@starlight_7 the gang here is crushed for you I can't imagine how you're feeling. Thank you for your positive outlook and for sharing even though you're going through the worst of it. Ill be thinking of you and your family.
@starlight_7 I am so sorry about the loss of your little Adelaide. Our hearts are breaking for you and hope you take the time to process and let your body heal - emotionally and physically
@starlight_7 I had to reread the first half of your post twice. I could not believe that this was happening. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that you are able to heal form this and get your rainbow baby.
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
@starlight_7 I am so sorry! My heart dropped when I saw your post. I will be thinking of your while you greive for Adelaide. I'm wishing you so much fortune with your rainbow baby!
@starlight_7 I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Adelaide. I know it's such a hard loss for you. The D&C always gave me closure, because it was over. I'm praying the same for you and your family. My mom (who has passed) was called Nanny by her grandchildren and she loves on my angels. Hugs, sweetie, I know this is hard. Take your time and grieve, love. It will be rough for a bit, but the light at the end of the tunnel will be there, a pinprick at first before it gets brighter.
@starlight_7 I'm devastated for you. I already said a little prayer for you and your mom, and I can't imagine what kind of emotional turmoil you’re experiencing. You’ll be on all of our minds as you process and grieve.
@starlight_7 I'm am so very sorry to hear the loss of sweet Adelaide. My heart dropped when I saw your post. Thank you for sharing your story with us (I'm crying here at my desk), and I will be praying for you and your family. Take the time you need and be kind to yourself. You will get your rainbow girl. Hugs
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
@starlight_7 my heart’s broken for you during this horrible time. I’ve also been blind sighted during an ultrasound and hate that you’re going through it too. No one should ever have to feel that kind of pain and sudden loss. You have an incredible sense of optimism and I truly believe your rainbow baby is around the corner. Just know that it’s ok to be strong some days and break down others. Sending you, your mom, and precious Adelaide love and peace tonight. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. We’ve all been touched by your sweet angel.
Oh, @starlight_7 I am just devastated for you. I hate to see this thread blowing up for anyone, but to come here and see your post, of course, I was blindsided as well. I am so, so sorry, and I will absolutely be keeping you, your mom, and sweet little Adelaide in my prayers. ❤️❤️❤️
@starlight_7 I’m so sorry to see this. Take your time healing, and take care of yourself during this time. Adelaide is so so loved, and I’m sure she feels it even now.
Thank you so much to everyone who sent their well wishes, prayers, and beautiful thoughts about Adelaide today! I will cherish each one of them, forever!
My D&C is scheduled for this Tuesday, but I don’t think I’m going to make it until then before it happens naturally. The bleeding began this evening. I’m just so grateful that I got the closure that I needed before I even started spotting. At the time, it seemed like the worst possible way to find out that there was a problem; to be blindsided at my ultrasound and to see her there on the screen, in pieces, with my own eyes. But it turned out to be a blessing that, if it was going to happen either way, that I found out when I did, surrounded by my supportive mom and my amazing doctor, rather than the uncertainty that I would’ve had today when some spotting started at 5:30pm on a Friday, after all the doctor’s offices are closed for the weekend, and while I’m all alone.
I feel so blessed to have been a part of this wonderful group, even if it was only for a short while, just as I’m so grateful for every moment that I had with my baby girl. Being a mom has been my only wish for the last 16 years (since I was 20 years old). There were many times that I lost hope that it would ever happen for me. After experiencing the feeling of being a mom to this baby, I’m moving forward with an even stronger resolve to make this happen for myself! And I’m praying the same for all the mommas in this group, including the ones who have already left us due to losses: that we will ALL get to hold healthy babies in our arms soon!
I’m out as well. Had an US to check on a collection of blood they saw at my viability US last week. Sometime between last week and today the baby passed. There was no heartbeat and no blood flow today. The MFM dr seemed to indicate the blood could have caused it(it was bigger than the baby/sac). But I went downstairs to my OB and she said probably not. nonetheless I have to be screened for blood disorders now. I have to choose between a D&C and taking the drugs to pass the tissue. I would really appreciate any advice from anyone who has had either or both done. I do not want to wait for it to happen naturally.
@moguippy I'm so sorry. I had a D&C because I wanted it over, and they wanted to test my fetus. This was the best option for me, because it was over, done. I didnt have wait for medicine to work or anything. I hate you are dealing with this. Hugs and please take time to grieve and feel what you feel.
@moguippy I am so sorry for your loss. There is nothing like hearing your baby’s passed and then having to make the decision what to do next. It’s heartbreaking and unfair and I’m just so sorry.
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Speaking from my own experience, I had a MMC at nine weeks (baby passed around 6.5 weeks). I chose the pill route vs a D&C. I was mostly worried about scar tissue affecting future fertility (small chance) and insurance covering everything. I’m sure everyone has a different experience, but the pills were pretty traumatic for me. My OB in no way prepared me for the intensity of pain I would experience passing the baby/clots/etc. It was truly worse than my labor experience with DD and I had no pain meds to help. If you choose to go the pill route, make sure you have a trusted person stay with you once the pain/contractions start. I sent my husband out of the house with DD and was all alone writhing on my bathroom floor. It was awful. I don’t say this to scare you, but I do want you to be more aware and prepared than I was. My pain lasted about three hours total. If you go that route, try to get some strong pain meds prescribed and have that support person handy. Looking back, I wish I’d done the D&C. I still feel traumatized by my experience. Whatever path you decide, you got this. I’m thinking of you.
In my experience, similar to @babytimeagain I wish I had chosen the D&C route. I was also very traumatized by the unexpected pain and just all the blood I saw when I took the pills with my MMC a few yars ago.
My experience with the pill was very traumatic. I had to take two rounds. I passed an alarming amount of blood during the first round, and then during the second round I had to be rushed to the hospital to get a blood transfusion. They ended up doing a D&C, which was fairly painless.
Based on my experience, I would caution anyone against going the pill route, but I’m sure you’ll make the decision that is right for you.
@moguippy I'm so sorry for your loss and also the difficult decision you're facing. I hope that your blood disorder tests come back negative and that you find rest and healing
Oh @moguippy I’m so very sorry, no advice just thinking of you during this difficult time. Take care of yourself and I hope peace comes sooner than later.
@moguippy I am so sorry to hear this news. During my first MMC, I passed the baby naturally, without pills and I would say it was one of the most traumatic things I've ever experienced. In my case, I wasn't really expecting it and contractions came on intensely on my way home from work. I was home alone with my then 3yo and I had her watching TV while I was in the bathroom calling DH. I finally made it to the ER after waiting for three hours for an ambulance and after sitting there all night they did an u/s in the morning and discovered I hadn't passed all of the tissue so they had to do an D & E anyway. Because I was abroad and we had no family or friends that could help us, I went through the entire process, including my stay at hospital, alone, until DH could pick me up with my kid.
During my second MMC, once I started bright red spotting I went to the ER because I just knew something was really wrong and I made it clear to everyone I spoke to at the hospital that I was not going to endure that previous experience again. They had me prep for a D & E and this time, DH was able to drop DD at school and come to the hospital with me before the procedure.
I don't know that any option is easy. The entire thing is so so so hard. My heart goes out to you.
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Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
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1 LC, girl 5 years old
TTC #2 Summer 2017
BFP 1/5/2018, MC (D & E) 2/23/2018
TTCAL May 2018
BFP 9/20/2018, MC (D & E) 11/16/2018
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)
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Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
hubs: 26
ttc #1: 4/19
dx: PCOS
During my second MMC, once I started bright red spotting I went to the ER because I just knew something was really wrong and I made it clear to everyone I spoke to at the hospital that I was not going to endure that previous experience again. They had me prep for a D & E and this time, DH was able to drop DD at school and come to the hospital with me before the procedure.
I don't know that any option is easy. The entire thing is so so so hard. My heart goes out to you.
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****trigger warning****
1 LC, girl 5 years old
TTC #2 Summer 2017
BFP 1/5/2018, MC (D & E) 2/23/2018
TTCAL May 2018
BFP 9/20/2018, MC (D & E) 11/16/2018