I know DH has a cold, but I swear if I hear him cough one more time, the daggers in my eyes will actually stab him in his annoying throat. I do love him though and hopes he feels better
@elmich3 that is so unbelievably heartbreaking for your sister and your family. Sending hugs your way. I wish I had more advice, I lost two in the first trimester and honestly the only thing that helped me was talking through it when I needed to. Don't pressure her to talk about it, but if she needs to, just be able to listen and let her know that you are there for her to lean on if need be. I went deeply inward during my grief and nothing really helped pull me out of it except for time.
@suchagoodone I haven't had Invisalign for 4 years or so but I wear my retainer one night, off two nights, repeat. That's now. I used to wear it every other night. I would ask your oath.
@elmich3 it's really hard to lose a child (obviously). I would keep being there for here but know that it might take her awhile to talk about it. Don't push her to talk about it. I've had a loss and my SIL had a loss after we found out I was pregnant. I finally asked her what she was ok with so I would not knowingly upset her. Give it a few weeks to a month and then talk to her about what her boundaries are.
@mrstmooseI saw that, too. Apparently posting bumpies is the best way to get to know each other, even if we don’t post our faces?? We still have some newbies trickling in here, but I’ve been posting for nearly 6-7 weeks now. I think we are getting to know each other just fine!
How tf is seeing people's stomachs getting to know them, that's what I want to know.. like... aside from seeing mirror backgrounds and what clothes you all wear, most people edit their faces out anyways! Like weeks ago I did suggest we should have a mini bump thread just because I love them and I'm obsessed with pregnancy things, but I certainly never suggested it because we weren't getting to know each other fast enough.. Like criticize us for being shy or whatever but we aren't getting to know each other well enough? Wow okay M19.
@angelob88@mrstmoose thank you so much for the input, it really helped. I saw her yesterday and hadn't seen her since she gave birth. I didnt ask anything and just let her talk about random other things. I'm sure everyone treats her different right now so I let her know I'm here, and we talked with a hint of normalcy which I hope was nice for her.
March does have a HDBD thread....It's slow at work and I'm a major lurker. May is a dumpster fire. I can't look away. I just think it's funny, especially early on, what some people call a bump. Maybe it looks huge to you but not to a random person. I looked back at a pic I sent at the beginning of my last pregnancy to my sister and friends saying how much I was showing. It's the tiniest little bump ever. I get we're all excited but that's bloat and food. Chill.
Me: 31 H: 36 L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@mermaidca, yep, that's why I haven't jumped in on the bump thread yet. As huge and gross as I feel, I'm sure the average person still thinks my stomach looks the same. It's also for sure 90% bloat because it's back to mostly flat in the mornings, lol.
Someone in M19 said she didn’t want to post a bump pic til she knew the group better, and the reply was that with the photo cropped it was practically anonymous. Is this not the same group that had an extensive discussion on the catfisher in J14?? Shouldn’t they be worried about randos grabbing the photo off the internet because this is totally open to the world?
Someone in M19 said she didn’t want to post a bump pic til she knew the group better, and the reply was that with the photo cropped it was practically anonymous. Is this not the same group that had an extensive discussion on the catfisher in J14?? Shouldn’t they be worried about randos grabbing the photo off the internet because this is totally open to the world?
That is actually something I worry about. I probably won't post bump pics often because of that. I don't know what someone would want with a cropped pic, but yes, they could totally take it.
@lyse01 ditto. On the BMB I was part of years ago, there was a HUGE melt down and some babycenter people came over (who knew there was a rivalry?). They threatened to unleash some doxing group on the bmb and reveal everyone's identity to the internet. They even implied they'd get people to find home phone numbers and work info and harass members and craaaazy stuff. Totally freaked me out. I deleted my entire account and didn't come back until recently. It's why I don't have a post history before about the last 5 months, even though I was here years ago. But still, everything is cached on the internet, so nothing is really gone forever. Totally makes you paranoid.
@professormama@lyse01 I'll join the paranoid club with you guys. I don't post any bump pictures at all, even though I love the HDBD thread and seeing all of the cute bellies.
@professormama if I could gif, right now it would be an expression of shock. That sounds like such.a.dumpster.fire. No wonder you deleted your account!
@professormama if I could gif, right now it would be an expression of shock. That sounds like such.a.dumpster.fire. No wonder you deleted your account!
Yeah, it was basically the most insane shit ever. I will never trust the internet again. And I mean, I never had posted my face. But if someone worked REALLY hard I'm sure they could have figured out my IP address or something and tracked me down. Plus, I mean, over the course of 9 months I figured I had let slip all kinds of information about myself that some really incredibly creepy and persistent person could have put all together and figured out who I was and where I was.
It’s not so much paranoia on my part as, like, I am REALLY good at doing open source research on people. DH has some estranged half-sibs...it took me about 45 min to find all the social media profiles of his family and tell him his nephew was engaged and another few hours to get his sister-in-law’s phone number. I try to limit what I things I put out here to things that I’d be comfortable telling people in a bar, or that are pretty innocuous for a pregnant lady.
@professormama I hate baby center. I just found out its owned by Johnson and Johnson. They somehow trick their members into signing up their email addresses with due date calculator that stores the info and without permission they send women welcome boxes. My friend just had a stillborn and she got one in the mail. She never signed up for it or gave her address and has no idea how they got her home address. It's a huge outcry in my IG community. I'll never trust them and I guess I'll look for my own welcome box for my angel baby who was due next month.
@kaleesi93 oh man I wish I had known that because I think I have an account there. I'm sorry for your friend, I can't imagine how hard that was for her to arrive on her doorstep so unexpectedly.
It is horrible and shameful, I signed up for babycenter when I found out I was pregnant earlier this year and after I miscarried I just didn't have the heart to go back and delete it even if I never posted anything, also babycenter makes it extremely difficult to delete an account. For all the hundreds of moms chiming in to say "me too" there were a few who said they never recieved anything from babycenter so idk what determines who gets the dumb welcome packages and who doesn't.
Well shit on a stick. I went to open my LAST sample bottle of nausea meds today. I noticed the pills were white and not pink. I guess the nurse gave me the wrong ones and I’ve been taking double the dose the bottle says to. Cool, well my kid might come out with a few extra limbs.....
Not sure if it was on here that I mentioned the Amazon/Babylist welcome boxes, but wanted to update with what I got!
The Amazon box had a full size bib, a muslin swaddle, a bottle, a 50 pack of huggies wipes, along with numerous sample wipes and diapers (including a little Pampers zipper pouch with a diaper and wipes), plus a few coupons. Totally worth making a registry and buying a $10 onesie off of it to get the welcome box.
The Babylist box had a pacifier, a Mam bottle, the same Pampers zipper pouch with wipes/a diaper, sample baby wash and shampoo, sample nipple cream, and coupons.
Driving myself and BF crazy because I ordered Kelp because my diet isn't high in iodine, and I thought it was 100mcg capsules but it's 400 and I don't know if kelp OD is a thing and there's not much info online other than to say 190mcg is the recommended pregnancy dose. Wtf do they sell 400mcg pills then. Ugh. I don't want to take them.. but I wasted like $20 and I'm really angry.
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@elmich3 it's really hard to lose a child (obviously). I would keep being there for here but know that it might take her awhile to talk about it. Don't push her to talk about it. I've had a loss and my SIL had a loss after we found out I was pregnant. I finally asked her what she was ok with so I would not knowingly upset her. Give it a few weeks to a month and then talk to her about what her boundaries are.
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Like weeks ago I did suggest we should have a mini bump thread just because I love them and I'm obsessed with pregnancy things, but I certainly never suggested it because we weren't getting to know each other fast enough..
Like criticize us for being shy or whatever but we aren't getting to know each other well enough? Wow okay M19.
May is a dumpster fire. I can't look away.
I just think it's funny, especially early on, what some people call a bump. Maybe it looks huge to you but not to a random person. I looked back at a pic I sent at the beginning of my last pregnancy to my sister and friends saying how much I was showing. It's the tiniest little bump ever. I get we're all excited but that's bloat and food. Chill.
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
No one needs to see my constipated gut yet
Also why TF does May care? They don't have enough drama over there they have to bring more people in it?
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
It's a huge outcry in my IG community. I'll never trust them and I guess I'll look for my own welcome box for my angel baby who was due next month.
@kaleesi93 that's terrible and shameful of them.
For all the hundreds of moms chiming in to say "me too" there were a few who said they never recieved anything from babycenter so idk what determines who gets the dumb welcome packages and who doesn't.
Sadly it it didn’t happen.
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Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014
BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
The Amazon box had a full size bib, a muslin swaddle, a bottle, a 50 pack of huggies wipes, along with numerous sample wipes and diapers (including a little Pampers zipper pouch with a diaper and wipes), plus a few coupons. Totally worth making a registry and buying a $10 onesie off of it to get the welcome box.
The Babylist box had a pacifier, a Mam bottle, the same Pampers zipper pouch with wipes/a diaper, sample baby wash and shampoo, sample nipple cream, and coupons.
I don't want to take them.. but I wasted like $20 and I'm really angry.
BFP: 1/26/20 | EDD: 9/20/20