Our water heater is leaking. DH thinks the tank might be cracked...which would mean we need an entirely new water heater (and this one is only 4yrs old). So I’m stuck at home waiting on a plumber and crossing my fingers that DH is wrong and this is actually some super cheap and easy repair.
We got 6 inches of snow yesterday/ last night...in the middle of April. Also my car was parked in the driveway because DH has not cleaned out the garage lately, so I had to brush several inches of snow plus a layer of ice off my car this morning in addition to bundling the kids up like it is January.
11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS
10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks 1/12/13 DD was born 4/9/16 DS was born 9/17 CP 6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
DH is away on a business trip. I'm exhausted already and he just left this morning before I had to get the kids up and out of the house. I was almost on time to work, but ugh its going to be a long week.
1. Week two of the roofing saga. I’m so over it. Even my boss was complaining about the noise and he’s a real optimistic/ never complains type person.
2. My birthday is coming up really soon. Last year we were at DHs grandpas funeral, so understandably it was not about me... but this year I was hoping DH and my dad could at least coordinate a dinner (they are close and talk all the time). But no. I had to make all the plans including picking out my own present, sending DH a picture, and walking DS2 to that department of the store to ensure he can help dad find it. Then we had my birthday celebration at work this morning, not on my birthday, but on a day that worked better for the department we share a suite with - and only one of them even came! Then it got cut short for a meeting... I usually am not that into my birthday, I guess I just need some attention lately.
3. My uncle’s funeral is Wednesday. I’m going to show support for the family, but I’m not sad. And I feel guilty because I’m not sad. My mom hated her brother and would tell me how mean he was to her as a child (tripped her with a jump rope breaking her ankle, ripped the heads off her dolls, etc). So my aunt, their younger sister puts this heartfelt tribute on Facebook about how great of a brother he was and I’m like are we even talking about person?!?
Is it possible to have PMS while you are pregnant? Because there are plenty of really good things going on in my life, where I shouldn’t be this pissy.
@thirdtimesacharm2019 I'm sorry to hear about your birthday! DH never makes a big deal about birthdays and it secretly bums me out. My birthday was last Thursday and DH got hit with a nasty stomach bug Wednesday night. I spent Thursday volunteering at DDs school and then doing 100% of the parenting. He said he would make it up to me but I know it won't happen. Also, DS' birthday is 2 days before mine so that always gets the main focus now.
11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS
10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks 1/12/13 DD was born 4/9/16 DS was born 9/17 CP 6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
@thirdtimesacharm2019 - I'm sorry about your birthday! My birthday was last month and he cooked a nice dinner, but didn't get me anything, which is fine. But a card and maybe flowers would have been nice. I'm also in a terrible mood today, like worse than PMS rage!
The measles outbreak in Brooklyn, NY has me so freaked out. My friend's MIL showed up at her house (friend is 30 wks pregnant and has an 18 month old), with a rash that could be measles, therefore putting the entire family at risk, including the 18 mo old that isn't fully immunized. She's quarantined, but apparently is getting cabin fever and has decided that she's removing herself from quarantine. What is wrong with people? Really puts me in a MOOD
@sw1122 What?!? Leaving quarantine should be a jailable offense (if it’s not already!!) The lady that cleans my floor at work was talking about this the other day and although we are way far away from NY it’s still really scary. I would be horrified if I had smal children right now. It’s going to be hard once this baby comes because I am not a home body, but the older I get the more I’m scared to expose a newborn to the outside world!
Some of my maternity work pants are getting too tight to be comfortable. Since this is the last kid, I'm extremely annoyed by this. I plan to work until 7/31 and that is not sounding good right now!
@thirdtimesacharm2019 - I don't think an individual can be involuntarily quarantined. NYC just mandated vaccines in parts of Brooklyn (although people are pushing back stating that these mandates are unconstitutional), but Rockland County (north of the city that is also impacted by an outbreak) halted the emergency order. I also live north of the city, but luckily on the other side of the Hudson River as Rockland, but I work in Brooklyn. I'm fully immunized, but it still makes me very nervous. I just cannot believe my friend's MIL and the potential risk she poses on the entire family - this is insane to me.
I'm ragey that the husband just texted me about a work thing he has to do Friday night. Good Friday. Now we are not religious but I have off and our toddler does not have daycare. So not only will I be home all day with a tantruming child, I will be home alone until after bed time most likely. I'm so sick of this happening. I'm already pissed that it's a Friday - like wtf its the weekend schedule whatever bs meetings you have either during the day or during the week don't f up our weekends. UGH.
Me 32 H 33 TTC#1 January 2016 BFP 5/16/2016 DD Born 1/27/17
Took off work Friday and today for my mini vacation which is probably our last one before baby is here. Got called at 530 in the morning Saturday about work and got a call yesterday and today for work. And my dumbass coworker had the nerve to ask if I was coming in today since they’re clearly having problems in my absence. Ummm no I’m not even in town yet. Ugh so annoyed and def not wanting to deal with it all tomorrow.
@sw1122 wow that makes me so ragey for your friend. We just went through a measles scare with my 15 month old (hospital quarantine, the works) it was really scary. I can't even imagine thinking about putting someone else at risk. @thirdtimesacharm2019 sorry your birthday is on the back burner. I think we all need a little celebration of us in our life.
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TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Update: our water heater needs to be replaced. Thankfully the heater itself, which apparently would have been $3k to replace, is under warranty, but labor isn’t covered so we’re still stuck with a $1400+ bill. It sucks.
Right after the plumber left, my MIL sent out an email about Easter, including the menu. She’s ordering a bunch of food, and I already told her I was really going to struggle finding something appealing to eat from the place she was thinking of ordering and also requested that she please avoid getting the chicken breasts she was talking about because I’ve really been struggling with the sight and smell of chicken this pregnancy (unless it’s breaded, which I know is super weird). Top of the menu: one dozen grilled chicken breasts. That was followed by about 4 other pretty unappetizing options. Not pregnant, I would suck it up and deal...and I was already planning on bringing separate food for us to eat, but as things stand right now I’m probably going to spend Easter in the bathroom heaving from the smells of everyone else’s food. If we don’t go, it’s going to create this huge family drama, so I really just can’t win.
All this, plus pregnancy hormones...there have definitely been some tears today.
Still made from Saturday evening, so I’ll b*tch about it today. I made a reservation for 6 at a restaurant for Saturday evening at 8pm. You couldn’t do a reservation for a party of 6 or more online, so I called last Monday and spoke to someone who took my name and number for the reservation. Show up at the appointed time and no record of it. Apparently the person was supposed to also have taken a credit card number. It’s a small restaurant so of course no room to fit us in. MH and I complained to the manager and I was sure to say that I called Monday at 4:30 so he should speak to who was working them. To his credit, he gave us a $100 gift card for our trouble and called nearby places to see if anyone had any openings. An Italian place I had just been to the week before was the only option in walking distance. The food was just okay, never would’ve selected it. So frustrating and annoying, especially since my friend in town had been looking forward to trying the original restaurant
I just decided I would like to vent. Totally random and unrelated to all things baby. And I feel bad venting about something so silly and petty, when you all seem to have legit difficulties and problems that you're facing. But I'm gonna vent anyway. Even though it pales in comparison to everything else on theis thread!
I apologize for the excessive length of this rant.
TLDR: annoying ex boyfriend keeps messaging me, and bugging me at work, but I hesitate to block him on FB because he's probably a suicide risk.
I have this ex Boyfriend. Like ..really ex. Broke up 8 years ago. Only dated like...a year. My shortest relationship. He was a liar (literally lied about everything. Compulsively. For example, you could ask him what he had for dinner and he would immediately say "hot dogs!" When really he ate pizza. He also lied about major important things, like you know...getting tested for STDs). He was lazy. No ambitions in life. (He literally could have had free University, AND be paid monthly to attend, but he was too lazy to actually go to class or try.) Horrendously irresponsible with finances. He was an alcoholic. He was filthy (I realized he didn't do his laundry ONCE in the year we were dating....) He snooped through my phone, and would accuse me of planning to cheat with every male friend who had texted me. Anyway, the last straw was finding out he was doing drugs and lying about it. I answered his call in the middle of the night, drove across the city and stopped him from jumping off a building during the bad trip. Took care of him, and the relationship officially ended the next day. Despite his protests.
Anyway, my vent is that he just...won't leave me the fuck alone. Like...dude. move ON! He messages me randomly on FB, even though I have told him several dozen times that I NEVER check it since I can't on mobile. Then he gets mad that I'm "Ignoring him". Dude...I don't owe you ANYTHING! YOU lied to ME about EVERYTHING. I AM HAPPILY MARRIED! We have been broken up for 8 years! After a shitty and short, regrettible excuse for a relationship! I mean, blocking him on FB would be easy enough. But it won't stop him from stalking me when I'm at work. He works security at one of the hospitals. He most definitely watches for me on the security cameras, because he always just "happens" to be doing rounds when I show up. He will try to stop and talk. He will grab my shoulders as he walks behind me while I'm attending to a patient. He tries to catch me alone in the ambulance bay. I've tried to nicely give him the hint to fuck off. I'm professional during any interactions, but I never engage past a Curt "hi" or awkward *why are you talking to me? Nod*. And even several times just (very maturely lol) just pretended I didn't notice him. I've ignored the last... 3 years of FB messages. I ignore all FB comments he makes.
Part of me worries he's going to kill himself, and then I'm going to feel guilty for not giving a shit about him. We are not friends. I have no desire to be friends with someone so fucked up, who obviously has such little respect for me that he can lie about everything. I know it's not my problem if he commits suicide. But I worry he will, and haven't blocked him on FB yet because of it.
Anyway...it's just an annoyance. I roll my eyes Everytime I get a notification that he messaged me on FB. And I definately make the WTF?! Face every time. I don't get it. Fuck, dude....get a life!
@chillycanadian all I can say is WOW. Is it something you can report? I would not feel comfortable going into work when he is so obviously watching my every move, especially pregnant. Gives me the heebeejeebees just reading all that. 8 years is a long time to still be doing this kind of stuff. What does your husband think of it? I mean he obviously probably can tell or soon will tell that you're pregnant I wonder if this weirdo would have thoughts on that. GAH.
edited bc I annoyed my self with the you're vs your.
Me 32 H 33 TTC#1 January 2016 BFP 5/16/2016 DD Born 1/27/17
@chillycanadian I would report it... either to your bosses/the hosptial/the police. its not healthy for you or him and you need to think of you and the baby first, and maybe having this brought to light will get him some help. @aecm I could not be in the room with chicken last pregnancy without having to vomit. if your MIL can't understand that and did not take it into consideration when you told her it would be problematic for you then I would not feel bad about not going. don't put yourself in a spot to make yourself sick. you are growing 2 babies and that is hard enough
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TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@aecm - I'm sorry!!! We had to replace ours late last year - we came home from Thanksgiving to a FREEZING cold house, only to discover the heater and busted, leaked water everywhere in our basement, and blew the furnace. It was a $9,000 endeavor when it was all said and done. The joys of home ownership.
@moon1417 and @wabash15 thank you ladies! Right now, I don't have to worry about seeing him, as I've been off work most of this pregnancy. And I won't be going back to the streets until after mat leave (so unlikely I'll be at the hospital until September 2020). Though we do have 2 OB hospitals, and I picked the one he does not work at. I don't need him showing up while I'm in labour. I don't think there's anything malicious there. I think he is a lonely, friendless person. But the "hope you're doing well" and "I'm so proud of you" messages are ..irritating. and creepy. (Not to mention the message he sent a few months ago, linking to an article that his brother was in jail for gang murder. )
But I think you're right, and I'll have to actively do something. Ignoring the problem doesn't seem to be working for me...
@chillycanadian REPORT for a suicide risk AND BLOCK HIM. That is not your responsibility to make sure he doesn't do something stupid and its not in your best interest to continue to let him harass you. Reporting him on FB will obligate the local LEO to do a welfare check. I would also report him for stalking you at the hospital. That is honestly SO creepy and dangerous. Mental illness is very real. Who knows what kind of stunt he might pull if his mind makes him jealous of your new baby. I don't even want to think about the possibilities.
@aecm I feel your pain on the water heater! Ours quit early in the year prompting a lot of diagnostics on our end. I ended up claiming it on the warranty and we were given free parts and reimbursed for the tech work. We used my horse trailer living quarters shower for over 2 weeks. I'm so glad it was fixed.
Update #3: Water heater has been replaced! The bill still sucks, but at least the leak didn’t cause damage and we weren’t without hot water for very long.
I also think I’ve figured out my Easter food dilemma. I’m going to bring my own food to eat for sure...playing the pregnancy card there, so hopefully it’s not an issue. Thankfully the weather is supposed to be gorgeous, and I checked with DH’s cousin and asked if it were possible for me to eat outside to stay away from the smells. She confirmed that wouldn’t be a problem and thought it was a completely reasonable work-around (unlike DH, who is accusing me of being difficult, lol). So as long as no one comes out and sits with me while they eat their (gag) chicken or (extra gag) pot roast...I should be ok. 🤞🏻
@chillycanadian Your ex sounds like a real gem. Glad you won’t have to see him for a while, but eventually I think you’re probably going to have to tell him you want to be left alone, then taking action if he doesn’t respect that. He sounds pretty creepy. 😬 (PS - I think you have a very legit b*fest there - way better than “my MIL is bringing chicken to Easter” 🤣)
@agpandme I didnt even know you could report that on FB! Thank you!
@aecm I'm glad the heater got taken care of. It's unfair how expensive those things are. And how much damage they can cause if they burst. Bah. And haha thanks. I legit didn't think much of it...was just annoyed. But you guys have all pointed out that it could actually be a bad situation, and I do need to do something about it. So thank you all! I AM feeling pretty confrontational right now... Maybe I should reply to him, and be like .. "dude. What the fuck? We aren't friends. We aren't going to be friends... Back off!" ha. That's SO NOT like me 😂. And probably is not the best way to handle it. Pissing someone off is never the safest option. But it sure felt good to type it out! Haha
@chillycanadian - SO SORRY you even have to deal with this. I know it's repetitive, but this just isn't shit that men have to deal with ... and like you said, the exhaustion from ignoring and feigning niceties is just EXHAUSTING. I hope something positive happens soon and this is resolved. Best of luck.
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
@aecm So sorry you are still dealing with food aversions this far into second tri 😒. And even more sorry your MIL is being an A-hole, but at least the food aversions should go away after you deliver (no such luck on MIL!). We had a rocky period with the last baby regarding some of the in-laws behavior and I finally had to tell DH to grow a pair and stand up to them (SIL/MIL)... and when he finally did it was amazing!!!
@chillycanadian May I ask what leads you to believe that he is a suicide risk? When you were together, did he threaten it?
People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.
How I feel all of the time. My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI Back on Levothyroxine FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt, 1st Beta on 7dpt 93 2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule. Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017 New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
@suzycupcake he often talked about how life wasn't worth living, and that he has been "through too much to ever get past it". He used to make jokes about suicide. But often jokes aren't jokes. That being said, our relationship ended 8 years ago. You would think if he were going to attempt something, he would have by now.... (Not saying it's me he would do it over. He's just always been pretty messed up in general).
You said earlier that you drove across the city and stopped him from jumping off a building. Were you being literal?
A lot of red flags go up for me reading your list of his behaviors. Do you think he could be a personality disorder, like the Sociopathic variety? Someone asked you earlier what your husband thinks of it. I'm curious about that too.
People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.
How I feel all of the time. My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI Back on Levothyroxine FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt, 1st Beta on 7dpt 93 2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule. Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017 New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
@suzycupcake yea I was being literal. He was high, and having a bad trip. Hallucinating. Thought his keys were trying to kill him (so he threw them into the forest). And was going on about how he needed to climb up the side of the building and jump off, to prove that he could fly. Because I never believed in him, and didn't believe he could actually fly...
I don't know whether or not he has any personality disorders. He never admitted to any diagnosis while we were together. then again, he was a compulsive liar. I started catching him in lies maybe 6 months in. Kept trying to give him the chance to come clean. But he always just dug it deeper.
I missed someone asking about my husband's thoughts earlier. Sorry!
We've never really discussed former relationships (at DHs request. Which was a first for me in a relationship actually.) However, I do plan to ask how he thinks we should deal with this guy. (I haven't really seen DH since the message from the ex. DH is working nights so he slept all day and then headed back to work.) But I'll be talking to him about it when he wakes up after his shift. DH is generally very calm and level headed. But after chatting with you ladies, I imagine he will see it the same way, and escalate things. For my safety and baby's.
I have never gotten a "danger" vibe from this ex. Just a..sad, pathetic and lonely. But I also basically haven't interacted with him for 8 years, and people change. And it's not worth the risk, just to try to be "nice" to him.
Sorry to make you go through all of that and something so personal. Thanks for sharing. Maybe he is just sad and lonely like you said. It seems the biggest importance is that he is making you feel extremely uncomfortable. Being afraid to set boundaries sounds like it's more than thinking he might harm himself because of it. Is it possible you're just afraid to set boundaries with people in general? Are you an assertive person? Chances are, his behavior has caused other people to set boundaries with him and he is still alive so it cannot be that you have the power to make him do something like that. See what I mean?
Anyway, sorry you're dealing with this. I hope that you'll be able to find a way to get it resolved. Sometimes reaching out to those who love and care about you, and sharing it with them, can make all of the difference in the world in coming up with a workable solution, since they know you and are around you regularly.
People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.
How I feel all of the time. My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI Back on Levothyroxine FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt, 1st Beta on 7dpt 93 2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule. Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017 New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
@chillycanadian, as someone who has dealt with mental health issues, it’s not your job to protect him. He is being over the top and that behaviour is unacceptable and inappropriate. I would absolutely report him to the hospital and tell your H. I hope you can get this resolved.
I have a rant and maybe I’m a bad friend but I don’t care.
My friend is driving me crazy. She originally wanted to visit in November and I said yes. Then she decided she wants to come in June. Ok, sure, whatever. I’m super busy but that’s your choice. Then she asked to stay in my house for 2 weeks. There are very few people I want staying here for more than 5 days as it’s a 1 bathroom apartment. The only ones who have are our parents who also cook, clean, and buy groceries. She will not be doing any of that. Plus, I will be 7-8 months pregnant, working full time, finishing up school and exams, and completing my thesis that must be done by end of July. I said no that it couldn’t work and explained why. She said ok and we agreed on 4 days in June for a time that works.
She then turned around again and asked if she could stay with us June 1-6 and again 14-17. Nooooooo. You can’t! Our 2nd room is our baby room where we are storing everything until he comes. Every time someone comes, we have to move everything out. It is also my study room and I have to move our desk out and everything too. I also have little to no desire to wash those sheets 2 times for you to stay 2 separate times. And I’ve already said I have exams until June 5 and I don’t want guests while I’m trying to finish up my semester. I don’t want to entertain anyone for that long then and I want to just go to work, come home, and work on my thesis. It’s also going to be so hot and we have no a/c.
Stop asking me if it’s ok. I’m not going to change my mind. I love her but no.
@moon1417, same. Saying no is hard, especially for my best friends and family. But I know I’ll regret It. I’ve had 1 person here during exam time and he was fine because he went off in the day and didn’t bother me at all. He’s basically like a brother to me. I’d feel more obligated to entertain her. And I love her but she complains a lot (my family doesn’t actually like her because of how much she complained on the day of my wedding) so I just don’t want to have to deal with it on top of everything else.
@AKuzReve - Ugh, this sounds awful, I'm sorry you're dealing with it. Hopefully, she'll be a bit easier of a guest than it sounds like you've prepared for her to be. I know you've done things in the past, but I wouldn't move anything out of that room and force her to adapt, given the timing of it all. You're being absolutely gracious by letting her stay during a very inconvenient time and she should be beyond-thankful, and make her presence minimal (except for the times you have worked out spending together). I'm sure there is plenty there for her to entertain herself. While it is definitely annoying, it may be better having her there *before* the baby arrives because at least you'll be (somewhat) well-rested and (somewhat) less hormonal. Best of luck!!
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
My mom sent me a gift card to Motherhood/Destination Maternity/A Pea in the Pod for my birthday this week (that's not the MBF - I'm super thankful). I ran over to the Destination Maternity by my office at lunch and the tops that were fitting were two sizes larger than my pre-pregnancy size and made me feel horrible. Normally I'm against doing vanity sizing, but if I'd ever wish for it, it's while pregnant.
@oklahomak - YES! Maternity and wedding. I was speaking with a co-worker about how ridiculous sizing is. I'm normally 5'7" and 175 (size 10/12 depending on pants); in maternity I'm XL and XXL. Are you telling me that NO women get my size when they're preggo (TBH, I'm only 169 at 23 weeks and expect to deliver just under 200)?! My co-worker was shocked because she loves to point out how she wishes she could fit into my cute "small" clothes (she's about 6'0" and 15-20 lbs heaver) and I'm like ... "they're not small, the industry is telling me that I'm disproportionately large for my height [cue eyeroll]." So frustrating. I hope that you were able to find something cute
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
@MamaK225 I've also noticed that while maternity clothes leave room for our bellies, they sure as heck don't seem to account for our growing boobs. It's all a crock of crap, as my grandmother would say.
@oklahomak - I won't even START on boobs. I'm already up to an H cup (not far from an I) and we're not even in the 3rd trimester yet. I've always had a larger chest and ESPECIALLY in maternity clothes, it makes me look like a clown (because I can only find overly baggy things) or a hooker. Total crock of crap. Maternity/nursing bras are ridiculous, too. Thankfully, I've found my favorites and can find things that work for me ... but it was hard.
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
Re: Monday B*fest, 4/15
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
2. My birthday is coming up really soon. Last year we were at DHs grandpas funeral, so understandably it was not about me... but this year I was hoping DH and my dad could at least coordinate a dinner (they are close and talk all the time). But no. I had to make all the plans including picking out my own present, sending DH a picture, and walking DS2 to that department of the store to ensure he can help dad find it. Then we had my birthday celebration at work this morning, not on my birthday, but on a day that worked better for the department we share a suite with - and only one of them even came! Then it got cut short for a meeting... I usually am not that into my birthday, I guess I just need some attention lately.
3. My uncle’s funeral is Wednesday. I’m going to show support for the family, but I’m not sad. And I feel guilty because I’m not sad. My mom hated her brother and would tell me how mean he was to her as a child (tripped her with a jump rope breaking her ankle, ripped the heads off her dolls, etc). So my aunt, their younger sister puts this heartfelt tribute on Facebook about how great of a brother he was and I’m like are we even talking about person?!?
Is it possible to have PMS while you are pregnant? Because there are plenty of really good things going on in my life, where I shouldn’t be this pissy.
@Allycat11 I’m just glad it’s not snowing!!!
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
The measles outbreak in Brooklyn, NY has me so freaked out. My friend's MIL showed up at her house (friend is 30 wks pregnant and has an 18 month old), with a rash that could be measles, therefore putting the entire family at risk, including the 18 mo old that isn't fully immunized. She's quarantined, but apparently is getting cabin fever and has decided that she's removing herself from quarantine. What is wrong with people? Really puts me in a MOOD
Me 32
H 33
TTC#1 January 2016 BFP 5/16/2016 DD Born 1/27/17
TFAS: BFP 11/26/2018 Estimated due date: 8/2/2019
@thirdtimesacharm2019 sorry your birthday is on the back burner. I think we all need a little celebration of us in our life.
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Right after the plumber left, my MIL sent out an email about Easter, including the menu. She’s ordering a bunch of food, and I already told her I was really going to struggle finding something appealing to eat from the place she was thinking of ordering and also requested that she please avoid getting the chicken breasts she was talking about because I’ve really been struggling with the sight and smell of chicken this pregnancy (unless it’s breaded, which I know is super weird). Top of the menu: one dozen grilled chicken breasts. That was followed by about 4 other pretty unappetizing options. Not pregnant, I would suck it up and deal...and I was already planning on bringing separate food for us to eat, but as things stand right now I’m probably going to spend Easter in the bathroom heaving from the smells of everyone else’s food. If we don’t go, it’s going to create this huge family drama, so I really just can’t win.
All this, plus pregnancy hormones...there have definitely been some tears today.
But I'm gonna vent anyway. Even though it pales in comparison to everything else on theis thread!
I apologize for the excessive length of this rant.
TLDR: annoying ex boyfriend keeps messaging me, and bugging me at work, but I hesitate to block him on FB because he's probably a suicide risk.
I have this ex Boyfriend. Like ..really ex. Broke up 8 years ago. Only dated like...a year. My shortest relationship.
He was a liar (literally lied about everything. Compulsively. For example, you could ask him what he had for dinner and he would immediately say "hot dogs!" When really he ate pizza. He also lied about major important things, like you know...getting tested for STDs).
He was lazy.
No ambitions in life. (He literally could have had free University, AND be paid monthly to attend, but he was too lazy to actually go to class or try.)
Horrendously irresponsible with finances.
He was an alcoholic.
He was filthy (I realized he didn't do his laundry ONCE in the year we were dating....)
He snooped through my phone, and would accuse me of planning to cheat with every male friend who had texted me.
Anyway, the last straw was finding out he was doing drugs and lying about it. I answered his call in the middle of the night, drove across the city and stopped him from jumping off a building during the bad trip. Took care of him, and the relationship officially ended the next day. Despite his protests.
Anyway, my vent is that he just...won't leave me the fuck alone. Like...dude. move ON! He messages me randomly on FB, even though I have told him several dozen times that I NEVER check it since I can't on mobile. Then he gets mad that I'm "Ignoring him". Dude...I don't owe you ANYTHING! YOU lied to ME about EVERYTHING. I AM HAPPILY MARRIED! We have been broken up for 8 years! After a shitty and short, regrettible excuse for a relationship!
I mean, blocking him on FB would be easy enough. But it won't stop him from stalking me when I'm at work. He works security at one of the hospitals. He most definitely watches for me on the security cameras, because he always just "happens" to be doing rounds when I show up. He will try to stop and talk. He will grab my shoulders as he walks behind me while I'm attending to a patient. He tries to catch me alone in the ambulance bay.
I've tried to nicely give him the hint to fuck off. I'm professional during any interactions, but I never engage past a Curt "hi" or awkward *why are you talking to me? Nod*. And even several times just (very maturely lol) just pretended I didn't notice him. I've ignored the last... 3 years of FB messages. I ignore all FB comments he makes.
Part of me worries he's going to kill himself, and then I'm going to feel guilty for not giving a shit about him.
We are not friends. I have no desire to be friends with someone so fucked up, who obviously has such little respect for me that he can lie about everything. I know it's not my problem if he commits suicide. But I worry he will, and haven't blocked him on FB yet because of it.
Anyway...it's just an annoyance. I roll my eyes Everytime I get a notification that he messaged me on FB. And I definately make the WTF?! Face every time. I don't get it. Fuck, dude....get a life!
*End rant* lol
edited bc I annoyed my self with the you're vs your.
Me 32
H 33
TTC#1 January 2016 BFP 5/16/2016 DD Born 1/27/17
TFAS: BFP 11/26/2018 Estimated due date: 8/2/2019
@aecm I could not be in the room with chicken last pregnancy without having to vomit. if your MIL can't understand that and did not take it into consideration when you told her it would be problematic for you then I would not feel bad about not going. don't put yourself in a spot to make yourself sick. you are growing 2 babies and that is hard enough
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Right now, I don't have to worry about seeing him, as I've been off work most of this pregnancy. And I won't be going back to the streets until after mat leave (so unlikely I'll be at the hospital until September 2020). Though we do have 2 OB hospitals, and I picked the one he does not work at. I don't need him showing up while I'm in labour.
I don't think there's anything malicious there. I think he is a lonely, friendless person. But the "hope you're doing well" and "I'm so proud of you" messages are ..irritating. and creepy. (Not to mention the message he sent a few months ago, linking to an article that his brother was in jail for gang murder. )
But I think you're right, and I'll have to actively do something. Ignoring the problem doesn't seem to be working for me...
Water heater has been replaced! The bill still sucks, but at least the leak didn’t cause damage and we weren’t without hot water for very long.
I also think I’ve figured out my Easter food dilemma. I’m going to bring my own food to eat for sure...playing the pregnancy card there, so hopefully it’s not an issue. Thankfully the weather is supposed to be gorgeous, and I checked with DH’s cousin and asked if it were possible for me to eat outside to stay away from the smells. She confirmed that wouldn’t be a problem and thought it was a completely reasonable work-around (unlike DH, who is accusing me of being difficult, lol). So as long as no one comes out and sits with me while they eat their (gag) chicken or (extra gag) pot roast...I should be ok. 🤞🏻
@chillycanadian Your ex sounds like a real gem. Glad you won’t have to see him for a while, but eventually I think you’re probably going to have to tell him you want to be left alone, then taking action if he doesn’t respect that. He sounds pretty creepy. 😬 (PS - I think you have a very legit b*fest there - way better than “my MIL is bringing chicken to Easter” 🤣)
@aecm I'm glad the heater got taken care of. It's unfair how expensive those things are. And how much damage they can cause if they burst. Bah.
And haha thanks. I legit didn't think much of it...was just annoyed. But you guys have all pointed out that it could actually be a bad situation, and I do need to do something about it. So thank you all!
I AM feeling pretty confrontational right now... Maybe I should reply to him, and be like .. "dude. What the fuck? We aren't friends. We aren't going to be friends... Back off!"
ha. That's SO NOT like me 😂. And probably is not the best way to handle it. Pissing someone off is never the safest option.
But it sure felt good to type it out! Haha
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
He used to make jokes about suicide. But often jokes aren't jokes.
That being said, our relationship ended 8 years ago. You would think if he were going to attempt something, he would have by now....
(Not saying it's me he would do it over. He's just always been pretty messed up in general).
A lot of red flags go up for me reading your list of his behaviors. Do you think he could be a personality disorder, like the Sociopathic variety? Someone asked you earlier what your husband thinks of it. I'm curious about that too.
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
I don't know whether or not he has any personality disorders. He never admitted to any diagnosis while we were together. then again, he was a compulsive liar. I started catching him in lies maybe 6 months in. Kept trying to give him the chance to come clean. But he always just dug it deeper.
I missed someone asking about my husband's thoughts earlier. Sorry!
We've never really discussed former relationships (at DHs request. Which was a first for me in a relationship actually.) However, I do plan to ask how he thinks we should deal with this guy. (I haven't really seen DH since the message from the ex. DH is working nights so he slept all day and then headed back to work.) But I'll be talking to him about it when he wakes up after his shift.
DH is generally very calm and level headed. But after chatting with you ladies, I imagine he will see it the same way, and escalate things. For my safety and baby's.
I have never gotten a "danger" vibe from this ex. Just a..sad, pathetic and lonely. But I also basically haven't interacted with him for 8 years, and people change. And it's not worth the risk, just to try to be "nice" to him.
Anyway, sorry you're dealing with this. I hope that you'll be able to find a way to get it resolved. Sometimes reaching out to those who love and care about you, and sharing it with them, can make all of the difference in the world in coming up with a workable solution, since they know you and are around you regularly.
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
I have a rant and maybe I’m a bad friend but I don’t care.
My friend is driving me crazy. She originally wanted to visit in November and I said yes. Then she decided she wants to come in June. Ok, sure, whatever. I’m super busy but that’s your choice. Then she asked to stay in my house for 2 weeks. There are very few people I want staying here for more than 5 days as it’s a 1 bathroom apartment. The only ones who have are our parents who also cook, clean, and buy groceries. She will not be doing any of that. Plus, I will be 7-8 months pregnant, working full time, finishing up school and exams, and completing my thesis that must be done by end of July. I said no that it couldn’t work and explained why. She said ok and we agreed on 4 days in June for a time that works.
She then turned around again and asked if she could stay with us June 1-6 and again 14-17. Nooooooo. You can’t! Our 2nd room is our baby room where we are storing everything until he comes. Every time someone comes, we have to move everything out. It is also my study room and I have to move our desk out and everything too. I also have little to no desire to wash those sheets 2 times for you to stay 2 separate times. And I’ve already said I have exams until June 5 and I don’t want guests while I’m trying to finish up my semester. I don’t want to entertain anyone for that long then and I want to just go to work, come home, and work on my thesis. It’s also going to be so hot and we have no a/c.
Stop asking me if it’s ok. I’m not going to change my mind. I love her but no.
*Live, Love, Laugh, Learn*
Me 32
H 33
TTC#1 January 2016 BFP 5/16/2016 DD Born 1/27/17
TFAS: BFP 11/26/2018 Estimated due date: 8/2/2019
*Live, Love, Laugh, Learn*
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)