Weekly randoms 5/6

moon1417 · May 2019

Me and the hubz went to Canada this weekend to see the Niagara Falls from the Canadian side. Way more touristy than in NY. We really needed a little mini vacation and we had so much fun.

mrosek91 · May 2019

January 20 BMB just went up. How are there already woman who are pregnant who know they will be giving birth in 2020!!! Where is all the time going?!?!

wabash15 · May 2019

@mrosek91 its crazy how far we are getting in our pregnancy... some of us are about to hit the third tri!!! holy crap how did that happen

goldfishcraker · May 2019

@moon1417 I'm glad you had a good time!!! I was actually looking at Niagara falls for a "babymoon"! I've always wanted to go! But it won't be possible. So instead I'll just enjoy that you got to go! Haha

bluebonnet15 · May 2019

@moon1417 So glad y’all had a fun and much needed getaway! I went to Niagara Falls (Canada side also) a couple of years ago and I guess didn’t realize what a honeymoon destination it was until I had a room with a tub with windows that opened into the bedroom. It was unexpected.

moon1417 · May 2019

@heml me either! Our room had a tub! I went in it for a little while it was so luke warm because I was afraid of boiling the baby haha my husband kept saying I could have it a little warmer but I was too paranoid haha first bath in soooo long. with the jets on it was nice.. baby bump still stuck out though hahahaha

MamaK225 · May 2019

Speaking of - @mrosek91 - did we ever figure out what the official 3rd Tri beginning is? I was under the impression it was 27+0.

wabash15 · May 2019

@MamaK225 I think its 28 weeks... but since there is so much debate over when the 2nd tri starts...

goldfishcraker · May 2019

People probably don't care, but I just saw an article saying Prince Harry and Meagan's baby was born this morning (though they don't specify the date so I don't know if it was may 5 or 6. I assume 6th).
They had a boy.
Hopefully they don't "steal" any of our groups boy name choices! Haha

wanderlustsoul · May 2019

@chillycanadian, it was May 6 since 5 AM London time. I’m super excited for them. I legit thought she was having a girl but I know so many people having boys so not surprised. I can’t wait to see what they name her.

peachy0709 · May 2019

@chillycanadian Girl, you don't even know. I mean, there is almost no likelihood that Harry would name his son Charles, but you can imagine this mom of a future Charles Alexander is sweating bullets over here!!!

mrosek91 · May 2019

@MamaK225 as one of the only people who answered 12 weeks on that "when does the first trimester end?" poll I am the wrong person to ask.
I just feel like growing up 2020 was always that far off future, when something was going to happen "when I'm old" it was 2020. It doesn't help that today is my 28th birthday. I know that's still very young, but I just feel like time is marching on whether we want it to or not.

olivemomma · May 2019

I’ve also read more 28 weeks on third trimester - I hit it tomorrow and am planning on starting a third trimester party GIF thread!

I also read about the new royal baby and have to give Harry props for giving a shout out to all woman who have given birth. That’s 1 smart man

goldfishcraker · May 2019

Happy birthday @mrosek91!
I would do a birthday gif but I can't seem to figure out how to do them on TB.
But happy birthday! 🍰🎉🎈🥳

MamaK225 · May 2019

I was told it was 0-13+6 (First), 14+0-26+6 (Second), and 27+0-delivery (Third). I had asked my OB last appt because I was confused with the 0-13, 14-27, 28-40, and he said that since a majority of people don't know when they actually ovulated+implanted, that the first trimester is the longest since it's +/- 2wk variance.

Mathematically, it makes the most sense to me, so that's what I'm clinging to ... 1w3d to go!!

ETA: Happy birthday, @mrosek91. You spring chicken, you

thirdtimesacharm2019 · May 2019

Totally inappropriate conference comment du jour:

”Somebody’s having a baby anyday now!”
- total stranger

”August”
- me through a forced smile

MamaK225 · May 2019

WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT THE EFF!? Not even ok, @thirdtimesacharm2019. I would say - if anything - you're smack dab in the middle of the bell curve. What a dick (I'm assuming, you know, because lack of couth/confidence of being correct about a stranger).

thirdtimesacharm2019 · May 2019

@MamaK225 I’m going to stop leaving my office because:

1. Parking and walking anywhere sucks
2. My coworkers don’t make rude assumptions/ comments

emqbee · May 2019

I love that while I’m sitting here using the bump app, my bump keeps bumping my phone and moving it. I’m so enjoying her dance parties!

cato99 · May 2019

@thirdtimesacharm2019 LOL I got "Any day now!!" a couple of weeks ago from a stranger at a restaurant and like... I was ALMOST 24 weeks.

And I'm mentally clinging to 28 weeks for the start of the third tri because I am NOT ready for that milestone! Too real! The other day in prenatal yoga a 19-weeks-along mom was (prematurely) like "oh you're 25 weeks! you just started the third trimester!" and I cannot even describe the wild-eyed panic I went into trying to do the math to prove her wrong.

thirdtimesacharm2019 · May 2019

@cato99 I’ve heard different variations on when third tri starts, but none as early as 25 weeks! That’s crazzzzzyyy 🙄

I’m totally ready for third tri, bring it on!!! I was also counting up how many work days I have left this morning... so there’s that.

wanderlustsoul · May 2019

Dear baby,

My ribs are not to be used for practice kicks and as a place to lodge your foot.

Sincerely,

Your loving mom whose ribs hurt but still loves you.

MamaK225 · May 2019

@thirdtimesacharm2019 - I've been on a countdown for a few weeks now

Currently at 60 days (not counting 1wk vacation, Memorial, or 4th of July)! I don't plan on going out until a day or two before my RCS.

thirdtimesacharm2019 · May 2019

@MamaK225 Same, I’m working (or at least showing up 😂), until the last minute. I’m at 56 counting vacation and holidays.

MamaK225 · May 2019

Yes!!!!!!!! #countdownison

sw1122 · May 2019

I'm 27 weeks, but it still doesn't feel 'real' to me yet. I still refer to baby as 'it'. My husband is so excited for the baby to arrive, but I'm terrified. I just don't feel ready, even after taking a breastfeeding and newborn care class. I'm definitely afraid of labor and delivery, but I think I'm more afraid of bringing the baby home. How will I keep the baby alive? Will I ever sleep again? Will I be a terrible mother? I didn't any sleep last night because literally all of the negative thoughts were filling my brain.

mrosek91 · May 2019

@AKuzReve Good luck with that open letter. Just a warning, the likihood of that ending after baby is here is slim. You have a few months relief before they can move on their own, and then you become their jungle gym. Stomach, ribs, face, it's all fair game for what they will use to climb on. The only difference is it will be coming from the outside.

@sw1122 what you are feeling is totally normal. This is my third, and I'm still terrified by all the possibilities of what could I do wrong. I feel like in some ways the moms who are worried are better off than the ones who think that they've read everything and can handle anything. Being a mother is constant learning experience. If the thoughts get too intrusive though you may want to talk to someone about it.

thirdtimesacharm2019 · May 2019

@sw1122 First, your fears are completely valid, I’m not trying to undermine them, but hopefully bring you some peace.

- I cannot provide any insight on vaginal delivery (I’m sure someone else here can), but if you have to have a c-section it’s not the worst thing that can happen.
- You will keep the baby alive. I was 20 when I had my oldest son. I had no training or classes, but here we are 13 years later and he’s living - and so am I. Feed ‘em, change ‘em, love ‘em, repeat.
- You will sleep again, but it may be a while before it’s regular and restful. Depending on your particular child it may be a looooonngg while, but you will make it through.
- You will not be a terrible mother, but at times you will feel like you have failed (like with my 13 year old yesterday)... but so many more times than that you will be on top of the world with feelings of happiness and pride because you made this little person and they are truly amazing (and you kept them alive)!

I’m not going to act like I don’t have my own anxieties going into my third child, but that’s just how my over thinking brain works!

mkrel · May 2019

@sw1122 Your thoughts are so normal. I also agree with @thirdtimesacharm2019 that if you can't manage or turn off the intrusive thoughts, you may want to speak with someone.
I am getting just as nervous about bringing home this second baby as I was my first. It is hard, but you will adjust and manage just fine. I literally had no idea what I was doing, I just did what worked in that moment. There is no right/wrong way to take care of your newborn as long as it is safe. People said not to nurse baby to sleep, well you know what, that was the ONLY way my baby slept so I did it. You just survive. Prepare as much as you can, but I think going in knowing that it will be challenging is an advantage. I had a lot of concerns and anxiety about becoming a mom and my husband was just excited and thought "oh people just like to complain, it can't be that hard." Well he was the one in for the rude awakening where as I actually adjusted much more easily because I was already expecting it to be hard if that makes sense.

goldfishcraker · May 2019

I love how supportive this community is ❤️
What a great bunch of ladies you are!!

MamaK225 · May 2019

@mkrel - I swear DH was the same way with DD1 and I was all *eye roll* until it came time and he was like "this is so hard!"

I agree with everyone @sw1122 - it will all work out in the end. L&D is really only a minuscule moment in the parenting experience, though it is definitely daunting as a FTM. One of the most amazing life lessons being a parent teaches you: you can plan and plan and plan, but things will unfold as they will. Do all the research you feel comfortable doing, formulate your plans, but know that they will change - but you will be very prepared to adjust as needed, having that arsenal of info available to you. Best of luck

(And as @thirdtimesacharm2019 said, c-sections aren't all bad; it is a major surgery, but I would argue having a bowling ball fall out of your loins is the same thing, sans scalpel ... you will make the best decision for you and the baby when the time arrives and you have better information)

aecm · May 2019

@AKuzReve I definitely can commiserate. Baby B has an anterior placenta, so I don’t feel his little movements, but I swear there were a few days there when he must have had his whole butt under my rib cage. I was not impressed!

wabash15 · May 2019

@cato99 I am so with you. I am absoultely not ready to be in the third tri, I need more time!!!
@mamak225 your countdown makes me want to vomit a little.... not ready!
@sw1122 @thirdtimesacharm2019 covered most of it. No new parent knows what they are doing and every kid is different. You will find you way and find what works for you. eventually you will sleep again. all you have to do to be a good parent is show up and love your kid. We all have shit parenting moments and amazing ones, that is part of the journey. All your kid wants is for you to be there and love them, everything else will sort it self out. Its OK to be scared of the changes ahead, we have all had those moments. You can and will do this!

wanderlustsoul · May 2019

@aecm, ahhh. He flipped head down a few days ago so his leg is by my ribs and he never stops moving.

@mrosek91, I’m cool with that. It’s the lodging under my ribs that particularly hurts haha.

zamoraspin · May 2019

Has anyone felt hiccups yet? I think I felt them for the first time last night while I was lying in bed. It was movement that was very rhythmical. I wasn't timing it but it went on for at least a minute or two, then I moved a bit and didn't feel it as much.

sw1122 · May 2019

@wabash15 @MamaK225 @mkrel @thirdtimesacharm2019 @mrosek91 - Thanks so much for reassuring me. I've always been a control freak and an over planner, so the idea of parenthood and not being able to plan for and/or control everything is overwhelming. I know that my husband will be super supportive, but not knowing what to expect scares me! Thanks again everyone for being so supportive and reassuring!

BigBadWolf12 · May 2019

@zamora_spin yes to hiccups!

wanderlustsoul · May 2019

@zamora_spin, I felt it yesterday for the 1st time! So weird.

wanderlustsoul · May 2019

Also, I have somehow managed to get my TSH from 2.9 to 1.8. I’m so happy. This means I don’t have to do another blood test to check it for 6 weeks! My arm and veins get a break.

Avrilmai · May 2019

@zamora_spin I haven't felt it yet, but I was told to expect it closer to 28 weeks. It does sound like a cool/interesting thing to experience.

@sw1122 FTM here too and I think a lot of those fears are so, so common. Good for you for actually sharing it. I just wanted to chime in and echo others that have said that if the anxiety is overwhelming or the thoughts are really intrusive it would be great to find someone (a professional) to talk to. So much of what people call postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety actually starts in pregnancy.

agpandme · May 2019

On the contrary @chillycanadian They named him Archie. Archer was the top name pick from my husband but I didn't like it because of the nn Archie. Now I have more leverage because of this new royal name. Archie will likely be very popular and I'll be damned if my kid has that name

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