Hi Ladies,
I thought it might be fun to share... when it really hit you that you were pregnant? For STM+ moms, did reality set in at different times for each baby? Anyone still waiting for reality to sink in?
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@shamrocandroll I hope this is ok. I thought it was fun and general enough question that many can participate in the thread.
Re: When did it start to feel real?
Slightly unrelated...I remember it took a while to wrap my brain around the fact that I was getting married years ago. Despite everything being booked and bought, it wasn't until my wedding ring arrived about 2 months before the wedding that it finally hit me. I remember being like, "holy sh!t, I'm really about to be a wife".
BFP1 04/24/2015 EDD Dec 2015 MMC 10W5d;
BFP 2 09/25/2015 EDD June 2016 MMC 9wks;
BFP 3 03/22/2016 EDD Dec 6th 2016
For my first pregnancy I think it felt real when we saw the first ultrasound. Before that I sort of worried I was making it all up, even though I'd gotten a BFP and had all the symptoms. I suspect it'll be around that point too this time around before it really sinks in I'm pregnant.
TW
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
TW
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
My placenta was anterior and I really couldn't tell if what I was feeling as normal stomach things or a baby. Around then she started reacting with different stimuli so I knew it had to be baby and not gas.
My first pregnancy I was blissfully unaware and felt so connected and excited. *TW* Then at 10 weeks I found out that I had a MMC/Blighted Ovum (empty sac) and miscarried at 11 weeks. *end TW*
My second pregnancy (DD) I had so much anxiety and really tried to enjoy it, but it didn't feel real until I could feel her. I had an anterior placenta and felt her from the outside for the first time around 25 weeks. I had sort of felt her internally for the 3 weeks prior to that.
This time around it really doesn't feel real yet. I am 7 weeks and have basically no symptoms, so mentally I am making connections between this one and my first and having a lot of anxiety. Especially because my timelines are very similar. I was due at the end of May for that one and now I'm due mid May. I am hoping at my ultrasound things will start to feel real.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019I had an early loss before that so the beginning of my pregnancy was full of anxiety. I think I was trying to protect myself and not believe it at first. And then I would just focus on getting past small milestones. And eventually, I was at a point where I could feel the baby move and have a constant reminder that baby is healthy, happy, and a jerk for hitting my ribs 24/7 😂
+1 for an anterior placenta for both DS and DD. I was always so jealous of those who felt early movement.
That's so strange! I feel like they are pretty much the same story.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019DD is still in diapers and does not STTN she spends the first stretch in her crib turned toddler bed (needed to change to toddler bed because she screamed anytime I put her in a crib), and then she spends the rest of the night usually midnight until 6 pressed up against me. I put a twin bed next to our bed in hopes she would sleep there, but the second she realizes that I'm not next to her (or heaven forbid last night when I rolled into the twin and she was pressed up against MH not me) she screams until she finds me. I've got to break this so bad and really see the need for her to STTN with the idea of another baby and need her in her own bed now because with my giant belly slowly approaching there will be no room for all of us.
With DS1 our 9wk u/s and hearing the heartbeat really made it real. With DS2 seeing his limbs wiggling in the 10wk u/s gave me peace that this was really happening. With DS3 my PGAL brain was strong and while it sank in that it was happening by the end of first tri, it still took me awhile to feel as connected to the baby during pregnancy.
Now with possible earth-side baby #4 I’m feeling pretty guarded on what to feel. Pregnancy symptoms are in full swing and we even saw baby and a heart rate this week! But it still doesn’t feel real. We also haven’t told a single person so maybe that’s it. Once I tell my mom and actually discuss it with close friends, it’ll feel more real.
*TW* I’ve never had a successful pregnancy without a loss (or more) first/between. So this could be my first non-rainbow baby.
With DS I felt pretty connected and real from the moment I got the BFP. We had only been off BC for a month and conceived immediately and within 6 months of getting married. It was all very fast but with SS I could immediately see us with a baby and see how baby would fit into our family. Fast forward 4 years and I am having trouble picturing where a baby fits in now. I think the fact that we haven’t told anyone doesn’t help but DS likes to sleep with me/is a bad sleeper, SS had some early jealousy issues that I wasn’t anticipating, I’m worried about DS having the same jealousy issues and I’m worried about the logistics of having a child in 5th, a child in preK and a newborn and getting everyone where they need to be. The practical part of me has me more worried and less connected but I know we will figure it all out eventually.
The anatomy scan usually is when I'm breathing a little easier.
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
Outside of nausea, food aversions, and fatigue the reality has not sunk in. Plus no one really knows about it yet. I’m thinking once I start showing it might feel real. I’ve actually lost weight this trimester since nothing has really been appetizing.
This is my first and I just keep saying to myself - happy and healthy.
DD2 born 9/10/17