Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
TInman87
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Re: INTRODUCTIONS
We use a lot of positive discipline in out home which seems to help. Stay strong momma!
First appointment? I haven't made it yet
Any symptoms? Dreams dreams dreams! And peeing sooo much.
High risk / concerns? I've had two births and two losses, so I am a bit nervous that this isn't going to be straightforward. Also, I had a very traumatic birth the second time around; I'm suppressing the feelings about it for now, but I know I'll have to face them eventually.
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
First appointment? September 21
Any symptoms? Just super exhausted and maybe the faintest twinge of morning sickness starting? TBD but I hope not.
High risk / concerns? My thyroid is elevated so I've started medication for that but I'm not concerned about it at this point.
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
First appointment? N/a
Any symptoms? I’m sick to my stomach and really tired
High risk / concerns? I had issues with my blood pressure during my last pregnancy but it got worse after my baby was born.
First appointment? September 10th
Any symptoms? exhaustion mostly. Cramping.
High risk / concerns? Nothing right now...we’ll get there eventually
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
First appointment? September 11th, ultrasound at 6+3
Any symptoms? So tired😭
High risk / concerns? I've had 4 losses between 5.5 and 8 weeks so just keeping my fingers crossed this is a sticky baby.
First appointment? Oct. 2nd
Any symptoms? Mild cramps and fatigue.
High risk / concerns? Nope, hoping for smooth sailing.
March 2016 Moms: January Siggy Challenge "Pregnancy Problems"
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
I was in sourcing and product development, I’m in Ohio so there are a lot of corporate retailers here. Definitely has it’s pros and cons 😂
First appointment? I haven't made it yet.
Any symptoms? Peeing so much, a little sleepy
High risk / concerns? Been trying for 2 years plus fertility meds. Soon as I decided to stop trying and go to college...I start getting sleepy trying to study so that's how I knew.
First appointment? Have not called the dr yet. I’m guessing not for a while.
Any symptoms? Achey boobs, heightened sense of smell, moody, and tired.
High risk / concerns? TW..... I had a miscarriage before my daughter so I’m just always worried that will happen again that’s pretty much it.
Just said hi today but sadly I’m bleeding lots today so pretty sure I’m out. 😭Good luck ladies
March 2016 Moms: January Siggy Challenge "Pregnancy Problems"
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
First appointment? Sometime after Oct. 1st due to insurance.
Any symptoms? Slight queasiness and cramps.
High risk / concerns? Had prodromal labor and a really traumatic third trimester because of it. Working through it now with a counselor. Have had a CP before so I’ll probably pee on wondfos til our first appointment.
Due date? May 7th
First appointment? September 30th I have to attend this group meeting for expectant parents and my first appt/ultrasound isn’t until 10/13
Any symptoms? Hungry! Started getting shortness of breath and fatigue today.
High risk / concerns? My main worry is getting the NT scan. My last pregnancy showed risk factors during the NT scan. It was a very stressful and emotional time. I got an amnio done and everything. I ended up having a perfectly healthy girl but that “false positive” was a lot on us. I’m not sure if I want to do it again 😕
also, welcome!
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
@gusgus14 omg congratulations! So happy for you.