@and_peggy I am so sorry you and little dude are going through this, but good thing you trusted your gut got that second opinion! I hope the surgery goes smooth and he recovers quickly!
Ditto to what everyone else said about the headaches. I was getting pretty bad headaches for a few weeks there but they’ve stopped. I would call the doctor just to be safe.
@itsme215 ugh so sorry about the raccoon problems. Is there anyone in your area that you can call to relocate them?
@and_peggy I'm sorry your family is going through this. I hope all will work out, surgery goes well, and be better after. I'm with you on the headaches though, and that does not help everything you are going through.
@and_peggy I'm so sorry to hear your little guy needs surgery. You should be so proud of yourself for advocating for him. It's incredibly frustrating to have physicians just not listen. I hope that surgery goes well and on the day you can find some peace as you wait.
@starkette I'm so sorry to hear about your cat. I had a cat growing up that I loved dearly. I'm so glad you have yours for the last 5 years, as I'm sure he had a wonderful life.
My randoms.. We had one of the nursing supervisors not feeling well. He works nights, so I switched my schedule to be the nursing supervisor on nights tonight. It's my first solo shift in the role for more than just a few hours here and there. I know that my boss is a call away if I really needed something. TW: transgender, self harm...........
One of my shifts last week I got a call from someone wanting to know about coming into the ER as a transgender person. I talked to him about my hospital doing a great job at education on transgender patients and who to provide competent care without bias. He wanted to know if he would be seen for transgender emergencies, and that he read he couldn't be refused care. After assuring him he would get care I ended up asking him if he thought about killing himself. He said no, but then said that he feels that this is such an emergency to him that he wants to perform surgery on himself. I was so sad. I haven't been in a position like this before. I ended up getting his info and we talked and I tried to convince him to come to the ER. He said "how do you understand that this is an emergency to me". Regardless we talked and I gave him my direct extension and I gave him the number for crisis. I found out he lived in a group home, so I felt ok about him not coming in if he didn't. He ended up calling back and said he planned to come into the ER in the next few days. It was such a crazy experience. I just felt so sad, I can't imagine feeling so uncomfortable, and being afraid of being turned away for care.
My random is I THINK I’ve been feeling baby boy move. It happens usually after I eat or around bedtime and it’s the tiny flutter/ poking/ tickling that doesn’t feel like gas. If this is what I think it is I’m so excited to feel more movement. Every time we have seen him on US he’s doing something wiggly.
@and_peggy to reiterate what others have said, good on you for getting a second opinion! I haven't been in your position when it comes a child having surgery, but I'd be equally nervous about it if it was my kiddo. But getting it done now sounds like the safest option. Good luck and keep us posted!
@leahrnmom one of my best friends in the world is trans and they have been turned down care at the ER before AND misgendered and harassed by extremely rude and dismissive nurses/doctors. They also have a chronic illness and often need the ER but are so terrified. Also, paramedics have been incredibly abusive toward them. They lost consciousness once and a family member was worried about not hearing from them, so they called the paramedics and they broke in through my friend's window because their door was locked and then accused them of being on drugs and kept misgendering them over and over, blatantly, even after my friend told them their pronouns. It's so horrible. They live in Iowa...there's only one hospital they trust and that's only slightly. It sucks and makes me livid. Everyone deserves dignified, professional, and compassionate care. so THANK YOU for being affirming and patient and understanding.
My weekly random is that I’ve been getting to bed earlier and I’ve been reading instead of being on my phone before bed, which is usually when I hop on the bump. Reading instead of screen time is an overall goal for me, so I’m also happy about it. When days are busy, however, I sometimes miss a couple days or so at a time. So if anyone is wondering where I am for a couple/few days here and there, I’m most likely totally fine and just off my phone a bit more, and will be catching up before long. I know it won’t be realistic for me to get on here every day once we announce to everyone as well, because there will be a lot of people interested in how things are going, but I am not going anywhere! I also catch up reading all the threads, because I love hearing how everyone is!🥰 I wanted to share this now, as things will only be getting busier from here!
Woke up to a sick kid 😩 The flu has been running through daycare so she will be headed to the doctor today. Doesn’t this always happen on the ONE weekend you have full of plans??
We haven't attempted potty training with DS1 (he turned 2 in September) because he's had some GI/bathroom issues that make it a bit stressful for him. This morning he took his diaper off, told me he doesn't want to wear it and that he wants to pee on the potty, and then he actually did! It was so random, but awesome.
@leahrnmom I just read your post from yesterday. That's awful that he felt so sure he would be mistreated/not taken seriously/not provided care. I'm glad you were able to be his point of contact. Hopefully your kindness helps him make a smart decision when he needs care.
@aukeev that's so awesome! We had a similar experience but with night time training DS. He decided he hated pull ups and begged us not to wear one at night. We gave him a sticker chart and said, if you hit this many days with a dry pull up you can wear undies at night. He was super motivated and we've been wearing undies since we hit the goal
@aukeev So DS was day time potty trained by 3.5 (& has been night time potty trained since he turned 4 - so like for about a month). But we started potty training at age 2.5. He was more prone to #1 accidents when we first started then #2. Something about #2 just made him run to the potty every time. But #1 seemed to be harder for him to notice. We had to remind him constantly. Your experience may be different because YS seems motivated to go #1 in the potty. Mine was not at 2.5 (which is why it took us awhile to get daytime potty trained).
Are any of y’all noticing an issue with your drafts not saving? I have had several instances where I typed something, then was debating posting it so went to catch up elsewhere and then decided I wanted to post and my whole entire thing was gone. I almost exclusively use Safari on my phone so idk what it’s doing.
@mangoandguava that was happening to me with the bump app maybe a week or two ago? It was driving me crazy as I'd just exit from the app and to check a text and then my entire message was gone. I think they've fixed the issue on my end for now. But I feel your pain. It is so frustrating.
My MIL bugged me today. We were talking on the phone and she randomly says "you're getting big!" And I was so confused because like how would she know? She lives two states away and hasn't seen me since September? The only bump pic I sent was a tiny bump at 12 weeks. So I said that "what do you mean?" And she was like "your bump is really growing fast!" Once again, confused. And then she referred to the photo I sent a couple weeks ago. And I was like "um, that was barely a bump. Your definition of big is very different from mine."
Like what the heck?! Please never comment on a pregnant woman's size. It made me feel so defensive! I still fit into all my normal clothes. Yes my little bump is getting more defined but it's barely there. Anyways. Just irked.
@starkette ugh, yeah, that would have set my teeth on edge. I don’t understand why people say the things they do, or say them the way they do.
Also our results came back for the NIPT early! All is well, low risk across the board. I did all that whining last week about MH being out of town for nothing, but also he didn’t get home until like 7:45PM and I got the email telling me the results were ready at 7:58AM and that tiny 12 hour wait was almost too much for me, there is NO WAY I would have made it two days, WTF was I thinking??? 😂🤣😂
@starkette my mil touched my stomach the other day and keeps calling my baby Anja-which we will not be using. So while she hasn’t told me I’m big yet, I feel like it was already implied and is coming around the corner. Just here to commiserate.
@paytonpedro Oh, no, not okay. Luckily in all three pregnancies no one ever got to the point of actually touching me. (Luckily, everyone asked, and I told them I'd prefer not to - they can hold the baby when he's out.) I'm not sure I wouldn't have smacked someone's hand if they actually reached out on their own...
I'm oddly ready and waiting for someone at work to say something about my bump. It decided to make its presence known this week, and I'm bummed I forgot to take a picture for HDBD before I changed into comfy clothes on Wednesday. I'm always so torn in the morning if I should wear something more fitted and just show it off or continue to wear oversized sweaters. I've let some people know, but I'm not going to randomly start going up to people I don't regularly talk to and tell them I'm pregnant, but I know they are likely talking about it, and I'm at the point where I'd rather it just be known instead of them being awkward about it and unsure if I just gained a bunch of weight over the holidays. But I've also been on the flip side of that at work when someone once asked me if I was having a baby when I was not, right after I had just bought french fries in our cafeteria, and that was embarrassing.
@wisewitch222 I was just so shocked by it. Surely my face said “wtf are you doing?!?” because I can’t hide what I’m thinking at all.
@fromfurmomtobabymom8-2 yeahhhh. Most of my work knows and I haven’t told anyone except my sister in law who used to work there with me (she just left a week or two ago). I’m actually thrilled that she told people because it’s so weird to tell people I don’t talk to that I’m pregnant. Also, the ultrasound last week definitely got the word out lol. There were like 7 people gathered in the room watching and gawking over her lol. That was weird. But I just tried not to look behind me.
I got a “Promoted to Mommy” shirt, because when I volunteer with kids at Awana and other things, I'm around a lot of people, and it would be tiring to tell everyone who I wave/smile at/talks to me, we’re expecting, but it’ll also open it up for people to talk about it/not be afraid to bring it up. The people I talk to regularly there, I’ll obviously tell, unless they read my shirt first. I’m still not showing at 11.5 weeks and so when I am ready to talk about the pregnancy, I may just look bloated, not pregnant. I don’t want to have to wait for an obvious bump or have to bring it up every time. Additionally, I have a rule for myself to not even ask a 9 months pregnant person if they are pregnant in any circumstance. I have run into friends I haven’t seen for long periods of time, and there’s been times that they’ve been very obviously pregnant, but I ask how THEY are, not if they’re pregnant. They always comment on their pregnancy and then I congratulate them. There are veryyy few friends and family members I’ll be okay with touching my bump. Otherwise I’ll probably be like “EXCUSE ME?”🤣 Like it’s still my body. I’d rather you give me a hug. My body is not just about the baby.
I took off here for a couple of days and was sucked into reading a couple of books which has been nice. I did try to catch up today. If I didn’t I was afraid all the missed notifications would be too overwhelming 😝
…anybody else starting to feel just the wee littlest bit of panic seep in? We’re telling family this weekend after it just being us (and my mom) for so long, we’ve heard the heartbeat, we know the sex. We’ll be 12 weeks on Tuesday. It’s finally sinking in that this is really, truly, for serious really happening right now, and while we are over the moon about our lil boy bear, there is also:
@mangoandguava yes! I feel like especially since I know he’s a little boy he has the beginnings of an identity and isn’t just “a pregnancy” I can try to detach from to protect my heart. He’s my son. Definitely having overwhelming feelings, and anxious ones.
@mangoandguava oh yeah. This is my 3rd and I still don’t feel the slightest bit prepared.
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@mdfarmchick A break with books is nice! I’ve been doing that more too!!
@mangoandguava That’s definitely totally normal! I don’t feel panicked, but some moments it definitely feels more real than others. We had certain months we would try and ones we skipped, so when it was official, there were moments that would hit us of “Wow, we’re pregnant-there’s no going back!” It was suddenly an actual baby with an actual due date. I think there will be another wave of that when we learn the gender AND see the baby again next week. We’ll be able to attach to the boy or girl, pick a name, and even buy something monogrammed if we wanted. Even if everyone feels the reality differently, everyone will be hit with it and quite possibly feel overwhelmed at times. We’ll learn new stuff every day and when the baby is here, we’ll take it one day at a time! I hope telling everyone brings lots of joy to you! I’m so excited for that, but it’s also going to be so weird to actually speak those words!😅
Well. Today did not start out how I imagined. It’s gross y’all.
Ds1 came in the bathroom while I was getting ready for work and had diarrhea, which he also had yesterday. After he was done he told me he felt like he was going to throw up but left the bathroom. 30 seconds later, he came running back in with a hand full of vomit and continued to empty the contents of his stomach in the bathtub because he wouldn’t make it to the toilet. There was so much throw up. All across 3 rooms, all over me, filled the bathtub 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ I threw up trying to clean it.
Ugh Lordy. So needless to say, I didn’t make it into work today.
@paytonpedro that is one of my worst fears, getting sick after seeing my child get sick. Don't know how my mom just sat there holding my hair growing up.
@fromfurmomtobabymom8-2 I usually have a very strong stomach and even started out patting his back but my pregnancy nausea got the best of me. Gosh it was a tough morning!
Re: Weekly Randoms 2/7
@starkette I'm so sorry to hear about your cat. I had a cat growing up that I loved dearly. I'm so glad you have yours for the last 5 years, as I'm sure he had a wonderful life.
My randoms..
We had one of the nursing supervisors not feeling well. He works nights, so I switched my schedule to be the nursing supervisor on nights tonight. It's my first solo shift in the role for more than just a few hours here and there. I know that my boss is a call away if I really needed something. TW: transgender, self harm...........
One of my shifts last week I got a call from someone wanting to know about coming into the ER as a transgender person. I talked to him about my hospital doing a great job at education on transgender patients and who to provide competent care without bias. He wanted to know if he would be seen for transgender emergencies, and that he read he couldn't be refused care. After assuring him he would get care I ended up asking him if he thought about killing himself. He said no, but then said that he feels that this is such an emergency to him that he wants to perform surgery on himself. I was so sad. I haven't been in a position like this before. I ended up getting his info and we talked and I tried to convince him to come to the ER. He said "how do you understand that this is an emergency to me". Regardless we talked and I gave him my direct extension and I gave him the number for crisis. I found out he lived in a group home, so I felt ok about him not coming in if he didn't. He ended up calling back and said he planned to come into the ER in the next few days. It was such a crazy experience. I just felt so sad, I can't imagine feeling so uncomfortable, and being afraid of being turned away for care.
Anyway, sorry for the novel 🤪
Like what the heck?! Please never comment on a pregnant woman's size. It made me feel so defensive! I still fit into all my normal clothes. Yes my little bump is getting more defined but it's barely there. Anyways. Just irked.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@mangoandguava That’s definitely totally normal! I don’t feel panicked, but some moments it definitely feels more real than others. We had certain months we would try and ones we skipped, so when it was official, there were moments that would hit us of “Wow, we’re pregnant-there’s no going back!” It was suddenly an actual baby with an actual due date. I think there will be another wave of that when we learn the gender AND see the baby again next week. We’ll be able to attach to the boy or girl, pick a name, and even buy something monogrammed if we wanted. Even if everyone feels the reality differently, everyone will be hit with it and quite possibly feel overwhelmed at times. We’ll learn new stuff every day and when the baby is here, we’ll take it one day at a time! I hope telling everyone brings lots of joy to you! I’m so excited for that, but it’s also going to be so weird to actually speak those words!😅
@wigglyicecream yeah. There’s no more protecting my heart. I’m completely smitten and attached at this point.