Weekly Questions w.o 8/5

justaplainbagel · August 2018

Hey ladies! We are all trickling in but let's get a question thread going since we are all newly pregnant!

kangstadt · August 2018

Is anyone else already thinking about how they will announce? I think I've finally settled on a plan, although the best feedback I can get from DH is, "sure, I guess."

**edited** I apologize for being insensitive to any ladies pregnant after a loss. I tend to overanalyze and plan way too much, so I had this idea before even finding out we were expecting. If anyone is interested, here's my announcement idea!

I come from a big family (youngest of 8, my parents have 17 grandkids between all of us), and I have a 4-yo DS. Last August we went to the beach for my parent's 50th anniversary, and we took a picture of all the grandkids wearing the number grandchild shirt they are. I want DS to give my parents a onesie with a number 18 on it and let them figure it out

. Then for my siblings, I'll probably take a picture with DS holding a onesie that says "New to the cousin crew."

Our "public," announcement will probably be DS in a Player One: Ready shirt and a onesie that says Player Two: Now Loading next to him

. DH and I are both video/board game nerds, and yes, I'm just a bit too obsessed with Pinterest for my own good, haha.

Sorry for the novel, I'm excited to get past the first tri and be able to tell everyone! I'm excited and terrible at secrets, haha.

justaplainbagel · August 2018

@kangstadt that's a cute idea!

I have already told my parents but then again my mom knows when I'm acting weird or lying...plus saying no to wine in their home is a questionable offence so. Plus it's good to have some support early on.
But I've been thinking about how to tell my mil. Which my DH wants to wait til after a heartbeat and closer to maybe 11 or 12 weeks. Shes a huge blabber mouth and wont be able to keep it in before we formally announce to everyone.
I think as far as telling everyone goes, I havent gotten there yet. I think after suffering a loss a couple of months ago has me waiting before I invest too much thought and planning. I'm not a big showy person so it will be simple probably.

kangstadt · August 2018

@nottodaysatan, so sorry for your loss. I didn't realize how insensitive my post might be to PGAL ladies.

justaplainbagel · August 2018

@kangstadt hey its no worries, atleast for me. I'm not sure how other women feel about stuff. I've done my grieving, I've grown and understand. I want to be right there with ya, hopefully soon! ❤

kangstadt · August 2018

@nottodaysatan, also, I totally agree with not telling your MIL until later. I know my MIL will not keep her mouth shut either once she knows!

MRDCle · August 2018

@nottodaysatan I told my parents yesterday because I refused a wine slushee and they were giving me weird looks. Similarly I will probably end up telling all my SILs and MIL on Sunday when we take a mini trip. My SIL who is heading up the trip was texting us about which wines and other booze we all prefer.

socks2819 · August 2018

@kangstadt I love those ideas! And wow, it must be cool to be part of such a large family.

I have a 4 year old DD and a 21 month old DD so my thought is to have a picture of my older daughter “teaching” my younger daughter at a blackboard that says “big sister training”

And no, not crazy to think about this stuff at all! I hate the waiting period. Drives me crazy lying to people!

kangstadt · August 2018

@MRDCle, mmm, a slushie sounds good right about now, even minus the wine! I hope your trip goes well! Anything special planned?

@socks2819, aww, that'll be cute! And yes, I think this is almost as bad as the two week wait for a BFP!

50Wife · August 2018

We already told our parents and siblings (ok and I blabbed to a few close friends). They knew when our transfer was, so it was only a matter of time until they were going to ask questions. We told them my bloodwork was today since it was actually Friday so at least we were able to surprise them. My mom cried for an hour

As far as going public with it, I'd love to do something like this

angelob88 · August 2018

Those ideas sound great!

I'm not planning anything crazy. My parents already know and my dad decided to blab to half the family. With two early losses before DD I wanted to wait it out for awhile but apparently that wasn't' ok with him. Hormones are making me bitter about it. I may just do something on a chalk board that says "big sister to be" with DD next to it and take a picture to post online. Simple enough but gets the point across.

socks2819 · August 2018

Love it @50Wife and the sincerest congrats!

dani2989 · August 2018

We are waiting til after our first appointment next week. My birthday is at the end of this month, so I'll be going to see my mom for that and I'll tell her then. We'll tell his parents after that. I'm still undecided how I'll do either. His extended family does big trip to the mountains in a few weeks, so I'm planning to show up in a mama bear shirt and see how long it takes.

MRDCle · August 2018

What I trying to figure out is when/how to tell my son. I definitely wanna wait till after our first appointment but boy is it tough.

kangstadt · August 2018

@dani2989, I want to tell my parents around my birthday this month also, but I'll be barely 8 weeks then (and probably won't have an ultrasound done that early). It's so hard to wait!

@MRDCle, ahh, I totally agree! I know he'll be a blabbermouth about it, so DH and I have decided to tell him right before we publicly announce, but it's so hard. DH and I talk "in code," but he's a pretty intuitive kid so I'll be surprised if he doesn't put it together before 12 weeks.

dapoint23 · August 2018

I actually tell my close friends first and try to tell my parents and siblings in a fun way

socks2819 · August 2018

@MRDCle We accidentally spilled the beans to our 4 year old DD, but she didn't seem to catch on. She is a super talker so I'm hoping to hold off until after we know everything is okay after our first appointment. But, good lord, it is so hard to wait!

luckywife10 · August 2018

How do you keep from rolling onto your back while sleeping? I usually sleep on my side and didn't have a problem adjusting to only sleeping on my side during my last pregnancy. Now, I wake up at least 5 times a night and find myself on my back. I don't want to buy a big body pillow or pregnancy pillow.

MRDCle · August 2018

@luckywife10 I slept on my back basically my entire last pregnancy. My doctor told me that if I roll on my back during sleep, my body will wake itself up before anything negative would occur. I had such bad acid reflux I couldn't sleep anyway other than an my back propped up by a few pillows.

luckywife10 · August 2018

@MRDCle Ah good to know. I had horrible acid reflux as well, not looking forward to that again. I also found it hard to stay away from spicy food, which made the reflux worse.

MRDCle · August 2018

@luckywife10 yeah I LOVE spicy so it was hard for me as well. The only things that "worked" which helped sporadically at best was Pepcid, staying upright, and not drinking anything while I ate. I guess the more solid the food stayed while it was in my stomach the better.

berky84 · August 2018

Yeah. @luckywife10 Everything I've read and been told is that rolling on your back once your asleep is fine and you'd wake up before anything bad happened. Just try to fall asleep on your side. And this early the uterus etc isn't heavy enough to put any real pressure on that vein yet. When you're bigger I'd use a pregnancy pillow or put a pillow behind your back. That worked well for me with my first and I'm a back sleeper by nature

mels823 · August 2018

I had a friend make up some cute shirts for my girls (3 and 2). One says "big sister professional" and the other says "big sister in training"! We are going on a family vaca with my parents and my in laws at the end of the month, so we plan to have the girls wear their shirts then. Although... getting into my bathing suit today with my 3 year old standing next to me in the bathroom as I change... she shouts... "WOW mom your tummy is big! It's GROWING!". Mind you, she has no idea I'm pregnant. The 6 week bloat is LEGIT.

so we may not make it that long.

I'm going to try to wait until after that to tell everyone else although it's looking fairly obvious already.

kangstadt · August 2018

Other than boob soreness, is anyone else getting bigger boobs already? I feel like it's way too early, but measured my bust cause I was curious last night and it's an inch bigger than usual... Bah. Looks like I'll need new bras sooner rather than later.

kangstadt · August 2018

Also, @mels823, don't you love kids and their honesty?

MRDCle · August 2018

@kangstadt YES. Bigger and they feel so much heavier.

justaplainbagel · August 2018

@kangstadt me too! I had little twinges all day the past few days and this morning they are huge and sore

kangstadt · August 2018

@MRDCle, ugh, hormones are insane! It's crazy to think something the size of a poppy seed is making all these other changes happen.

scp2585 · August 2018

@kangstadt YES. I thought it was much too early but I can feel a difference in my bras for sure.

socks2819 · August 2018

@mels823 The things that come out of our kids' mouths. I love the t-shirt idea. I did something similar when announcing my second pregnancy to my parents. They loved it. And I'm right there with you on the bloat. I am trying to do the whole eat smaller, more frequent meals thing to see if that helps. I think I'm slightly less bloated, but I'm still constipated, so c'est la vie.

socks2819 · August 2018

Okay ladies, talk to me about genetic testing. I'm super old now (35 gasp!) and just had my paperwork nurse appointment at my OB this morning where they go over all the genetic testing options. I have declined them all in the past and don't have any family history of issues or issues with previous pregnancies. I am skipping the diagnostic tests (amnio, etc), but considering the cell test that is half blood work and an ultrasound done between 10 and 13 weeks that looks for things like chromosone abnormalities, down syndrome, gender defects, etc. Any thoughts on getting this done vs not? I would never terminate a pregnancy, which is why we never got them done before, but since risks go up with age, I'm considering it now. And to be honest, how much it will cost me after insurance is certainly a factor, unfortunately. I'll be finding that out soon. I welcome any feedback!

angelob88 · August 2018

@socks2819 If you wouldn't terminate a pregnancy I wouldn't see a need to go into a test like that unless you want advance notice of something that could go wrong. But a lot of that stuff I think you would see at your anatomy scan around 20 weeks if you are choosing to get that done. It's all personal preference and even at 35 the odds might be higher but I think they are still pretty low.

MRDCle · August 2018

@socks2819 we had it done last time because we had some soft markers for Downs on our first US. It was covered through insurance which was nice but the peace of mind was helpful. I think it’s pretty personal - if something did come up would you rather know now or not dwell on the whole pregnancy?

professormama · August 2018

@socks2819 I did the blood test with my first pregnancy, and I fully plan to do it again with this pregnancy even if I have to pay for it out of pocket. My attitude with these things is that even if you wouldn't terminate a pregnancy, knowledge is power. I'd rather know in advance, as much as possible, if my child is going to have any major medical complications or issues that I might need to prepare for. If I knew my child was going to face major surgery, or life long complications, I could change my financial planning according, read books, and generally educate myself so that I'm prepared. I feel like, by knowing as much as I possibly can, I'm giving my child the best possible start that I can provide. Basically, I'm a huge fan of being proactive.

socks2819 · August 2018

Thanks ladies @angelob88 @MRDCle @professormama
I agree the chances of seeing something are likely slim, but I am a planner by nature. I think the peace of mind is important and to your point @professormama being able to prepare in case anything abnormal did come up.
Is it also bad to admit I like the idea of being able to find out the gender so early? Haha. To look to the brighter side....

professormama · August 2018

@socks2819 ummm we definitely want to find out the sex of our baby asap! Not because it matters really, but because we are dying of curiosity!

kaleesi93 · August 2018

@kangstadt I love your idea so so much!
I'm planning to tell my family when we're all here at my house for a birthday reunion, but I keep going back and forth on whether to surprise my brother, since we are super close, or tell him beforehand.. i just have so much anxiety about offending someone lol
I know we are talking about a lot of things at once, but if it's okay, can you all chime in and tell me what supplements you're taking?
I'm on megafood prenatal, probiotics, vitamin d3 and DHA complex, I'm so nervous there's something else I need to take and I'll show up to my appointment and be like um.. what?

MRDCle · August 2018

@kaleesi93 I’m just taking a PNV, extra folic acid, and a baby aspirin.

gollygeeitsamy · August 2018

@kaleesi93 it sounds like what you are taking is perfect. I remember my OB last time saying that she wanted me on something that include DHA, folic acid, vitamin d3, and iron (I'm probably forgetting others). She said she didn't recommend gummy prenatal vitamins because they don't have iron. I do know that some types of probiotics can help prevent yeast infections which some people can be more susceptible to during pregnancy. I think those are probably more for your overall health than the baby.

professormama · August 2018

@kaleesi93 I take a vitafusion gummy right now, and I'll probably be started on baby aspirin at my appointment this Friday (pregnancy induced hypertension last time). I'm guessing the doc will also recommend iron and extra vitamin D (again, based on last pregnancy).

MRDCle · August 2018

@professormama that reminds me...anyone else with a history of pre-e/HELLP? That’s why I’m on the baby asprin and I was wondering if anyone else got tips from their OBs about it.

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