we can worry less after the 3 day mark. That’s today for us.
Seeing all the recalled peanut butter, I felt the need for pb crackers. Or pb is from likely the fall and almost empty, we don't go through it much so I'm assuming we're all ok.
We were also hit with the recall. Actually, almost everyone I know was (or it seems that way)! One of the women I know from my last bump group had her husband come down with food poisoning twice recently and now she's wondering if that had something to do with it.
I don't even eat peanut butter very often, but now it's all I want because everyone keeps talking about it. 😄 Too bad I still need to replace our family's jar... 🤔
Re: The Great Big Queston Thread!
So when I went for my 20 wk checkup, I told my doctor I thought I had a yeast infection. (And the culture came back positive) He prescribed me the ointment that you insert vaginally. However, I've used the whole tube and it has not gone away. The itching is rare now, but I still have the discharge and I feel like it might be getting worse. Has anyone ever dealt with yeast infections while pregnant that wouldn't go away with medicine? I go back on Monday so I'm going to ask if he can give me something different. I've read that Diflucan (which has cleared them up on a day or two when not pregnant) isn't safe in the first trimester because it can cause miscarriage. I wonder if it's safe in the 2nd trimester?
You don't need a prescription - any or the three or seven day OTC vaginal suppository tx's are fine (Monistat, Vagisil, etc.). And if the first tx doesn't work, you can do a second one. This is coming from my OB - antibiotics always give me yeast infections, so I've done this game due to the UTI that won't die repeatedly. Diflucan is still generally not recommended.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
We have a group of friends that we regularly get together with once weekly for food, drinks and sometimes other events. We had openly discussed that we were actively trying to conceive with one of the other couples after they told us they were as well. We told this group of friends that we were pregnant at my graduation party 2 weeks ago- everything seemed ok, although in retrospect she did make a comment like, "well at least I can have another drink because I'm obviously not pregnant."
Since the party, they have not shown up to any of the group events, which isn't totally unusual. What is unusual is that we had planned to have a pool party at our place this weekend with the group, which they have never turned down (we throw some epic pool parties!). They live just around the corner and can walk over and bring their little dog to play with ours. Last night they text and said "it had been a rough couple of weeks for them" and that they couldn't make it. Everyone else in the group is planning to come.
Maybe I'm reading too much into it, but I can't help but feel like they may be avoiding us, which I can't blame them. After we lost our first, I couldn't look at a pregnant person or a baby commercial. I guess I just feel bad- they are our friends and I don't want them to feel like they can't be around us. But at the same time I don't want them to come around us and feel triggered. My initial thoughts are to leave it alone for now and give them time, but if weeks to months go by maybe bring it up? Thoughts?
Some complicated chromosomal stuff going on - our fingers are crossed, but this may not go according to plan!
There's no shame in using a Snoo or choosing to go without; to each their own as we're all just looking to get some sleep. Just know that the price is fairly high up front if you purchase (you can also rent from them), but it has a decent return if you choose to sell it after bub is too big for it.
I just hope that if that is what's going on they can find some help or guidance. It's awfully lonely trying to navigate these things alone.
Some complicated chromosomal stuff going on - our fingers are crossed, but this may not go according to plan!
Also with the flip, they might have turned to face your spine and you don't feel much when they kick in that direction. Later on you'll feel the body coming forward when they do, but right now not so much.
Some complicated chromosomal stuff going on - our fingers are crossed, but this may not go according to plan!
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I don't even eat peanut butter very often, but now it's all I want because everyone keeps talking about it. 😄 Too bad I still need to replace our family's jar... 🤔