@newmama0724 This will be my second after my MMC. I was so worried the whole first trimester with Barrett. After seeing the heartbeat, my OB said the chances of mc are less than 5% so I tried my best not to worry....doesn't mean it didn't happen. It gets better with time, probably more once you start feeling kicks. That leads to worrying about if you went a long time without feeling a kick though. I think we become mothers right away and that usually means worrying, what we worry about simply changes. I hope all the best for you, and my advice is to enjoy every minute as much as possible (trust me, it gets hard to enjoy when baby is pressing on your bladder and ribs simultaneously haha).
I need some advice, we were planning on hunkering down for the remainder of the year at minimum, and we aren’t mentioning pregnancy even to our families because we don’t even get an ultrasound or any kind of bloodwork until mid-January when I’m around 12 weeks so I’m running on hopes and dreams at this point.
BUT our niece’s (DH side) birthday is this weekend and her and DD are really close in age. They haven’t seen each other in a long time and I have already told DH family that we won’t be coming for this OR Christmas. For 1 I feel like crap, for 2 I don’t want anyone to get sick, for 3 it’s a 2.5 hour drive that we do both ways in one day. However, DH has expressed some frustration that he would’ve liked going. Am I over reacting? I’m starting to feel guilty now.
@jessd0117 I feel for you, it's a tough spot to be in. Luckily for us social gatherings of any kind (indoor and as of today outdoor as well) are banned and you can be fined so it's easier to blame somebody else for not wanting to gather. I think you need to do what you are comfortable with. Perhaps your H can go by himself if he feels that strongly.
@jessd0117, our 3 year old is currently quarantined for 14 days because a kid in his class tested the positive. I don’t live my life in fear, but I’m terrified of this crap. We don’t do much these days. You are 100% justified in not wanting to go.
Thanks everyone! We sat down and discussed it a little more thoroughly and I can tell he’s bummed (to be honest, so am I) but we agreed it’s better to sit this one out. Cases all around us are really ramping up and his WHOLE family just tested positive about a month ago. They all were very fortunate to have only mild symptoms, and are better now, but I’m not comfortable with it and he’s on board. I hate how I feel like it’s MY fault we can’t visit with people 🙄. DH reminded me that it’s not my fault, it’s a literal pandemic.
@Beckyf321 we were in the same boat not too long ago. And our daughter does sooo poorly at home without the constant stimulation and the friends she’s used to seeing every day. After the excitement of the first couple days wore off she really did not enjoy spending the rest of her days at home with us 😂 kinda hurt my feelings. And a little heartbreaking to see them so little and so upset about the interruptions to their normal life
Can I ask about bras here? This is my first pregnancy and I'm super early but I have questions! We conceived via IVF so I'm very used to sore breasts bc they are a side effect of a majority of meds but I need some sort of a solution here. Pre-pregnancy I was a 32DDD. My cups runeth over at 7 weeks. Do I just buy a bigger cup size until I'm ready to switch to that soft kind of sports bra? Is that stupid bc they will keep growing? I am still so early and I'm kind of terrified for my breasts in general so I just want a plan ☺️ I would love to hear from you all about what works for you.
@johannafrancis I didn't buy any nice new bras until after my milk came in. Rocked sports bras for 7 months (and longer) because my breasts grew and grew. I thought I made it through pregnancy unscathed as far as stretch marks, then my milk came it and my breasts are covered in them. Everyone is different but I felt most comfortable in sports bras and didn't want to spend a ton of money getting new bras every 2 months.
My SIL called me today asking advice because she was told by her doctor she is probably going to miscarry again (2nd time in a row). I told her to get a second opinion because her OB only based it off one blood draw and frankly, her OB has been awful every time (she has had 2 little girls that are now 4 and 2 using this OB). My biggest question is, if she does miscarry again, we are planning on announcing our pregnancy at Christmas. I don't want to blind-side her, especially if she suffers a loss here soon. I am leaning towards telling her a few days beforehand to give her a chance to grieve and to not catch her off guard, but DH doesn't think it matters and doesn't want to "spoil" the fun of telling everyone all together. Opinions anyone??
@huskervbfan ignore your hubby’s advice/opinion on this. Please tell her beforehand. She can still act surprised when you tell the rest of the family, but if she is in the middle of experiencing a loss again in the middle of you telling family it’s going to be hard on her.
@johannafrancis you can look for bra extenders that might help give you a little extra space, otherwise I got some cheap bras at target to get me through, but spent very little because I wasn’t sure how much bigger I was going to get.
We also have a secondhand store near us that is strictly for maternity/baby items so I’ve been in there quite a few times and will likely do most of my maternity shopping there. I got rid of most of what I had last time around so I’ll be needing things if I ever get to go back to work in the actual office and have to put real pants on. You might want to check for something like that in your area!
@huskervbfan I think that’s really thoughtful and considerate of you to want to talk to her about it ahead of time. At least she will have some time to help mentally prepare for the big announcement. You know her better than us, so do you have any worries that telling her ahead might offend her some? Or that she might not react very well to the special treatment?
I have 2 sisters, and in that situation I can imagine each of them having a different reaction based on what I know about them processing things, that’s why I ask.
@huskervbfan I definitely agree with telling her ahead of time and understanding/respecting she may need some space from you. My friend miscarried a couple months before I got pregnant and I told her I totally got it if she needed to not be around me for a bit
@huskervbfan, I had a similar situation when I was pregnant with my 1st. My SIL was due 4 weeks before me and miscarried 1 week before we had planned to tell the family. Originally we were gonna tell them all together but we changed plans and told her and my BIL separately and then told my H’s parents.
What type of prenatals are you all taking? Are you taking any other supplements? Currently doing the Olly gummies but before pregnancy i was taking a magnesium supplement, probiotic, and fish oil. I haven't taken them during pregnancy and obviously I will ask my OB before I start anything, but was curious to see what others were doing. Also, anyone taking like daily greens, collagen, etc?
@karacc18 I take a prenatal without dha (because it is significantly less expensive), fish oil (for dha), 250mg of magnesium and fiber. Plus my thyroid meds and my anti depressant. All the pills! Lol
@karacc18 I take a prenatal (rainbow light), a DHA supplement since my prenatal doesn’t have it, and I am currently taking Culturelle while on a prescription for ABX for a UTI. I also take Pepcid twice a day and unisom at night. Basically I am a walking pharmacy over here.
I take a prenatal and a DHA capsule that come in a box together (free thru my insurance), then just nausea medication. I’ve recently started with some stool softeners but I’m hoping that will just be temporary and changes to my diet will help move things along.
However, on days when I’m REALLY nauseous I have a folic acid supplement that I try to sneak in. So for the past 2-3 weeks I’ve only taken that and nausea meds because I can’t stomach the prenatal. As I mentioned, there is no cost for this particular kind I have so I will most likely need to switch to something more tolerable
I take prenatal gummies with DHA, daily low-dose aspirin (recommended by my doctor to prevent pre-eclampsia) and magnesium as needed before bed. I started taking magnesium during my last pregnancy and it’s something I continued even after because of how much it helped my sleep.
For any STM or STM+, did you do cord blood banking or cord blood donations with previous births?
We did a cord blood donation, but I can’t find as much information on it this time around. Planning on asking my Dr if the hospital has any affiliations that we can donate to.
@jessd0117 - we did cord blood and stem cells with both previous DD and will be doing it with our 3rd. Got a better rate with the 3rd one, which was nice. We use CBR.
@jessd0117, no we wanted delayed cord clamping and you can’t do that if you do cord banking I believe. It was more important to me to delay cord clamping.
@AKuzReve I couldn’t remember our logic but that’s it. Our hospital systematically does delayed cord clamping so it wasn’t really discussed other than maybe a pamphlet in the intro package.
@bntfroggie same boat here. I bought folic acid and have been taking that on its own for now. I’ve tried one gummy kind and it also didn’t sit well. Trying to make up for some of it in my diet, but I’m probably going to have to wait til nausea dies down.
However, with my first I was instructed to take 2 Flintstone vitamins and I could actually keep them down and didn’t mind the taste. Might be worth trying!
@bntfroggie with my first pregnancy I started on the gummies, but got to the point where the thought of their taste got me so sick feeling. I switched to RainbowLite regular pills. If you can swallow pills, I recommend them. They are sort of big, but go down easy with little to no aftertaste.
Since delayed cord clamping was mentioned, I’m wondering if anyone has insight on its correlation (if any) with a Coombs positive test? My son was born Combs positive and his pediatrician attributed it to our choice of delayed clamping (we have incompatible blood types). He was ok after a few days but it was definitely stressful getting his blood drawn every day to check his bilirubin levels and having to wrap him up in a phototherapy blanket and supplement with formula when we wanted to exclusively breastfeed. I want to avoid the same situation this time around, but I also believe in the benefits of delayed cord clamping. I think in our case the delivering doctor starting stitching me up and forgot to have the cord cut 🤦🏽♀️ (my husband said he had to remind her 😬), so maybe it was delayed way too long? Or is there no correlation and the pediatrician was going off outdated assumptions (he’s definitely an old school doctor, which is charmingly refreshing but also makes me second guess him at times). I’ll of course ask my OBGYN (she was my doctor last time, but did not deliver) but just wondering if anyone here has any experience with this.
Re: The Great Big Questions Thread
Married: 12-04-06
Annabelle: 1-1-08
Patrick: 8-15-10
EDD: 4-20-17
Pre-pregnancy I was a 32DDD. My cups runeth over at 7 weeks. Do I just buy a bigger cup size until I'm ready to switch to that soft kind of sports bra? Is that stupid bc they will keep growing? I am still so early and I'm kind of terrified for my breasts in general so I just want a plan ☺️
I would love to hear from you all about what works for you.
My SIL called me today asking advice because she was told by her doctor she is probably going to miscarry again (2nd time in a row). I told her to get a second opinion because her OB only based it off one blood draw and frankly, her OB has been awful every time (she has had 2 little girls that are now 4 and 2 using this OB).
My biggest question is, if she does miscarry again, we are planning on announcing our pregnancy at Christmas. I don't want to blind-side her, especially if she suffers a loss here soon. I am leaning towards telling her a few days beforehand to give her a chance to grieve and to not catch her off guard, but DH doesn't think it matters and doesn't want to "spoil" the fun of telling everyone all together. Opinions anyone??
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DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
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Also, anyone taking like daily greens, collagen, etc?
*Live, Love, Laugh, Learn*
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"