I cried yesterday listening to DD and DH sing a Blink 182 song together (don’t judge me) from their more recent album, written about his kid growing up too fast called “without you”. It doesn’t help that my almost 9 year old seems to be blossoming more and more each day into a young lady.
Weird side note/question- has anybody with kiddos already seen how kids have a lot more info about what’s coming up in their lives, courtesy of things like YouTube and Google? DD has been watching videos and reading material to understand childbirth a bit (nothing horrifying, she’s monitored), and she just seems so much more prepped than kids from my generation did with some of these private matters, not so scared. It actually seems like getting her period isn’t going to startle her so much. Honestly, so long as we keep our loving, open, communicative relationship with her, I’m pretty happy with how things are going, not to mention envious- I was horribly uncomfortable and uninformed for life transition time.
I talked to our graphic designer about moving our website to squarespace and DH was like "my website..." and I started crying cause it seemed to make him really sad that we wouldn't be using the website he coded anymore.
A local radio station was playing Taylor Swift’s new album today and a song about someone being in the hospital made me cry even though I don’t actually relate to it on any personal level nor do I know exactly what’s it’s referencing.
Because I went to a (preseason) Bears game and I didnt know that you aren't allowed to bring a purse inside the stadium. For some reason I teared up when they made me lock my purse in a locker! My husband is always very perplexed at my newfound propensity for crying since I almost never cried before pregnancy.
Had to get the three hour glucose screening today. Felt pretty terrible about failing the one hour. The woman who took my blood today asked if I failed the first one, and when I said yes, she said, “you gotta take it easy on the rice.”
@pennyandzooey No! I'm so sorry she said that to you. In addition to being insensitive, it is also an ignorant thing to say, since gestational diabetes can happen to anyone regardless of weight or diet. Good luck with your results! I had mine yesterday but have to wait until Tuesday to find out if I passed.
I cried watching Air Bud with ds. I actually had to leave the room bc I didn’t want to upset him too. When dh asked why I was crying I started sobbing that the clown in the movie was really mean to Air Bud and it hurt my feelings. He laughed at me and I cried even more.
Warning long rant: I have been so hormonal and on the verge of tears all day. I finally lost it. My daughter fell and cracked her chin open at school and her teacher texted saying she thinks she needs stitches. My husband is texting and then as soon as I call him he goes radio silent.. So I text the teacher back saying I'm on my way. I'm getting ready to leave and my husband texts back saying he's going to pick her up and will call when he gets to his car. 15 min later he finally calls me! I told him we should bring her to the children hospital Urgent Care and he tells me to call the regular UC to see what they have to say... Ok, done. So I call UC and tell them I haven't physically seen my daughter, and my husband is on his way to pick her up, but she fell and cut her chin and her teacher thinks she may need stitches. And ask if he should bring her to UC or Primary's. The guy goes into this long rant and asking a million questions about her current symptoms and condition. I can't answer anything because I haven't seen her, only pictures. I just need to know where it's better to bring her. He then gets snippy and says "how about you call me back when you are with her." which I respond with I'm not picking her up, I'm at work. and he says I shouldn't have called if I haven't seen her! WTF! I ended up hanging up on him. I called my husband who then get's upset saying I shouldn't have even called back if I didn't have any information! He's the one who asked me to call all urgently because he was getting ready to grab her! I hung up on him and lost it. Now my eyes are all glassed over and I have to walk out of work.
@ninrms it was just too much and put me over the edge. My husband called a different urgent care and they were able to see her right away. He said they were absolutely great with her too! When we all got home I told him about my conversation and melt down in my office and he was really good about it all. As for my daughter, my husband and the dr agreed glue would be an ok option as it was dinner time and she was cranky already and no one wanted to deal with the potential melt down to come.
Oh it's been a touchy couple of days. Sorry for the lengthy rant ahead. We are painting our house right now and someone parked in front of our house while we were spraying. We told her it should buff off (we have some on our car and it brushed right off) and she came over yesterday saying that it was still there after going through the car wash. I told her that we have house insurance but she was basically just like "I don't know what to do" so I did like a ten second Google and was like, yup a clay bar should take it right off, it shouldn't be a problem, let us know if you need us to file a claim. And I felt like she was being really mean! She was like, well it's still there and I can see it and other people have seen it, and what should I do? I was like, maybe call to get a quote to detail and then let us know? And she goes to walk away and is all "whatever" and I was like, "excuse me, I'm really sorry that this has happened but we are offering to help solve the problem. You parked in front of our house that we are obviously painting, and again, sorry this happened, but we will help so please don't be upset." And she was like "okay, I'll let you know" and then I went and sobbed on my bed for about half an hour.
Also cried reading the end of The Stone Sky by NK Jemisen. So good.
@jandawg this lady sounds dumb, she needs to file a comprehensive claim on her own car policy. if her company feels you were liable in any way they will subrogate against your home insurance.
Listening to Taylor Swift's new song "Soon You'll Get Better." It's the one she wrote about her mom's struggle with cancer but that chorus makes me cry eeeevery time. "You'll get better soon, 'cause you have to." I said this to my son NONSTOP during his hospitalization so it just breaks me, but I'm not a crier normally, even with pregnancy hormones, so it feels weirdly good to be able to just cry.
My google photos sent me pictures of my almost 9 year old DD from 2014 meeting Anna and Elsa from Frozen at Disneyland for the first time. So much joy and sweetness in that little face. Luckily, she still has it, but now she’s so big!!! 💗💗💗😢
@pennyandzooey a NJ’er but my dad was in the building next to the first tower and i’ve worked in NYC for the past 10 years. With having a 2yr old and another on the way I couldn’t handle the coverage today.
@anniemarie887@ashorkey@pennyandzooey@ale9687 Didn't listen. Watched a clip my friend posted about the 9/11 rescue dogs. Spiraled into other 9/11 videos. Had an existential crisis about how we're going to raise our son in this messed up world. DH actually took my phone away yesterday evening because I was sobbing uncontrollably about all of it.
@anniemarie887 Oh yes. It was bad. So much ugly crying. I even uttered the phrase, "He doesn't need to come out. He can stay right in here, where it's safe" while clutching my belly. DH took a picture of me in the middle of this whole mess to "save for later and show our son when he's a teenager and being a brat so he can see how much his mom loves him."
My washing machine just broke/quit...in the middle of a load of bed sheets. Also really don't want to tell MH because I know it can't be fixed so we are going to have to buy a new one which means spending money we were hoping not to spend.
@peachie89 I feel your pain! Crying when appliances break is 100% acceptable. My friend just had to replace her washer and dryer, she has 2yr old twins and cried thinking about all the laundry that’ll pile up in the week or two they’ll be without laundry.
I had a meltdown over the nursery. It used to be my husband's office and there was an huge old junky armoire in there that I've been bugging him to get rid of for the longest time. I want to start decorating and it is in the way. Anyway, today I got fed up and put it on Facebook Marketplace for free and three separate people claimed to be coming for it at different points in the day but no one showed up. I got frustrated and pitched a little fit and fussed at my husband for not getting rid of it sooner. He got the point because he is now disassembling it and taking the scraps to the dumpster. Now I feel slightly guilty for making a scene.
The truth? It's been a really rough weekend emotionally. My baby shower was this weekend, and though it was nice it was also very...small. There were several women who I thought would be there who just weren't, and I don't know why. And I'll admit, I've been feeling hurt over it--these are women who I've been friends with, whose bridal and baby showers I attended, who I've brought meals to when needed, who I've just been there for and have been friends with...and they didn't come. And it's not about the gifts, it was about that it's FINALLY my turn to celebrate...and they weren't there. Two I already knew had good reasons and had reached out to me ahead of time and told me they couldn't attend, and that was fine and I appreciated that. But the other six...crickets. So yeah. I've just been in a funk this weekend because of it. And though I felt very loved by the people who did attend, I can't help wondering if I did something wrong. What I thought was going to be a great weekend I'm honestly walking away from disappointed in. And it sucks to feel this way. It's like...I thought I'd have a great support system for when the baby came, and now that belief is wavering. I'm sure there are good reasons for some of them, but I'm just so sad that so many of them didn't come.
On the upside, no drama from my MIL at the shower, which was great. She was on best behavior and remarkably pleasant, so that was a win.
So yeah. That's why I'm crying. I'm just disappointed.
@pennyandzooey Thank you. It really was lovely with the people who were there, and they did such a great job making sure I knew how loved we are...but yeah, it also just made me so sad to see how many people didn't attend, or even give a reason for why they didn't come.
@rjgmcmanus i'm sorry, and that's a totally normal emotion. i would reach out to them, maybe just in a round about way where you ask them if they are ok first, but then explain how it made you feel.
@rjgmcmanus I'm so sorry, I've been there, and it really sucks. Since I moved to the suburbs shortly before my son was born, most of my friends in the city don't come to any of our events (including my baby shower) because they "don't have a car or a ride". Which is BS because there's a commuter train that thousands of people take literally every day to get between the 2 locations. I hope your friends reach out and offer valid reasons for not being there for you.
@rjgmcmanus geez, I’m so sorry. I’d probably reach out as well if you feel like you have the energy for that...That is super upsetting and I wish your shower would’ve left you with a better feeling than it did.
@ktmaesim@CapricaAndrea@anniemarie887 I did reach out to one, who'd said she'd be there and then just randomly didn't show or even bother to text anyone that she couldn't come last minute...maybe this is me, and because I'm a FTM and don't actually have the baby yet, but her excuse was "the baby was having a bad morning and I figured you wouldn't want her crying at your shower."
A few thoughts on this, and I didn't say anything, but I am aggravated:
1) That's a bullshit excuse to me. If she was sick, fine, I totally get it. Even if she was screaming for hours on end and you couldn't handle taking her out, okay, not great, but I still get it. But AT LEAST text someone. Don't say you're going to come, then not show, no explanation. And I shouldn't have had to reach out to you after the fact...that's weird. You should've reached out to me. It's common courtesy.
2) We had childcare on the premises that my best friend and sister lined up SPECIFICALLY so the moms could enjoy the shower, but also so they didn't have to worry about finding childcare. She knew that.
3) I don't think your kid was really that bad. Even if she was, by the time you made it to the shower, she probably would've calmed down.
4) You've known me for years. You know crying babies don't bother me. So seriously?
5) Where the hell was your husband? I know he wasn't out of town, based on his Facebook. Why couldn't he have helped you out and taken the kid?
6) Next time you decide to blow off someone, maybe don't be on Facebook posting viral videos AT THE SAME TIME AS THE SHOWER. For the love of all that is good, that was dumb.
Sorry. I'm aggravated, and that just seemed like a cop out excuse to me. Honestly, this particular friend, I've had enough with...the past couple years she's been flaky and postponing events or showing up late, but this was hurtful. I've asked time and again if she's okay, becuse I've noticed this trend, and every time she says she is. But I'm also tired of being the one to reach out first all the time, and I'm tired of being blown off or rescheduled. This started well before she ever even got pregnant. So yeah....we're meeting up in a few weeks because she does have a gift, but after that, I'm just kind of letting her take the lead and see if she reaches out first at all. Like I said, I'm tired of it, and after this, I'm just plain hurt.
I don't know why the others didn't make it. But that's my rant about that one particular girl. I was her maid of honor. She was one of my bridesmaids. We've been friends for years, but she's just been ghosting me on and off lately, and this is my breaking point with her.
@rjgmcmanus I totally agree with your course of action on how to handle this girl- she seems like an exhausting friend to have in your life- you don’t need that now, and you definitely won’t need it in a few months with baby here!!
@rjgmcmanus ughhhhh I 1000000x agree with all of those points.
so I know I said in a round about way, but specifically this girl I would handle head on and probably say evrey one of those points you outlined. I can be a little abrasive which is something I've been working on... but sometimes people just need to be called out and held accountable.
@anniemarie887 Yeah...I'm trying to figure out a nice way to basically say all that when we meet up in a few weeks. Or I might just say it exactly the way I wrote it. We'll see what happens that day.
Re: Why my pregnant self is crying...
Weird side note/question- has anybody with kiddos already seen how kids have a lot more info about what’s coming up in their lives, courtesy of things like YouTube and Google? DD has been watching videos and reading material to understand childbirth a bit (nothing horrifying, she’s monitored), and she just seems so much more prepped than kids from my generation did with some of these private matters, not so scared. It actually seems like getting her period isn’t going to startle her so much. Honestly, so long as we keep our loving, open, communicative relationship with her, I’m pretty happy with how things are going, not to mention envious- I was horribly uncomfortable and uninformed for life transition time.
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
DS - 7.5
DD #1 - 6
~ mmc 7.11.2018 @ 9w ~
DD#2 - born 12.24.19
Cried later and am still not over that comment.
rant over. Sorry.
I hope you've been able to relax after that incident!
Also cried reading the end of The Stone Sky by NK Jemisen. So good.
On the upside, no drama from my MIL at the shower, which was great. She was on best behavior and remarkably pleasant, so that was a win.
So yeah. That's why I'm crying. I'm just disappointed.
A few thoughts on this, and I didn't say anything, but I am aggravated:
1) That's a bullshit excuse to me. If she was sick, fine, I totally get it. Even if she was screaming for hours on end and you couldn't handle taking her out, okay, not great, but I still get it. But AT LEAST text someone. Don't say you're going to come, then not show, no explanation. And I shouldn't have had to reach out to you after the fact...that's weird. You should've reached out to me. It's common courtesy.
2) We had childcare on the premises that my best friend and sister lined up SPECIFICALLY so the moms could enjoy the shower, but also so they didn't have to worry about finding childcare. She knew that.
3) I don't think your kid was really that bad. Even if she was, by the time you made it to the shower, she probably would've calmed down.
4) You've known me for years. You know crying babies don't bother me. So seriously?
5) Where the hell was your husband? I know he wasn't out of town, based on his Facebook. Why couldn't he have helped you out and taken the kid?
6) Next time you decide to blow off someone, maybe don't be on Facebook posting viral videos AT THE SAME TIME AS THE SHOWER. For the love of all that is good, that was dumb.
Sorry. I'm aggravated, and that just seemed like a cop out excuse to me. Honestly, this particular friend, I've had enough with...the past couple years she's been flaky and postponing events or showing up late, but this was hurtful. I've asked time and again if she's okay, becuse I've noticed this trend, and every time she says she is. But I'm also tired of being the one to reach out first all the time, and I'm tired of being blown off or rescheduled. This started well before she ever even got pregnant. So yeah....we're meeting up in a few weeks because she does have a gift, but after that, I'm just kind of letting her take the lead and see if she reaches out first at all. Like I said, I'm tired of it, and after this, I'm just plain hurt.
I don't know why the others didn't make it. But that's my rant about that one particular girl. I was her maid of honor. She was one of my bridesmaids. We've been friends for years, but she's just been ghosting me on and off lately, and this is my breaking point with her.
so I know I said in a round about way, but specifically this girl I would handle head on and probably say evrey one of those points you outlined. I can be a little abrasive which is something I've been working on... but sometimes people just need to be called out and held accountable.