LO now needs to be woke to feed MOTH at hour 3. I think we could easily let her sleep an extra hour like a few of you have already done but we want to get the okay from pedi at 2wk visit
AFM - anyone else getting bad night sweats? It feels like i jumped in a pool and dive into bed. My side of the bed is soaking wet.
@And846 yes to the brutal night sweats. I’m sleeping in undies and a nursing bra and it’s awful. I put a towel on my side of the bed tonight and it’s actually a bit better! This is the first time I’m ages I didn’t wake up drenched
This night is turning out to suckkkk. During the second wake up I was struck by horrendous heartburn, like stomach acid shooting up into my throat bad, while chained to the bed nursing and we are all out of antacids. Then between wake up 2 and 3, toddler starts crying. H goes in, puts him back to bed, comes back, and crying starts again. Repeat 3 times. H is now whining like a baby about having to keep go in there. The 4th time, I send him in with Motrin thinking maybe it’s teething. Baby wakes up for 3rd time, but I’ve only slept maybe 45 mins since his last feeding. In the middle of 4th feeding, H comes out from toddlers room and he’s crying again. Goes back in. I finish getting baby back down and it’s close to 5am. I’ve slept maybe 3 total hours? I go out to get water and find H and toddler on couch. Toddler wide awake. He sees me and I immediately know I’m not getting away. Pissed H didn’t warn me not to Leave bedroom. I take toddler to bed. Baby is now fussing. H takes baby to try to settle him. Toddler is all worked up and saying “baby. baby. Baby” finally baby is asleep in his bassinet and H and I are in bed with toddler and it’s looking like he might go to sleep. When suddenly he climbs over me and propels himself off the bed. H follows him out of our bedroom and closes the door behind him. Toddler realizes mommy is still in there, and bangs on the door screaming for a few minutes. Baby wakes up. And that brings us to now. Oh, and heart burn is still killing me. Thank god it’s Saturday.
@zande2016 oh no what a mess! I hope you get a good long nap, and I'm glad your DH was at least getting up with toddler although he could stow the whining since you are both somewhat miserable being up in the middle of the night!
I had dreams about labor all night, that I was still having contractions but I wasn't, and it was that kind of dreaming where you wake up and you aren't really sure what is real and what isn't. Annoying.
@zande2016 oh no, girl! I’m so sorry about the tough night. At least today is Saturday and hopefully you can get some tums and a good nap. A rested mommy is a happy mommy!
@comealongponds ooooh good idea on the towel! I’ll try that tonight. I’ve been going to bed in just Shorts and no top and it doesn’t help. I hope the towel trick helps...or st least during the feeding if it’s wet, swap it out and i won’t have to sleep in wetness for the backhalf of the night
Well after I got the baby to sleep around 5, he ended up sleeping until 8:30, which I’m pretty sure is the longest stretch of sleep he’s ever done, so at least there’s that! I am most definitely going to attempt a nap today.
@SmashJam ugh I hate those dreams where you’re not sure if it was real when you wake up! and I’m sorry you’re not in labor
Last night we were up every hour. I think I slept two hour total. Today we have a bridal shower and I’ll have both kids by myself with H golfs with his dad. I’m going to be tired as hell.
Solidarity on the tiredness. I fed baby at completely different times yesterday because were out and about and I put him down at 10pm. He did sleep until 215am, was fed, but he was a starving vampire. Usually he is docile at night. By 330am he was back asleep but up he was before it was even 5am with the same vampire hunger. And then at 645...and now at 8am. Guess he wanted to see what cluster feeding looks like at night! I'm so done so I'm going to feed him his usual morning bottle even though I was hoping to save it for later when my friend comes to visit...gah! Hope we all manage to get a nap in today!
@moguippy I’m also having issues where I dream I fed LO and then get confused when he wakes needing to actually be fed! All this night waking and tiredness is so disorienting!
Also, on multiple occasions I’ve woken up to MH frantically rifling around in the covers saying “where’s the baby?” in a panic. He keeps dreaming that he fell asleep with the baby in the bed only to discover he’s safely asleep in the bassinet.
DD is still up every 2-3 hours, and still so much harder to get back to sleep after 4. Of course DS has started waking in the middle of the night AND waking up for the day at 5am asking for daddy. So both DH and I are having sleepless nights. I’m a little happy he gets a little taste of MOTN pain but ultimately it just bites me in the ass because he can’t handle sleep deprivation and is a grumpy lump on the couch when he’s home.
@acunamatada same! I feel like I could’ve written your post. Last night H was up almost as much as me, and he couldn’t handle it, was a grouchy mess today, and seems to have a newfound respect for what I do every single night. I have no clue why my two year old is suddenly waking at night, I’m hoping it’s just teething and passes soon, but honestly it felt really good to not be the only one up all night haha
I finally got the baby to sleep and in her cot. DH then accidentally slammed the bathroom door. So far baby is still asleep. Now, to see if I can get some sleep before she wakes up again. Fingers crossed lol
@zande2016 I think it could be teething for DS too, he cut his bottom 2yr molars a month ago but still waiting on the top- I just hope it’s not a reaction to DH going back to work. Fx you both get some sleep tonight, I already told DH he better go to bed early tonight because I can’t stand his attitude when he’s low on sleep lol.
+1 to the great H sleep deprivation. He gets up with me to own his diaper duties and then goes back to sledo after he hands her off. When i get up for day with LO around 7 or 8, he usually hangs back snoozing for another hour or so cause he is so sleepy.
@zande2016 are you wearing a pp girdle? Mine was giving me horrible heartburn!
@wildtot same boat here. It seems like his length of time asleep decreases by 5-10 minutes daily. Went from 5-6 hours to 4-5 hours now down to 2-3.5 hours. I've got to pull out my sleep books again....
@MichelleAG05 no I’m not, maybe I’m just lying down too quickly after eating. Or maybe I’m eating too many Oreos lol. Ugh idk it really sucks but thankfully I got some Zantac and Tums today.
@zande2016 I would have totally eyerollee at DH if he said that to me, haha. @comealongponds sleeping with a twirl is brilliant, I think I could use one on my pillow, my head gets so sweaty. DH brought home a cold @lindsayleigh1989 friends suggested having my older lo go to grandparents while sick once he got it, but my babies had already been exposed. I hope your new little didn’t get sick too @kissableviv I feel so slow and uncoordinated at night too, why?! @noideawhatshesdoing napping is hard! Tonight everyone was asleep and I was just laying here, it sucked! @SmashJam DH thinks it helps if he admits he is a baby, haha. I’m not so sure it helps but that’s totally why I’m up motn so much more than he just like you, sigh.
Edited because I have wanted to share.. So I use my phone to stay awake while nursing. I get so focused that it can be hard to go back to sleep even though I have the dimmest setting on my phone. Also when I go to put the twins back in their bassinet I see how sweet they look and feel guilty I wasn’t fully in the moment with them. Cue mom guilt
Baby boy just slept 3.5 hours in his bassinet, and he did it during the appropriate time (night). Please let this be the beginning of increasing night sleep. Now my stupid dog is whining at the edge of the bed and I woke my H to tell him the dog meds to go out. He moaned, rolled over, and went back to sleep. If he thinks I’m gonna finish nursing this baby and then take the dog outside he’s dillusional.
ETA update it took me a few mins of shaking to get him to acknowledge that he needed to get up and take the dog out, then I’m pretty sure he was still asleep as I pushed him out of the bed because I couldn’t stand listening to the dog whine while I was trying to nurse. He slammed the door shut (leaving me in total darkness so I couldn’t see what I was doing) and cursed under his breath and I think he kicked something? Probably a toy. Then he came back in as I was swaddling and apparently managed to wake up, as he was back to normal and immediately offered to rock the baby to sleep. I swear if he had to do night duty with the baby all by himself there’s just no way.
Well besides a 20 min cat nap I've been up the last 2 hours with no sleep in sight. DH is working overnight so its going to be a long night and then a long morning while he sleeps...
Me: 31 DH: 34 Married: April 2016 TTC December 2016 BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17 MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017 BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18 TTC January 2019 BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
Up here too. When we were putting DD to bed, LO woke and screamed but before I could extricate myself from DD and get downstairs he was back asleep. I've got to remember in the morning to tell DH and see if we can hold off even 3 minutes of crying MOTN to see if he goes back to sleep on his own. Pretty sure this particular wake up was only to fart but DH had him up and off for a diaper change before I could stop him!
DD will NOT sleep longer than an hour in her bed. Ugh. I know she’s still in the “fourth trimester” but I really don’t want her to think my bed is hers lol DS did that and I didnt get a good nights sleep until he moved to a toddler bed when he was two lol Guess we will just have to keep trying! In the meantime, I shall enjoy the newborn cuddles.
Solidarity on the no sleep. After the intense cluster feeding Ds slept 3hrs. Woke up due to giant poop. Slept another 2 hrs. Woke up due to what I now think is reflux. Slept another hour and now we are feeding. So sleepy...
@kissableviv I think reflux is our issue here. And gas. So much gas. When he wakes up fussy after only 20 min its usually accompanied by giant farts. I feel guilty for being frustrated when I know it's not his fault and he's just uncomfortable or in pain, but I am just so tired!
Me: 31 DH: 34 Married: April 2016 TTC December 2016 BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17 MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017 BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18 TTC January 2019 BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
I also think gas may be the nighttime culprit preventing sleep for me and baby. Last night he fell back asleep pretty quickly after waking up to eat at 2:30, I had him fed, changed, burped, swaddled, and back in his bassinet by 3:30. But, then he kept waking up fussing and hiccuping and crying. I had to pick him up and rock him 3 times, then I resorted to the pacifier, which he took just fine and sucked on in his bassinet and fell back asleep, but still kept waking up fussing and crying every few minutes. Finally after an hour of this, I decided to unswaddle him and just see if he’d sleep in bed with me. As soon as I took the swaddle off, he passed sooo much gas and immediately seemed better and went to sleep. Of course sleeping next to me means wanting to nurse every 30-60 mins just because he’s next to it and smells it, so I got basically no sleep from 2:30 when he woke up until 8:30 when I gave him to my husband and took a nap (and only got to sleep for an hour before he was crying to eat again). Anyway I am pretty sure he can’t pass gas when he’s swaddled, as he needs to be able to move around to get the gas out, but he doesn’t sleep very long on his own without the swaddle. So I guess I’ll just wait longer to swaddle him so he can pass some gas first. He does seem very gassy, and spits up after every feeding, making me wonder if he has some reflux. But the spit up never bothers him, and it’s not a huge amount, so I am not sure. It’s hard trying to interpret these babies.
My baby seriously has her days and nights mixed! I have tried all the things to get her to switch it up... swaddle only at night, lights on and noisy during day, quiet at night... but nope. She passes into a coma like sleep at day, and at nights she is up every hour or two.
Right now my 2yo is making up a song and singing it to her to try and wake her up. So stinking cute
@zande2016 tjat sounds like my night and my thoughts too! Last night LO was so fussy and was up from 3-6am. I kept feeding on demand, rocking and once sleepy she was back in swaddle a d put down. Then hiccups started. Unswaddle and then we’d have gas. Me so sleepy today...
My baby seriously has her days and nights mixed! I have tried all the things to get her to switch it up... swaddle only at night, lights on and noisy during day, quiet at night... but nope. She passes into a coma like sleep at day, and at nights she is up every hour or two.
Right now my 2yo is making up a song and singing it to her to try and wake her up. So stinking cute
This is us! I’m sure me working nights didn’t help.
@zande2016 We started on reflux meds on Friday after our one month appointment. He spits up, but probably not even an abnormal amount. The biggest indicator for the dr to think he had reflux was that he preferred to be on his belly or upright and that he arches his back and neck. Apparently the arching is a sign of painful reflux.
Me: 31 DH: 34 Married: April 2016 TTC December 2016 BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17 MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017 BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18 TTC January 2019 BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
Regarding reflux when DS was going through that they had to perform an ultrasound to check out his esophagus. There’s some opening or flap the is sometimes the culprit and is usually more common in boys. DSs was a bit abnormal but not enough to warrant anything more than meds and eventually growing out of it (which he did).
@MrsMiller8588 that’s why I am thinking it’s not reflux, he’s not doing any arching - which my first son who had reflux did. He doesn’t really seem uncomfortable, just spits up and has a lot of gas, but he’s not colicky or Anything. I think he has a lot of gas because he gulps a ton when eating, which I am thinking getting the tongue tie fixed may help. I hope the meds help for you!
@MrsMiller8588@zande2016 yes definitely reflux for me though I think it may be the more common/"benign" kind . He also spits up these days after almost every feeding, but it's never a lot and overall he is eating well and not refusing food. He also never straight up vomits. This all started in the past week. I also notice he likes the rock and play to nap and I think it's because it's raised up. Last night as soon as I put him on my chest he felt better and then went to bed 30 min later and was fine . While it sucks to spend extra time, I also hate putting him on his back and hearing the wheezing of the milk in his throat knowing he will spit up. Interested in seeing if this continues since he had long sleep stretches this week.
Keeping an eye out for arching, would that be after feeding? Because he arches when he is hungry too and tries to put himself sideways as if he was going to breastfeed.
@kissableviv my LO arches after a feeding for the most part. I probably also need to be more patient and keep him on my chest longer after night feedings but sometimes I'm just so tired!
Me: 31 DH: 34 Married: April 2016 TTC December 2016 BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17 MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017 BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18 TTC January 2019 BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
Does anyone else hate doing MOTN feedings in bed? I made my H drag the rocker down from the nursery today and put it at the foot of our bed. Yeah it sucks having to get out of bed but I find it so much more comfy for nursing and easier on my back/neck. Just did first feeding of the night and holding my breath waiting to see if LO actually goes back to sleep or if I have to get up and rock him a million times before he settles. I gave him gas drops but not sure if it made any difference. He did sleep 8:30-12:30 before his first wake up so that’s really good, but I’m nervous he won’t go back to sleep - currently fussing a little in his bassinet. I need some sleep because I’m on my own tomorrow and H is going to work early.
@zande2016 I can’t do motn feedings in bed either. Our nursery is right next to our bedroom so I just slip in there during the night and nurse in the glider with my feet up on the gliding ottoman. Soooo much more comfortable than in the bed. Yay for a 4 hour stretch! That’s awesome.
I’m coming to find that MOTN feedings are unpredictable. Some nights are so easy and i feel like a pro and nights like tonight... we are going on hour 3 of fussy, eating, crying. And doing this in bed is not comfy. And i too lazy to pack up and go to living room.
I had my first post baby beer tonight and it brought so much anxiety It wasn’t even enjoyable. What if LO woke early. Was 1hour 50 minutes enough time? Is this now what’s causing the above fussy spell.
If I don't do MOTN feedings in a glider, I would fall asleep... I have my old glider next to my bed. When she starts STTN, we will move to her room and the new glider
H couldn’t get LO to stay asleep once he would put her in the crib- she would sleep in his arms. His feeding her started at 10 and at midnight he asked me what to do. We brought the RNP upstairs and put her in that and she stayed asleep. Just rather her get use to sleeping in her crib.
Sciatica pain definitely helps keep one awake for motn feedings. Baby is so fussy on her back I think a mixture of gas bubbles and congestion. but odd thing is no congested breathing when she is on her stomach. So in currentlt having her fall asleep on me and fingers crossed I can transfer her back to her criba and back once she is in deep enough sleep. We see our ped tomorrow for my oldest's two year check up. part of me wants to wsk a question about baby but im thinking that wouldN't be okay.
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AFM - anyone else getting bad night sweats? It feels like i jumped in a pool and dive into bed. My side of the bed is soaking wet.
This night is turning out to suckkkk. During the second wake up I was struck by horrendous heartburn, like stomach acid shooting up into my throat bad, while chained to the bed nursing and we are all out of antacids. Then between wake up 2 and 3, toddler starts crying. H goes in, puts him back to bed, comes back, and crying starts again. Repeat 3 times. H is now whining like a baby about having to keep go in there. The 4th time, I send him in with Motrin thinking maybe it’s teething. Baby wakes up for 3rd time, but I’ve only slept maybe 45 mins since his last feeding. In the middle of 4th feeding, H comes out from toddlers room and he’s crying again. Goes back in. I finish getting baby back down and it’s close to 5am. I’ve slept maybe 3 total hours? I go out to get water and find H and toddler on couch. Toddler wide awake. He sees me and I immediately know I’m not getting away. Pissed H didn’t warn me not to Leave bedroom. I take toddler to bed. Baby is now fussing. H takes baby to try to settle him. Toddler is all worked up and saying “baby. baby. Baby” finally baby is asleep in his bassinet and H and I are in bed with toddler and it’s looking like he might go to sleep. When suddenly he climbs over me and propels himself off the bed. H follows him out of our bedroom and closes the door behind him. Toddler realizes mommy is still in there, and bangs on the door screaming for a few minutes. Baby wakes up. And that brings us to now. Oh, and heart burn is still killing me. Thank god it’s Saturday.
I had dreams about labor all night, that I was still having contractions but I wasn't, and it was that kind of dreaming where you wake up and you aren't really sure what is real and what isn't. Annoying.
@comealongponds ooooh good idea on the towel! I’ll try that tonight. I’ve been going to bed in just Shorts and no top and it doesn’t help. I hope the towel trick helps...or st least during the feeding if it’s wet, swap it out and i won’t have to sleep in wetness for the backhalf of the night
@SmashJam ugh I hate those dreams where you’re not sure if it was real when you wake up! and I’m sorry you’re not in labor
Also, on multiple occasions I’ve woken up to MH frantically rifling around in the covers saying “where’s the baby?” in a panic. He keeps dreaming that he fell asleep with the baby in the bed only to discover he’s safely asleep in the bassinet.
Kylie M.
Baby #1 Born 12.16.2015
Baby #2 Due 7.13.2018
@wildtot same boat here. It seems like his length of time asleep decreases by 5-10 minutes daily. Went from 5-6 hours to 4-5 hours now down to 2-3.5 hours. I've got to pull out my sleep books again....
Edited because I have wanted to share.. So I use my phone to stay awake while nursing. I get so focused that it can be hard to go back to sleep even though I have the dimmest setting on my phone. Also when I go to put the twins back in their bassinet I see how sweet they look and feel guilty I wasn’t fully in the moment with them. Cue mom guilt
ETA update it took me a few mins of shaking to get him to acknowledge that he needed to get up and take the dog out, then I’m pretty sure he was still asleep as I pushed him out of the bed because I couldn’t stand listening to the dog whine while I was trying to nurse. He slammed the door shut (leaving me in total darkness so I couldn’t see what I was doing) and cursed under his breath and I think he kicked something? Probably a toy. Then he came back in as I was swaddling and apparently managed to wake up, as he was back to normal and immediately offered to rock the baby to sleep. I swear if he had to do night duty with the baby all by himself there’s just no way.
TTC December 2016
BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17
MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017
BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18
TTC January 2019
BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
Kylie M.
Baby #1 Born 12.16.2015
Baby #2 Due 7.13.2018
TTC December 2016
BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17
MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017
BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18
TTC January 2019
BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
Right now my 2yo is making up a song and singing it to her to try and wake her up. So stinking cute
working nights didn’t help.
TTC December 2016
BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17
MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017
BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18
TTC January 2019
BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
Keeping an eye out for arching, would that be after feeding? Because he arches when he is hungry too and tries to put himself sideways as if he was going to breastfeed.
TTC December 2016
BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17
MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017
BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18
TTC January 2019
BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
I had my first post baby beer tonight and it brought so much anxiety It wasn’t even enjoyable. What if LO woke early. Was 1hour 50 minutes enough time? Is this now what’s causing the above fussy spell.
in currentlt having her fall asleep on me and fingers crossed I can transfer her back to her criba and back once she is in deep enough sleep. We see our ped tomorrow for my oldest's two year check up. part of me wants to wsk a question about baby but im thinking that wouldN't be okay.