@TheSouffleGirl I slept really well last night, and I’m already feeling more relaxed! Midwife told me to take Benadryl on nights I just can’t seem to fall asleep. Sorry to hear about your change in plans, but I hope your scan goes well!
@kosmo86 so sorry to hear about your bronchitis, that sucks. Hope you can manage it well and get better quickly!
Also, I’m waiting to get my blood drawn for the glucose test. For some bizarre reason, I thought the trutol drink was delicious??? It was like drinking ice cold tang. I’m so relieved it didn’t mess with my stomach, but I’m starving!
We're on the last day of a 3 day visit to DH's hometown and thank goodness we opted for the hotel. MIL keeps trying to hold, kiss, tickle DD but DD is terrified of the inlaws. And MIL sent a ranting text about being heartbroken we wouldn't stay with them. Passive aggressive doesn't work on me; after 15 years you'd think she'd learn that.
Well, DD threw up in the car allllllllllllll the way to the OB, so she and DH didn't get to come in and watch and are currently driving in circles around downtown while I wait for the OB.
But on the more-important upside, scan went well (first one with zero concerns since my initial visit for a MMC in April!), it is indeed a girl, and now we don't have to have a Christmas argument about boys' names.
So relieved all round! I will probably offer to clean everything up when we get home out of sheer excess festive cheer. Thank you all for the well-wishes!
@lilpotatomama: Glad you have a good night's sleep and a plan! I totally get lack of sleep snowballing the anxiety. (And FWIW, I was able to push that reset button when things got rough with a newborn thanks to DH's help.)
@tmblickley: That sounds like a whole lot of not fun. Hopefully this means you'll be done with the stress and home before Xmas?
@thatbaintforbetty : It's Ugly Sweater Day at the OBs, and they all have on these crazy seizure-inducing lightbulb necklaces. They turn them off when with patients, but it's intense. Also my (large male) sonographer was wearing SUPER tight Christmas leggings with every holiday image possible, right down to the turkey.
I’m really terrible at going to bed at a reasonable time. I keep falling asleep on the couch and waking up at 2-3am. Part of it is I’m really comfy and warm so I don’t want to go to bed. Maybe I’ll make that my New Years resolution.
My mom called me last night to tell me my cousin is flying in from AZ, and then she asked how we felt about going to my other cousins house for dessert on Christmas. I'm super stoked, I haven't seen any of them since March! (I won't be able to eat dessert but I'll deal with it since i get to see my favorite family members)
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My boss and coworkers just threw me a mini SUPER EARLY baby shower. It was so nice - cake and a few small things for the boys. And really really sweet notes in the cards. I'm going to hang them up at my desk
Argh I see March is discussing a FB transition and for some reason I'm like EEK. That'll be us soon enough. I was so not involved with how my last group transitioned (I got a PM one day that was like, Do you wanna join the FB group?) and I feel like it's a big production nowadays!
@MRDCle I feel like the move to FB from my last board was super clicky. Like they voted (majority would rule) and you had to have a sponsor to even be considered and it was super selective and they were really hardcore about it. Which i think led to the issues i saw, we even had splinter groups and all sorts of behind the back shit. Also this was pre-catfish explosion. I actually think the move to FB was part of what led to them figuring it out though, the poster was super active but didn't want to join the FB group and it was seen as weird to some people and a big red flag.
I'm on the fence about it this time. I'm not wild about how the FB formatting is but i hate that the board dies a bit after a FB group is created. This board is already a lot slower then that one was.
Although that board had a group of posters that were like the "in crowd" and this board thankfully doesn't have that drama. It was a little too high school.
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My last BMB, it wasn't really a vote. As long as 1 of the 5 appointed admins recognized you name enough to know you contributed semi-often you got in. We had 2 explosions in our group that lead to a group split.
We also did not have any rules on how much you were expected to contribute once in FB. I have seen some crazy shit in other groups where you have to comment x amount of times in x amount of days and thats just insane.
I look foward to the switch to FB (down the road of course). I feel like even though our group is small it could lead to better friendships down the line. Also it would be 100% easier since i still talk with my other BMB daily and they are all on facebook
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@kosmo86 but like...where do these admins come from?! Oof.
We had maybe 10 people leave our last FB group in the past four years, and one got kicked out because she joined, we all had our babies and stuff and it was like six months later and she had never even posted in the group so the admins were like...OK bye.
I think this BMB will be good because we all seem pretty level-headed.
My previous BMB migrated and we had one blow up when all of our LOs were about 6 months but since those people have left (or kicked out), it's been smooth sailing since. We have daily posts (which I think will get better once LOs are here, to be honest) and lots of random stuff so it's fun. Lots of people participate in Christmas card exchanges and secret santas. I think the daily topic threads have helped. We have Meal Plan Monday, Ten Things Tuesday (ten things going on in your life, TL;DR version), HDBD, UO Thursday/Thrifty Thursday, FFFC Friday and Weekend Picture Party. This week alone we had a thread about how our relationships are going with our SO, we talked about the leaps the babies were going through, etc.
I think we’d make a pretty solid FB group, though I’m definitely not ready for that! And I’m not ready for our bmb to die out, either.
I passed, y’all! No GD for me 🎉 however, my midwife has issued a decree for me to eat more veggies and maybe do a little more exercise. I’ve gained more weight in the last month than I have for most of my pregnancy, but she isn’t terribly concerned because she knows I only just got my appetite back/stopped being sick at 20 weeks. Veggies have been pretty repulsive to me all pregnancy, but I’m hoping they’ll taste better with butter. Or garlic, or cheese!
I think we’d make a pretty solid FB group, though I’m definitely not ready for that! And I’m not ready for our bmb to die out, either.
I passed, y’all! No GD for me 🎉 however, my midwife has issued a decree for me to eat more veggies and maybe do a little more exercise. I’ve gained more weight in the last month than I have for most of my pregnancy, but she isn’t terribly concerned because she knows I only just got my appetite back/stopped being sick at 20 weeks. Veggies have been pretty repulsive to me all pregnancy, but I’m hoping they’ll taste better with butter. Or garlic, or cheese!
I feel like I throw this out there all the time, but can you do a veg heavy smoothie? Or even a blended veggie soup? Putting veggies in scrambled eggs or an omelette helps me get them down as well. These are also the ways I would get veggies into DS when he was younger, lol. Nice job passing! I can't take mine till after 1/6 and I would really love to get it done.
@MRDCle I’m about to sound super picky, but I also haven’t been able to eat eggs in any form all pregnancy. I wanted to be a rebel last week and tried making runny eggs... nope. I used to loooove a good veggie omelette. I did eat vegetable soup last week! I’ll have to try putting some spinach in my smoothies. And thanks! I’m relieved, but I still plan on trying to kick this sweets habit I’m on.
I think the fb thing has come up in March because they already have a baby born. I’m down with a fb group here (I’d love to “meet” you guys without the anonymity filter) but we’ve still got people joining and becoming active so it’s obviously not time yet.
I missed my last BMB transition because I fell off the face of the earth once DD was born. Props to those ladies for remembering me, but I saw those messages a year late
@lilpotatomama there are some good (sweet) potato recipes over in What’s for Dinner?
@mrstmoose - we do christmas card exchanges and sometimes bdays, christmas and galentines! I have more Christmas cards on my mantel from my BMB then my family! I truly consider them my 'REAL' friends.
@professormama - we have a few moms who do not use FB and have a fakish profile that they use to stay in touch.
@lilpotatomama - every January I do a no sweets month to try to kick go back to some sense of normalcy after the holidays
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Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
That’s how it was with my previous bmb. If your name was recognized you were in on fb. And then we assigned daily posts to specific people, and it was open to anyone to post a random topic or game or whatever for the group to discuss. It’s fun. We are still super active and I love it.
I don't think I'm prepared for a Facebook transition yet! I'm not ready for this board to die, or for new people who come not to find it lived-in. I also kind of enjoy the anonymity, for no real reason, like, we're just this group of people ripped out of our normal existences into this alternate crazy world of baby not related to anything else.
My old BMB had an explosion, and a select group (people who were friendly with a gal who got the boot) splintered off onto a super-select private board about halfway through. It totally killed the original board. We segued to a different MB host about 2 months after the babies were born, and I lost touch because I couldn't get it on my phone. So I'd vote for FB eventually, because I'll check that no matter what, and I also vote for a pretty loose admissions policy (if admins recognize you) b/c I found that some people who were mostly lurkers on TB posted on Facebook a bunch (in some cases because they couldn't get TB on their phones but had Facebook, in others b/c they quit work or did it overnight while feeding, etc.) and I'd've hated to have missed out on them.
ETA: I also want to say that I really appreciate the drama-free atmosphere here, and also that it's a little slower than some BMBs. My last board was kind of cliquey, not really only purpose, but just because it had a TON of people who posted all day, every day, and it was really hard to keep up and get close if you weren't able to. I really dig that I can miss a couple of days here and not feel like I've become a total stranger or like I can't respond to a post from two days ago b/c it's fifteen pages back.
@lilpotatomama, I don't consider it picky at all, I've had an egg aversion this entire pregnancy as well! I have found that if other people make them (like eating at a breakfast place or something) or they're mixed in with other things like fried potatoes or veggies, I'm more able to tolerate them (but only scrambled, nothing runny). I think it has to do with not smelling them cooking as well.
As far as FB goes, I'm 50/50. I think I'd like to move to a FB group when the time comes and get to know the regulars more or brag about all of our adorable babies, but then also stranger danger on the internet. Not that I've made it hard for anyone to track down my identity or anything, so meh. I'm not super concerned.
Also, what?! A March mom had her babe already?! (*goes off to read and panic mildly*)
Facebook is a bit easier to navigate in my opinion but I'm with the rest of you that are enjoying our little space here still. I know I was a late arrival to the party here but I love being surrounded by women who are basically right where I'm at in this journey and are feeling what I'm feeling. The advice you get from women who have been pregnant, I feel like can be a lot different than the advice you get from someone who is currently pregnant. I wanna make new mom friends in my area since my closest friends don't have kids yet but I don't really have time to get out much with all the family I have to take care of. This group is my biggest lifeline to staying sane through this adventure
OK last day of work before 11 days off!!! I have NEVER taken this many days off in a row (besides maternity) in close to 10 years! I have so much house work planned lol
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@kosmo86 that's amazing! I had 13 days off earlier this year for our wedding and honeymoon and it was the only time other than mat leave that I had ever in my working career been off more then 5 days. It was so strange. I hope you get everything done that you want to get done!
I'm in mild anxiety mode today. The boys aren't moving as much last night/today and it's making me really worried. I am feeling SOME movement but it's not nearly as much as it has been the past few weeks so IDK. Not a great start to my Friday.
I can't wait for us to go to fb. I'd like to drop the anonymity curtain, too, w/o risking revealing myself to the entire internet. also, I'm super lazy about giving feedback to posts I read. but i do read all your posts, i promise! i wish there was more than one way to leave a wordless reaction to someone’s post w/o tagging. like, i don’t LOVE that your daughter ruined your morning w/ projectile vomit, i just want to express a bit of sympathy w/ one click. (i do realize how lazily millennial that comes off 😂)
side note- i can’t fucking wait for these hormones to give me a damn break. i’m crying at everything. i just want my cold, dead, don’t-give-a-shit heart back.
I can't wait for us to go to fb. I'd like to drop the anonymity curtain, too, w/o risking revealing myself to the entire internet. also, I'm super lazy about giving feedback to posts I read. but i do read all your posts, i promise! i wish there was more than one way to leave a wordless reaction to someone’s post w/o tagging. like, i don’t LOVE that your daughter ruined your morning w/ projectile vomit, i just want to express a bit of sympathy w/ one click. (i do realize how lazily millennial that comes off 😂)
So with you, @batmama31 . I mostly lurk in the randoms threads because I feel awkward about jumping in and would love the ability to not just "love" someone's post when something crappy happens.
@kosmo86 having that long off to focus on housework and everything else sounds amazing! I'm going to be working super late tonight I have a feeling then I have to work on Christmas Eve and all next week plus Saturday. I'm more than ready for maternity leave even though it's over 3 months away.
Add work stress to my pregnancy insomnia and I only got a few hours last night. Excited to not have to wake up early tomorrow morning and work, just wake up with DD and do something simple with her while I enjoy my cup of coffee at home.
I have hit whatever mode. My boss is out till next Thursday (along with half our office it seems) and i'm pretty much working on tax prep and holding down the fort till she gets back.
We are decorating sugar cookies with my mom tomorrow and then she's going to take DD for at least couple hours (possibly overnight) so DH and i can wrap presents, clean and finish Christmas prep.
I am supposed to meet up with a friend on Sunday but she wants to go out to eat and everything she likes i can't currently have. Also i can't figure out what to get her for Christmas and it's bugging me.
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Ever since I started feeling the baby move a little more regularly, I feel like my freaking out over worries of a loss is now being replaced with freaking out that I will actually be charged with caring for an infant in a few short months.
I pick up DH from the airport tonight!!!! He’s been out of the country for 3 weeks and I literally cannot wait to see him🎉 I think the LO knows what’s going on cause she is craaazy active today. YAY!
@midway_mouse just remember, people have been doing this for thousands of years! Your bar for success, especially during the first 3 months should be: was the baby fed, and was I fed? Are we both still alive? Is the baby in a basically clean diaper? If you can answer yes to all those things, then you’re doing great.
I had to call in sick to work today 😭 I feel terrible about it because it’s the Friday before Christmas and I work in a hair salon. It’s insanely busy.
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Sorry to hear about your change in plans, but I hope your scan goes well!
@kosmo86 so sorry to hear about your bronchitis, that sucks. Hope you can manage it well and get better quickly!
Also, I’m waiting to get my blood drawn for the glucose test. For some bizarre reason, I thought the trutol drink was delicious??? It was like drinking ice cold tang. I’m so relieved it didn’t mess with my stomach, but I’m starving!
We're on the last day of a 3 day visit to DH's hometown and thank goodness we opted for the hotel. MIL keeps trying to hold, kiss, tickle DD but DD is terrified of the inlaws. And MIL sent a ranting text about being heartbroken we wouldn't stay with them. Passive aggressive doesn't work on me; after 15 years you'd think she'd learn that.
But on the more-important upside, scan went well (first one with zero concerns since my initial visit for a MMC in April!), it is indeed a girl, and now we don't have to have a Christmas argument about boys' names.
So relieved all round! I will probably offer to clean everything up when we get home out of sheer excess festive cheer.
@lilpotatomama: Glad you have a good night's sleep and a plan! I totally get lack of sleep snowballing the anxiety. (And FWIW, I was able to push that reset button when things got rough with a newborn thanks to DH's help.)
@tmblickley: That sounds like a whole lot of not fun.
@thatbaintforbetty : It's Ugly Sweater Day at the OBs, and they all have on these crazy seizure-inducing lightbulb necklaces. They turn them off when with patients, but it's intense. Also my (large male) sonographer was wearing SUPER tight Christmas leggings with every holiday image possible, right down to the turkey.
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We also did not have any rules on how much you were expected to contribute once in FB. I have seen some crazy shit in other groups where you have to comment x amount of times in x amount of days and thats just insane.
I look foward to the switch to FB (down the road of course). I feel like even though our group is small it could lead to better friendships down the line. Also it would be 100% easier since i still talk with my other BMB daily and they are all on facebook
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
We had maybe 10 people leave our last FB group in the past four years, and one got kicked out because she joined, we all had our babies and stuff and it was like six months later and she had never even posted in the group so the admins were like...OK bye.
I think this BMB will be good because we all seem pretty level-headed.
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I passed, y’all! No GD for me 🎉 however, my midwife has issued a decree for me to eat more veggies and maybe do a little more exercise. I’ve gained more weight in the last month than I have for most of my pregnancy, but she isn’t terribly concerned because she knows I only just got my appetite back/stopped being sick at 20 weeks. Veggies have been pretty repulsive to me all pregnancy, but I’m hoping they’ll taste better with butter. Or garlic, or cheese!
And thanks! I’m relieved, but I still plan on trying to kick this sweets habit I’m on.
I missed my last BMB transition because I fell off the face of the earth once DD was born. Props to those ladies for remembering me, but I saw those messages a year late
@lilpotatomama there are some good (sweet) potato recipes over in What’s for Dinner?
@professormama - we have a few moms who do not use FB and have a fakish profile that they use to stay in touch.
@lilpotatomama - every January I do a no sweets month to try to kick go back to some sense of normalcy after the holidays
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
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My old BMB had an explosion, and a select group (people who were friendly with a gal who got the boot) splintered off onto a super-select private board about halfway through. It totally killed the original board. We segued to a different MB host about 2 months after the babies were born, and I lost touch because I couldn't get it on my phone. So I'd vote for FB eventually, because I'll check that no matter what, and I also vote for a pretty loose admissions policy (if admins recognize you) b/c I found that some people who were mostly lurkers on TB posted on Facebook a bunch (in some cases because they couldn't get TB on their phones but had Facebook, in others b/c they quit work or did it overnight while feeding, etc.) and I'd've hated to have missed out on them.
ETA: I also want to say that I really appreciate the drama-free atmosphere here, and also that it's a little slower than some BMBs. My last board was kind of cliquey, not really only purpose, but just because it had a TON of people who posted all day, every day, and it was really hard to keep up and get close if you weren't able to. I really dig that I can miss a couple of days here and not feel like I've become a total stranger or like I can't respond to a post from two days ago b/c it's fifteen pages back.
As far as FB goes, I'm 50/50. I think I'd like to move to a FB group when the time comes and get to know the regulars more or brag about all of our adorable babies, but then also stranger danger on the internet. Not that I've made it hard for anyone to track down my identity or anything, so meh. I'm not super concerned.
Also, what?! A March mom had her babe already?! (*goes off to read and panic mildly*)
OK last day of work before 11 days off!!! I have NEVER taken this many days off in a row (besides maternity) in close to 10 years! I have so much house work planned lol
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
I just caught up on that March NICU thread - baby sounds like he's doing so well - that's great!!
side note- i can’t fucking wait for these hormones to give me a damn break. i’m crying at everything. i just want my cold, dead, don’t-give-a-shit heart back.
Add work stress to my pregnancy insomnia and I only got a few hours last night. Excited to not have to wake up early tomorrow morning and work, just wake up with DD and do something simple with her while I enjoy my cup of coffee at home.
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