I had two pregnancy-induced meltdowns today. The first happened because I dropped and broke a bowl of tortellini I was planning to eat for lunch. I probably would have been ok except when my husband came to check on me, he tried to hug me over the shoulders (because I had sat down on the couch to collect myself) and the weight made my already sore abs even more sore. When I asked him to shift, he started to walk away and I burst into tears saying I wanted a hug just not that way. It probably took me 10 minutes to stop sobbing. Not long after I told him I needed an hour or so and then could use some help putting away Christmas decorations (a task I have been trying to do for 2 days, but have just not been feeling well enough to do). He said he preferred to do it right away and started to do it himself. Then I started crying again about how useless I feel lately. So apparently loss of sleep, discomfort, and crazy hormones are making me a crazy person...😵
@mandk1233 I’m sorry:( I’m with you on feeling useless- as someone who is normally super productive all the time, it is SO hard to just rest and ask my husband to do simple things for me.
@Swiftlet@mandk1233 You are both much nicer than me. About 4 weeks ago I even told DH I am not responsible for his meals anymore because I had only 2 months of freedom left haha! I hate huffing and puffing through the littlest tasks, but have been soaking up that he insists on doing most chores.
@mandk1233 exactly And not just guilty but it’s been hard just not feeling like myself for nine months, yanno? I’m really hoping that once babies are here I’ll at least be able to participate more physically in my life, even if I’m exhausted. It’s amazing what I take for granted - a load of laundry, walking around the grocery store, making dinner, heck, even washing dishes!
@Swiftlet Exactly! And for me, the 2nd trimester when I felt most like myself was when I started a new job so I was still exhausted all the time and sleeping when I wasn't at work.
@Swiftlet@mandk1233 not to be a party pooper, and I say this out of love... postpartum recovery, in my experience, lasts a couple months and the more you push yourself the longer and more painful it is. It’s totally possible that I’m a wimp though.
@doodleoodle This may be quite high on the list of things I want to pretend I didn't "hear" but also way better to be prepared to help prevent disappointment.
Here's mine... Was dead set on using the pack n play with napper and changer DLX. Got it for baby shower and hubby put it together last night. Realized the "napper" is not safe for sleep at all and the pack n play doesn't fit through our bedroom door. Bawled my head off because I'm obviously failing at motherhood already 🤦♀️ realized today, it's okay we'll just come up with an alternative plan. Hi hormones, how are ya?????
Managed to stop myself before I became a blubbering mess about it, but DH was teasing me about my less than graceful means of rolling over in bed this morning and I felt the tears welling up.
@doodleoodle Sorry, I didn't mean for it to sound like I expected to instantly become this perky beacon of happiness and restfulness and physical activity haha! But being able to reach to do the dishes in the sink, to be able to walk even a short distance without BH and being completely winded, being able to sleep somewhat comfortably again (even if I'm not sleeping much!)...I'm looking forward to that part at least.
@doodleoodle Absolutely. Hence the excessive crying haha. I eventually was too tired to try to make the point that we will need a pnp for future use, not only room sharing 🤦♀️ can't win em all
Speaking of partner overreactions... I was watching a story on the news yesterday about an elderly couple being rescued from a burning apartment building and burst into tears at how much the woman (who was rescued first) was pleading with the firefighters to leave her and get her husband. DH saw my reaction and immediately flipped the channel which turned my tears into a full-blown ugly cry because I didn't get to see the happy ending and reunion.
@foreveronyourside Maybe try a mini pack and play? I just got one and I love it. It is portable, fits through doorways fully set up, and has three level settings to grow with baby. I have it set up next to my bed and it doesn’t take too much room at all. It doesn’t come with a changer or bassinet on it, but it’s an idea 😊
About two weeks ago, hubs and I were driving home at night and traffic on the highway came to a complete stop because of an accident. We turned the truck off and everything, had to have been at least 15mins of just sitting there. At one point, two dogs ran by and a few minutes later a couple young guys were running up the highway calling for the dogs. I was so upset, certain the dogs would be hit by a car and/or they would never be found and all I could imagine was losing my own dog and not knowing what had happened to him.
Well all this time later they finally caught the two dogs and reunited them with their owners! So I started sobbing all over again when I read the update.
Managed to stop myself before I became a blubbering mess about it, but DH was teasing me about my less than graceful means of rolling over in bed this morning and I felt the tears welling up.
girl YES. My husband told me the other day that I “grunt a lot” while trying to rollover in bed 😂. It’s just so hard now! Luckily it made me laugh not cry but I’m finding most of my emotions don’t make sense these days.
Re: Why my pregnant self is crying.
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