Mh, who is definitely not a plumber, went in the crawl space under our house yesterday and fixed what the plumbers couldn’t! My sink works again!!! Finally!!
I've started my thesis research window by sending out surveys to nearby school districts! If any of you are K-12 teachers, administrators, or RTI coordinators, and would like to help me out by taking the survey about RTI/MTSS implementation, please send me a private message and I'll email the survey to you! We are needed all the data we can possibly get!
All my kids are out of the house today and I don’t know what to do with myself. This has never happened before. I seriously don’t know if I want to be lazy or productive.
@and_peggy same as @wigglyicecream I vote lazy. Watch your favorite show or read your favorite book in peace.
TTC#1 10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml) 11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged 1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele 4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery 6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020 Baby girl born 2/27/2020 7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
@and_peggy my favorite productive/lazy day thing to do is laundry. Put it in, let it run, set a timer, and kick back and watch something or read until it's time to switch loads. I've even sorted clothes from the couch just to feel both productive and lazy.
@and_peggy my favorite way to spend a rare day alone is to start by doing one productive thing I've been putting off, then go get coffee and a pedicure, then come home and watch as much trash TV as I want until the house is busy again.
@wigglyicecream lol I totally relate on the reuse stuff comment. I have so much boy stuff! Hopefully it ends up being a boy now that you're all excited!
Can someone assure me that its ok for a 3 year old to play alone. I'm feeling very guilty for not playing with him when I feel like crap. he say "baby not being nice to you?" and I just feel awful. Most of the time he plays well alone and he goes to school in the afternoons so its not like he doesn't get to play and I don't always say no. Just the mom guilt kicking up today.
Me, if I was due in October and opened the BMB to intro.
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@Katek819 as a FTM myself, but with plenty of friends who have kids, it gets overwhelming to have to entertain them all. Day. Long. They don't want to do anything without an adult watching or playing with them. Like, no. Go outside and PLAY. ETA: these are bigger kids like 8-9. But I remember not having my mom play with us all the time. We had toys. We played and entertained ourselves. And once in awhile, she'd put on Sesame Street or Mr. Roger's Neighborhood. I think I turned out ok. Don't feel guilty.
@Katek819 definitely don’t feel guilty! My 3yo does independent play most of the morning. If I’m sitting and he brings something over or is telling me about what he’s doing I respond and listen, or will play for a few minutes. But, he overwhelmingly plays my himself. And I think he LOVES it because his older brother isn’t here to annoy him or mess up what he’s doing.
@Katek819 I do not entertain my children. I will play with them throughout the course of the day but I do not sit and play hours at a time. Read a book, do a puzzle, etc. And then I do other things. For me, it’s important my kids learn independence from a young age. I value my time with them individually and make sure they’re all getting what they need from me, but it’s physically impossible to play all day long with 4 young kids, clean the house, cook dinner, do laundry, and maintain my mental health.
If you’re struggling with that, start small. 15 minutes of alone time for the child. Then the next week 30 minutes, etc. That’s not neglectful or bad parenting.
If it helps, remember that independence is a learned and developed skill; independence is something most kids have to be taught and it is not inherent.
@Katek819 neither DH (SAHD) nor I play all the time with our son (age 4). We both make an effort to do some sort of play each day (e.g. last night I engaged in some imaginative play for about 30 mins) but we also both believe he needs to learn to self entertain. He has preschool part time where he can interact with other kids. But like OP have said, we'd never get anything done if we always played with them.
@and_peggy I’m going to need some tips on four kids and how to “clean the house, cook dinner, do laundry, and maintain my mental health.” Because right now with three of them, I’m drowning. 🤣 Also first trimester is survival mode.
Also, I should add, I don’t really play with them but since will almost always stop and read a book. I’ve said no recently because I have had the worst migraines this pregnancy and reading is hard.
@mdfarmchick you get into a routine. If you have 3 already, you will be okay throwing one more into the mix.
Practical things that help me: - knowing I can’t do it all - lowering my expectations - making a list and crossing off half - being as productive as I can when those pockets happen. (My productivity comes in waves) - being time efficient (one of the things that works for me is doing all the dishes when my kids are eating breakfast. They’re contained and it’s my system).
Trust me, I’m not winning any awards over here; I’ve just learned what works best for me. Some days I do absolutely nothing and I don’t feel bad about it.
Re: Weekly Randoms 1/31
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022
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Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
If you’re struggling with that, start small. 15 minutes of alone time for the child. Then the next week 30 minutes, etc. That’s not neglectful or bad parenting.
If it helps, remember that independence is a learned and developed skill; independence is something most kids have to be taught and it is not inherent.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
Practical things that help me:
- knowing I can’t do it all
- lowering my expectations
- making a list and crossing off half
- being as productive as I can when those pockets happen. (My productivity comes in waves)
- being time efficient (one of the things that works for me is doing all the dishes when my kids are eating breakfast. They’re contained and it’s my system).
Trust me, I’m not winning any awards over here; I’ve just learned what works best for me. Some days I do absolutely nothing and I don’t feel bad about it.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19