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What number are you trying for?
Month/Cycle?
WTO/TWW?
Ages of other child(ren)?
Any thoughts about this cycle?
Any questions?
Rant/Rave/Brag:
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be?
Re: TFAS w/o 8/27
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 4/4
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 15 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? Hoping for good timing
Any questions? Not today!
Rant/Rave/Brag: A few things. DS cried when I dropped him off at “school” today. He hasn’t done that in months! He is in a new classroom, so I’m sure he’s still getting used to that. Also, last month was (obviously) a bust. AF came a whole week early!! I was/am still completely flummoxed.
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be? I have to choose either commuting to work or making dinner/meal prepping for the family. Both are really time consuming. Although if I didn’t have to commute I’d prolly enjoy cooking a bit more!What number are you trying for? #2
Month/Cycle? 4/4
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 11 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? Just O already! lol
Any questions? Does it seem selfish to want to wean quickly so that I will have a better chance at getting pregnant? Sometimes I really really want to, and then I feel incredibly guilty for thinking that way.
Rant/Rave/Brag: I sent daycare a sippy cup with BM for DD today, so we'll see how she does! I'm hoping to be off bottles by 12 months, and then I can start adding a little bit of cow's milk with each cup.
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be? Doing the dishes!
@lillywonderland - I almost chose cooking, because it's so time consuming, but some days I actually enjoy it.
What number are you trying for? 3
Month/Cycle? 13
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? DS 3.5 and DD is 2
Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm not overly optimistic. This will be my first cycle trying since a MMC and D&C last month. But I'll go through the motions and see what happens.
Any questions? Nope.
Rant/Rave/Brag: Both kids started a new classroom at "school." DD loves it, but DS is having a tougher time. He's pretty adverse to change, so it takes him a while to warm up. He is shy and having a hard time telling his teachers when he needs to go to the bathroom. I'm hoping he's past that this week...
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be? Cleaning. In all forms. Dishes, laundry, etc. I actually like cleaning, but it's just so hard to do more than surface cleaning with two toddlers and a full time job.@lillywonderland I hate doing drop off just for that reason! When they cry it breaks my heaet. Now I make my husband do drop off and I pick them up, so I get to be the hero.
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 2/2
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? Two in two weeks
Any thoughts about this cycle? Ugh, I’ve spotted all but one day of my luteal phase and cramped for half. I’m so ready for this cycle to be over.
Any questions? How to get him to talk more. He understands most everything and will take directions but he is a pretty quiet kid with not a ton of words and only a few sentences. I'm going to bring it up at his next doctor's appointment.
Rant/Rave/Brag: My mom stayed with us Wednesday – Sunday as it was daycare week out. It was nice being able to parent light lol. My little guy absolutely adores his grandma and confession I get a big jelly. I so wish we could move back to our hometown but that is super unlikely. I have told H if somehow we have twins we are moving back home asap no matter what. Parenting without support is hard.
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be?
Feeding him! He is not a good eater, veggies are impossible and some days I have no idea how he survives. H is at more aggressive about it and this causes so much more stress and friction. We don’t really let him eat crap but so many carbs. I also hate having to pack a lunch and snack every day for daycare.
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 3/3
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 2y
Any thoughts about this cycle? Well, I'm counting the fact that AF came as a nice consolation prize...not pregnant, but I did ovulate!! Used to have wickedly irregular cycles. Started temping for this cycle (temped first time this morning), and am realizing that this will be much more difficult with my toddler than when I temped previously. Sometimes I sleep in her bed, sometimes in mine, sometimes I switch in the middle of the night...do I just keep moving my thermometer with me? Ha.
Any questions? not right now
Rant/Rave/Brag: Kiddo has been so affectionate and fun recently, but is also biting at daycare, so....not sure what's up, other than just TODDLER
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be? Commuting. hands down. I hate driving, but LOVE where we live and don't want to move closer to work.and with food, I'm right there with you. it was a struggle until my son was 3 and even so he has a hard time sitting still that long. best tips were to serve things family style, a la carte, and add in fresh fruits and veggie as options, since they seem to come off as less intimidating. good luck
@marebear15 it's great that you've BF until 11 months! i don't think that's selfish at all, around a year kiddos start transition to more solids and regular meals anyway
@lillywonderland @ruby696 @lcking82 good luck this cycle!
What number are you trying for? #2
Month/Cycle? 1/1
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? 4
Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm convinced it's probably not successful, even with OK timing, because of all the added supplements and herbs I've been having to take for this UTI. I may test on Friday, depending on cervical position.
Any questions? nope!
Rant/Rave/Brag: My sister is in town with her H and two boys. I'm really glad they are visiting but I'm feeling a little rundown. They decided to make a last minute trip to the beach this morning and I'm relieved that I can just veg out around the house for a few hours.
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be? All the supplements.@marebear15 Great job BFing until now! Do whatever you feel is right for you family. It is not selfish at all to want to stop BFing to TTC. BFing is such a huge commitment and you’ve done it longer than most people!
@ruby696 I lol’d at your “being the hero” statement. I also love the school in quotations. People at work think I’m crazy because I call it school, not daycare. They stare at me and look all confused since they know DS is still tiny!
@jhems776 I’m glad you had a little bit of a break from parenting. It does get rough day in and day out!
@Icking82 Great positive spin on things! I hope this coming cycle will be more regular for you!
@mamanbebe I hope you start to feel better quite soon. It must be so frustrating to deal with a UTI on top of TTC (which is stressful enough on its own!).
@mamanbebe and @jhems776 Veggies are hard. If you have space, we found that planting a garden really helped get the kids to eat veggies. They are so excited to see the plants grow and they love harvesting. We have a raised garden bed and also a couple pallets hung on the fence for herbs and strawberries. That works great for small spaces.
Also @jhems776, we started telling our kids they can eat what's on their plate or not, it's up to them. It has cut down the stress at mealtimes and actually has made them better eaters. If they ask for more food later, we offer them a chance to finish what's left on their plates. It only took one or two times before they realized they weren't going to get a yogurt or something later, before they started eating most, if not all, of their dinner. And I always make sure there are one or two things on their plates I know they like.
@lillywonderland I feel like my period is completely normal UNTIL I start TTC and then it gets all wonky.
@marebear15 not selfish at all, and not very early, either!
@ruby696 good luck with "school!" Transitions are hard.
@jhems776 solidarity. Our families live 2,000 miles away. Parenting without support is kind of cool sometimes but also really blows.
@lcking82 yay for having O'd!
@mamanbebe enjoy your day "off!"
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 3/3
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 2
Any thoughts about this cycle? Nope, except that I don't want it to happen this month or next so even though we won't be preventing, I'm not going to freak out about it either. In case you're wondering, it's just because I don't want another June baby.
Any questions? No
Rant/Rave/Brag: My kid has decided she hates wearing diapers but also doesn't want to sit on the potty so yeah... that's great. She also loves to get up in the middle of the night and play. Thank god she's still in a crib.
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be? I agree with cleaning in any form! I hate cleaning.@mamanbebe I think I'm just a butthead about sharing my birthday with other people so I assume other people would feel the same way. It's my hangup, but I can't seem to get past it!
Sorry to P&G. I'm at my company's conference pumping in the handicap bathroom with a manual pump.
@marebear15 wean whenever you want to! I know moms who weaned at 6 months or 8 months b/c they wanted their body back and didn't like pumping, or SAHMs who just didn't like BFing. I considered weaning to try to get my period back but then got it.
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 2/1
WTO/TWW? Might be TWW finally! CD 39 today but had a big temp shift yesterday that stayed this morning.
Ages of other child(ren)? 1
Any thoughts about this cycle? I was going to be so mad If I O'd tomorrow because of this conference but it would be perfect if I actually O'd yesterday. we BD'ed 3x in my FW if I did.
Any questions? Anyone care to see if they think I O'ed? I'm still having some creamy CM
https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/684beb
Rant/Rave/Brag: I miss my baby and DH does not like solo-parenting at all, but I love this conference.
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be? Hmm commute? I do work from home most days, though. So maybe cleaning? Not that I do that daily but I should.I can’t help with the CM though because I was on gross progesterone suppositories haha
@kvh22 - I think you O'ed!
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 2/2
WTO/TWW? WTO- CD 1..ugh
Ages of other child(ren)? 1
Any thoughts about this cycle? Just buckling myself in for another long-ish road. We're only trying for 3 months on our own this time before we go back to the RE. 1 month down, 2 to go, so I guess I'm not overly optimistic about this cycle.
Any questions? Not yet
Rant/Rave/Brag: DH is out of a town at a conference this week so it's just me and DS. And work is super busy which makes it tough, plus CD 1 for the cherry on top. Excited for the long weekend coming up!
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be? Yes..also cleaning! It's the worst when you get home from a busy day and you have so much to pick up and put away!Okay: my DD is biting at daycare (she's 2). It turns out, it's ONE KID that she bites over and over. And, he's like the smallest one in the class and the least verbal. Guys...I don't know what to do about my little bully. WHY is she biting the tiny kid? AAACKKK.
If it makes you feel any better, around that age my son threw a fork across the room and it bounced off my husband's glasses. It was so stealth it looked like a prison-style attack. He also used to just walk up and smack or punch us. And then there was the time he dropped a gigantic beef bone (from the dog) on my head while I was on the phone. Frustration from not being communicate well rears its ugly head in so many ways.
@lcking82 - I might enjoy keeping the morning or night feed, but I'm just so tired of pumping! I also would enjoy sleeping a solid night more frequently. DD has only STTN a handful of times.
Hello! I am going to slip in here and introduce myself! I was a member here in 2015/2016 under a different SN while I was trying for my first. Took 6 cycles and this group was great to help get me through that! I now have a 21 mo daughter and my cycle just returned. I am still BFing, so I have no idea what my new cycle will look like. I am temping with a Tempdrop and using FF to chart. Hopefully things will return to normal and I can get this show on the road!
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 1/1
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 21 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? It’s my first cycle postpartum. Took 21 months for it to come back!
Any questions? Not right now
Rant/Rave/Brag: I am raving that my cycle finally decided to return and I could rejoin the TTC world! Now I am just waiting to see when I will ovulate!
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be? Washing dishes! I love to cook, but it feels like the dishes never end.What number are you trying for? 3
Month/Cycle? 4
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 6 & 3
Any thoughts about this cycle? the boys and I will be out of town this who weekend and DH works 2p-2a for the next 6 days, so I am not sure if we will manage to hit my FW this month.
Any questions?
Rant/Rave/Brag: Yesterday was DS1 bday and it was so enjoyable! He is such a sweet baby, he told me he didn't want to turn 6 because that meant he was growing up and he never wanted to be a grown up, he just wanted to stay a momma's baby forever! Thanks for the good cry!
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be? Making lunches for school. Worst ever,@g8rmama_16: Welcome!
@mamanbebe: well the good news is that there was NO BITING yesterday! Hooray! Now this morning at daycare she had a major tantrum, but I'll celebrate the victory yesterday!
@lillywonderland I feel like I’ve been recommending this to everyone lately lol, but the Mealime app is great for quick meal all 30-40 minutes. Occasionally a bit longer if it takes you long to chop.
@marebear15 wean when you’re ready. Only you know what’s best for you. What everyone else thinks doesn’t matter.
@jhems776 just keep talking to him. I’ve always tried to explain everything things were doing. Books helped with DS he wasn’t a big talker either until 2.5 or so. Now he never stops.
@kvh22 I agree with FF spotted lines
@wishiwaspreggo choking is my #1 fear, even as a medical professional. Sorry he gave you such a scare, I’m sure he was scared to eat again.
@g8rmama_16 Welcome, Good Luck on your journey.
@klmcguire HBD DS!!!
HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
Tickers
What number are you trying for? 2 biological, 4 overall
Month/Cycle?3/3(been trying since May 2017 though)
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? DS=3.5, DSS-20 DSD-16
Any thoughts about this cycle? Not to optimistic been having pre AF cramps
Any questions? Those with older, any advice for the transition into preschool. I’ve been a SAHM until this year and now it’s preschool two days and with grandma two days when I work. He hates change and I’m dreading a meltdown next week. Also dreading when he realizes this is the new normal that drop off is going to become a nightmare.
Rant/Rave/Brag: See above I guess
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be? Dishes...I love to cook but get sooooo tired of dishes and cleaning the kitchen in general. Let’s face it I really just hate to clean.HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
Tickers
What number are you trying for? #2
Month/Cycle? 1/2
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 10 month DD-ex micro preemie. Born at 25 weeks.
Any thoughts about this cycle? AF is very heavy and painful this time around, could be my body knows I'm TTC and is angry with me!
Any questions? Not really, yet.
Rant/Rave/Brag: Can't think of anything except for I am super sleepy and have too much work to do with no time to nap (stay-at-home-mom) My LO keeps me busy from other important things.
GTKY: If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be?I would actually add something if I could; it would be to be able to take my dog out for a daily walk.
@wishiwaspreggo woohoo! I’m so excited your IVF process is starting!! I’m sorry that you had such a rough week with DS, but I’m so glad it all turned out okay!
@kindbytealikat No help here, just hugs. Working transitions are tough for the little people and the big people. I hope you guys get used to your new normal quickly and with as little tears as possible! Also, thanks for the app suggestion! I’m always looking for new and quick recipes!
@klmcguire Awww - your DS is so sweet. I hope you guys are able to find time this month during your FW.
@g8rmama_16 Welcome! I hope your time here is short and sweet.
@mrsjqg1024 Keep your chin up lady! CD1 sucks, so it’s okay to feel mad/sad/angry.
@ottergirl81 Ugh. I feel you on the PP periods. Not gonna lie, I’m super excited to get KU just so I don’t have to have a period for a super long time (and you know...for the new family member, baby snuggles and smells and lifelong love and stuff!).