@eatinwatermelonseeds we have the exact opposite problem, as I moved from Tacoma to Mass. We would look at the menus at dairy bars and be like, 🤔 ‘wtf are jimmies???’ 😂 Also I am so sorry for all of your struggles with BFing your son. I hope this time around (if you choose to try again) is easier. The love for this baby will come too, the others were right. It multiplies. 💗
@stringofhearts that's hilarious. I went to nursing school in Tacoma and on our first day I asked a girl if there was a bubbler on the floor, and she just stared at me.. I've been out of New England for 10 years but I still have to remind myself to say stuff the wrong way. My husband visited New Hampshire with me and we went to dunkins and the girl asked if he wanted jimmies on his donut and he just had a conniption fit about how all the shit we say is wrong 😂
@DuchessOfCambridge DS had formula about 1/4 of the time even though my supply was solid. Pumping is the absolute worst. I legit hate it. I felt so disconnected to everything when I was doing it and it's the main reason why I either 1) hope BFing is so much easier or 2) if it's that hard for me and baby again, that we'll switch for formula after 6 weeks.
I hope, I so so so so so hope that it's easier the second time around. DS literally dropped from 48th percentile to 1st in 4 weeks and docs put the blame 100% on me. I was feeding him constantly and supplemented and pumped. They never could ID a tongue or lip tie either. Ugh, it was awful. Looking back, I should have shown them my growth chart my mom kept for me as a baby. It literally shows the exact same trend. I'm now 5'2" - a smidge short, but totally normal if you ask me. I always say now, that DS will make a great jockey some day.
@willmisspumpkinbeer I think the main problem with letting everyone start their own thread about whatever symptoms they are experiencing is that what ends up happening is that most people just make a one off threads and never bother to participate in the threads that are already open. The end result is less of a sense of community and more a case of a lot of people only posting about themselves and a much smaller group of people who try to engage but just end up responding to the same things over and over.
That said I will admit that the board structure does have some draw backs. If I miss being able to come on to the board for a day or two, catching up can be an intimidating task. I often find myself wanting to reply to something that’s on, for example, page 3 of a thread, but the thread is already on page 7 so there’s really no way to easily reference that topic since it’s already so far in the past. I also feel like sometimes posts I make get buried because people are more engaged in talking about a topic that I have no experience with on the thread at the moment. Additionally the mobile version of the board makes it really difficult to do things like “@“ or quote people, making replying to specific people even more difficult.
That said, I still greatly prefer this board structure to other BMBs on other sites/apps. I like the sense of community it nurtures and I think the pros outweigh the cons. I’m not sure there really is a way to address any of the above issues without a board structure that has nested comments - and nested comments come with their own set of drawbacks as well.
TLDR; The Bump may not be perfect, but I still think it’s better the the alternatives
@DuchessOfCambridge I love it and my last BMB (after having our babies) put it as one of those "you don't need it things." I'm like...but then how do you put the diaper back on after having just wiped diaper cream all over your child while they're literally trying to wrestle you to not get the diaper on?
@eatinwatermelonseeds hugs! I'm sure that must be hard but you will love your children deeply no matter what! You might have different relationships with each of them but that's always going to be the case - challenges or not. I certainly have a different relationship than my siblings with my mom but I know she loves us all equally and unconditionally...even if I'm the favorite
I'm from Washington state (in Ohio right now) but ever since I learned the term "jimmies" I use that a lot instead of "sprinkles" just because it's so fun to say.
@eatinwatermelonseeds a billion hugs to you. I can’t even imagine how you must be feeling.
@sleepy33 I’ve never heard of “rustle your jimmies”, but I kinda dig it and now I may need to start saying it. Or at least “disturb your sprinkles”.
I also hate BF’ing. Probably because I failed miserably at it. Like, so badly. I couldn’t even produce 1/4 oz. during a feed. I’m terrified to try again.
*TW*
Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
We had a date night last night and ordered this cooked sushi roll I saw on the restaurant’s Facebook page, and I didn’t realize it had seared ahi tuna in it. I ate it anyway, and it was delicious. I’m assuming as long as it’s not raw, it’s fine. 🤷🏼♀️
This may be super petty but my son's dad is military and has been underway for a while. During that time his wife has requested play dates for the kids twice and blew me off at the last minute both times. I just got a text from her only saying "today is the day" that's it. Ok? The day for what? And why do you think I should care at this point? I just want to ignore her and carry on with the rest of my work day/plans with my fiancé who is coming home from being gone the majority of the last month and a half.
For anyone wondering: breastfeeding is *supposed* to be easier second time around. Your body’s done it before and statistically, supply is quite a bit better. That being said, it’s still freaking hard and I was so jealous and disconnected from all the women I knew who loved breastfeeding and felt such a connection from it. It made me feel like I was...wrong. I would totally be in favor of a BFing support (or stopping BFing support) group here when the time comes.
@MaggieG183 I can’t believe they blamed you, that’s AWFUL! DS lost a lot of weight after birth and he struggled to gain it back. He stuck around the 1st/2nd percentile until he started solids and formula and many times he dropped off the chart completely. Our ped had me pump for a bit to see how much I was getting and it was enough (I only ever produced just enough, pumping extra was so difficult for me and so stressful when I wasn’t home and H was blowing through my agonizingly small freezer stash), he just wasn’t gaining. Luckily, our ped was really nice to me about it, saying since H and I are both fairly slim it’s likely part genetics keeping DS small. We also had a visiting nurse due to some issues at birth and she would weigh him before and after I ate and coordinate with the ped. We went for weight checks all the time, I had no idea why he wasn’t gaining and it was so stressful.
@msb615 we were talking to our OB about sushi at my appointment today lol. I asked about baked rolls and DH chimed in that we went the day we came home from the hospital with DD and haven't really had it in the year+ since and now it's all I talk about. Anyways, I'm sure it was a small amount of tuna. One of those every day would probably be bad, but it's not like you ate a tuna steak, either. I wonder if I can convince DH that we should get sushi for dinner? (edited b/c that needed a question mark, not just a period)
I think I just made up my mind to ditch A19 BMB. Why do I have such internet guilt? I have good reason. My EDD was adjusted to May 4th. Do I ghost? Goodbye cruel bump? I think too much.
@DuchessOfCambridge I love the idea of a breastfeeding/stopping breastfeeding support groups - I tried to find some on Facebook last time around, and it was really tough because I didn't have any connection to the group really, or the members. I don't know if that sounds weird.
DD born PPROM preemie at 36 weeks on 10/1/17 after over a year TI, then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW, because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
I think I just made up my mind to ditch A19 BMB. Why do I have such internet guilt? I have good reason. My EDD was adjusted to May 4th. Do I ghost? Goodbye cruel bump? I think too much.
@beccaneu It was so so good! Raw will always be my favorite though 💔
@kvh22 You always want what you can’t have! You should absolutely talk him into sushi. It was a small amount of tuna and mostly filled with other yummy things, so I don’t feel too guilty. My OB said everything in moderation. I’m a firm believer of that. 😂
@lovelybabybumpz this happened in my old BMB and people would just say they were moving because they felt more at the same speed as a different BMB. For example, a twin mom moved to the BMB ahead of us because she was going to deliver sooner and a mom due very late in the month prior moved to ours because she felt too far behind in hers. I think it’s nbd.
@mrsdee15 I get that! I also find a lot of those are really strongly DO EVERYTHING TO MAKE BREASTFEEDING HAPPEN or they are JUST USE FORMULA RIGHT THIS SECOND BREASTFEEDING IS LAME. I want me trying to be respected and supported, as well as my stopping should I decide that.
@lovelybabybumpz don’t feel bad ditching them! It’s more fun over here anyways. My due date was originally 04/25 and it got moved back two weeks. I just posted in the weekly group thread that it had been fun but I was moving of here.
Ivy: July 2010 | Stella: Dec 2012 | BFP#3: MMC at 11Wk's, July 2017 | Wyatt: April 2019 | BFP#5: Twin Girls due Sept 2020
@robyn2201@DuchessOfCambridge I was originally 4/27 or 4/28 I think. It sucked to "lose" a whole week of pregnancy when I've been counting down the days to hopefully feel better. I sort of justified staying in A19 because I may end up delivering early (potential RCS). I'm totally straddling that April/May line. Plus you guys have caremel225 and I don't wanna miss that ride.
On the topic of breastfeeding: Nursing DD1 was an effing nightmare. Agonizing pain. Giant wounds on me. Not enough milk for her. Pumping and supplementing around the clock. Tongue/Lip tie undiagnosed and not corrected until 5mos, and then horrible guilt for torturing her, etc. It wasn't healthy, and I definitely should have quit, but I wouldn't even have formula in the house for fear of "temptation"... ridiculous and unhealthy. It did eventually get easier, but it was incredibly rough and miserable on the way.
Nursing DD2 was much better. We had formula on hand just in case, but didn't end up needing it. DD2 was just better at nursing pretty much from the start. She got fat and grew fast, when DD1 was always a skinny mini. No rhyme or reason to it.
So please y'all, be kind to yourselves. If you want to give it another shot, go for it. If it's not for you, that's fine too, but whatever happens isn't something to blame yourself or feel guilty for... it might just work or not work for whatever random reason.
I feel like this is a FFFC, but maybe someone else out there feels the same. I don't feel any connection to this baby yet. I thought having an ultrasound would make a difference, but I had my first today, and I just felt neutral through the whole thing. Maybe it doesn't feel real because only DH knows? I've never been this disconnected before. I don't know if it has to do with having to say goodbye to two young foster children in the last few months and learning how to disconnect. But then again, maybe it just doesn't feel real because I haven't told anyone yet. Anyway, I feel guilty for not being totally excited from the start like I was with our other kids.
@fatmonica I don't feel that way this time, (at least not yet) but I did during my son's pregnancy (totally just wrote husband instead of son 😂). The first trimester is difficult to feel connected anyway. You don't feel the baby, it doesn't even look like a baby yet, you may be sick. No one knows. And you sound like you have a lot on your plate. Be kind to yourself. It will come. Mine was honestly off and on. I felt like an awful mother when I could feel his kicking and I just didn't feel anything emotionally. I turned out to be very depressed, and after got worse, so just keep an eye on it and be honest on your PQ9 sheets your doctor will give you throughout the pregnancy. You're not a bad mom. And I LOVE my kid so much. Nothing I felt during my pregnancy or honestly a little after at times hurt our relationship.
@robyn2201@lovelybabybumpz kind of jealous. I was so late with my son, I'm counting on at least a week over my due date this time. I have joked June, but I'm due May 13 and I'm not gonna put that evil on myself 😂
@robyn2201@DuchessOfCambridge I was originally 4/27 or 4/28 I think. It sucked to "lose" a whole week of pregnancy when I've been counting down the days to hopefully feel better. I sort of justified staying in A19 because I may end up delivering early (potential RCS). I'm totally straddling that April/May line. Plus you guys have caremel225 and I don't wanna miss that ride.
@robyn2201@DuchessOfCambridge I was originally 4/27 or 4/28 I think. It sucked to "lose" a whole week of pregnancy when I've been counting down the days to hopefully feel better. I sort of justified staying in A19 because I may end up delivering early (potential RCS). I'm totally straddling that April/May line. Plus you guys have caremel225 and I don't wanna miss that ride.
@eatinwatermelonseeds I was 4 days late with DD. But I had an emergency c-section, so I was able to wait for baby to come on her own time. I want Beta to cook as long as possible, but I imagine they schedule RCS before due dates so that your body doesn't have as much of a chance to go into labor on its own.
I just took an hour and a half nap and have gotten nothing done today except pick up something for my husband and eat burger King and tortilla chips until I got sick. Hubby asked me to clean one thing and I have cleaned nothing. Kid will be home in about 20 minutes. Maybe I can get him to help me clean 🤔 OR maybe I can get him to nap.
@lovelybabybumpz I wonder if they’ll take into account that you were 4 days late and schedule a week ahead of that point instead of 39 weeks. Wondering for myself also because I went into labor over a week early (DS ended up being born at exactly 39 Weeks). I’m likely having a RCS myself but my OB mentioned if I did, we’d schedule it for 39 weeks...but I went into labor before that last time 🤔 I’m sure it’ll get cleared up when I talk to her again but I’m curious what other Drs are doing.
@DuchessOfCambridge I'm super curious as well. I know it's a long way off, but I hope they take multiple factors into consideration, balancing safety and letting baby develop as long as possible. Heck, I wouldn't even mind having day-to-day checks towards the end to push back the C-section if possible, but I know that most OBs schedule them months out
So I will most likely have a June baby, but I'm not leaving here. I put my roots down and stay. EDD 5/30, but I'm putting my bets on 6/3 (our dating anniversary) or maybe I'll get lucky and go early (guessing 5/18 for that since its the classcl full moon and both DDs were born in a full moon).
My FFFC is that I don't like being at the end of this group. On my previous BMBs I was middle (12/14 DD) and beginning (4/6 DD). It stinks being behind everyone, and when HDBD starts I'll be significantly behind (but being my third I'm sure I'll still be showing plenty). Also having few symptoms, while everyone is talking about drowning in theirs (whether I get lucky and I don't get much or it's just early, we'll see, one had an easy pregnancy and a tough one) is hard because I get paranoid about why I don't feel very pregnant right now.
@imrachellea I agree with you. I’m just two days ahead of you and while I expect to go at least a week early I still don’t like feeling behind. The funny thing is, this timing is really perfect for us so I’d have a hard time if I was due earlier in the month 😂
So I've been reading to much and cant remember exactly who I'm responding tooo... lol I tried to breastfeed my first and gave up due to his weight loss.. my milk never came in, I was devastated and felt awful. So after 5 days old he was only formula fed (Pretty sure he had a lip tie). Ds2 came along and same issues popped up but I knew better and supplemented in a way that worked for me- no topping off but replaced a few feedings and then pumped to tell my body baby was hungry. He also got his lip tie lasered and after 3 weeks we had an easy wonderful bf-ing relationship until he was 2 1/2!
@eatinwatermelonseeds.. Jimmies and Bubbler all the way! I'm from MA and live in CT now
Re: FFFC 05/10
Also I am so sorry for all of your struggles with BFing your son. I hope this time around (if you choose to try again) is easier. The love for this baby will come too, the others were right. It multiplies. 💗
I hope, I so so so so so hope that it's easier the second time around. DS literally dropped from 48th percentile to 1st in 4 weeks and docs put the blame 100% on me. I was feeding him constantly and supplemented and pumped. They never could ID a tongue or lip tie either. Ugh, it was awful. Looking back, I should have shown them my growth chart my mom kept for me as a baby. It literally shows the exact same trend. I'm now 5'2" - a smidge short, but totally normal if you ask me. I always say now, that DS will make a great jockey some day.
That said I will admit that the board structure does have some draw backs. If I miss being able to come on to the board for a day or two, catching up can be an intimidating task. I often find myself wanting to reply to something that’s on, for example, page 3 of a thread, but the thread is already on page 7 so there’s really no way to easily reference that topic since it’s already so far in the past. I also feel like sometimes posts I make get buried because people are more engaged in talking about a topic that I have no experience with on the thread at the moment. Additionally the mobile version of the board makes it really difficult to do things like “@“ or quote people, making replying to specific people even more difficult.
That said, I still greatly prefer this board structure to other BMBs on other sites/apps. I like the sense of community it nurtures and I think the pros outweigh the cons. I’m not sure there really is a way to address any of the above issues without a board structure that has nested comments - and nested comments come with their own set of drawbacks as well.
TLDR; The Bump may not be perfect, but I still think it’s better the the alternatives
@eatinwatermelonseeds hugs! I'm sure that must be hard but you will love your children deeply no matter what! You might have different relationships with each of them but that's always going to be the case - challenges or not. I certainly have a different relationship than my siblings with my mom but I know she loves us all equally and unconditionally...even if I'm the favorite
While driving to WY to visit my in-laws, I waited for DS to fall asleep so I could eat the rest of his bagel.
And now that we’re at the in-laws place, I told H I have a really upset stomach (really I’m only a tiny bit nauseated), so I can take a nap. Yesssss.
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
@sleepy33 I’ve never heard of “rustle your jimmies”, but I kinda dig it and now I may need to start saying it. Or at least “disturb your sprinkles”.
I also hate BF’ing. Probably because I failed miserably at it. Like, so badly. I couldn’t even produce 1/4 oz. during a feed. I’m terrified to try again.
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
@MaggieG183 I can’t believe they blamed you, that’s AWFUL! DS lost a lot of weight after birth and he struggled to gain it back. He stuck around the 1st/2nd percentile until he started solids and formula and many times he dropped off the chart completely. Our ped had me pump for a bit to see how much I was getting and it was enough (I only ever produced just enough, pumping extra was so difficult for me and so stressful when I wasn’t home and H was blowing through my agonizingly small freezer stash), he just wasn’t gaining. Luckily, our ped was really nice to me about it, saying since H and I are both fairly slim it’s likely part genetics keeping DS small. We also had a visiting nurse due to some issues at birth and she would weigh him before and after I ate and coordinate with the ped. We went for weight checks all the time, I had no idea why he wasn’t gaining and it was so stressful.
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW,
because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
@kvh22 You always want what you can’t have! You should absolutely talk him into sushi. It was a small amount of tuna and mostly filled with other yummy things, so I don’t feel too guilty. My OB said everything in moderation. I’m a firm believer of that. 😂
@mrsdee15 I get that! I also find a lot of those are really strongly DO EVERYTHING TO MAKE BREASTFEEDING HAPPEN or they are JUST USE FORMULA RIGHT THIS SECOND BREASTFEEDING IS LAME. I want me trying to be respected and supported, as well as my stopping should I decide that.
I was originally 4/27 or 4/28 I think. It sucked to "lose" a whole week of pregnancy when I've been counting down the days to hopefully feel better. I sort of justified staying in A19 because I may end up delivering early (potential RCS). I'm totally straddling that April/May line.
Plus you guys have caremel225 and I don't wanna miss that ride.
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
Nursing DD1 was an effing nightmare. Agonizing pain. Giant wounds on me. Not enough milk for her. Pumping and supplementing around the clock. Tongue/Lip tie undiagnosed and not corrected until 5mos, and then horrible guilt for torturing her, etc. It wasn't healthy, and I definitely should have quit, but I wouldn't even have formula in the house for fear of "temptation"... ridiculous and unhealthy. It did eventually get easier, but it was incredibly rough and miserable on the way.
Nursing DD2 was much better. We had formula on hand just in case, but didn't end up needing it. DD2 was just better at nursing pretty much from the start. She got fat and grew fast, when DD1 was always a skinny mini. No rhyme or reason to it.
So please y'all, be kind to yourselves. If you want to give it another shot, go for it. If it's not for you, that's fine too, but whatever happens isn't something to blame yourself or feel guilty for... it might just work or not work for whatever random reason.
I was 4 days late with DD. But I had an emergency c-section, so I was able to wait for baby to come on her own time. I want Beta to cook as long as possible, but I imagine they schedule RCS before due dates so that your body doesn't have as much of a chance to go into labor on its own.
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
I'm super curious as well. I know it's a long way off, but I hope they take multiple factors into consideration, balancing safety and letting baby develop as long as possible. Heck, I wouldn't even mind having day-to-day checks towards the end to push back the C-section if possible, but I know that most OBs schedule them months out
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
Jimmies are the straight pieces, non pareil and crystal like sprinkles are sprinkles...native Philadelphian here, that's how it will always be for me.
Also, I moved to the land where they say "pop" (my doctor said it in my appt yesterday) and I want to scream every time. It's SODA.
My FFFC is that I don't like being at the end of this group. On my previous BMBs I was middle (12/14 DD) and beginning (4/6 DD). It stinks being behind everyone, and when HDBD starts I'll be significantly behind (but being my third I'm sure I'll still be showing plenty). Also having few symptoms, while everyone is talking about drowning in theirs (whether I get lucky and I don't get much or it's just early, we'll see, one had an easy pregnancy and a tough one) is hard because I get paranoid about why I don't feel very pregnant right now.
I tried to breastfeed my first and gave up due to his weight loss.. my milk never came in, I was devastated and felt awful. So after 5 days old he was only formula fed (Pretty sure he had a lip tie). Ds2 came along and same issues popped up but I knew better and supplemented in a way that worked for me- no topping off but replaced a few feedings and then pumped to tell my body baby was hungry. He also got his lip tie lasered and after 3 weeks we had an easy wonderful bf-ing relationship until he was 2 1/2!
@eatinwatermelonseeds.. Jimmies and Bubbler all the way! I'm from MA and live in CT now