@laur84ns Great news I'm so happy for you! I also wouldn't worry too much about the ultrasound my colleague had twins and in total she had 33 scans across the pregnancy, amazingly the grenders were still a suprise at delivery.
@cornichonmam Oh my god! That’s an insane amount of ultrasounds. Here I was worried about 5-6 this pregnancy Thanks, that makes me feel much better. I’m also shocked the genders were never revealed to her haha! Amazing
@laur84ns Oh I'm so happy to see this update! Baby looks perfect and I'm kinda jealous of that perfect profile! Congrats, mama, hope you breathe a little easier now.
@laur84ns Glad to hear everything is ok with baby!
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
I'm so happy for some relieving appointments for you ladies! My heart drops every time I see new messages on this thread. I'm very ready for this thread to drift down to the bottom!
I am devastated to give my update to our ultrasound concerns that many of you supported us on, here.
We are having a D&C on Friday. Our baby has Trisomy 18, and with everything still going on on the ultrasound (in fact it was worse, with more issues) we understand that this diagnosis is not compatible with life. For us, this decision is about our love for our baby, not wanting him/her to suffer if he/she were to (unlikely) make it to term, and our need to shelter our children from suffering too.
I don't know where this brings us on our journey, whether or not we will have the courage or desire to try again. I know we so much wanted this baby and that hasn't changed. And I know that this diagnosis is something like 1 in 20,000, random and nothing to do with our advanced ages or anything else about us that would lead us to think our chances would be any worse the next time. It's just that going through it now, I don't know what the future holds. We will figure it out together. We will get through this. We believe God is good, and He is with us. All of you who come here looking for support and hope, what has gotten me through this last week and what will keep getting me through is knowing that. And knowing that we're not alone. So thank you.
@5unflowr22 I'm so sorry to read this. You and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers and will continue to be. Be kind to yourself and know that your sweet baby knows how loved he or she is.
@5unflowr22 I am so sorry to be reading this right now. Please be kind to yourself and I hope that you and your family can support one another during this time.
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
@5unflowr22 I am so very sorry to hear such a devastating update. But you are right; God is good. We live in a broken world that is not how He intended it for us, and I'm very sorry that this baby is not to be. 😔
I also believe that there is no dark circumstance that God cannot turn into an occasion for His glory, if we let Him. And I have no doubt that you will. Praying for peace and healing of your hearts, and comfort in the days and times to come. ❤️
@5unflowr22 I am so very sorry to see this. I've been thinking of you and your LO. I'll be praying for you and your family. Be gentle to yourself. Hugs
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
@5unflowr22 I am so sorry to see this. All the hugs, sweetie. I hate you are going through this. I pray everything goes smoothly and you recover quickly. When you are up for it, dont be afraid to talk about your sweet babe. My kids know they have brothers and sisters in heaven and we talk about how special it is to have them.
@5unflowr22 I am so sorry about your sweet, loved baby. There are no words, just know that you’re in all our thoughts and prayers. I’ll be thinking of you and your family on Friday during your procedure.
@5unflowr22 I am devastated to read your update. I am so sorry that your sweet, loved baby wasn’t meant to be in this world. I have been thinking of you, and will continue to do so. I’ll hold you in my thoughts on Friday and send as much love and peace as I can across the miles
@5unflowr22 I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby. I have been thinking about you and your family. I admire your faith and positivity and hope for peace for you all as soon as possible ❤️
@5unflowr22 I am truly devastated to see this update. I am so sorry for the news you’ve received. You will be in my prayers during this unimaginably difficult time. I will echo what you said, God is good. And your baby will only ever know love and warmth. Your family will have the most beautiful angel watching over you all. Sending you love, light, and continued prayers 💗
@5unflowr22 My heart is breaking for you and your family. I'm terribly sorry to hear this news, and I will keep you in my thoughts, especially on Friday. Sending all my love during this tremendously difficult time.
Thank you all... your words of faith and outpouring love are soothing to my soul. I am saving PDF to my dropbox folder for the baby because I will want to reflect on these words as I grieve and move forward. God bless you all and your families. I have had the song "for the beauty of the earth" in my head all day. My husband and I sang it in chorus in high school and played it during our wedding. Particularly as tomorrow is Valentine's Day, and saying goodbye for now to our sweet baby, the words "For the joy of human love/ Brother, sister, parent, child/ Friends on earth and friends above/For all gentle thoughts and mild/Lord of all to thee we raise/This our joyful hymn of praise". My husband and I are clinging to each other, and that is beautiful. We have a lot to be thankful for in our lives. My daughter had a lot of good questions yesterday as she tried to understand. Would the baby be educable. Would the baby be able to talk. Would the baby still be able to walk when it is an old person... just repeating to her, no honey, because doctors say the baby wouldn't live, and probably wouldn't live to even be born. Hard to accept for me, so I can imagine how hard it was for her to wrap her mind around. And then to my surprise (because I knew she had mixed feelings about another child coming, both because it's another child and because it further solidifies our new family structure) she asked me to try again because she was looking forward to being a big sister again. I told her we will make that decision together when we are ready. @BusinessWife, you are so right about occasions for God's glory, and I'm taking those words to heart. I'm going to do my best to let God work in our lives and trust that all things work together for good according to His purpose. Thank you all again for your support and love.
I know we all never want to see new posts on this thread, so my apologies.
I started bleeding last night (like heavy bright red and a large clot). I was able to see an on call Dr and baby is still in there with a strong heart beat, what a relief. I saw my regular Dr this morning and baby is still okay, but I have a subchronic hematoma (blood between the placenta and uterus wall that is pushing on the placenta). The hope is that the blood will resolve itself, so I’ve been put on bed rest. I have a more detailed scan on Monday, but in general there isn’t much I can do but wait and rest. 😔
@kimbo262 What a scary experience! I'm glad you were able to get in to see a doctor right away. Sending lots of positive thoughts, and I hope this issue clears up with some rest. ❤️
@kimbo262 wow thats scary. I havent experienced it but im glad you and baby are ok!
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@kimbo262 sorry this happened to you it is so scary! I have a SCH as well. I had massive bleeding at 7 weeks followed by spotting for two weeks. Each scan we have had has showed a smaller SCH. My doctors said not to worry and I had no restrictions so I’m not sure I’m in the same boat as you though. Hang in there!
@kimbo262 sorry you are dealing with this! No advice, but glad you got in to see your Dr. and glad you have a follow-up soon. Thinking positive thoughts for you and baby!
@kimbo262 I’m sorry to hear this. The bleeding must have been terrifying. I am so happy baby is still ok. I haven’t had a SCH but know several people (both IRL and on older bump groups) who have. As far as I know, every single one of them had it resolve on its own. Take it easy, rest a lot, keep your feet up as much as you can over the weekend! Please update us on Monday, you’ll be in my thoughts until then!
@kimbo262 Oh no! I'm so sorry you are experiencing this. Glad to hear the baby is ok. Take it easy and rest. Praying this resolves shortly on it's own. Sending hugs and positive vibes ❤
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Re: **TW** Loss/Spotting/Bleeding support thread
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Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
We are having a D&C on Friday. Our baby has Trisomy 18, and with everything still going on on the ultrasound (in fact it was worse, with more issues) we understand that this diagnosis is not compatible with life. For us, this decision is about our love for our baby, not wanting him/her to suffer if he/she were to (unlikely) make it to term, and our need to shelter our children from suffering too.
I don't know where this brings us on our journey, whether or not we will have the courage or desire to try again. I know we so much wanted this baby and that hasn't changed. And I know that this diagnosis is something like 1 in 20,000, random and nothing to do with our advanced ages or anything else about us that would lead us to think our chances would be any worse the next time. It's just that going through it now, I don't know what the future holds. We will figure it out together. We will get through this. We believe God is good, and He is with us. All of you who come here looking for support and hope, what has gotten me through this last week and what will keep getting me through is knowing that. And knowing that we're not alone. So thank you.
I also believe that there is no dark circumstance that God cannot turn into an occasion for His glory, if we let Him. And I have no doubt that you will. Praying for peace and healing of your hearts, and comfort in the days and times to come. ❤️
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)
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TTC #2 Summer 2017
BFP 1/5/2018, MC (D & E) 2/23/2018
TTCAL May 2018
BFP 9/20/2018, MC (D & E) 11/16/2018
I have had the song "for the beauty of the earth" in my head all day. My husband and I sang it in chorus in high school and played it during our wedding. Particularly as tomorrow is Valentine's Day, and saying goodbye for now to our sweet baby, the words "For the joy of human love/ Brother, sister, parent, child/ Friends on earth and friends above/For all gentle thoughts and mild/Lord of all to thee we raise/This our joyful hymn of praise". My husband and I are clinging to each other, and that is beautiful. We have a lot to be thankful for in our lives. My daughter had a lot of good questions yesterday as she tried to understand. Would the baby be educable. Would the baby be able to talk. Would the baby still be able to walk when it is an old person... just repeating to her, no honey, because doctors say the baby wouldn't live, and probably wouldn't live to even be born. Hard to accept for me, so I can imagine how hard it was for her to wrap her mind around. And then to my surprise (because I knew she had mixed feelings about another child coming, both because it's another child and because it further solidifies our new family structure) she asked me to try again because she was looking forward to being a big sister again. I told her we will make that decision together when we are ready.
@BusinessWife, you are so right about occasions for God's glory, and I'm taking those words to heart. I'm going to do my best to let God work in our lives and trust that all things work together for good according to His purpose.
Thank you all again for your support and love.
I started bleeding last night (like heavy bright red and a large clot). I was able to see an on call Dr and baby is still in there with a strong heart beat, what a relief. I saw my regular Dr this morning and baby is still okay, but I have a subchronic hematoma (blood between the placenta and uterus wall that is pushing on the placenta). The hope is that the blood will resolve itself, so I’ve been put on bed rest. I have a more detailed scan on Monday, but in general there isn’t much I can do but wait and rest. 😔
Has anyone else experienced this?
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl