Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: QUESTION Thread
We're pet sitting my brother's dog for a few days at my house. We've watched her before before I was pregnant and she did her own thing, but time she is constantly at my side, setting her head in my lap, or follows me around the house.
my dog doesn’t show any signs that she knows, but she stayed with my parents when I had dd, and when they brought her home to visit, she ran over to me, then ran smelling the entire house, clearly looking for her, showing she knew there was going to be a baby.
I was wondering the same thing, and I'm pretty sure they do! I've noticed my dog has been less jumpy with me lately, and he's also been SUPER protective--even putting himself between me and my husband a few times (we're working on that). There was even one time where I took an hour and a half long nap, and he sat on the ground next to the couch where I was sleeping, full guard mode, only moving to do a "perimeter patrol," as my husband described it. Dogs are amazing.
CP 3/2019
i had at ultrasound at 7w2d and my doctor said to come back in 4 weeks and said to not do any earlier than that since he didn’t want us to have to deal with the possibility of not hearing the heartbeat.
But my friends and partner keep asking me if I “feel different” in my body...and the answer is no! I’m a FTM so maybe part of it is that I just have no idea what I’m in for 😬...but for the most part I’m just going about my days, dealing with my first trimester symptoms, and occasionally like reading an online review for breastfeeding pillows. I don’t feel really feel different. 🤷♀️
Anyone else feeling this way?
BFP February 2016 Baby Girl born 11/2016
BFP 8/16/2018 EDD 4/29/2019 MMC 10/3/2018
BFP 12/16/2018 EDD 08/26/2019 MC/CP 12/20/2018
BFP 03/28/2019 EDD 12/07/2019 Hoping for our rainbow
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
Theres birthing centers in the US that still don’t do any u/s.
Here is why I have a problem with doctors and midwives who want you to wait until then. The specialist knew my history with PCOS and that I was a high risk for miscarriage so she put me on progesterone right away. My blood work showed I developed hypothyroidism right away with this pregnancy so they put my on a thyroid pill. If your thyroid is underactive you can also miscarry. This was all done around 5 weeks pregnant.
The specialist then recommended me to a OB practice down the hall from them. They are great and got me in for my first visit at 7 weeks. They found out the prenatal vitamin I was taking didn't have enough iron and prescribed me one. The blood work showed high sugar levels and I had to do a 2 hour test. Thankfully I dont have gestational diabetes (yet) but I'm glad they checked.
If I had just waited for my midwife apt at 10 weeks, I could have already miscarried my baby. A 10 week first check up is "fine" for a normal pregnancy. But how do they know your pregnancy is normal if they wait that long before running any tests?
I wasn’t sure if what we used was safe for pregnancy, but I think so. So, thanks for asking! Ours seems to be (we use neutrogena free and pure)
I haven’t been pregnant in so long and I forgot all the stuff that can be an issue (like face wash). I think I need to suck it up and read a book.