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October 2019 Moms
galentine
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** Private Group Discussion Thread **
galentine
member
I think we are approaching the time when we might want to
start thinking about forming our private group here on TB! We don’t have to move right now, but I think
it’ll be good to get the discussion rolling on when and how we’ll move over to
a private group so we are ready.
Some things we should discuss:
- How many Admins/moderators do we want to have for the Private Group? Who should those people be/how do we want to choose them?
- What should the voting process be for allowing members into the private group?
- What should our vetting process be to weed out possible catfish?
Feel free to discuss any other things I may be forgetting.
I'm so excited to get this ball rolling! I can’t wait to get to know you all a little better!
Some things we should discuss:
- How many Admins/moderators do we want to have for the Private Group? Who should those people be/how do we want to choose them?
- What should the voting process be for allowing members into the private group?
- What should our vetting process be to weed out possible catfish?
Feel free to discuss any other things I may be forgetting.
I'm so excited to get this ball rolling! I can’t wait to get to know you all a little better!
Re: ** Private Group Discussion Thread **
I don't think we have anyone here who has said they don't have a bump so that's easy enough I think.
im confused because I don’t bump
pic, ever. Doesn’t matter if it’s a private group. I don’t take them, period
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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a super majority (2/3rd or more) agree on someone else. It’s easy to see now who’s the regs and who’s not, IMO.
Catfish get wed out overtime. There’s often things about what they post that don’t sound right, but they take a while to accumulate and put together because an experienced catfish can get away with it for a year or two before being caught from what I’ve seen
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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As far as admin goes I think 3 is a good number that way if they ever have to decide something difficult there can’t be a tied vote. Hopefully that’s never needed but never know.
I think for vetting purposes they need to have been participating at least a month, I’d say actively but that is a very grey definition so idk that it’s feasible. And I like @prpl11butterfly bump pic idea.
HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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This is what I gather from my lurking in other BMBs.
I think 3 is good, like @kindbytealikat suggests. An odd number in case of tie votes, for sure. 5 would be ok too, but seems unnecessary?
- What should the voting process be for allowing members into the private group?
I like what the Sept BMB did: first they posted a "roll call" thread to see who would even be interested in joining a private group to get an approximate headcount. Then based on that number, they decided on how many "votes" a person would need to get in order to be admitted to the private group. The Admins agreed on some people to add to the group to start off with (obvious super active posters), and then the usernames of those who wanted in were posted on a thread in the private group. Those posters who received the required number of love-tits as votes were added to the group.
- What should our vetting process be to weed out possible catfish?
agreed with @prpl11butterfly. I think that each person admitted to the private group should submit a photo to the mods within a certain time frame of being admitted to the group. I like the requirements is showing your bump and your face, and some random object you wouldn't normally see in a bump photo or something with your username and the date written on it.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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ETA that would include handwritten date / SN written
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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I think 3 moderators sounds good. So the PG is still done through the app?
I too feel a little funny showing my face to internet strangers. Even though I feel I have been able to “get to know a lot of people” virtually, I still am pretty private with that stuff. I think the ultrasound and date is a good option.
Call this UO/FFFC early but I don't think we should allow just anyone to use the U/S picture for admission to the group. I think it needs to be a case-by-case basis and for good reason.
TTC #2: October 2018, BFP 02/02/19, EDD 10/14/19
- What should the voting process be for allowing members into the private group? Once the mods are in, I think they can open it up to accept PMs with vetting photos to request admission. Then they can run a daily vote within the PG to admit new members. Number of votes needed would vary based on number of members in the group at the time of vote.
- What should our vetting process be to weed out possible catfish? I like the idea of either an ultrasound photo or bump pic with handwritten screen name and due date. Maybe also an item you’ve purchased or been gifted for your baby (car seat, nursery art, crib, etc) - something baby related I think will help to know you’re actually pregnant and not a catfish faking it.
Me 39 - DH 41
Married 8/26/07
TTGP #1 Jan '15 -
BFP 9/11/15 - DS born 5/31/16
TTGP #2 July '17 -
CP July '17
Blighted Ovum MC Dec '17
CP June '18
BFP 1/30/19 - EDD 10/13/19
In my last BMB there was an initial group of obviously active people admitted and then if there were people the mods weren’t sure about, they would start a thread asking for opinions, and delete the thread once the decision was made. However, my old BMB had a ton of drama before we went to PG, so this was more to decide on whether or not someone was going to cause trouble rather than how active they had been. We didn’t do any other type of vetting and have been extremely lucky that we haven’t had major problems.
I’m fine with just doing some sort of vote and with doing some sort of photo to prove you’re a real, pregnant lady.
I vote for doing a bump PG before moving to FB. My full name is extremely google-able, and I’m not comfortable giving it out yet, even if my profile is on lock down.
Me 39 - DH 41
Married 8/26/07
TTGP #1 Jan '15 -
BFP 9/11/15 - DS born 5/31/16
TTGP #2 July '17 -
CP July '17
Blighted Ovum MC Dec '17
CP June '18
BFP 1/30/19 - EDD 10/13/19
As far as those uncomfortable showing their face in a bump pic, could you show like half your face + the extra object (ie. coffee mug)? I agree that ultrasound pic is a little too easy for catfish to fake. (Not that I think any of the regulars are fakers.)
3 mods feels good - I think we should start a thread for people to nominate themselves and vote.
I feel like the true catfish are relatively easy to spot at this point. It’s rarely the person with a mundane story. I don’t feel a ton of fear about it in this group but stranger things have happened!
Looking forward to really getting to know you all!
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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I also think the three mods suggestion is a good one, and I like the idea of following the September model for admittance to a PG.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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3 or 5 mods sounds good to me, and I like the picture ideas for recognition. Definitely think it should have to go with some form of posting too, there's lots of lurkers that haven't contributed much of anything but love it's. So past the ones we do know well, I'd say a post history should be relevant. My Jan 17 group went off of that as their main basis, but they did FB at 9 months so they could post birth pics and stories. My July 15 I think we had a FB early on and there's about 60 in, but only really 35 of us are active on there all the time.
TTC #2: October 2018, BFP 02/02/19, EDD 10/14/19