Randoms W/o 11/26

kosmo86 · November 2018

Happy Monday!

kosmo86 · November 2018

Been MIA for the last 5 days but I am back now.

anyone looking for some drama threads -

Disappointment on Gender - in the June 2019 is a good one.

MRDCle · November 2018

@kosmo86 annnnnd I'm off to read.

angelob88 · November 2018

@kosmo86 that sounds promising, thanks for the drama tip I'm headed there now

tumblefluff · November 2018

I honestly don’t get gender disappointment. We still haven’t found out for this LO and not sure if we will but because we have 2 sons already most people say “oh I bet you hope you’re having a girl”. Nope. I don’t really care. At this point I know how to raise boys and it would probably be easier (and cheaper since we have tons of clothes!). But I’d be happy either way.

mermaidca · November 2018

Also the Waiting Room Wednesday November thread in Babies on the Brain is a bit nutty. I saw that @sheknows6 saw that one too.

ysotte · November 2018

@kosmo86 I just went and read it. All I have to say is yikes.

@tumblefluff I just think of it as the kind of sadness you have when you really really want and hope for something and you never get to experience it. I can have empathy for that even if I don’t have the same feelings.

MRDCle · November 2018

@mermaidca wow that took a turn I did not see coming.

@tumblefluff when we found out these two were boys I felt sad for a bit. Not because I'll have two more boys, but because I won't have a girl (not to say that any of my boys won't end up identifying female, but for the time being) and I feel like there are some things I may miss out on by not having a girl. That feeling passed that day, but I can't say for sure that in 20 years I won't feel a pang of sadness when my sisters-in-law take their daughters wedding dress shopping, which is something I likely won't experience with three boys. I think that as long as it's something fleeting and you're not resentful of your existing kids, a short lived period of gender disappointment can be pretty normal. It's a sadness over something you won't have, not a sadness over what you do have.

sheknows6 · November 2018

@mermaidca that girl.......oh boy. Where to even begin.

tumblefluff · November 2018

@MRDCle I don’t think what I meant came out right. I can understand having sadness over something you’ll never experience. It’s the resenting the gender. That I don’t understand.

angelob88 · November 2018

Yikes for that thread. All I can say is that I'm glad we don't seem to have anywhere near that kind of drama (I think that's a huge credit to how we treat each other though). I understand how some people can have gender disappointment and still be happy to be having a healthy baby. We'll be happy either way with this bubs but I know DH wants a little boy. Even if it pops out a girl he'll be just as thrilled and bonus that we already have way too many clothes that are covered in pink. (Shame on us for not getting gender neutral when we had DD).

lyse01 · November 2018

@mermaidca I can’t figure out where babies on the brain is.

@ April: thank you for not being dramatic like June.

ysotte · November 2018

@mermaidca OMG. Just read that thread 😆 I have no words.

mermaidca · November 2018

@lyse01 https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12736510/wrw-waiting-room-wednesday-november-2018#latest
I don't think I know how to put a link in, I hope this works.

harveyisaboysname · November 2018

Oh my god. Is she seriously concerned about penis size in her baby?

thatbaintforbetty · November 2018

That thread was a bit of a mess. I do understand the point and agree wholeheartedly with @MRDCle though, both DH and i think this one is another girl. And while i will be thrilled with a happy healthy baby especially with how rough this pregnancy has been, i will be a tiny bit sad at never getting to experience certain things that only come with having a boy. I'm trying to hold it all at bay till we know for sure but i imagine DH and i will both have some feelings (happy and sad) to work through regardless of what sex this baby is. Which i think is normal. When it can't be worked though or effects your relationship with the child then i think it's crosses over into problematic territory.

I didn't and still don't get along with my sister, we absolutely are completely different people and mostly just tolerate one another. I think part of my feelings on DD having a sister is the fear that she'll end up with that as well.

lyse01 · November 2018

@mermaidca that worked! And...wow.

wildcosmiclove · November 2018

I can understand gender disappointment. Maybe in the minority with wanting two of the same sex, but I'm actually kind of hoping to have another girl. I won't be heartbroken over having a boy, but I will definitely be a little sad. Obviously, my biggest hope with regards to this baby is still that they are healthy.

kangstadt · November 2018

As far as disappointment in regards to baby's sex, I can sympathize. We're most likely done with this one (baby boy #2) and although I adore my son and I'm excited for him to have a brother, it makes me a bit sad that I won't have the chance to raise a little girl.

That being said, anatomy scan looked great, babe was sitting cross-legged the whole time and we even saw him sucking his thumb at one point.

lilpotatomama · November 2018

Thanks for the drama tips, y’all! I’ll be sure to read when I get off work.

I’ve been feeling consistent movement for about a week and a half now. Hadn’t felt little one move all day, until right now (on my break). I was just wondering when I should start worrying and bam! Three massive kicks in a row. I guess she had just fallen asleep from all of my running around, haha.

kosmo86 · November 2018

@lilpotatomama - its still pretty early to worry about movement. Some days you will feel it and others not so much but as the weeks go on you will feel it more and more. Today was the first day I have consistently felt them move multiple times.

Oh man that Waiting room room is AMAZING.

mermaidca · November 2018

Oh ladies. There's more. The woman from Babies on the Brain posted in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss....
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12737047/my-recent-experience-chemical-pregnancy-phantom-twins#latest

BarefootContessa · November 2018

Hi Guys! I feel like I drive by so much lately. I really hope to get back to posting here often. Thanks for the drama suggestions. I'll check them out.

I'm honestly surprised at how active this baby is compared to her siblings. I have an anterior placenta and she's all over the place. Rolls, kicks, you name it. It's good and bad because sometimes I feel like I'm getting motion sickness!

HGRich · November 2018

I don’t normally read drama posts because I feel like the world is crazy enough as it is. Lol. But I had time today and read the WRW one first. And at first I thought “ok, a little weird, but she’s responding with surprising calmness to everyone jumping on her; I can respect that.” Then it went downhill quickly, and adding the CP thread to it, I can only conclude she does likely need help. How sad. And weird. And I hope she ends up in a stable relationship with a stable person to help her think through the having children part.

I can empathize with gender disappointment too. I’m so grateful that with this boy I’ll have one of each, and we want four. I honestly think I’d rather have three girls than three boys out of that four, so I think if I didn’t have anymore girls I’d be a little disappointed, but still grateful for the one I have. I had three brothers and no sisters so I’d like a sister for DD, but I also know plenty of women who aren’t close with their sisters. 🤷🏼‍♀️

ysotte · November 2018

@mermaidca Holy moly! So much crazy!

mermaidca · November 2018

Right @ysotte??? She can't be serious...that's gotta be made up. Which is sad too? Yikes.

harveyisaboysname · November 2018

mermaidca said:

Oh ladies. There's more. The woman from Babies on the Brain posted in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss....
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12737047/my-recent-experience-chemical-pregnancy-phantom-twins#latest

Holy shit I just read that whole thing and I just ....speechless. I’m completely speechless.

ysotte · November 2018

@mermaidca No joke. I think she needs some psychological help.

lyse01 · November 2018

@ysotte at least she thinks she needs psychological help too?

thatbaintforbetty · November 2018

I can’t believe the thread she posted on the loss board. Just wow.

I agree she probably needs help.

sheknows6 · November 2018

She absolutely needs help. From the psychosomatic pregnancy, to trying to screen for penis size, to thinking that being a 35 year old FTM is somehow as bad as smoking during your pregnancy, just yikes. Both those threads are total train wrecks.

Absolutely bonkers, but at this point I'm fairly positive she's a troll of some sort just trying to stir up entertainment. This usually happens every few months around TB. Those posts will definitely go into the drama hall of fame.

rennie1108 · November 2018

I just read them all. Holy crap!! Yeah, she's off her rocker.

lyse01 · November 2018

Guys, there are like 60 new posts on the BOTB and Loss threads. Just in case you haven’t kept reading all afternoon.

rennie1108 · November 2018

OMG so much to catch up on! Thanks, @lyse01 !

kangstadt · November 2018

That thread was insane....

Also, I've eaten way too much unhealthy food lately. Holidays!

lilpotatomama · November 2018

I woke up at 3:30 to DH snoring. Woke him up. He stopped snoring, then started again a few minutes later. Repeated this cycle 5 times before I finally got sick of it, told him I’m going to the couch and left. I know he was half asleep but all he said was “I’m sorry” and let me go to the couch 🙄 he’s currently sleeping peacefully while I lurk TB at 4:45 am. Sleep is nowhere in sight.
I’m super bitter because I feel like he should be the one on the couch right now!!!

kangstadt · November 2018

@lilpotatomama, totally with you on that. DH and I got in a fight the other week and I went to sleep on the couch, even though I totally felt like he should've since I'm the one who is pregnant and can't sleep well anyway

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MRDCle · November 2018

@lilpotatomama yeah he def should have been the one to move to the couch. Lame. I'm sorry.

mermaidca · November 2018

@lilpotatomama H is a terrible snorer. I always get up and move because he gets mad when I try to wake him for him to roll back onto his side. His logic is why should we both be awake. If one is sleeping then the other should leave them *insert side eye here*. He's also impossible to wake up so it never works anyways.

thatbaintforbetty · November 2018

@lilpotatomama I’m sorry about a snoring DH. Im the snorer in this house (well along with DD but hers are cute, mine are not) and can say he probably feels really bad about it.

I was up early as well but the cat was the culprit here, he wanted more water and DH apparently wasn’t responding.

I have my GD class today at 1 and I find it both funny and annoying that they put it during lunchtime. Mostly cause it means I’m going to miss lunch, which is a no no. Ugh.

mermaidca · November 2018

@thatbaintforbetty I hope that irony is not lost on them! Maybe they'll give you snacks!?

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