@nomangos23 Thanks! Hopefully the results will come quickly. We want to plan a bbq and then when people show up they'll find out that it's a Gender reveal party too. I love the excitement but don't want our family and friends to feel obligated to bring gifts. Thinking of doing an Easter egg hunt...
@supermom34482 That made me spit my water out! Can't say I've been sweaty but I've definitely noticed an increase in CM and I'm a lot veiny-er (that's totally a word) in that general area.
Is anyone taking prescription prenatals? My Pharmacy did not have the medication my doctor prescribed so the doctor told me just to take over-the-counter prenatals. I'm a little skeptical.
Also, my doctor gave me an estimated due date of September 20th based on LMP. I got an ultrasound that same day and they measure me at 7 weeks 1 day so my new due date was September 29th. I expected this due to my long Cycles, but I just picked up the report from that ultrasound and there are various gestational ages listed. I'm very confused and I'm not sure what to go by when I'm scheduling my appointments. The summary section of the report says gestational age by measurements 6 weeks 4 days. The measurement section reads 0.8 cm and 6.6 weeks. However in the comment section it states just stational Sac measures 2.7 CM corresponding to 7 weeks 5 days. An estimated due date is listed as October 3rd. Unfortunately, the radiology center told me they could not answer any of my questions and I needed to speak with my doctor. My doctor closed early today and does not reopen until Tuesday due to the holiday. Any advice from you ladies would be greatly appreciated.
@nightdreamr13 this sounds like the process at my center. The tests and ultrasound were same as everyone else is saying but the visit definitely took 2 hours. When we did it for my first we sat with the someone who asked a series of questions about out family backgrounds. Then we did bloodwork and finally the ultrasound. Depending on the size of the practice I can see it taking anywhy from 45 min to 2 hrs.
Regarding the prenatals, both my doctor and my friend who is a high risk OB told me that they are basically the same. The prescription ones might have some more unique formulations that make them easier to digest, but that over the counter ones have the same benefits for the baby. My insurance covers an extremely small percentage of my prescription ones so I was expected to pay almost $200/month, so they both told me to just take them first trimester and switch over. My ob gave me a ton of free samples to get me through.
@nightdreamr13 I know your gestational age will vary based on the angle of the image, so I would go off of the final age of 7+1. I would call your doctor to confirm, but I wouldn't worry too much. All of my ultrasound photos vary by a few days.
@mno918@septoctkids@kgg2241 thank you all. This is my first pregnancy and I have so many questions but I feel dumb calling the dr all the time. Plus I'm an emotional wreck right now (normally not an emotional person) so the support I've found on here has really helped me. Thank you ladies.
Possible trigger warning ⚠️ reaction to 4th pregnancy.
Any other moms of multiple kids ‘afraid’ to announce? It’s not so much I’m afraid to announce but I’m afraid of close family members’ reactions. I know a few people will probably not take the news with excitement and I’m not sure what to do. With our third my mother in laws reaction was “wow three’s really going to throw a wrench in it.” (Coming from a woman who had 4 kids herself!!!!) My husband put her in her place after that comment but I don’t even want to be around when we tell her number 4 will be here, and 13 months after our 3rd. I know my parents will also be concerned with how we will do it physically and financially because I will now need to quit my job. It was definitely a surprise for us and it took me 6 weeks before I even told my husband. I get bouts of excitement and bouts of worry (then loads of guilt for not being excited 24/7) - we need a bigger car, if it’s a girl the 3 girls will have to share a room, how can I possible bring my oldest to preschool with all 4 kids in tow, vacations and taking the kids fun places will be hard and expensive, and also financially because my mom told me if we did ever have a fourth it would be too difficult for her to watch all 4 kids at once so I have to quit my job. I could careless what friends think (all my close ones were excited and that’s all that counts) , it’s just my family members that I know will leave me upset with their reactions. I haven’t even told my mom and sister yet and they were second and third to know after my husband with my other kids. I like my wine so it’s getting harder and harder to keep this from my parents because we hangout all the time!
@blondie1314 I don’t have experience with this, but I think honesty could help you in this situation and announcement. It sounds like you and your parents all share the same concerns of adding another child. I think it’s fair to say you are worried, but want to celebrate this baby that is happening.
@blondie1314 YES. **TW - loss** we found out we were pregnant VERY shortly after the loss of our 2 month old baby ** and because of the proximity, I have been super worried to share the news, fearful of people’s reactions and that they’ll have hurtful commentary, such as that we didn’t take adequate time to grieve and/or only got pregnant in an effort to ‘replace’ our angel. Our due date this time is days from her due date. However, with only one exception, I’ve found people to be UBER supportive and excited. I just told my parents last night and they practically jumped for joy. And it’s helping my mental state to have people know and not have to feel like I’m living a lie. We don’t plan to make a big Facebook announcement or anything for quite a while, but it feels so much better not to be hiding this news, especially when I so badly want to be excited about it myself.
Thoughts on elective ultrasounds? I never had one before but it would be nice to know the sex earlier for me because I shop a lot of consignment expos and they are all a few weeks before my A/S. A place near me does sex determination as early as 14 weeks.
@mommyshark13 my best friend recently went to one of places that did early gender detection. They told her it was most likely a boy but had her go back a week later just in case because they were on the fence. At that next appointment theyconfirmed that it was definitely a boy. Come her 20 week anatomy scan, they found out the baby was a girl! I couldn’t believe it. You read about stories like that so it was crazy to know someone it happened to. It might be fun to do but I don’t think I would go buying girl/ boy things after. Do you have the option to do the panorama blood work?
@blondie1314 I agree with @blitzybee. Honesty might be the best answer here. I wouldn’t be afraid to tell them that you are a bit worried too but you are excited as well and want to make the best of it. I don’t have experience with 4 kids but my mother nannies for a family of 4 kids all 2 years apart. She started when it was just 2 kids. She got into a groove,and it’s easy for her now. She takes them out fun places (library, park etc. low cost places), brings them to school etc. I think you will get into a good routine and do what works best for your family. Don’t stress about getting them to school and stuff yet. I bet everything will fall into place. Moms are incredible women and so resilient. You got this!
@septoctkids I'm not 35 and am low risk so I probably can't get the Harmony, Panorama, etc. I will ask though. And funny story about my DS... we were told at our AS that he was a girl. Went the rest of my pregnancy expecting a girl and were completely surprised upon HIS arrival.
@mommyshark13 In my professional opinion(I’m an ultrasound tech) 1. 14 weeks is way too early. male and female look at same then. 17-18 weeks is when I feel pretty confident to tell sex. 2. I would research the place you want to use. It’s probably just because I’m a registered tech, but the places that don’t have trained ultrasound techs just should not exist IMO(and the opinion of most everyone in my profession). Some are run by registered techs but not many.
@calliah that’s really good inside information. So you are saying some ultrasound techs at these places aren’t properly trained?! I will say, I’ve had a doctor do ultrasounds, and ultrasound techs do ultrasounds, and I prefer the techs that do this as a specialty! They are the best!
@blitzybee yes, there are some people that think they can just buy an ultrasound machine and boom, they can do ultrasound. No, it’s actually kinda hard and takes a year and a half plus to actually get good at it, especially OB. Unfortunately there is a lot less regulation on ultrasound because it doesn’t have radiation. No one would be able to just buy a CT machine, why can anyone buy an ultrasound machine?
Don’t get me started on doctors and nurses scanning. Some can, but I had a lot of women sent from the ER where the doc scanned them and told them they saw a heartbeat and then I scan and there’s nothing there. Or vice versa. Ultrasound is not a toy!
@mommyshark13 I had the horizon and panorama screening done with my son and I wasnt high risk and not 35. I’ll be getting it done this week with this pregnancy. Might be worth asking about. Oh my goodness that again crazy about your 20 week scan! Did you have the nursery and everything all decorated girly? I can only imagine the surprise! Lol I would be so skeptical to go even earlier this time around. I would want an ultrasound past 20 weeks to double confirm haha.
@calliah The ladies who run the place near me are two retired techs from the local hospital. 14 seemed really early to me too and I dont think it would be worth $100 just to know like 2 weeks early.
@septoctkids Most of our gear and nursery was neutral bc we wanted to use it for multiple kids. But we had no clothes for him. He ended up being born early too so he needed preemie clothes anyway and we didnt have any in the size. The grandmas and his one aunt did some major shopping for him because we were in the hospital for well over a week.
@blondie1314 like others have said, I think you should tell your family and be honest about your feelings. Hope it all works out and that people are supportive
@mommyshark13 omg that's crazy about your son's A/S! Good thing most of your stuff was neutral! @septoctkids my ob has offered us Harmony screening and I'm low risk too. Did your insurance cover any of it even though you were low risk?
@themadcamel we paid $80 out of pocket for it, the rest was covered. If you go on the natera website I believe there is an option for a price estimate based on your insurance.
@kiddiesandkitties we had it done and aren’t high risk. I know our office is partners with the company though. Try callering the natera company. You could ask your OB more details. I wonder why some OB offices do it and some don’t unless high risk.
@supermom34482 yes - trouble getting to sleep and then waking up around 4:30 and can't really get back to sleep - it's so frustrating!! I can't really pin down why, either.
@supermom34482 Yes, definitely me. I think I've been messing up my sleeping schedule by napping so much. I'm going to try and get through this week without napping and see if that helps.
Also, I was almost asleep at midnight last night but then bolted awake with a horrible coughing attack. I choked on my own saliva or something and was gasping to try and inhale some air so I could cough. Poor DH though was scared I was dying or something and I couldn't reassure him for a good 15 seconds because I could get any air or stop coughing. Really hoping that never happens again.
@supermom34482 Ugh yes. It started for me before the + test and still happens most nights (11w now). No matter what time I fall asleep, I'm usually up around 2:30 and again at 4:30 for 15-30 min each time. It's really getting old!
@aliciac2008 Omg you poor thing and i bet your dh was terrified! Life without you probably flash before his eyes...maybe he'll appreciate ya a little more the next couple of days until he forgets
Question! Does anyone else take a probiotic? I have severe gastrointestinal issues that I didn’t have in my previous two pregnancies and I absolutely need to take one or it’s detrimental to my health. My OB said not to because there are no aququate studies done on them, but I literally probably won’t make it through this pregnancy without getting a severe infection in my colon if I don’t I’m still taking them, because I feel that the health benefits outweigh the risks for me personally but I just can’t shake him saying not to take one.
@jcg1011 I take the "Rainbow Light One" prenatal vitamins that have probiotics in them that really seem to help me. I'm not sure if they're the right probiotics/enough for your situation, but you may want to check them out!
Need some advise/reassurance... My husband and I are travelling to visit both sets of parents during week 11, but our first US isn't until week 12. I had thought we'd have an US before then when I booked the trip but doctor says not needed. I haven't had any MC symptoms but I just read about a "missed MC" and lack of symptoms so now I'm nervous. Should we tell them anyway pre-US? I can't push out the trip.
@kmitchy I would definitely tell them. I know how hard it is not to stress that something is wrong when you don't have any other evidence to tell you otherwise (with my first pregnancy, I bought SO many tests and literally would pee on like, 4 a day... for NINE WEEKS till our first appt). I always go back to the 'if something awful happened, would you want this person's support?'. If the answer is yes, there's no harm in sharing such exciting news. It's easier to have people on your team, in the loop already, if ever you had to go back and tell them something had happened.
@jcg1011 I take one during pregnancy in addition to eating fermented foods. Doctor aND midwife approved. You could eat sauerkraut and kefir a lot instead but not sure you could stomach it. I'm doing Klaire Labs right now but usually switch up brands each bottle. My midwife likes Jarrow Fem-Dolphisus (sp?) Closer to that one bacteria test to see of you need antibiotics. Can't remember the name. I think the controversy is if they help as much as some people say but I don't think there is much risk in harm.
@kmitchy I agree with @kiddiesandkitties ask yourself if they are people you would be able to find comfort with if something didn't go well. If so, it's best to have them on your side. **TW I've had to tell family that I've miscarried and they didn't even know I was pregnant, the double whammy is hard. **END TW.
Just chiming in to see if I'm the only one who chuckles every time I click on this thread and the first thing I see on the top of the page is 'anyone else with a super sweaty crotch?' - it's basically the highlight of all my days.
Re: The Great Question Thread!
Also, my doctor gave me an estimated due date of September 20th based on LMP. I got an ultrasound that same day and they measure me at 7 weeks 1 day so my new due date was September 29th. I expected this due to my long Cycles, but I just picked up the report from that ultrasound and there are various gestational ages listed. I'm very confused and I'm not sure what to go by when I'm scheduling my appointments. The summary section of the report says gestational age by measurements 6 weeks 4 days. The measurement section reads 0.8 cm and 6.6 weeks. However in the comment section it states just stational Sac measures 2.7 CM corresponding to 7 weeks 5 days. An estimated due date is listed as October 3rd. Unfortunately, the radiology center told me they could not answer any of my questions and I needed to speak with my doctor. My doctor closed early today and does not reopen until Tuesday due to the holiday. Any advice from you ladies would be greatly appreciated.
Regarding the prenatals, both my doctor and my friend who is a high risk OB told me that they are basically the same. The prescription ones might have some more unique formulations that make them easier to digest, but that over the counter ones have the same benefits for the baby. My insurance covers an extremely small percentage of my prescription ones so I was expected to pay almost $200/month, so they both told me to just take them first trimester and switch over. My ob gave me a ton of free samples to get me through.
My ultrasound measurements were a little different too. They took an average of the dates.
Any other moms of multiple kids ‘afraid’ to announce? It’s not so much I’m afraid to announce but I’m afraid of close family members’ reactions. I know a few people will probably not take the news with excitement and I’m not sure what to do. With our third my mother in laws reaction was “wow three’s really going to throw a wrench in it.” (Coming from a woman who had 4 kids herself!!!!) My husband put her in her place after that comment but I don’t even want to be around when we tell her number 4 will be here, and 13 months after our 3rd. I know my parents will also be concerned with how we will do it physically and financially because I will now need to quit my job. It was definitely a surprise for us and it took me 6 weeks before I even told my husband. I get bouts of excitement and bouts of worry (then loads of guilt for not being excited 24/7) - we need a bigger car, if it’s a girl the 3 girls will have to share a room, how can I possible bring my oldest to preschool with all 4 kids in tow, vacations and taking the kids fun places will be hard and expensive, and also financially because my mom told me if we did ever have a fourth it would be too difficult for her to watch all 4 kids at once so I have to quit my job. I could careless what friends think (all my close ones were excited and that’s all that counts) , it’s just my family members that I know will leave me upset with their reactions. I haven’t even told my mom and sister yet and they were second and third to know after my husband with my other kids. I like my wine so it’s getting harder and harder to keep this from my parents because we hangout all the time!
@blondie1314 I agree with @blitzybee. Honesty might be the best answer here. I wouldn’t be afraid to tell them that you are a bit worried too but you are excited as well and want to make the best of it. I don’t have experience with 4 kids but my mother nannies for a family of 4 kids all 2 years apart. She started when it was just 2 kids. She got into a groove,and it’s easy for her now. She takes them out fun places (library, park etc. low cost places), brings them to school etc. I think you will get into a good routine and do what works best for your family. Don’t stress about getting them to school and stuff yet. I bet everything will fall into place. Moms are incredible women and so resilient. You got this!
Don’t get me started on doctors and nurses scanning. Some can, but I had a lot of women sent from the ER where the doc scanned them and told them they saw a heartbeat and then I scan and there’s nothing there. Or vice versa. Ultrasound is not a toy!
@septoctkids Most of our gear and nursery was neutral bc we wanted to use it for multiple kids. But we had no clothes for him. He ended up being born early too so he needed preemie clothes anyway and we didnt have any in the size. The grandmas and his one aunt did some major shopping for him because we were in the hospital for well over a week.
@septoctkids my ob has offered us Harmony screening and I'm low risk too. Did your insurance cover any of it even though you were low risk?
Also, I was almost asleep at midnight last night but then bolted awake with a horrible coughing attack. I choked on my own saliva or something and was gasping to try and inhale some air so I could cough. Poor DH though was scared I was dying or something and I couldn't reassure him for a good 15 seconds because I could get any air or stop coughing. Really hoping that never happens again.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
**TW I've had to tell family that I've miscarried and they didn't even know I was pregnant, the double whammy is hard. **END TW.