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October 2019 Moms
elle-0409
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The Great Question Thread
elle-0409
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Ask your questions here! Whether they are for STM/STM+s to answer, they
are TMI, or if you think they are dumb.
TTC History
Me: 38 DH: 52
Started trying June 2018
BFP Jan 2019 DD born October 2019
TTC July 2021 BFP, ended in MMC August 2021
TTC October 2021
BFP January 2022
MMC March 2022
Beginning May 2022 under the supervision of an RE - Benched while undergoing testing
Re: The Great Question Thread
In theory, it’s fine until the uterus emerges.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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I concur with @cmbt2, no real danger until later in the pregnancy.
- don’t get your heart rate or temp too high. You’ll have to ask your OB what those values are
- don’t do anything new. So, like, don’t decide one day when you wake up you want to run a marathon when you’re not doing 5ks (not saying this is you, just a generalized scenario)
- listen to your body. If you get tired, stop. Don’t force yourself through it
My only thought is to double check with your provider on their thoughts, your risk status, and any limitations they may impose.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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@elle-0409 I have already told the people who I would need support from if I things don’t go well. When we see a heartbeat I will tell family, and we’ll do a social media announcement sometime after that.
I am pretty vocal about my losses, and will be again if it comes to that. I know other people prefer to keep it private, but I just need people to know when it happens to me. For me It feels better to let it out. I can’t grieve well if I feel like its a “dirty secret” if that makes sense.
We waited to tell anyone I was pregnant the first time so they found I was pregnant and miscarried at the same time and that’s a horrible memory for me. With our second loss we told others early and even though it still hurt to tell people we lost that baby, 4 years later remembering the excitement people had for that baby at first is a pleasant memory.
edit:typo
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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@cmbt2 that Harry Potter ones sounds adorable!
As for social media, we'll post a pic after the reveal to parents that likely will all be focused on our dogs haha.
I’m high risk, so anything outside of the hospital (or in my case, a birth center within a hospital) is out of the question. I’m not allowed to go into labor on my own this time, either, lest I want a car baby.
i think I saw someone just intro’d who did a home water birth?
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
This is my take, too. I'm not telling everyone yet, but I've definitely been pretty casual about not keeping this pregnancy a secret. It felt awful to me to have to mourn in secret.
@lbedolla I know about five moms who have tried for a home birth and only one who succeeded -- the other four needed emergency hospital transfers by ambulance mid-labor or immediately afterward. It's definitely possible and the one mom I know who succeeded loved it, though.
♥ Married since June 2009 ♥
TW: Living children & Losses:
Pregnant after 4 losses via IVF/FET with daughter "Gamma" (EDD Oct 2, 2019)
With our son we didn’t announce to family until after the first ultrasound, I didn’t tell work until I was 20ish weeks and didn’t do a social media announcement until after our maternity shoot so about 36ish weeks. We will probably announce sooner this time.
As for theme here it will most likely be a Disney themed one. I just renewed my annual pass so I’ve been thinking of doing something in the park.
@cmbt2 I loooooovvvveeee Harry Potter themed anouncements. So cute!!
@ceclarlinetlo My birth center does VBAC. I'm not sure they do VBAC home births, but have you thought about going to a birth center?
@lbedolla I had an at home water birth and am so glad I did!
We worked with a birthing center and paid extra for them to bring a nurse who could administer oxygen, some drugs, etc., just in case. I felt so good to be in my own home, and able to crawl right into my own bed after, and get clean in my own shower. I was so glad I had only the people I invited to the birth around me (one midwife, one student midwife, the nurse, my husband, and my dogs). There were no strangers and there was no revolving door. Also, sitting and lying down was (I’m going to say the word) painful for me. I don’t understand how women wait out labor at home and then get in a car to travel to the hospital, it blows my mind! You go ladies! Not to mention, I was extremely hopeful to not need any interventions. I believe that not being in a hospital setting helped with this.
Of course, I know birthing this way is not for everyone, I'm sure even the car ride to the hospital is different for many. Also, I can’t say all at home births go perfectly or even that my next one (fingers crossed) will. But, I wouldn’t want to do it any other way if I knew it was a safe option given the health of myself and my baby at go time. My DH preferred it too!
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
From what I know about VBACs-
you have to be 18m from the c section before getting pregnant. You cannot labor at home past a certain point, and it must be in a place with a surgical suite that is equiped to do a c section. Both states I’ve birthed in have a requirement that an anesthesiologist be on standby at the hospital (so not on call at home) in the case of needing to go in for a RSC. You can see if you can find a midwife with admitting privileges for a vbac
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
i also know inductions are usually off the table with VBACs, so that may be something to ask about down the road (if you haven’t thought about it already)
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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@ceclarlinetlo I so hope you get the VBAC birth you want. You have amazing strength and I admire your courage!
At what point did you learn that you were making too much amniotic fluid?
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
At 37 weeks I was measuring 43 weeks so we did an ultrasound to make sure he wasn’t 10 pounds. He was measuring about 7.5 pounds but my AFI was at 25 and his cord was showing hypercoiling because he had so much fluid to move around in. At my 39 week appointment I was measuring 44 weeks and my AFI was up to 27. My OB told me that my single deepest vertical pocket had more fluid than some ladies have in their whole gestation sac total lol. It was oddly impressive. I’ll put a pic of the enormous belly in a spoiler below.
This was 2 days before my induction.
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
@cmbt2 what was the best part of being induced, for you? I feel like the bad stories are the only ones you ever hear about, in regards to inductions.
With my induction, I had none of that. I went in at night—he failed the weekly NST rather spectacularly. They ran pit at a 2 all night while monitoring DS2. They gave me something to sleep, and it was amazing. They started to up the pit every 30 minutes. I felt nothing. My MW broke my water at 9:50a. I felt nothing for another hour. Then things got real. Turns out, I went into labor on my own. The pit + breaking water jump started it. He was born at 1:04, less than 15 minutes after my epidural was placed (they didn’t think to check before hand..), only 2 pushes. No stitches. No back labor. I had a break between contractions. I could breathe during contractions.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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Married: 07/04/13
BFP #1: 8/14/14, Baby Girl born 4/16/15
BFP #2: 6/21/16, Baby Girl born 2/11/17
BFP #3: 1/26/19, EDD 10/8/19
Fur Babies: 2 Cavalier King Charles Spaniels (Piper and Mia)