My MIL did something the other day that really rubbed me the wrong way -- on Thanksgiving she had paper stockings made up for my DDs to cut pictures of toys they liked out of magazines "to send ideas to Santa" -- materialistic, but cute and a good way to keep them occupied while we were waiting for the Turkey to be ready -- so, she was looking through a magazine with DD2, and DD started to express some interest in a some HotWheels toy, and MIL quickly turned the page and said "oh no, those are Boy toys." I quickly said "I don't like that, saying things are boy toys or girl toys -- they are allowed to like whatever they like" (or something like that), and she tried to brush it off by saying "oh, that's just the kind of toys my boys had when they were little," but she didn't go back to the page or let DD look at it.
Guess my girls will be getting some "boy toys" from us this year.
My MIL is driving me nuts as well. We are staying with her and she keeps undermining my choices-like I said put sauce on DDs noodles bc she’s more likely to eat them and she put it on the side anyway bc that is what SHE thinks is best. Then DD took a nose dive off her lap and landed on her face and instead of comforting the screaming kid she says “that’s what happens when you try to jump out of Grandmas lap.” No sympathy or anything. I immediately picked her up and hugged her. She also continually accuses DD of fake crying when it’s very obvious why she’s crying.
I swear the more time I spend with my mom-maternal MIL, the more I understand why DH has a hard time expressing his emotions. He was never allowed to feel scared or sad as a kid and was accused of faking all the emotions he had. Thank god we have good insurance to cover his therapy bills and he doesn’t dismiss DDs emotions like MIL dies.
My MIL is driving me nuts as well. We are staying with her and she keeps undermining my choices-like I said put sauce on DDs noodles bc she’s more likely to eat them and she put it on the side anyway bc that is what SHE thinks is best. Then DD took a nose dive off her lap and landed on her face and instead of comforting the screaming kid she says “that’s what happens when you try to jump out of Grandmas lap.” No sympathy or anything. I immediately picked her up and hugged her. She also continually accuses DD of fake crying when it’s very obvious why she’s crying.
I swear the more time I spend with my mom-maternal MIL, the more I understand why DH has a hard time expressing his emotions. He was never allowed to feel scared or sad as a kid and was accused of faking all the emotions he had. Thank god we have good insurance to cover his therapy bills and he doesn’t dismiss DDs emotions like MIL dies.
My MIL is driving me nuts as well. We are staying with her and she keeps undermining my choices-like I said put sauce on DDs noodles bc she’s more likely to eat them and she put it on the side anyway bc that is what SHE thinks is best. Then DD took a nose dive off her lap and landed on her face and instead of comforting the screaming kid she says “that’s what happens when you try to jump out of Grandmas lap.” No sympathy or anything. I immediately picked her up and hugged her. She also continually accuses DD of fake crying when it’s very obvious why she’s crying.
I swear the more time I spend with my mom-maternal MIL, the more I understand why DH has a hard time expressing his emotions. He was never allowed to feel scared or sad as a kid and was accused of faking all the emotions he had. Thank god we have good insurance to cover his therapy bills and he doesn’t dismiss DDs emotions like MIL dies.
My MIL is driving me nuts as well. We are staying with her and she keeps undermining my choices-like I said put sauce on DDs noodles bc she’s more likely to eat them and she put it on the side anyway bc that is what SHE thinks is best. Then DD took a nose dive off her lap and landed on her face and instead of comforting the screaming kid she says “that’s what happens when you try to jump out of Grandmas lap.” No sympathy or anything. I immediately picked her up and hugged her. She also continually accuses DD of fake crying when it’s very obvious why she’s crying.
I swear the more time I spend with my mom-maternal MIL, the more I understand why DH has a hard time expressing his emotions. He was never allowed to feel scared or sad as a kid and was accused of faking all the emotions he had. Thank god we have good insurance to cover his therapy bills and he doesn’t dismiss DDs emotions like MIL dies.
My MIL is driving me nuts as well. We are staying with her and she keeps undermining my choices-like I said put sauce on DDs noodles bc she’s more likely to eat them and she put it on the side anyway bc that is what SHE thinks is best. Then DD took a nose dive off her lap and landed on her face and instead of comforting the screaming kid she says “that’s what happens when you try to jump out of Grandmas lap.” No sympathy or anything. I immediately picked her up and hugged her. She also continually accuses DD of fake crying when it’s very obvious why she’s crying.
I swear the more time I spend with my mom-maternal MIL, the more I understand why DH has a hard time expressing his emotions. He was never allowed to feel scared or sad as a kid and was accused of faking all the emotions he had. Thank god we have good insurance to cover his therapy bills and he doesn’t dismiss DDs emotions like MIL dies.
@chloe97 she must have really been driving you crazy that the app sensed it and posted it to help get your frustrations out 😉😂. That would drive me a bit crazy, too. It's such a wierd thing, cause you presumably love your DH and he was raised in that house (which helped form who he is), but you just don't want your own child growing up in that!
@brie_and_almonds that is a huge pet peeve of mine as well. DS is allowed to like whatever he likes. I drew the line at sparkly shoes, but I really really try to avoid "that's for girls." I've painted his nails because he asked and he was so excited, he has a frozen lunchbox he carries his iron Man and Pokemon toys in 😂 unfortunately, his peers have started pointing out what's for girls and what's for boys (which I'm irritated about, but it's life), so he still says "no mom, that's for boys" or "I can't have that because it's for girls?" I tell him frequently that we can play with whatever toys we want, but he still asks it if I say no to something 🙄
@brie_and_almonds and @eatinwatermelonseeds I really dont understand why people think that's necessary. Seems to me to be the parents place to decide what's appropriate to play with.
My mil has decided that she doesnt like the name we have picked and keeps texting me several new options several times a day. I ignored it the first day but now it's coming with a side of guilt that we didnt pick a family name.
@bumbly_b my mom was doing that and I just said "we are going with Luke or Logan, thank you for the suggestions, but if it's not one of those, I'm not considering it"
I guess that's what I need to do. I dont want to hurt her feelings because she normally is a wonderful person. But this whole grandchild thing is making her a little crazy...at least she has finally dropped the twin thing...maybe I'll have H talk to her.
I would just keep reminding her that you chose a name. Next time be like "oh, that's nice, but we're going with ___, thank you though" maybe just copy it and paste it after every suggestion 😂 she'll catch on eventually.
I’m a little annoyed with MIL. We were discussing names and I said something about how if baby had been a girl she would have been Fiona. She then said I’m so glad you aren’t having a girl because that’s a terrible name. She then proceeded to laugh really loudly and say oh my, thank the Lord it’s not a girl. She kept going on about it being terrible. How rude! If I remember correctly she didn’t like DD1’s name either though. She suggested a boy name later and I was still a little mad so I proceeded to tell it’s terrible. She then looked insulted. Ha!
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I told my mil multiple times that we were considering Logan Saverio, but for some reason when I was telling my sister in law, my mil scoffed. I was like "what?" "It's just an interesting name, that's all..." 🤨
I think holding final names back is a good idea for us... I just don't want to deal with unsolicited opinions for the next 9 months. Once the baby has the name, it's a lot harder to say you hate it
Re: What family member is driving you crazy?
Guess my girls will be getting some "boy toys" from us this year.
That would drive me a bit crazy, too. It's such a wierd thing, cause you presumably love your DH and he was raised in that house (which helped form who he is), but you just don't want your own child growing up in that!
My mil has decided that she doesnt like the name we have picked and keeps texting me several new options several times a day. I ignored it the first day but now it's coming with a side of guilt that we didnt pick a family name.