@itsme215 ugh that might be worse! I’ve considered putting my phone on airplane but don’t want to freak anyone out, and have mh coming home from work to check on me 🤣
@paytonpedro swipe down from the top right corner and it should be on the left side. Looks like a moon. Also called do not disturb but now it has other options and they renamed it focus. Also you can set up your favorites so that only they can get through if they call while you have it on focus. I use that feature ALL the time
My random probably belongs in the symptoms thread but it’s generic. I feel like this pregnancy is definitely been harder on me than DDs. This little boy is taking a lot out of me and I’m waiting and wondering when it will ease up. I still don’t have my appetite or energy back yet.
@wigglyicecream I’ve been pregnant with two (probably 3) boys and 2 girls and my girl pregnancies were soo much easier. Things eased up for me a bit in 2nd tri with my first son but I never felt amazing.
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@coco2787 thank you for the validation. I feel like part of me is losing my mind. I don’t remember still feeling this terrible at this time with her. I just asked the nurses line if I could start drinking boost bc I know I’m too depleted to keep trying to function like this.
@wigglyicecream thank you!! I have him in my favorites 🤣🤦🏼♀️ So maybe I’ll change that. As for feeling crappy, I’m sorry you’re still dealing with that. I feel like each subsequent pregnancy has just been tougher for me. Hopefully the boost helps and you feel better soon!!
@paytonpedro it did! It was like an instant pick me up. I know I’m not eating enough so I’ll have to do a better job at snacking on high calorie things
Our 2nd bathroom toilet decided to start leaking at the stack last night so now we have a plumber coming to take all of our money tomorrow. This of course means I had to tidy up and I over did it and am now so nauseous 😩
Oh no @cas060 plumbing issues are like, second worst ever. The only thing I think I’d trade for a plumbing issue is an electrical issue.
@wigglyicecream I’m sorry it’s still rough going! I don’t have any advice (FTM) but I hope it eases up soon! Glad the boost helped!
@paytonpedro same, but my mom. But she also has the good kind - I frequently pick up the phone to call and it goes off with a text message or phone call as I’m going to call her. I DO love the focus feature. Especially at work, which is always when the family group chat kicks off. I’ve had as many as 25 unread messages between lunch and 5pm in there.
We’re probably gonna be in the market for a new fridge before Lil Bear arrives. Combined with the “need” (want) for a dishwasher with a sanitize cycle, it sounds like it’s time to upgrade all the appliances. I am excited about a new fridge that doesn’t occasionally sound like an airplane taking off and a dishwasher that doesn’t make me hand wash all the dishes first. I am not excited about the output of $3k (+/-) right before we have a baby.
@paytonpedro and @mangoandguava it's my MIL who likes to call at random inopportune times for me! Then if I don't answer she worries and calls MH who rarely answers because he's working or oblivious and then she panics. fun times.
Our old man cat is declining in health quickly....we feed him so many extra calories and yet he's still losing weight (he is FIV+ which is most likely the reason). And he's not really using the litter box anymore. We have to bathe him weekly and deep clean his litter area like twice a day. It's becoming really difficult to manage and I'm sitting here crying because I wish things were different....he's the sweetest cat I've ever met. I wish we'd met him earlier in his life but we have had 5 great years with him. Didn't even know we'd get this long. MH made a vet appointment to have him checked out but they know we are thinking of end of life services. Last time he went to the vet in January, they were shocked about how much muscle mass he'd lost and told us he was most likely in pain due to his lack of litter box use. I'm a wreck.
@starkette I’m so sorry about your cat 😔 we had to say goodbye to our old lady dog in June (and our other one in March 2020) and it’s the hardest thing even when you know it’s time. Lots of love to your family as you navigate this.
Two things. Incoming word vomit. Feel free to scroll on.
I’ve had a killer headache for 2 days straight now. Ugh. Tylenol isn’t touching it. Or caffeine. I need to feel better stat.
Secondly, I found out today my 4 year old needs surgery. Sparing details, he has an issue we’ve been seeing a urologist for for about a year now. Unfortunately when I went back to the first dr a few months ago with a separate issue, he was very dismissive and did not listen to my concerns. I was disappointed obviously because I really liked him but I didn’t appreciate how I was treated. I don’t know if he thought I was womansplaining to him about male anatomy. Clearly not the case. I was just trying to get him to understand what I was saying but he talked down to me, and it felt like it was because I was a woman. Anyways, I was not satisfied with the transaction and sought out a second opinion. Today, the new doctor actually examined him and within seconds of me describing the situation, she was able to provide a diagnosis. Unfortunately this is a problem that will only be resolved by surgery. It could become an emergency at some point if we don’t treat. So we scheduled the surgery. Obviously I’m sad. I hate the idea of something being wrong but the future risks are not worth leaving the problem alone right now. Surgery is scary. And I still have ptsd from a lot of trauma my (then) 9 month old dealt with last year. (He was in and out of hospitals for possible hydrocephalus. Thankfully was cleared but it was a rough season for me). I guess all this to say, it’s really hard to just put your trust in a stranger when it’s your kids. And I just wish this was not happening.
So, always listen to your gut, and never be afraid to get a second opinion.
@and_peggy so sorry your 4 year old is gonna have to have surgery, but I'm glad you managed to get a second opinion, complete with diagnosis and plan forward! I can't imagine how stressful it's been, and continues to be, but it's nice to finally get that confirmation.
@and_peggy I'm sorry for the way that transaction between you and the original doctor took place. Thankful you got a second opinion and have a plan of action, but any surgery on littles is scary/overwhelming!
Our son (2) has had two exploratory surgeries now ordered by our (then) pediatric GI specialist. A second opinion ended up being well worth it, I just wish we had looked for it sooner. You're doing what's best!
@and_peggy that definitely sounds stressful and J completely understand how you feel. I am so sorry that the first doctor was just dismissive of what you were trying to tell him. It is so infuriating to go to a doctor and not be heard. I’m not sure what exactly the surgery is for but my friend had to have her 3.5 year old’s circumcision redone because it was botched the first time and it was so stressful for her but everything turned out well. I hope and pray that you have similar results. Surgery is so scary when it’s our kids.
@mangoandguava thank you. It is stressful but I’m thankful he’s so easy going and not phased by much. I know he will handle it like a champ.
@aukeev about 2 years ago he got really sick and after a lot of testing, we learned he has the celiac gene. It came out of left field for us, nobody in our family has it. Anyways, the celiac is basically dormant right now but at some point it could become active. So he had an endoscopy at 2.5 and he handled that so well, tolerated the anesthesia well, which does help allay my fears. But that was just a small and quick procedure. I’m glad you feel like your son benefitted from his surgeries.
@and_peggy I'm relieved you got that second opinion before it became more serious. I hate dismissive doctors and there are so many out there. Surgery is always scary. I'm sure it'll go well and hopefully recovery will be relatively smooth.
I've also had a terrible headache so it actually makes me feel better to know it's normal, at least. Some caffiene did help a bit...or the tylenol finally kicked in. Yesterday it was relentless. It's the worst!
@mdfarmchick it’s called a communicating hydrocele and essentially it’s a hernia. You can look it up to research more if you’re curious. It’s kind of one of those not optional things for him because it can eventually rupture if untreated. Thank you for your kind words.
@starkette I’m a little concerned about all the headaches because half my pregnancies ended with pre-e and gave me the worst headache of my life. I’m going to ask my dr about it when I go back because they’re pretty debilitating right now.
And thank you. It’s so disappointing to run across drs who don’t hear you. But I don’t take no for an answer when it comes to my kids’ health.
@and_peggy so sorry to hear you are going through that. Nothing is more stressful medical issues with your child. I’m glad to hear it is scheduled and will be thinking about you!
@and_peggy here to echo what others have said. Good for you on getting the second opinion and advocating for your son. That makes you a great mom. Hoping little guy sails through surgery and makes a quick recovery. Also definitely check in with dr about the headaches especially if you have a history? Did they put you on baby aspirin?
@buffythevampireslayer thank you. It’s definitely a stressor but I’m glad we figured it out now before a major problem later.
@wigglyicecream I really appreciate that. So I’m supposed to be taking 2 baby aspirin every night since like 12 weeks. But the headaches have been probably like every 3 days so I’m popping Tylenol and I don’t feel like it’s safe to take the 2 meds together. So yes, I’ve been taking aspirin, but not consistently. I’ll get like 2 days in and have to stop. All the stuff I’ve read online is very inconsistent about whether or not you can take them in conjunction. Side note, headaches are not a new thing for me. I started getting them about 20 years ago and then I found a treatment, triggers, and time helped them calm down. But with the history of pre-e, I’m just wondering if there’s a connection or if it’s just a random pregnancy thing.
@and_peggy SAME! The headaches freak me out but at least I know it's too early for pre-e. I also bought a blood pressure machine from Amazon so hopefully I don't get obsessive with it and it'll ease my anxiety. I used to get horrible migraines, but I got meds a while ago and they help a lot. Haven't had one for like 6 months. Fingers crossed they don't make a come back.
Re: Weekly Randoms 2/7
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@wigglyicecream I’m sorry it’s still rough going! I don’t have any advice (FTM) but I hope it eases up soon! Glad the boost helped!
@paytonpedro same, but my mom. But she also has the good kind - I frequently pick up the phone to call and it goes off with a text message or phone call as I’m going to call her. I DO love the focus feature. Especially at work, which is always when the family group chat kicks off. I’ve had as many as 25 unread messages between lunch and 5pm in there.
Our old man cat is declining in health quickly....we feed him so many extra calories and yet he's still losing weight (he is FIV+ which is most likely the reason). And he's not really using the litter box anymore. We have to bathe him weekly and deep clean his litter area like twice a day. It's becoming really difficult to manage and I'm sitting here crying because I wish things were different....he's the sweetest cat I've ever met. I wish we'd met him earlier in his life but we have had 5 great years with him. Didn't even know we'd get this long. MH made a vet appointment to have him checked out but they know we are thinking of end of life services. Last time he went to the vet in January, they were shocked about how much muscle mass he'd lost and told us he was most likely in pain due to his lack of litter box use. I'm a wreck.
I’ve had a killer headache for 2 days straight now. Ugh. Tylenol isn’t touching it. Or caffeine. I need to feel better stat.
Secondly, I found out today my 4 year old needs surgery. Sparing details, he has an issue we’ve been seeing a urologist for for about a year now. Unfortunately when I went back to the first dr a few months ago with a separate issue, he was very dismissive and did not listen to my concerns. I was disappointed obviously because I really liked him but I didn’t appreciate how I was treated. I don’t know if he thought I was womansplaining to him about male anatomy. Clearly not the case. I was just trying to get him to understand what I was saying but he talked down to me, and it felt like it was because I was a woman. Anyways, I was not satisfied with the transaction and sought out a second opinion. Today, the new doctor actually examined him and within seconds of me describing the situation, she was able to provide a diagnosis. Unfortunately this is a problem that will only be resolved by surgery. It could become an emergency at some point if we don’t treat. So we scheduled the surgery. Obviously I’m sad. I hate the idea of something being wrong but the future risks are not worth leaving the problem alone right now. Surgery is scary. And I still have ptsd from a lot of trauma my (then) 9 month old dealt with last year. (He was in and out of hospitals for possible hydrocephalus. Thankfully was cleared but it was a rough season for me). I guess all this to say, it’s really hard to just put your trust in a stranger when it’s your kids. And I just wish this was not happening.
So, always listen to your gut, and never be afraid to get a second opinion.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
Our son (2) has had two exploratory surgeries now ordered by our (then) pediatric GI specialist. A second opinion ended up being well worth it, I just wish we had looked for it sooner. You're doing what's best!
@aukeev about 2 years ago he got really sick and after a lot of testing, we learned he has the celiac gene. It came out of left field for us, nobody in our family has it. Anyways, the celiac is basically dormant right now but at some point it could become active. So he had an endoscopy at 2.5 and he handled that so well, tolerated the anesthesia well, which does help allay my fears. But that was just a small and quick procedure. I’m glad you feel like your son benefitted from his surgeries.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
I've also had a terrible headache so it actually makes me feel better to know it's normal, at least. Some caffiene did help a bit...or the tylenol finally kicked in. Yesterday it was relentless. It's the worst!
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
And thank you. It’s so disappointing to run across drs who don’t hear you. But I don’t take no for an answer when it comes to my kids’ health.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
@wigglyicecream I really appreciate that. So I’m supposed to be taking 2 baby aspirin every night since like 12 weeks. But the headaches have been probably like every 3 days so I’m popping Tylenol and I don’t feel like it’s safe to take the 2 meds together. So yes, I’ve been taking aspirin, but not consistently. I’ll get like 2 days in and have to stop. All the stuff I’ve read online is very inconsistent about whether or not you can take them in conjunction. Side note, headaches are not a new thing for me. I started getting them about 20 years ago and then I found a treatment, triggers, and time helped them calm down. But with the history of pre-e, I’m just wondering if there’s a connection or if it’s just a random pregnancy thing.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19