H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
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April 2019 Moms
mermaidca
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***READ THIS FIRST*** Board Organization
mermaidca
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Since we're starting to trickle in, we should talk about some basics. This is our board so let's discuss and come to a consensus on how we want it run.
I stole this from previous BMBs. Full of great info!
Some links that you may find helpful:
What do all of those abbreviations mean?
How to add a signature
How to GIF
How-To Guides:
-How to quote: Hit the "quote" at the bottom of the post you want to quote. You will be taken to the reply box with the quote set up already.
-How to tag: Add an "@" in front of the username of the person you are talking to.
-How to change your username: log in to TheKnot, hover over My Knot, and click Account Settings. Be sure to log out and log back in after changing your username. If you are having issues doing it that way, you can email community@thebump.com and ask them to change your username. Give them a few suggestions just in case your top choice is taken. It may take up to 24 hours for the name to update.
-How to insert a spoiler box: click the drop down list arrow next to the paragraph symbol (sixth from the left, next to the emoji button) and choose spoiler. It will insert a grey box, and everything that you type in there will go into the spoiler.
For the sake of board organization, here are some simple guidelines for posting threads:
DO: -Introduce yourself in the "Introductions" thread
-Add yourself to the spreadsheet
-Feel free to start one of the weekly posts listed below if you don't see it started yet
-Check to see if a thread has already been started on your topic or question so we can avoid too many threads of the same topic
-Post a thread that would apply to the entire community and doesn't fall into one of the categories for daily threads listed below (Ex: what to pack in your hospital bag, baby gear, etc)
-Comment, share advice and show support for your fellow bumpies; this is a two-way street, to get support, you must show it as well
DON'T:
-Ask the community if you are pregnant, it is against TOU
-Post pictures of your pregnancy test, this is also against TOU (there is a thread on the open 1st tri page for this)
-Post a thread that asks a question only applying to yourself unless you suspect you may be going through a MC
-Get bent out of shape if someone calls you out for not following these guidelines; if you expect to be part of a supportive board (which we are), you need to be able to take the time to learn the ins and outs of the board.
Here are some weekly/monthly ideas that may be good to start with. We can always add to best suit our boards needs, so please let me know if you have any other ideas! Per this BMB's decision, anyone can start any thread on the day.
** MONDAY
Weekly Randoms
Monday Ticker Change
**TUESDAY
Ten Things Tuesday
Tuesday Ticker Change
**WEDNESDAY
HDBD (Hump Day, Bump Day)
PGAL Check-In
Wednesday Ticker Change
**THURSDAY
TTGP Grad Check-In
Thursday Ticker Change
Thankful Thursday
**FRIDAY
Flame Free Friday Confession (FFFC)
Friday Ticker Change
**SATURDAY
Weekend Randoms
Saturday Ticker Change
**SUNDAY
Weekly Questions
Weekly symptoms Thread
Weekly appointments
Sunday Ticker Change
Once we all get farther along, we will also have pinned threads for things like ultrasounds, sex announcements and birth announcements. I've copy/pasted this from previous boards, and it seems to be the way that they are all organized, but of course we should feel free to tweak for our needs! For example, some boards do weekly ticker changes while others do weekly due date check-ins (ex, DD 1st week of Nov.). If anyone has a suggestion for other threads, please feel free to comment a suggestion. PLEASE keep in mind that there will eventually be a lot of us on this board, and an organized board will be much easier for everyone to use. If we can all keep the one-off posts to a minimum the board won't be too cluttered to navigate, and hopefully we won't end up answering the same question 2,000 times.
I stole this from previous BMBs. Full of great info!
Some links that you may find helpful:
What do all of those abbreviations mean?
How to add a signature
How to GIF
How-To Guides:
-How to quote: Hit the "quote" at the bottom of the post you want to quote. You will be taken to the reply box with the quote set up already.
-How to tag: Add an "@" in front of the username of the person you are talking to.
-How to change your username: log in to TheKnot, hover over My Knot, and click Account Settings. Be sure to log out and log back in after changing your username. If you are having issues doing it that way, you can email community@thebump.com and ask them to change your username. Give them a few suggestions just in case your top choice is taken. It may take up to 24 hours for the name to update.
-How to insert a spoiler box: click the drop down list arrow next to the paragraph symbol (sixth from the left, next to the emoji button) and choose spoiler. It will insert a grey box, and everything that you type in there will go into the spoiler.
For the sake of board organization, here are some simple guidelines for posting threads:
DO: -Introduce yourself in the "Introductions" thread
-Add yourself to the spreadsheet
-Feel free to start one of the weekly posts listed below if you don't see it started yet
-Check to see if a thread has already been started on your topic or question so we can avoid too many threads of the same topic
-Post a thread that would apply to the entire community and doesn't fall into one of the categories for daily threads listed below (Ex: what to pack in your hospital bag, baby gear, etc)
-Comment, share advice and show support for your fellow bumpies; this is a two-way street, to get support, you must show it as well
DON'T:
-Ask the community if you are pregnant, it is against TOU
-Post pictures of your pregnancy test, this is also against TOU (there is a thread on the open 1st tri page for this)
-Post a thread that asks a question only applying to yourself unless you suspect you may be going through a MC
-Get bent out of shape if someone calls you out for not following these guidelines; if you expect to be part of a supportive board (which we are), you need to be able to take the time to learn the ins and outs of the board.
Here are some weekly/monthly ideas that may be good to start with. We can always add to best suit our boards needs, so please let me know if you have any other ideas! Per this BMB's decision, anyone can start any thread on the day.
** MONDAY
Weekly Randoms
Monday Ticker Change
**TUESDAY
Ten Things Tuesday
Tuesday Ticker Change
**WEDNESDAY
HDBD (Hump Day, Bump Day)
PGAL Check-In
Wednesday Ticker Change
**THURSDAY
TTGP Grad Check-In
Thursday Ticker Change
Thankful Thursday
**FRIDAY
Flame Free Friday Confession (FFFC)
Friday Ticker Change
**SATURDAY
Weekend Randoms
Saturday Ticker Change
**SUNDAY
Weekly Questions
Weekly symptoms Thread
Weekly appointments
Sunday Ticker Change
Once we all get farther along, we will also have pinned threads for things like ultrasounds, sex announcements and birth announcements. I've copy/pasted this from previous boards, and it seems to be the way that they are all organized, but of course we should feel free to tweak for our needs! For example, some boards do weekly ticker changes while others do weekly due date check-ins (ex, DD 1st week of Nov.). If anyone has a suggestion for other threads, please feel free to comment a suggestion. PLEASE keep in mind that there will eventually be a lot of us on this board, and an organized board will be much easier for everyone to use. If we can all keep the one-off posts to a minimum the board won't be too cluttered to navigate, and hopefully we won't end up answering the same question 2,000 times.
Me: 31
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
Re: ***READ THIS FIRST*** Board Organization
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
DS-9/2012
DD-7/2015
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
I'm in favor of the week check-ins versus the day of the week check-ins. For those of you unfamiliar with what we're talking about, some BMB check-ins are the day of the week you're due. For example, everyone due on a Monday (April 1, 8, 15, 22, and 29) posts on the Monday Ticker Change thread. Other BMB like March 19 do check-ins by the week. For example, everyone due April 1st through 7th posts on the Week One weekly thread. What are everyone's thoughts? We could do a poll if need be.
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
I prefer a daily randoms thread. My last BMB had one and it was great and the place people really bonded.
DD #1 born 6/12/14
DD #2 born 10/31/16
Of course I get this is not only my board and that I could be in the minority here, which is totally fine and maybe not the right board for me then and I am absolutely fine with that! But maybe I am not the only one and we can find a happy medium! I totally get that some posts can be repetitive and we do not need 50 threads a day of introductions, or about a symptom, etc, or how we are feeling that week etc and those make sense to be in their own threads.
However, for the most part, I enjoy hearing people's questions or concerns and being able to tell what they are talking about in the title, which will be lost a lot and buried in 10 page long threads. I was on the bump boards in 2014 for my baby, and it was an amazing place, and I dont remember any kind of restriction like this. We had the weekly threads and people respected those, but we also had many lively threads that someone just posted because they were thinking about it that day, many in the day, and it made it for a great board to be on!
I also do not want to feel that I will be scolded if I post something that someone here thinks should be in another thread (albeit not meaning to imply it was done inappropriately. I know the people are just trying to enforce what they see as the rule and being super nice about it) . I feel like we will lose something as a board if we feel we are pigeonholed into certain threads only and we fear that someone will be annoyed and feel like it is a "one-off" post and we are breaking some sort of rule if we do post it. And some things will never get addressed in a longer board or seen by people who are not looking to dive into a very long page thread and not realize that it covers so so many topics. I already feel like the board is less active since there are only main topic threads. What I enjoy are the topics created by each of us every day about whatever it is we are thinking or concerned about at the moment.
I am all for a VERY active and happy board and I would love to be able to see what other people are saying and choose the threads to open that I am most interested in or intrigued by.
Just my thoughts! I think there is a happy medium and it so far has seemed really strict to me!
I think we are trying to stay away from one off posts from users who aren't going to try to engage in the group and only care if people answer their post and that it something super specific they may not apply to the majority of people here. While they can still post, those discussions or questions can easily be held in our threads. I think we just need time to find our balance. Does that make sense?
I hope you stick around, I've enjoyed a lot of the discussions in our threads so far.
Let's talk it out and find a happy medium! We're all going to be here a long time and go through a lot together
Obviously, I hope that every single pregnancy announced on this board goes to term H&H, and that this isn't even an issue.
Also, I'm not going through loss, just trying to be pre-emptive about building a supportive culture for all.
On a separate note, what is everyone's thoughts on a "What I wish I had known," thread? For STM+ moms giving info and advice to FTM, etc. Saw it on the March board, but I don't want to clog up the board with too many posts if you think this is too similar to the weekly questions thread.
Right now we have a weekly randoms post - we did daily "spam" with my first BMB, but right now I don't know if we would fill one up daily!
MONDAY
Weekly Randoms
Week 1/2/3/4 Check Ins
**TUESDAY
Ten Things Tuesday?
STM+ Check in?
**WEDNESDAY
HDBD (Hump Day, Bump Day)
PGAL/PAIF Check-In?
**THURSDAY
TTGP Grad Check-In?
Thankful Thursday
Unpopular Opinions (UO)
**FRIDAY
Flame Free Friday Confession (FFFC)
**SATURDAY
Weekend Randoms ?
Healthy Habits?
**SUNDAY
Weekly Questions?
Weekly symptoms Thread
Weekly appointments?
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019