Having a really hard time getting motivated to do anything. All I want to do is curl up in bed and cry. Not the best example to set for my kid. Ugh, Mondays....
@kangstadt I hope your week picks up, but we all start on the wrong foot somedays.
Also, I told my coworkers about my pregnancy last week so now I’m greeted with ‘how are you feeling??’ before I get to settle in for the morning. Maybe I should just make a sign with ‘tired and hungry’ on it.
@lin0442 my boss told me the other day she wasn't going to ask me how I was because it annoyed her when people asked when she was pregnant, but wanted me to know that she DOES care. I told her that was great and that if I felt shitty, SHE WOULD KNOW.
I just emailed in my first sheet of GD numbers. I expect to get a phone call telling me i'm a go for insulin by the end of the day.
It's freezing in my office so i made some tea to help try to warm me up but it's just making me want to sleep at my desk.
Also i'm freaking out a bit right now. I've kinda mentioned DH lost his job, well he still hasn't gotten a new one cause the job market where we are really sucks despite the fact he's been looking for months. And his severance pay was supposed to be here weeks ago i guess and we still haven't gotten it. He found out his position was going to be eliminated right after i found out i was pregnant cause the universe has a twisted sense of humor, they thankfully paid him out from September, when he actually stopped working, to early November because of the circumstances but now we are getting down to the point of tapping in to our admittedly small savings which we had plans for. It's stressing both of us out, thankfully i got a permanent position and we will still have (really awesome) benefits but we can't make it on just my income. He applied for unemployment but that's just a temporary fix and i'm getting worried about how long it will take him to get another permanent position.
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@thatbaintforbetty - sorry about DH's job. I am sure something will work out!
Anyone else having a hard time dealing with the stress of the holidays? Besides a few christmas things I need to wrap up this week in order to get MIL present sent on time, We leave for a 3 night vacation on Friday! Work is also kind of INSANE. So my brain is working in OVERDRIVE
So if you don't see me much I will be back next week!
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TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@thatbaintforbetty I'm sorry to hear you are going through that - sadly companies don't really hire this time of year but I expect he'll find something in early 2019! Hopefully the severance will come through ASAP and the unemployment will help until he finds something. I would have him contact his company/HR rep about the severance since it's been several months.
@kosmo86 I won't be able to rest until December 26th. I had to call my husband during my lunch break because I was freaking out so much.
@gollygeeitsamy His other coworker who was in a similar position that got eliminated told him over the weekend that he got his weeks ago, so he's calling her first thing this morning to try to figure out what's going on.
@kosmo86 Yep, even without the money issues, the holidays are super stressful for me. I don't even really like Christmas and yet i'm roped into hosting dinner (along with all the meal planning/cooking/etc..), most of the cleaning/decorating and present planning/buying/wrapping. Thankfully work slows down around the holidays here but still. DH likes Christmas and all the feelings that go with it but he's kinda hopeless with the actual execution of it. (Which might be why he looks forward to it and i don't)
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I'm at like, level 10 annoyed today from dumb things at work. I'm planning on doing STUPID easy dinner tonight and maybe I can convince DH to talk baby names a little more. We're just...stuck. He named two last week and I'm just NOT sold on them both at this point so I'm hoping he is willing to talk more.
Also I've gotten two holiday gifts already today at work (Starbucks GC and an orchid) and I'm like fuck do I have to give gifts to everyone here? I barely bought gifts for DH and DS .
@kosmo86, right there with you on the stress of the holidays. I'm trying not to worry too much about gifts and just bake cookies or something closer to Christmas to get all of the "necessary," gifts out of the way.
@MRDCle, I never have expectations of gifts from coworkers. That being said, I'm that person who usually bakes cookies or something to take in for everyone because I like doing nice random things for others - maybe that's a quick solution for you?
@kangstadt I was planning on bringing something to our little floor decorating party next week. Maybe closer to the holiday I'll do something small too. We have lots of GF/DF/Paleo people in my close proximity so this could be a challenge!
@MRDCle, PM me if you need any recipe help! I've done some allergy-friendly baking. I have a great dairy-free/egg-free/gluten-free chocolate cupcake recipe, or chocolate gf cookies!
@thatbaintforbetty sorry about your DH’s job situation. When my DH list his job my stress was through the roof. I definitely don’t wish that on anyone! I’ll keep my fingers and toes crossed that he finds something soon!
@thatbaintforbetty that sucks! The only thing more stressful than having a job is not having a job... I agree with what @gollygeeitsamy said though, it might just be the wrong time of year to be getting hired. Acknowledging that doesn’t make your financial situation more comfortable, but may be better to focus on trying to get the unemployment/severance to come through and not realistically expect anything until January. maybe there are also a few things that your DH can work on for the next few weeks to make his resume look better and keep busy? Refresh some skills, do some networking?
I had such terrible migraines and nausea all weekend that I didn’t get any restful sleep. So I’m definitely dragging today. Not looking forward to swim practice tonight. We have 75 kids on our team and my main group has 45 of them. So I stress about not being able to coach everyone equally and give them the individual attention I think they need.
@blueberrymomma I have been having bad migraines too. I'm currently sitting at my desk trying not to puke. I hope tonight goes well for you. Don't be too hard on yourself and expect too much!
Me: 31 H: 36 L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@lilpotatomama but it was driving me nuts and I had poke my little nose in and tell them!! They thought the usual announcement threads were posted for them. That board has been up for hours and no threads! I need to lurk some crazy. Come on!
Me: 31 H: 36 L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@mermaidca if you want to lurk some crazy, July always has some nonsense going on! One offs don’t always drive me nuts, especially when it’s serious or a new topic, but they get SO. MANY. ONE OFFS. And they have a TON of knotties running around.
Took dd to the pediatrician for her 3yr old checkup. No longer struggling with anemia yay!!
Im 20 weeks today! Halfway there and wiggly.
I have work to accomplish, crochet hats to finish, and a birthday party to throw (dd turning 3 in a couple weeks birthday party this weekend) and then we fly out for Christmas to NY and MN on the 11-27. Busy busy busy. (Meanwhile I’m laying on the couch and watching e.r. and checking on the bump)
@thatbaintforbetty were you the one with the fruit-ice-cream-maker-thingy? Time to break it out with some bananas. Ice cream feelings are important.
also, I’ve had a pretty shitty day and DD tried to seriously hurt herself on at least three occasions BUT I’m trying not to bitch SO I’m reviving/posting threads because there is not enough going on here for me to snap out of my pity party.
@thatbaintforbetty that's so stressful. Fingers crossed your husband finds something new, although realistically I know it might be after the new year
I don't usually feel much pressure to be a perfect mom, but recently advent season has been getting to me a little bit. I follow all these people on instagram who have the best kid activity ideas (which I usually love). But a bunch of them are doing daily advent activities for their kids, and I'm sooooo not up for it. We've got a store-bought chocolate advent calendar and my kid loves it. But I'm feeling weirdly inadequate about it. I'm also way behind on grading and research, and daycare ends the day BEFORE my grades are due. I'm pretty sure I'm just failing at everything right now. Michelle Obama said it - 'lean in' / having it all, is bullshit.
@thatbaintforbetty, I second what @lyse01 said, making some frozen sorbets or something might at least satisfy your craving while hopefully being allowed? I'm not sure what the rules are for you right now, but I love homemade smoothies made with frozen fruit so they're nice and icy.
@professormama, I'm sorry you're having a hard time. Try not to be so hard on yourself! (A chocolate advent calendar sounds amazing... can we have one for the moms?)
I made myself work out after work tonight, so at least I did a little something, but then I came home and ate chips. Hah. Back to square one! (@thatbaintforbetty, I also eat my feelings, trying to resist the dirt pudding I have in the fridge as we speak...)
Thanks guys. No I don’t have the fruit into dessert thing but I’ve had my eye on one. Actually I’ll probably ask for that for Christmas, i had no idea what i wanted but that seems as good as anything. Also it’s the closest I’ll get to ice cream right now and a potentially healthier substitute for afterwards. I can have fruit but in fairly small doses.
My check engine light started flashing on the way home. Cause it doesn’t just rain it pours. We can’t figure out whats wrong with it but thankfully my dad came and took me over to the store in the time being since i drove straight home instead of running errands. Not sure what i'm going to do in the morning but hopefully we can figure something out.
I did have a good cry when i got home and it helped. DH reminded me that it's the 3rd, which means his eldest's birthday (she lives with her mom out of state, his ex tricked him into giving up his rights years ago, it's a long story). So nobody is having a good day here.
DD has been apparently better then usual today so at least there's that. Tomorrow is a new day and hopefully will be better.
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@thatbaintforbetty oh no! Have you taken the car by autozone yet? They’ll run the code for you, which should at least give you a general idea of the problem area.
@professormama No, i have to call them to see if they even can. I have an older Land Rover and most places don't have the tools/equipment. It was a huge nightmare when we got locked out and had key issues because most locksmiths we called couldn't help us. Although we did learn that they are exceptionally difficult to break into, which is a plus.
We are actually planning to replace it come spring but it would just be our luck that it won't make it that far. Also we still can't decide what we are replacing it with, but that's another days problem.
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@professormama- don't feel bad about a regular advent calendar. Also remember once you start a big tradition you are setting yourself up for that to be the 'Norm'.As long as your kids are happy.
Insomnia KILLED me last night- plus DD was up randomly for 2 hours. SOOO now I have had less than 5 hours of sleep. so sure today is totally doable.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Also want to say is I really like our BMB. There are not as many posters as some of the other boards but its so calm here and much easier to keep up and feel like you get to know people. Its so much harder with a larger board! Then I go a lurk on the other boards to watch the chaos lol
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TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@kosmo86 I agree! I do wish we had more threads/activity sometimes, but I can't for the life of me actually think of any to post, but I like being able to lurk elsewhere for drama while getting to know our regular posters!
@lilpotatomama I know for a fact someone in the July BMB has scammed people. She's changed her SN and everything but based on her picture and info she gives, it's the same person. They'll figure it out.
@thatbaintforbetty Here’s hoping it’s a cheap and easy fix! Sorry your week has been less than great.
@professormama Isn’t that the double edged sword of Pinterest/Instagram? There’s great ideas on them, but also lots of stuff to feel inadequate about that would’ve *never* been on our radars otherwise. (I try to stay away because I’m pretty easily taken in by them and they make me feel crummy.)
@kosmo86 Sorry about the insomnia. I totally agree with you about this bmb, though. I came into this pregnancy with a lot of messy PGAL/IF feelings and I’m so glad it’s generally chill and respectful here.
@lin0442@professormama like the idea of a decorated nursery in the first place. I mean, some of them are pretty impressive but I’m also lazy af and don’t want to repaint everything out of my neutral blue-green and then back into it when we move again, and I’m too thrifty/cheap to care if all the furniture matches.
In regards to Pinterest/Instagram, I like to call myself a lazy perfectionist... if I had the time and (more importantly) the money, sure, I would love to have a matching nursery/decor throughout my rooms or house. As is, we mostly have hand me downs and furniture left over from our college days, haha. And that's totally okay and makes it feel more homey and ours .
I also have to remind myself that the littlest things are sometimes the most important. I spent twenty minutes this morning cutting out paper snowflakes with DS, and he had a blast and said he can't wait to show daddy when he gets home. We hung them up above our kitchen table. It didn't take any weird supplies, was simple and easy enough that he could help, and he couldn't care less if they don't look Pinterest perfect. We put all of these insane expectations on ourselves as moms... sometimes we gotta step back and remember that everybody struggles but only the picture perfect moments go up online.
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Having a really hard time getting motivated to do anything. All I want to do is curl up in bed and cry. Not the best example to set for my kid. Ugh, Mondays....
@kangstadt I hope your week picks up, but we all start on the wrong foot somedays.
Also, I told my coworkers about my pregnancy last week so now I’m greeted with ‘how are you feeling??’ before I get to settle in for the morning. Maybe I should just make a sign with ‘tired and hungry’ on it.
ETA: leaving a message just to make sure.
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Anyone else having a hard time dealing with the stress of the holidays? Besides a few christmas things I need to wrap up this week in order to get MIL present sent on time, We leave for a 3 night vacation on Friday! Work is also kind of INSANE. So my brain is working in OVERDRIVE
So if you don't see me much I will be back next week!
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@kosmo86 I won't be able to rest until December 26th. I had to call my husband during my lunch break because I was freaking out so much.
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@mrstmoose hopefully that pain goes away!
I'm at like, level 10 annoyed today from dumb things at work. I'm planning on doing STUPID easy dinner tonight and maybe I can convince DH to talk baby names a little more. We're just...stuck. He named two last week and I'm just NOT sold on them both at this point so I'm hoping he is willing to talk more.
Also I've gotten two holiday gifts already today at work (Starbucks GC and an orchid) and I'm like fuck do I have to give gifts to everyone here? I barely bought gifts for DH and DS .
@kosmo86, right there with you on the stress of the holidays. I'm trying not to worry too much about gifts and just bake cookies or something closer to Christmas to get all of the "necessary," gifts out of the way.
@MRDCle, I never have expectations of gifts from coworkers. That being said, I'm that person who usually bakes cookies or something to take in for everyone because I like doing nice random things for others - maybe that's a quick solution for you?
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
Birth should be fun.
ETF my stupid gif
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
Im 20 weeks today! Halfway there and wiggly.
I have work to accomplish, crochet hats to finish, and a birthday party to throw (dd turning 3 in a couple weeks birthday party this weekend) and then we fly out for Christmas to NY and MN on the 11-27. Busy busy busy. (Meanwhile I’m laying on the couch and watching e.r. and checking on the bump)
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also, I’ve had a pretty shitty day and DD tried to seriously hurt herself on at least three occasions BUT I’m trying not to bitch SO I’m reviving/posting threads because there is not enough going on here for me to snap out of my pity party.
I don't usually feel much pressure to be a perfect mom, but recently advent season has been getting to me a little bit. I follow all these people on instagram who have the best kid activity ideas (which I usually love). But a bunch of them are doing daily advent activities for their kids, and I'm sooooo not up for it. We've got a store-bought chocolate advent calendar and my kid loves it. But I'm feeling weirdly inadequate about it. I'm also way behind on grading and research, and daycare ends the day BEFORE my grades are due. I'm pretty sure I'm just failing at everything right now. Michelle Obama said it - 'lean in' / having it all, is bullshit.
@professormama, I'm sorry you're having a hard time. Try not to be so hard on yourself! (A chocolate advent calendar sounds amazing... can we have one for the moms?)
I made myself work out after work tonight, so at least I did a little something, but then I came home and ate chips. Hah. Back to square one! (@thatbaintforbetty, I also eat my feelings, trying to resist the dirt pudding I have in the fridge as we speak...)
My check engine light started flashing on the way home. Cause it doesn’t just rain it pours. We can’t figure out whats wrong with it but thankfully my dad came and took me over to the store in the time being since i drove straight home instead of running errands. Not sure what i'm going to do in the morning but hopefully we can figure something out.
I did have a good cry when i got home and it helped. DH reminded me that it's the 3rd, which means his eldest's birthday (she lives with her mom out of state, his ex tricked him into giving up his rights years ago, it's a long story). So nobody is having a good day here.
DD has been apparently better then usual today so at least there's that. Tomorrow is a new day and hopefully will be better.
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We are actually planning to replace it come spring but it would just be our luck that it won't make it that far. Also we still can't decide what we are replacing it with, but that's another days problem.
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Insomnia KILLED me last night- plus DD was up randomly for 2 hours. SOOO now I have had less than 5 hours of sleep. so sure today is totally doable.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@professormama Isn’t that the double edged sword of Pinterest/Instagram? There’s great ideas on them, but also lots of stuff to feel inadequate about that would’ve *never* been on our radars otherwise. (I try to stay away because I’m pretty easily taken in by them and they make me feel crummy.)
@kosmo86 Sorry about the insomnia. I totally agree with you about this bmb, though. I came into this pregnancy with a lot of messy PGAL/IF feelings and I’m so glad it’s generally chill and respectful here.
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
I also have to remind myself that the littlest things are sometimes the most important. I spent twenty minutes this morning cutting out paper snowflakes with DS, and he had a blast and said he can't wait to show daddy when he gets home. We hung them up above our kitchen table. It didn't take any weird supplies, was simple and easy enough that he could help, and he couldn't care less if they don't look Pinterest perfect. We put all of these insane expectations on ourselves as moms... sometimes we gotta step back and remember that everybody struggles but only the picture perfect moments go up online.