It's so interesting how different babies are. DD never had any issues sleeping in her bassinet. We have the Arms Reach which she slept in for about 3 months. But I echo what @ibabyloveb87 said...it was really great for moving around. I would wheel it into my bathroom whenever I needed a shower during those early weeks. This time I think we're going to try an in-bed bassinet since I'm hoping I'll have better luck with breastfeeding and it will be nice to not have to bend over so far. On the bright side, we still have the rolling bassinet and a PnP if he ends up being finicky about the co-sleeper.
I am loving this bassinet conversation. I am having the same dilemma....I was initially thinking crib missing a side so it can come right up to the bed, then not, then baby box, then not, then PNP, then not....I'm still undecided....Gah!
I tried to use the bassinet portion of the PNP with DD1 and she didn’t like the rocking motion. I used a Halo Bassinest with DD2 that I ended up selling because she wouldn’t sleep in it. So I’m thinking I’m just going to use the crib in my room from the get go. If she doesn’t like it then I’ll be more likely to suffer through it for a couple months until she gets used to it because she’s going to have to.
ETA I’m 30 weeks today and now that I’m no longer in the 20s I’m realllyyy starting to stress about how much there is to do.
@clee5711 & @doodleoodle - pro for having a short kid that couldn't reach the door handle until relatively recently (just turned 3 ) she my DD1 never sleeps with us. When she does on vacation she kicks me all night. We shared a King once and I put two layers of pillows between us and she somehow still crawled in her sleep over those babies and started kicking me, i switched to the other side and she rolled back. It's like she has a kick mommy homing signal. Its funny because we would co-sleep when she was a baby and both lay completely still for hours, I miss that.
Me: 38, DH: 36 Married Jan 2008 DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18" so in love Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
@rikiteacup - I'm cool with not spending $65 on a paper box haha. I don't know how they get away with it! It's basically the same concept as a snuggle nest, which I already have anyway.
Me: 38, DH: 36 Married Jan 2008 DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18" so in love Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
@doodleoodle great question 😬 he’s 19 months next week. We’re going to work on our bedtime routine with my h putting him to bed instead of me and hope he just magically starts sleeping through the night? My oldest was similar age when I had my second and he would still end up in our bed sometimes- he rarely was woken by the baby so I’m hoping ds2 will be the same way?🤞🏼
We basically start him in his crib and if he wakes up he comes into our bed.
@leksiL my 3 year old still doesn’t know he can get out of his toddler bed let alone his room without one of us getting him. Lol if he wakes up middle of the night one of us usually sits on the floor next to the toddler bed and rubs his back until he falls back asleep.
I've been lurking and following the bassinet discussion and I think I'm in need of communal wisdom on baby sleep options. Hubby and I are both first-time parents.
-Hubby is pro-bassinet. We don't currently own one, so we'd have to buy it. Hubby is anti-resale groups so he wants to buy it in a store and pay full price. -I am anti-bassinet because I don't want to waste a bunch of money on another piece of baby furniture that she'll only use for a couple months and may not even like. -We have a hand-me-down portable PNP, but it didn't come with the bassinet or the raised mattress that makes it easier to take baby in/out. It seems like it would be a lot of back strain to lift a sleeping infant out of something so low to the ground. -We also have a Swaddle Me co-sleeper that someone gifted us. Neither of us is really into the idea of having the baby in the bed with us.
I think we are rapidly reaching the point where we have both dug our heels in about the bassinet and the arguments are starting to get circular and petty.
@noxacanthus - my goodness I'm sorry you are having arguments about the co-sleeper. I do agree that a PNP without the bassinet attachment would not be a good option.
My two cents...unless you are having significant money problems I would honestly just let him buy it. Otherwise when baby is up in the MOTN he will throw it in your face - "if you had let me buy the bassinet baby would sleep". During the first month parents are so sleep deprived they aren't very rational. If the baby doesn't like it and you've wasted money you can then say "remember when..." next time he wants to buy something you find wasteful.
eta: another good rule to put in place IMHO is that nothing said in the wee early morning hours "counts"
Me: 38, DH: 36 Married Jan 2008 DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18" so in love Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
@noxacanthus honestly even though DS only slept in a bassinet for 8 ish weeks, having something raised was really great in the MOTN, even without having a c-section. Is it necessary? No. But neither is a lot of baby stuff, it just makes your life easier. As far as the sleepers, just know those are not considered safe sleep. To be considered for safe sleep it has the name bassinet or crib in it. Sleepers are technically not considered a safe sleep space, which is why legally they have to use the terminology and not bassinet.
@noxacanthus, I'm pretty hardcore about safe sleep and co-sleepers aren't safe so I would not advise on using one. I think buying a bassinet (or a new PNP with the bassinet/raised mattress option) would be a good idea depending on which is cheaper. Also, I agree with what @leksiL said about things being said MOTN with a newborn.
Our pediatrician and dr in the hospital said the bassinet in the pnp wasn’t safe sleep so we never used it. I never researched it though and let my kids nap in the swing And on me so what do I know.
Totally agree that not having the raised mattress on the pnp would be rough. That’s what we used until they hit the weight limit.
I agree with @leksiL I’d probably murder my h if he threw that back in my face middle of the night. And 100% agree that anything said during middle of the night is forgivable and needs forgotten asap. Same goes for labor lol
@clee5711, many of the "bassinets" that come with PNPs are actually more like inclined sleepers. We looked long and hard to find one that is a true 100% flat bassinet without additional padding. I'm betting the doctor's were referring to those inclined sleepers. Also, we put the bassinet flat on the floor so it was not on the PNP while baby was sleeping in it. DD hated it, that's another story though lol.
@leksiL@kiwi2628@jvk2012@clee5711 After reading all the replies, I think I should just give in and let hubby buy the bassinet. It sounds like the safest sleep option and this is a silly thing to be fighting over, especially during the holidays. I'll also tell him the advice about things said in the MOTN. Thanks, everyone.
@noxacanthus also, if you don't want to store a bassinet once your baby is outgrowing it, baby stuff have a very good resale value. It will be out of your house and you will get some money back.
TTC#1 10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml) 11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged 1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele 4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery 6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020 Baby girl born 2/27/2020 7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
Since it seems highly likely I'll be induced early, it got me thinking about what's left to do and I havent signed up for an actual birthing class (or really read up on anything!) Are there some good online resources anybody would recommend for what to expect for that situation??
@noxacanthus you sound like a good candidate for the baby box! Just saying if your area offers them free it could be a good compromise of not buying anything but having a bassinet. I like baby in cardboard. If it doesn’t work out no love lost- I’m not above moving them to the crib early. Our overall risk of SIDS is low as a household...
@babyroma honestly, I find birthing classes useless unless you really don’t understand how labor works (so, probably more useful to first time dads). Your body knows what to do, and your labor nurse knows what she is doing to help guide you. I think the most important thing for you to know is your pain management options at your hospital.
Also a stressing about the sleeping situation. We got two mini cribs that can roll so part of me wants to just put them in our room even though it would be quite snug. Second option is sleep in the downstairs guest room with the mini cribs. Third option would be a baby dome thing (FP and sleep approved) or double-bassinet PNP which just look like a pain. And we’d also need a changing and feeding set up for MOTN and that seems like it would get cramped quickly...
Suffice to say, I have no idea and I’m just putting it off forever 🙃
@craftywitch genuine question - what factors make a household low risk for SIDs? I know about the basic sleep safety guidelines I think - but curious if I’m missing something. Thanks
@jvk2012 - I should clarify what I mean by the bassinet in the pack n play. I meant the raised flat sleep surface, not the "nappers" which are the things that go on top and have the inclines. It's my understanding that the bassinet, the raised sleep surface, which is flat and basically the same thing as the floor just higher, is fine for safe sleep. Please let me know if I'm wrong about that?
If anyone has the PNP with the napper, if you flip the napper over it is a changing table and that thing is AWESOME. I had a cesarean and it was a perfect level for changing baby.
Me: 38, DH: 36 Married Jan 2008 DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18" so in love Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
Mostly just that no one in our home smokes and DH and I are both aware of safe sleep practices. There’s a list of risk factors on this site, although of course statistics are just numbers. I use them to try to decrease anxiety surrounding this stuff since I’m pretty sure we will all worry no matter what.
I just got a call this morning basically stating my "platelet count is borderline low, but still in a safe range. this happens sometimes in pregnancy. we will keep checking every 2-4wks. no treatment is needed at this level."
The nurse told me not to worry about it but that they'll just need to monitor it but of course...ftm and now still worried about it lol Anybody have experience with low platelet counts or insight as to any problems that may arise from it if they go lower?
@babyroma, Me! I was induced at 39 weeks because of my low platelet count. They are monitoring me again now and my count is slightly low and dropping. For me last time it just caused me to be induced a little early without other issues. Too low can mean you can’t get an epidural and there are risks for bleeding. What was your platelet count and what is the normal range for your lab?
@jvk2012 hmm...I'd bet they're going to induce me early anyway with my blood pressure being borderline so hopefully I can keep this latest news in check and not have to be induced too early! My count was 149 k/cu mm when their range is 150-450.
@babyroma I had low platelets last time. It can be a side effect of pre-E, which if your BP is getting high likely means you have/will develop pre-E. They didn’t catch my platelet count was low until I was in labor because they didn’t monitor me any extra since I never had BP or protein in urine issues so we legit had no idea I had pre-E until labor. Mine meant I couldn’t get an epidural because it dropped too low.
@babyroma, Mine were at 74 on the day of delivery (lab has a similar range as yours). I am currently at 122 with this pregnancy which is higher than this point with DD.
I didn’t know you also have high BP. Like @kiwi2628, the platelets and BP can be signs of pre-e. I’d ask your dr about the risk of pre-e and if they want to check platelets and BP and urine more frequently. Can’t hurt to ask that questions.
@kiwi2628@jvk2012 the bp issues are weird. At home the readings are great (118/78 today!) When I'm in the office, every other time they come out higher (last time it was 142/90). They've been monitoring me for any symptoms of preeclampsia because she says I'm toeing that line.
@babyroma TBH that’s common and normal for BP issues. BP isn’t static and will always be higher in ‘stressful’ situations, like going to the doctor. The problem is that with normal pressures you should be able to manage that pressure, so at home it’ll be 110 systolic and it might be 120 at a doctors but wouldn’t go over that- so highER, but not high. Pre-E (among other BP issues) makes it so you can’t regulate when you are stressed, and eventually Can’t regulate at all, so it often starts as higher BP at the doctor but normal at home, and eventually it may (not not always) will start to have spikes at home. Again, not consistently high at home, but spikes.
I know/think a "packing hospital bag" discussion board was created, but I cant find it. Can someone please tell me the date it was created to help me find it easier?
STM+ are any of you doing gifts for baby from siblings and gifts for siblings from baby at the hospital? I did something little last time but not sure what to do this time or if I’m even going to.
Re: The Great Question Thread
ETA I’m 30 weeks today and now that I’m no longer in the 20s I’m realllyyy starting to stress about how much there is to do.
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
-Hubby is pro-bassinet. We don't currently own one, so we'd have to buy it. Hubby is anti-resale groups so he wants to buy it in a store and pay full price.
-I am anti-bassinet because I don't want to waste a bunch of money on another piece of baby furniture that she'll only use for a couple months and may not even like.
-We have a hand-me-down portable PNP, but it didn't come with the bassinet or the raised mattress that makes it easier to take baby in/out. It seems like it would be a lot of back strain to lift a sleeping infant out of something so low to the ground.
-We also have a Swaddle Me co-sleeper that someone gifted us. Neither of us is really into the idea of having the baby in the bed with us.
I think we are rapidly reaching the point where we have both dug our heels in about the bassinet and the arguments are starting to get circular and petty.
My two cents...unless you are having significant money problems I would honestly just let him buy it. Otherwise when baby is up in the MOTN he will throw it in your face - "if you had let me buy the bassinet baby would sleep". During the first month parents are so sleep deprived they aren't very rational. If the baby doesn't like it and you've wasted money you can then say "remember when..." next time he wants to buy something you find wasteful.
eta: another good rule to put in place IMHO is that nothing said in the wee early morning hours "counts"
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022
Suffice to say, I have no idea and I’m just putting it off forever 🙃
If anyone has the PNP with the napper, if you flip the napper over it is a changing table and that thing is AWESOME. I had a cesarean and it was a perfect level for changing baby.
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
Mostly just that no one in our home smokes and DH and I are both aware of safe sleep practices. There’s a list of risk factors on this site, although of course statistics are just numbers. I use them to try to decrease anxiety surrounding this stuff since I’m pretty sure we will all worry no matter what.
The nurse told me not to worry about it but that they'll just need to monitor it but of course...ftm and now still worried about it lol
Anybody have experience with low platelet counts or insight as to any problems that may arise from it if they go lower?
My count was 149 k/cu mm when their range is 150-450.
I didn’t know you also have high BP. Like @kiwi2628, the platelets and BP can be signs of pre-e. I’d ask your dr about the risk of pre-e and if they want to check platelets and BP and urine more frequently. Can’t hurt to ask that questions.