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shamrocandroll · September 2019

Stolen from April BMB. We can always modify or update as we see fit.

Some links that you may find helpful:
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For the sake of board organization, here are some simple guidelines for posting threads:
DO:
-Introduce yourself in the "Introductions" thread
-Feel free to start one of the weekly posts listed below if you don't see it started yet
-Check to see if a thread has already been started on your topic or question so we can avoid too many threads of the same topic
-Post a thread that would apply to the entire community and doesn't fall into one of the categories for daily threads listed below (Ex: What to pack in your hospital bag, baby gear, etc.)
-Comment, share advice, and show support for your fellow bumpies; this is a two-way street, to get support, you must show it as well

DON'T:
-Ask the community if you are pregnant, it is against the Bump's Terms Of Use (TOU)
-Post pictures of your pregnancy test, this is also against TOU (there is a thread on the open 1st tri page for this)
-Post a thread that asks a question only applying to yourself unless you suspect you may be going through a MC
-Get bent out of shape if someone calls you out for not following these guidelines; if you expect to be part of a supportive board (which we are), you need to be able to take the time to learn the ins and outs of the board.

Here are some weekly/monthly ideas that may be good to start with. We can always add to best suit our boards needs, so please let me know if you have any other ideas!

MONDAY

Weekly Randoms
Meal Plan Monday
Man Crush Monday (MCM)
PGAL Check-In
Due Date Week Groups:
- Group 1: May 1-8
- Group 2: May 9-16
- Group 3: May 17-24
- Group 4: May 25-31

TUESDAY

TW Tuesday
Plus-size Mom Check-In
Ten Things Tuesday

WEDNESDAY

HDBD (Hump Day, Bump Day)
WTF Wednesday
Woman Crush Wednesday (WCW)
Wellness Wednesday

THURSDAY

TTGP Grad Check-In
Thankful Thursday
Unpopular Opinion (UO)

FRIDAY

Flame Free Friday Confession (FFFC)
Product Spotlight: __________ (e.g., strollers, car seats, etc.) https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1XX4aUSPsDbdyEEK5HIzMzwH2ztOVOnNCehSgMAc5w6U/edit?usp=sharing (spreadsheet for product spotlight schedule. There is an item for each week.)
Fit Friday

SATURDAY

Weekend Randoms

SUNDAY

Weekly Questions

MONTHLY

Symptoms Thread
Appointments Thread
FTM Check-In
STM+ Check-In
AMA Check-In

OTHER THREADS

GTKY Threads
High Risk
Milestone Threads (specific appointments/weeks gestation, etc)
Breastfeeding
PGAIF (Pregnant After Infertility)
Single Moms
Moms of Multiples

Once we all get farther along, we will also have pinned threads for things like ultrasounds, sex announcements and birth announcements.

Important board organization notes on spotting/bleeding/losses

If you are spotting or bleeding & would like support, please post to the Spotting/Bleeding Support Thread (TW). This thread comes with a general trigger warning.

If you are a contributing member with a confirmed loss, please create a New Discussion titled something like “Confirmed Loss (TW)”. Threads like these come with a general trigger warning. Consider before posting: Will you feel like any replies/support during this time will help you get through what you are going through? Or will it feel like you are announcing your loss to a roomful of strangers? Most importantly, consider what’s best for YOU during this time, and proceed from there. Feel free to copy and paste the language below if it helps you during this difficult time to not have to write as much.

This is a post indicting a confirmed loss, and therefore please do not provide direct questions or lengthy replies during this difficult time. Use the "Love It" button to show your support, a quick “sorry for your loss,” or something similarly short and sweet. Please try to avoid tagging me in replies to this thread or anywhere else on this board moving forward.

Here is my loss story:

Your story portion can be as brief or as long as you would like or can be omitted entirely. Know that the board organizers have provided the above for your benefit. We felt it was important for anyone going through one to know it's okay to post a New Discussion and also important for anyone in that situation to have something easy to turn to in case they had to announce something so difficult.

I've copy/pasted this from previous boards, and it seems to be the way that they are all organized, but of course we should feel free to tweak for our needs! For example, some boards do weekly ticker changes while others do weekly due date check-ins (ex, DD 1st week of Mar.). If anyone has a suggestion for other threads, please feel free to comment a suggestion. PLEASE keep in mind that there will eventually be a lot of us on this board, and an organized board will be much easier for everyone to use. If we can all keep the one-off posts to a minimum the board won't be too cluttered to navigate, and hopefully we won't end up answering the same question 2,000 times.

*Edited to change April to May

shamrocandroll · September 2019

@BumpAdmin Please sticky.

shamrocandroll · September 2019

Okay, I feel better now that I've started to properly organize our BMB. Now someone else can start some other threads so I don't feel like such like a board hog!

Some top-of-mind threads we need are:

Weekly Questions w/o 9/2
PGAL w/o 9/2
TTGP Grad Check-In 9/5 (we can do this one tomorrow if that sounds good to people)
Groups 2-4 Check-In w/o 9/2 (I started Group 1, but I think we already have some Group 2 ladies in here, yay!)
STM+ Check-In September
FTM Check-In September
September Appointments

*Edited to add more and fix typo

m6agua · September 2019

never mind, my bad.

shamrocandroll · September 2019

@BumpAdmin Can we sticky this thread, pretty please?

charmedlifex3 · September 2019

Can we add a high risk / medically complex pregnancy thread? Maybe monthly? Hopefully I’ll be talking to myself, but others might need it.
Thoughts?

shamrocandroll · September 2019

@whatsbumpinpumpkin Yes, I say go for it!

mommytobeof-4 · October 2019

Do you know if there has been a Facebook group started for May 2020 moms?

shamrocandroll · October 2019

@s-trout-96 I don't think you'll find a lot of support for that at this stage. Generally BMBs tend to move to a private group (PG) here on TB first to really vet everyone and make sure everyone is active and legit before moving to FB. Most like the anonymity of TB for a while before moving to real names and photos on FB.

m6agua · October 2019

@s-trout-96 Hi, I see you've only participated around here a couple times. No there has not been a FB group from this group of ladies. There could be some out there from other people though, you will have to search FB. Many of us will probably stick around TB for quite a while in favor of the anonymity.

mommytobeof-4 · October 2019

@shamrocandroll no problem! I was a part of the December 2017 board when I had my son and a good bit of us moved to a private group on Facebook after the first trimester. I actually met a girl online who lives 30 minutes from me in real life and we’ve became good friends because of it! I’m not really active on here because I personally don’t like the layout of everything and how it’s ran. But that’s just my opinion 🤷🏻‍♀️ Thanks for letting me know!

@m6agua Thanks for letting me know even though it was clearly stated in the comment above you. I take your participation comment to be a little rude and demeaning honestly. I’m not sure what participation in this group has to do with simply asking if someone has made a Facebook group yet. I wasn’t saying I was going to make it. I just wanted to be added if someone already has because I like that platform better. My Facebook is locked down and no one can get any information from me other than my name and profile picture so I’m still pretty anonymous on there as well. I know that I could search Facebook, but like I said in reply to Shamrocandroll, I was a part of a private group and would love to be a part of a private group again. Have a nice day.

jrouge12 · October 2019

@s-trout-96 I don't see read the response from @m6agua as rude. This is a community that's only stronger by how actively people post. To pop in and ask where the exclusive Facebook group is without really being active on here just seemed out of place.

m6agua · October 2019

@s-trout-96 shamrocandroll and I must have posted at similar times, because when I wrote my comment, hers wasn't up. What I was getting with the participation is that maybe you want to stick around and get to know us in this community before asking a bunch of people you don't really know yet if we have a FB group. The fact that you haven't gotten to know us really yet and would want to be added to a FB group where there is less anonymity is sort of odd to me. It isn't just about people having your information, but about you having access to others as well, not everyone has their FB locked down. I wasn't trying to be rude or demeaning, I guess just trying to say if you want to go to FB, go to FB. Otherwise stick around here and get to know us, eventually the group will migrate. I probably could have been more clear.

shamrocandroll · October 2019

@s-trout-96 I agree that participation is a valid point. I certainly don't join a FB group until I am as sure as possible that I know everyone there is legitimate and I know as much about them as possible. I would not invite someone who didn't really participate into a FB group where they have access to my name and photo. The way I've seen it work is active participants here will form a private group on here, where we get to know each other more, and then after a while of vetting each other out there, then a FB group might be entertained.

valkyrran · October 2019

@s-trout-96 I also feel like this group can get a little aggressive and to an extent unwelcoming for first time posters. I have refrained from being an active member because of that. Crucify me if you must, but I'm just glad someone else brought up the rudeness.

shamrocandroll · October 2019

@valkyrran I'd like to see an example of said aggression. From what I've seen, most of us politely welcome them and point them to the board organization thread and intro thread where they can see how things go in this group. Generally whenever you join a new group either online or in "real life" there are some basic guidelines the group operates by, and you don't just walk in and start doing things the way you want. Organization and participation are what keeps this group from turning into a chaotic mess of strangers posting the same thread 100 times, making it impossible for anyone to get to know each other or find useful information.

ruby696 · October 2019

@valkyrran Whoa. This group is actually pretty laid back and have let things go that other boards would have been all over. I'm also curious to see examples of rudeness which would make people afraid to participate. I think this board is a lot like real life. If you don't make an effort to introduce yourself and participate, that's on you. Lots of people make the effort to participate regularly, and while we may not always agree with each other, no one has been inappropriate or rude.

mokay19 · October 2019

Imagine walking up to a group of friends and just randomly talking about your day when you don’t even know a single thing about the people in the group.

It’s kind of like that.

jrouge12 · October 2019

@shamrocandroll I love this board's organization! I lurk on another May 2020 board and it is post after post of people posting their ultrasound asking to be "ramzi-ed". I can't follow how anyone bothers to interact with each other.

soprano19 · October 2019

@valkyrran @s-trout-96 like other people have said above me, this board is far more laid back and chill than most other boards. It's just a matter of taking the time to introduce yourself and participate within the structure of the board. If that's not something you want to do, that's fine, but maybe this board isn't for you.

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