@alleykat2020 I am so sorry for your loss. You may never fully move past it, but you will reach a day when you feel joy again and it starts to hurt a little less. In the meantime, be kind and patient with yourself and take the time you need to grieve.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@alleykat2020 I'm so sorry for your loss You're going through something so heartbreaking; it's okay not to know how to move past it right now. I hope you give yourself space to feel however you need to feel.
Thanks all. I appreciate the thoughts and prayers and hope the rest of you are able to carry your beautiful babies full term and love on them so completely. I have very supportive family around me when I need them and God here when I need to be on my own. Prayers for healthy and happy pregnancies and that I'll be back on a board here again fairly soon.
I absolutely hate to have to revive this thread but... is anyone having spotting? Or am I on my own here? I haven’t seen much, or any, mention of it on the board aside from this thread. I’ve had several instances of spotting throughout this pregnancy already, and each time I panic but so far things have been fine.... I went to the ER for spotting shortly after finding out I was pregnant at 6w and we saw a heartbeat, then they had me come back a week later to check out some fluid they’d seen on the first ultrasound (it cleared up). Again, healthy heartbeat at 7w. Then at 9w 2d in anticipation of perhaps telling family about this pregnancy I had a private scan where we saw baby measuring right in track with a great heartbeat. That was just a week ago, last Wednesday. However I was super sick over the weekend and had some more pink spotting while sick. I thought maybe it was because I was dehydrated. I’m feeling much better today but had a decent amount of pink spotting again today. Ugh. I’m 10w 1d today. This is just SO stressful. I’m trying to tell myself that the chances of miscarriage after seeing 3x healthy heartbeats is very low... and that spotting seems to be par for the course for this pregnancy so far.... and that I’ve had a ton of morning sickness which also lowers my chance of miscarriage....but now I’m panicked all over again. My plan of telling family at my bday dinner this weekend has basically gone out the window and I’m just so stressed and frustrated that this keeps happening! At this point I’m wondering if I’m ever going to be able to relax and enjoy this pregnancy!
laur84ns I'm sorry that you are going through this. Can you give you doctor a call and see if they can squeeze you in? I would imagine that another private scan would cost some money.
I would still go ahead and tell your family about the pregnancy this weekend. You never know if someone in your family has gone through the same thing and can speak with you about it. That's one of the reasons why I like telling family about the pregnancy early on because I then have another outlet to talk to someone with, plus you might to be able to connect with someone who has gone through what you are going through. I'm giving you all of the internet hugs!
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
@blackgirlmagic Thanks! I actually have a dr appointment this evening so I will definitely discuss with him. However it’s just with my family dr, I don’t believe he even owns a Doppler so I don’t think he’ll be able to give me too much reassurance. We’ll see! Part of the reason for my visit is to book my NT scan which will be sometime in the next 2-4 weeks but I don’t think I can wait that long to know what’s going on I should have clarified, we were going to tell my husband’s family this weekend (we live in the same city as them but live across the country from my family). I’d rather not tell them until I know what’s going on. I have had a MC before and at the time I was grateful I hadn’t told anyone about the pregnancy yet because I found I wanted to keep the news to myself and mourn privately with my DH. I’m a pretty private person. Anyway, thanks for your reply! I’m trying to take it easy today and pray everything is ok!
@laur84ns I spotted too a lot during this pregnancy. Bright red sometimes and almost filling a pad per day. It is scary, and you feel out of control of your own body and at a loss of what to do. I am so sorry you are going through this. Relaxing isn't easy, but all we can do is take care pf ourselves and hope for the best. Everytime I see or hear the heart beat it gets easier, each week that passes the same.
@laur84ns I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’d definitely recommend calling your doctor, but hopefully the spotting is related to the illness you had irritating the cervix.
Obviously it’s your call about telling your family. When I went through my first loss, I had already told a lot of people and had to tell them I’d miscarried. It ended up being a blessing because I got so much support from people who helped me get through it. People can really surprise you with their kindness
@laur84ns At the very least, I would call your office and explain what's going on. Maybe they will recommend another visit just to make sure everything is okay. On the flip side, they might be able to ease your mind a little over the phone if they don't think it's anything to worry about. Either way, I think reaching out will be beneficial. I also agree with @blackgirlmagic - you should still tell your family, as long as you're comfortable doing so. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let the worry overshadow your big weekend. I am so sorry for the anxiety you're going through, and I pray that the spotting passes soon so you can enjoy a healthy, happy, worry-free pregnancy. I'll be thinking of you!
Thanks, guys! I’ll keep you posted after I see my dr. Please keep your fingers crossed for me and this baby who is so wanted! @jspeed83 Thanks for sharing your experience with spotting this pregnancy. It helps to know that I’m not alone, though I’m sorry you had to go through all that stress and uncertainty. Has your spotting stopped? How are far along are you now? I hope things have calmed down for you!
@laur84ns I would put a call in to your doctor to see what they have to say and maybe they can squeeze you in earlier. I agree that you should still share with your family as they may help alleviate your stress. Big hugs to you
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Re: **TW** Loss/Spotting/Bleeding support thread
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
hubs: 26
ttc #1: 4/19
dx: PCOS
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
hubs: 26
ttc #1: 4/19
dx: PCOS
I would still go ahead and tell your family about the pregnancy this weekend. You never know if someone in your family has gone through the same thing and can speak with you about it. That's one of the reasons why I like telling family about the pregnancy early on because I then have another outlet to talk to someone with, plus you might to be able to connect with someone who has gone through what you are going through.
I'm giving you all of the internet hugs!
I should have clarified, we were going to tell my husband’s family this weekend (we live in the same city as them but live across the country from my family). I’d rather not tell them until I know what’s going on. I have had a MC before and at the time I was grateful I hadn’t told anyone about the pregnancy yet because I found I wanted to keep the news to myself and mourn privately with my DH. I’m a pretty private person. Anyway, thanks for your reply! I’m trying to take it easy today and pray everything is ok!
@jspeed83 Thanks for sharing your experience with spotting this pregnancy. It helps to know that I’m not alone, though I’m sorry you had to go through all that stress and uncertainty. Has your spotting stopped? How are far along are you now? I hope things have calmed down for you!
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl