My personal hygiene has seriously slipped since the birth of my second baby and it's gotten even worse since I've been pregnant. I only shower every third day, mostly because I'm scrambling around getting the kids out the door in the mornings, and lately, I've been too wiped out to shower in the evenings.
I really hope my coworkers don't notice....
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
I just snuck into work (a middle school) 10 minutes late for the 5th time in a row. Kids were not left unattended, but I totally had to sneak and use my key instead of the key card so my late entrance wouldn’t be time stamped. I just cannot wake up on time for the life of me right now.
I just spent wayyy more than I intended off a friend's baby registry. The shower is coming up and there are hardly any gifts purchased off the registry which makes me sad. This friend has a small family and group of friends, but still. I remember at her bridal shower, a lot of people came up really short - giving her things she didn't register for, handmade stuff, and even some hand-me-downs. I know sometimes there can be a lot of sentiment and beauty in stuff like this, but this was not the case. Instead she got a bunch of crap she had no use for.
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
@peachy13 you are so sweet. That happened at my bridal shower and I found it so frustrating. I didn't register for red bowls and hate red so why did you buy me these?
I don’t know if any of you use the Ovia app, but I totally friend requested Gina from the weekly videos on Instagram like a huge creep. She accepted though 😂🤷♀️
Also, to go off of the registry stuff - I hate when people act like you should be grateful because you got anything at all. Like, no, I picked that thing out for a reason and honestly would have bought it myself rather than you deciding what I should have. Or getting me junk I have no place to put or any use for. Registries exist for a reason.
I am thinking about leaving work early today because it is Friday of a 3day weekend and I am not sure I have any energy to deal with any more bs today.
I am thinking about leaving work early today because it is Friday of a 3day weekend and I am not sure I have any energy to deal with any more bs today.
I just went in and told my boss we need to move up our weekly meeting so I can leave early lololz
@troystory17 same! I apologized to my husband yesterday and warned him it may not be on my mind until the 2nd trimester. I am barely functional and he is being a sweetheart about it but I feel incredibly guilty.
@peachy13 That’s so sweet of you. My MIL actually did that at my SIL’s baby shower. She was basically decluttering my SIL’s baby stuff she still had. She even put her pregnancy journal she never used in her basket of hand-me-downs. 🤦🏼♀️
@DuchessOfCambridge yes, thank you. I wanted to say this but wasn't thinking of the right words.
I also get very annoyed by the same kinds of people who shrug off certain things on the registry and say you only need abc at home when the baby comes, and you don't need xyz. Well let me tell you. I was damn happy that I had xyz at home before the baby came. Everything baby-related takes time to set up, prep, organize, wash, etc. Having everything purchased and set up in our house before the baby came was a major help in those early days. DD was born in a horrible winter during DH's busy season at work, and I would have been so pissed if I had to go out with the baby on my own in the negative temps so that I could buy the xyz that someone thought I didn't need right away. Not to mention, you don't exactly have a ton of assembly time on your hands with a newborn.
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
I'm really afraid to have this baby. I'm more than excited, but I'm TERRIFIED about how it will change our family dynamic we've had for the last 5 years. Worse so, I'm afraid this baby will be as much a challenge as my son (medically he was in and out of the hospital, and he's autistic so we have countless appointments a week and the baby/toddler years were straight hell). I'm afraid the baby will be autistic. And worse, as I've read studies that the second child is more likely to be autistic and more likely to be more severe. I'm afraid even that this baby will be less challenging, what if I like the baby more than my son because he's been such a challenge? I'm actually in tears right now imagining that, I can't imagine loving anyone even as much as my son much less more. How do I love two babies the same?
@eatinwatermelonseeds all the hugs ❤️❤️❤️ My DS went through some stuff at birth and we also have appointments on appointments every week - it’s one of the reasons I quit my job. I’m worried about the same thing or something worse happening to #2 as well. I don’t have any advice and I don’t know much about autism but you’re not alone and your fears are valid. Always here for a listen ❤️
As far as loving two babies goes, I’ve asked friends this before. Love does not have a limit. You don’t love the first any less, you just have a separate love for the second. It doesn’t make much sense to me now but I imagine it will when s/he is here.
@mrsb615 oh I get that. Thank goodness we switch daycares this year which has allowed me a few days of being on time, but this year...my goodness! I’m lucky to make it to work in time one day a week.
@eatinwatermelonseeds gooood confession. I thought I was going to absolutely love breastfeeding, but I really didn't. I made it 4 1/2 months with DD and was in awe that I lasted that long, considering I went back to work FT after like 8 weeks and pumping was the worst. With this LO, I'm hoping I can do a similar timeframe, but I'm just going to do what I can while staying sane. I was really losing it towards the end of those 4 1/2 months.
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
@eatinwatermelonseeds I’m petrified of BFing #2. It was hell for us and at 4 months we quit and I pumped until I had enough milk to last him to one year and was done (he was about 10 months). I hope it’s so much easier this time around otherwise I’ll BF to 6 weeks and then wean to formula. I just can’t be that depressed and sad again.
@sleepy33 It oddly made me feel better that you're still in the honeymoon phase, since we haven't DTD for a month now. I'm also dyingggg at work. I'm going to stalk the June BMB and see if there is anything interesting. Will report back.
@eatinwatermelonseeds lots of hugs for you. It is going to change things, there is no doubt. But you will manage it, I know you will! And I can assure you - love grows, it doesn't divide; you won't love one more than the other. But, at the same time, you don't have to love them the same. They will be different people, and you'll love different things about them.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
Add me to the hating BFing train. Six months was my goal and I made it, we’ll see how I do this time. That’s amazing @MaggieG183, I think I hated pumping more than nursing. Actually, when he was a newborn I liked pumping better because it was faster and less painful but eventually it switched. I hate paying for formula but it brought me so much relief and my anxiety was cut in half. I also hated nursing in public even with a cover so I always had a mental countdown in my head for when I needed to find someplace I was comfortable to BF again
Re: FFFC 05/10
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
@MaggieG183 Same here. I don’t think I’ve been on time to work since •before• I got pregnant with DS. He’s 2...
This includes TB.
Come at me newbs.
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
I also get very annoyed by the same kinds of people who shrug off certain things on the registry and say you only need abc at home when the baby comes, and you don't need xyz. Well let me tell you. I was damn happy that I had xyz at home before the baby came. Everything baby-related takes time to set up, prep, organize, wash, etc. Having everything purchased and set up in our house before the baby came was a major help in those early days. DD was born in a horrible winter during DH's busy season at work, and I would have been so pissed if I had to go out with the baby on my own in the negative temps so that I could buy the xyz that someone thought I didn't need right away. Not to mention, you don't exactly have a ton of assembly time on your hands with a newborn.
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
As far as loving two babies goes, I’ve asked friends this before. Love does not have a limit. You don’t love the first any less, you just have a separate love for the second. It doesn’t make much sense to me now but I imagine it will when s/he is here.
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
@eatinwatermelonseeds Those are totally legitimate fears. Hugs to you
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019