@thatbaintforbetty Sorry to hear about all of your stress lately. Hopefully it gets better. At some point it has to, right? @professormama I don’t even have an advent calendar and my house is not decorated. I have decided to stay off of all social media because I feel so inadequate.
Well I guess I’m in good company this holiday season with feeling not up to all the Pinterest / instagram perfection. Our house is a total disaster even though we cleaned all day Saturday, but we have an easy dinner planned (and my husband cooks anyway). So I’m thinking I’ll just ignore the mess and my piles of grading, and do that paper snowflake activity with my son. So thanks to whoever mentioned it!! Easy and totally uses materials we already have ❤️ Makes me feel like less of a mom-failure to have a fun and low key idea for the evening.
Well I guess I’m in good company this holiday season with feeling not up to all the Pinterest / instagram perfection. Our house is a total disaster even though we cleaned all day Saturday, but we have an easy dinner planned (and my husband cooks anyway). So I’m thinking I’ll just ignore the mess and my piles of grading, and do that paper snowflake activity with my son. So thanks to whoever mentioned it!! Easy and totally uses materials we already have ❤️ Makes me feel like less of a mom-failure to have a fun and low key idea for the evening.
Have fun with it, @professormama! Here are ours, along with a cheap craft-herpes-filled (i.e, glitter) tree decoration that DH picked up at Wal-Mart because our house is so lacking in holiday cheer, haha:
@mrstmoose DS is like, super interested in scissors right now. I figure he gets the tips on use at school so I mainly hammer home 1) only use on paper 2) proper carrying technique 3) not using them unless mom or dad are around.
@mrstmoose, I ended up doing most of the cutting for DS (4) just because it's kind of hard to cut through that many layers. He enjoyed folding the triangles for me!
@mrstmoose I got paper cutting scissors on amazon. They are plastic and only cut paper. My dd loves them. They have a setting to auto open but she doesn’t need that anymore. She is almost three and we started in May-june
@kangstadt yep! I try to do an “activity” with him each day after school. It usually sets a tone for the transition and gives him something to look forward to. But the reality is that some of our activities pan out, and others fall flat. It’s very hit or miss. But usually just the fact of having SOMETHING still sets us off on the right foot, even if he doesn’t end up doing it. Yesterday he had zero interest in what I set up, but instead got out his clay to play with. Today he did end up decorating one snowflake, it just wasn’t allowed to have any cutouts. Lol
@mrstmoose I was reading through a few threads on the July BMB last night (hello insomnia) and I noticed that one account in particular is ringing alarm bells for me. 👀 I hope they notice too.
I’ve been a little off and on this week y’all, I’ve been love titting like crazy and I hope this week gets a little easier for those who are stressed. Today is me and DH’s three year anniversary. No plans today, but next Friday we are going to dinner and Phantom of the Opera!
@snowhite12 same! The first time I saw it, I was a freshman in high school. A classmate had gone through the entire school phone book (private school y’all) calling the girls in my grade to see if anyone wanted to go with her, because she had an extra ticket. I wasn’t even friends with her but I went anyway. So worth the awkward pre-show dinner with her mom 😂 the tickets were front row!
Well I did get some good news! We figured out what was wrong with my car and it looks like DH can fix it for like 100-150 ish instead of the 500 we were figuring! It thankfully wasn’t what we thought it was and while I can’t say I’m happy about spending more money right now 150 is much easier to swallow then 500+.
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@kosmo86 That sounds lovely! And of course it will be tough to find girly space stuff, but blues and purples with stars and planets would be gorgeous. Best of luck with crafting!
@thatbaintforbetty Phew! Glad it ended up being a cheaper fix than it could’ve been.
Now if only MH would lay the flooring down in the nursery. It’s been an ongoing project since July, and one more step and I’ll be able to help him out again and get. it. done.
@kosmo86 Jealous! Also please share pictures of you make/do! DH and i are space nerds and would love to do a space themed room for the girls but DD has a super obsession with sea creatures so it's probably going to be sea themed. Although that's another thing that you really don't find girl related stuff in unless it's mermaids. I am actually excited to get my crafty on whenever i finally get the chance, even though it's probably going to be a minor disaster, lol.
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@thatbaintforbetty@kosmo86 We had designed a really gender neutral nature / outdoorsy themed room for my son, with pops of bright colors like a bright yellow lamp and a rainbow mobile. It was really adorable. However, now that he's 4, he has added planet and space wall decals and his "art" is everywhere, taped up with blue painters tape. So, whatever adorable theme you decide on, it probably won't last. lol That being said, I still love his room - it's totally HIM. Space-stuff and outdoors and art everywhere!
I have tried looking for ideas for this boy's nursery and I'm having issues! There are so many options and colours and themes for girls and for boys it's all grey with mountains and bucks.
The twins' room is a neutral bluey grey paint with bright white furniture. All their bedding, curtains and things are a lavender purple with pops of teal. I'm hoping the neutral walls will be easy for the girls to grow up and decorate with.
We've been using the room for the baby as an office. We didn't paint it after we moved in so it's a reddish brown right now. A bit too dark for my taste so I think I'll lighten it up. H has old pictures from his (great?) grandmother hanging in there too. A jaguar and an elephant and they look like pencil drawings, they are really beautiful so I think I'll go for an animal theme. The only thing is they are from the 70's or earlier and in these massive, gaudy gold frames with forest green matting. I asked if we could keep the pictures but move them to more modern, simple frames and he claims they're are a set and there's some certificate of authenticity taped to the back of each. My fingers are crossed that it's just for the pictures and not those frames.....
Me: 31 H: 36 L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@mermaidca We are still house hunting but assuming we have a place to put the nursery we are going with a jungle theme! I have been collecting lion, elephant and monkey stuff. We have super bright old Moroccan rug and if we are able I would love to do an accent wall in a tropical leaf print removable wall paper.
The prints sounds gorgeous and I also have a soft spot for retro glam.
@mermaidca we have an animal / outdoorsy theme for my sons room (now interspersed with space decals and kid artwork). I'll link to some of my favorite decorations! Giraffe Head from target on the wall. Splurged on 3 of these baby animal prints from the Animal Print Shop (the deer and two others) Someone gave us this nightlight, and I love it soooooo much. These sheets, now that my son is in a regular bed (he's obsessed with them) And obvs a giant raccoon pillow. This lamp, but I don't think it's sold anymore And this mobile I had so much fun creating a really colorful nature theme room!
@professormama So much of that is so cute! I’m hoping to do a little bit of colorful outdoorsy stuff for our girl’s room. Not really a full on theme, but some friendly animals, flowers, and bright/neutral colors.
My mom keeps pushing to throw me a shower and I’m really torn about it. I haven’t seen a lot of my extended family in a couple years- they’re not very close- and I’d feel weird having a traditionally gift-focused event after not seeing them. Also I just feel a bit superstitious about having one, even though I’m not usually like that. On the other hand, my mom is excited and I’m her only child so it’s her only chance to throw one. I didn’t really get a bridal shower, and she keeps bringing that up as a reason to do this. Lastly, I *do* want to invite a bunch of friends over for cake and stuff, but as a co-ed non-gift thing, and it feels weird doing that but turning down a formal shower?
Family always makes things tricky, doesn’t it? I feel like my extended family would make drama regardless, but I don’t want to hurt my mom’s feelings.
@lin0442 can you discuss that with your mom? I definitely think there’s room for compromise. Like, “mom, I’d love to celebrate this baby but I don’t want to be the focus of attention opening gifts while everyone else stares, bored, and I don’t love games like ‘guess lin0442’s waist size’...can we have a party that celebrates the family & friends that will surround this baby (men too!)?”
The gifts will come anyway, and she can open them with you and one or two close others, and the topic of conversation will be parenting and babies because everyone knows the reason for the party. But you can make a nice toast to the coed support group you’ll have, and your mom can have fun decorating and hosting a shower.
Maybe someone else else has some better advice about the extended family...I realize I’m not really touching that aspect.
@lin0442 I have a somewhat similar thing going on with my mom! We compromised on having a brunch, and if people wish to give a gift, we are asking that people mail them (it also helps that my shower will be in my hometown and I live across the country so I couldn't very well bring all those gifts back on my flight). I guess mine is still somewhat centered on gifts because I'm sure most people will get a gift, but I won't be opening them in front of all those people. And we're not doing any games because I hate games at showers lol.
I'm trying to participate more, anyone else have anxiety and feel like avoiding doing doing anything and everything? I don't know how to describe it but there is so much I feel like I need to do or should do but instead of actually getting it done I just keep shoving it all out of my mind.
@booksandlace my anxiety functions the same way. Compartmentalizing helps me function on a temp basis but it also makes it so that most people have no idea I’m even struggling. Come join us in the mental health support group
@booksandlace absolutely! Most of my weekends are pretty free right now, but I end up doing almost nothing instead of the things I "should" be doing around the house. I feel like mine is kind of an anxiety/depression mix because I don't have many friends where I live now and actually just really don't like where I live. I don't want to depend on DH for everything, but it's tough when I have no family out here, either. Anyway, my point was that I tend to not get much done either!
I told my boss I'm sick. She wasn't picking up my not-so-subtle hints. I offered to work from home but she said no. Thinking I'll clean a little and then nap. I deserve it. Can't pour from an empty cup and there's a lot expecting me to pour.
Me: 31 H: 36 L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@mermaidca I fully believe that everyone needs mental health days from time to time. I do that as well. Sometimes I just need a day during the week when everyone else is at work or daycare and I can just be at home without doing anything.
If someone tells me to take a bath to help relax myself after a fit of hormonal rage I will absolutely drown them in that bath. Today I’m ridiculously on edge and some lady at DD’s school sent me over it and I went off on her and will absolutely be sending a nasty email to the district and school over something that could have been resolved easily. Also I might run over the cross guard who insists on stopping traffic when children are TWO houses away from the corner. Guess how many times those kids actually cross the street?!? I’m at it today and I can’t even drink to calm me down enough to realize none of it even matters.
DD nursery was red on the lower half and stenciled ladybugs on the top. Having trouble transitioning that to a boys room but we will probably change the lady bugs to planes and trains.
Loving all the adorable nursery ideas. And @professormama, I love that nightlight! Does it shine stars on the wall/ceiling?
I hate how incapacitated I feel this time around. With my first, I basically did everything I normally do right up until I delivered. This time, I move wrong and something hurts. I feel so much less... capable this time. Ugh. It's not making me look forward to delivery and recovery (or the very future, very faint possibility of a third...).
I think I discovered a new migraine trigger...lack of protein. These past two days after I eat some protein I feel way better. The only problem is most protein sources don’t sound good to me
@blueberrymomma I’ve been having my aunt pick up some protein shakes for me from Costco. They have 30g of protein and only 1g of sugar. I drink one on my way to work and one in the afternoon and I feel so much better when I remember. Most meats are still kinda blah to me too.
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@professormama I don’t even have an advent calendar and my house is not decorated. I have decided to stay off of all social media because I feel so inadequate.
also. Keagals
And we announced on Facebook yesterday.
I’ve been a little off and on this week y’all, I’ve been love titting like crazy and I hope this week gets a little easier for those who are stressed.
Today is me and DH’s three year anniversary. No plans today, but next Friday we are going to dinner and Phantom of the Opera!
I looove phantom of the opera!
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
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@thatbaintforbetty Phew! Glad it ended up being a cheaper fix than it could’ve been.
Now if only MH would lay the flooring down in the nursery. It’s been an ongoing project since July, and one more step and I’ll be able to help him out again and get. it. done.
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BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
The twins' room is a neutral bluey grey paint with bright white furniture. All their bedding, curtains and things are a lavender purple with pops of teal. I'm hoping the neutral walls will be easy for the girls to grow up and decorate with.
We've been using the room for the baby as an office. We didn't paint it after we moved in so it's a reddish brown right now. A bit too dark for my taste so I think I'll lighten it up. H has old pictures from his (great?) grandmother hanging in there too. A jaguar and an elephant and they look like pencil drawings, they are really beautiful so I think I'll go for an animal theme. The only thing is they are from the 70's or earlier and in these massive, gaudy gold frames with forest green matting. I asked if we could keep the pictures but move them to more modern, simple frames and he claims they're are a set and there's some certificate of authenticity taped to the back of each. My fingers are crossed that it's just for the pictures and not those frames.....
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
The prints sounds gorgeous and I also have a soft spot for retro glam.
Giraffe Head from target on the wall.
Splurged on 3 of these baby animal prints from the Animal Print Shop (the deer and two others)
Someone gave us this nightlight, and I love it soooooo much.
These sheets, now that my son is in a regular bed (he's obsessed with them)
And obvs a giant raccoon pillow.
This lamp, but I don't think it's sold anymore
And this mobile
I had so much fun creating a really colorful nature theme room!
My mom keeps pushing to throw me a shower and I’m really torn about it. I haven’t seen a lot of my extended family in a couple years- they’re not very close- and I’d feel weird having a traditionally gift-focused event after not seeing them. Also I just feel a bit superstitious about having one, even though I’m not usually like that. On the other hand, my mom is excited and I’m her only child so it’s her only chance to throw one. I didn’t really get a bridal shower, and she keeps bringing that up as a reason to do this. Lastly, I *do* want to invite a bunch of friends over for cake and stuff, but as a co-ed non-gift thing, and it feels weird doing that but turning down a formal shower?
Family always makes things tricky, doesn’t it? I feel like my extended family would make drama regardless, but I don’t want to hurt my mom’s feelings.
The gifts will come anyway, and she can open them with you and one or two close others, and the topic of conversation will be parenting and babies because everyone knows the reason for the party. But you can make a nice toast to the coed support group you’ll have, and your mom can have fun decorating and hosting a shower.
Maybe someone else else has some better advice about the extended family...I realize I’m not really touching that aspect.
We haven’t gotten a ton of stuff yet but I love the galaxy photo book I got for her, and the potential for blues and purples
DD born: 3/31/19
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
DD born: 3/31/19
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@mermaidca I fully believe that everyone needs mental health days from time to time. I do that as well. Sometimes I just need a day during the week when everyone else is at work or daycare and I can just be at home without doing anything.
DD nursery was red on the lower half and stenciled ladybugs on the top. Having trouble transitioning that to a boys room but we will probably change the lady bugs to planes and trains.
I hate how incapacitated I feel this time around. With my first, I basically did everything I normally do right up until I delivered. This time, I move wrong and something hurts. I feel so much less... capable this time. Ugh. It's not making me look forward to delivery and recovery (or the very future, very faint possibility of a third...).
I think I discovered a new migraine trigger...lack of protein. These past two days after I eat some protein I feel way better. The only problem is most protein sources don’t sound good to me