FTM mom here, I'm thinking I'll probably be laboring and deliver mostly in my birthday suit. I plan to bring a robe and a few throw-away nightgowns for afterwards.
@kianarain holy hell, I audibly gasped when I read your "insides falling out" comment, thank god everyone's responses where "take stool softeners and you will be fine" phew.
What is everyone's experience with pain medication after birth? After the epidural wears off are you just cold turkey sober? Do you continue on with some sort of prescription pain meds after the fact? For how long? How does that work for a vaginal birth vs c section? If you opt out of the epidural will they push other types of pain medication?
I had a very bad experience with opioids after getting my tonsils removed two years ago so I want to be prepared for what is going to be offered to me. I'm planning to speak with my midwife about it at my next apt but am curious what the general consensus is.
I didn't need anything after birth. Honestly I felt totally fine. I didn't have c/s though and didn't tear really. But I didn't even need tylenol.
@KLS123 LOL I'm sorry!! But you can see why I felt the need to ask. Just sitting on that little nugget of knowledge w/o anyone to comfort me was TERRIFYING. Feeling much better after all the poop advice
@kls123 I just took ibuprofen, but that was more for breastfeeding pain (which I had for a long time) than for pain from birth.
@DLpanda08 We put DD in the crib from day 1, but in our room. Being in the same room is recommended until 6 months because it lowers the risk of SIDS. The bigger reason I did it was that I couldn't deal with having to get up and go to another room every 2 hours all night, it made it harder for me to go back to sleep. She never slept well in the crib though, so I'm torn on putting the second one in it from the beginning. I know people that do the crib in another room from day 1 though and have had success with that.
I never needed anything for pain after childbirth, unless you include preparation H, ticks pads, and using a perineal spray bottle instead of wiping, even with fairly severe tearing I had with baby number 3. I think it just varies from person to person.
Both the hospitals I delivered at offered tylenol or advil for vaginal births. I didn't need anything for the pain, but rather the swelling of the lady bits and hemmies - if you have lots of swelling and discomfort, I highly recommend you take advil to stay on top of it, otherwise walking, changing positions, and going to the washroom is fairly uncomfortable. And for the love of God, whatever you do, DO NOT look at your vag post birth.....
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
I honestly don't remember what pain meds I had after birth, if any. I know they offered some but I don't think I took them. But my advice is, if you need them take them.
I took a birthing class with DD 1 , that was 10 years ago. It was helpful but I don't think I used anything I learned. I found my own coping mechanisms for the pain. I would rub my fingers together and focus on that feeling, somehow that worked for me. I think it was in the 3rd tri. I didn't take any classes with DD 2.
I read a lot about being pregnant but not enough about newborns when I had the time to read, so don't forget to read about those first few weeks/months because you'll be too tired to read once baby is born.
I took infant CPR and breastfeeding. Looking back I would prob only have done CPR. The Breastfeeding class here is more about empowerment like YOU CAN DO IT and if you can’t here is a sheet of people to call. As a very non maternal inexperienced w kids person, I don’t know that I got much from that class. Just buy some Lansinoh and cold/hot packs in advance in case you need em.
I also did prenatal yoga which I think helped prepare me for the squatting birth I wanted.
Oh yeah, infant CPR! EVERYONE should take that. I need a refresher.
This might seem like a really stupid question People are already meeting/ have a midwife or doula are they covered under insurance? How much does it typically cost?
When did you start having your baby sleep in their crib? I always thought they could go in there right away, but lately I’ve had a few friends say that baby should be in your room for the entire first year.
At 6 weeks- we all slept better once she was in her room in her own crib- she liked the space and I liked the ability to sleep- I woke up each time she moved.
@KLS123 I did not have an epidural but took some ibuprofen after childbirth, I was pretty sore and felt like I had run a marathon (haven’t ever run one but I imagined that’s what it would have felt like)
thanks for all the feedback! That makes me feel better that over the counter pain meds seem more standard than opioids post-vaginal delivery. Still curious on what the pain med situation is for those c-section mamas out there...
@galactickates my midwife is covered under insurance because she practices at an in-network hospital & in-network practice. It's also worth noting that she is my primary care provider rather than an OB. My doula on the other hand is not covered under insurance but I *may* be able to pay her fee from my HSA account (which is supposedly a gray area...)
ETA: I plan to pay her fee from my regular account then submit it for reimbursement from my HSA and see if it gets approved or not. Great if it does, but be prepared to cover it out of pocket if not
I’m curious to know if anyone had both experiences in bringing home baby in the Summer & Winter. I had DD in July so even looking at coming home outfits for this LO makes me think for a minute like “wait, he needs to be bundled up!!” Even when looking at nursing gowns to wear around the hospital, I’m like “I can’t wear my thin one, can I?!” Idk why it’s tripping me up but it is.
This might seem like a really stupid question People are already meeting/ have a midwife or doula are they covered under insurance? How much does it typically cost?
I’m using a midwife and it’s covered by my insurance. My doctor’s office is a group of OBs and midwives so everyone low risk sees a midwife unless they request or start to require an OB. So far it has only cost my $20 copay and when we called our insurance company they said the cost of birth wouldn’t be impacted by using a midwife rather than an OB.
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@DLpanda08 baby went into his crib right away when we got home, although I think I slept in the recliner in his room for a few days because he was up so frequently to eat (it took like 10 days for my milk to come fully in so he was hungry often ). And I was terrified that I wouldn't hear him and would sleep through him crying. I work night shift and sleep during the day usually so I sleep through a lot of noise. But its like my body knew the sounds of his cry and I never once didnt wake up.
@KLS123 I just took ibuprofen. I had a second, borderline third degree tear so they offered me percocet but I didnt want to take it. I used about of tucks pads, spray, and ice and that helped a lot.
@AliKay20 I delivered my first in November. DS wore just a long sleeve onesie with pants and then I had a carseat cover. The car is right outside the front door so he was outside for about 5 seconds total.
@galactickates I moved from an OB/GYN practice to a Midwife practice for my medical provider. It's covered the same as the OB/GYN was (in my case, since midwife is also in-network, I've had no copay or coinsurance costs related to these maternity visits and tests). If I elect to get a doula (who would provide emotional, not medical support), then I would have to cover that cost out of pocket. Doulas in my area seem to cost between $800 to $1500 depending on how involved you want them to be. I actually am a crazy person and thinking of just using my mom as a doula (she was my SIL's doula for her 2 home births so has at least some experience).
I kept DD in my room in a cradle for the first 3 months and then put her in her own room in the crib. She was a terrible sleeper and my chronic migraines were SO BAD after I had her due to lack of sleep. It was also hard to get up and go to a different room, feed and change her, and then fall back to sleep afterward myself (especially since DH is a snorer and has sleep apnea). When DS came along, DH moved into the spare bedroom and I co-slept with DS in the master for 6 months. I only used a pillow for myself, obvi, and slept fully dressed with flannel pj's, socks, and a zip up hoodie so that I wasn't using any blankets on the bed. My health and mood were a COMPLETE 180 from the first time. When DS fussed, I shoved a boob in his mouth and I fell back to sleep. I only changed him maybe 2x a night. I got a solid night sleep, even with nursing, and woke up with enough energy to make it 'til after lunch until I needed a cat nap. My migraines and IBS troubles were way less with this arrangement. We put DS in his own room at 6 months. DH and I have already decided that I'll be cosleeping again since it worked so well for my mental and physical health.
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
DD slept in the rock n play in her room for the first 5 months and then we transitioned her to the crib. Our rooms are close together so I heard her if she was crying. We had her in our room for the first couple nights and no one got any rest. I'm sorry recommendations, I can't sleep with my baby in my room.
As far as classes, we took a Newborn class, a birth class and a BF class. The birth class was kind of pointless because the nurses tell you what to do and I had an induction and epidural so I didn't use any of their labor tips. I felt the other classes were worth it and gave DH a good idea of what to expect too. I took the classes in my 2nd trimester, which was good because I had weekly appointments starting at like 34 weeks and ultrasounds/NST and then DD was born at 37 weeks. If I would have waited too long it would have been too overwhelming to do the classes and all the appointments. Check the class schedule now, with the holidays you may have to take them in Sept/Oct/Nov.
Still trying to catch up on this huge thread (only on page 3 so far) - so sorry if this has been asked already: I am a nerd so my AMAs are all about classes. What kinds of classes have people taken in the past (STM+)/what kinds of classes are people planning to take this time (birthing, infant, hospital, other?)? WHEN do people take those classes (just 3rd trimester? Do you try and stagger them?)? Signing up for prenatal yoga today and has me thinking about other classes to look into.
My husband and I did Bradley Method classes and found it to be really useful. DH actually suggests it to our friends because it helped him feel so much more prepared and know what to expect and how to help.
@galactickates I wore the hospital gown while delivering because I didn't want my own clothes getting nasty, and I don't have to wash the delivery items! I brought a comfy robe (knee length) that I wore around the hospital after that, but still had the hospital gown on underneath. It is loose and flowy and that was nice, then just had my nice robe on over it for when guests were there. I hate wearing pants in general, so I'll probably do that again, ESPECIALLY since the hospital gown is way easier to nurse with.
ETA: I forgot about them checking my vag a ton. I had like 1 or 2 tiny stitches, but they still had to check frequently to make sure it was healing or not infected. pants would be uncomfortable, especially if you were already lying down and have to pull down pants verses just rolling over.
@saltedcaramel518 and others - what books would you recommend? I haven't read ANY once-the-kid-is-out books yet.
I LOVE Mr. Rogers’ Parenting Book. Mr Rogers knew his stuff. This has been my most helpful book, but maybe more so once they’re toddlers and older. Dr. Sears “The Baby Book” is a wonderful reference for the newborn and infant time.
@saltedcaramel518 and others - what books would you recommend? I haven't read ANY once-the-kid-is-out books yet.
Also books I would NOT recommend are Babywise (has been associated with failure to thrive , dehydration, and even infant death,) and the even worse “To Train Up a Child” which has been associated with multiple child abuse deaths.
@KLS123 I was fine after the epi wore off. They gave me alternating tylenol and advil, but I don't even think I needed that. The highest my pain was a 3 after birth, and it felt like more of a dull ache in my vagina from being stretched. I didn't have a C-section, though, which I hear hurts way more.
@dlpanda08 we slept DD in our room in the Rock N Play next to the bed until about 4 months, then moved her into the Pack N Play in our room until about 6-7 months. The Rock N Play next to the bed was AMAZING! I was there for every spit up (she spit up A LOT, which was scary for me while she was sleeping), and feeding was so easy. I didn't even have to get out of bed..just grabbed her, nursed her, laid her back down, and laid down. When you have to wake up every 1-3 hours to feed, every minute counts.
They recommend sleeping in the parents room the first 6-12 months to reduce the risk of SIDS....I THINK it's because you're right there to hear any breathing struggling and right there to assist if needed. My sister's 1st born was BLUE one time when she went to check on him and was able to help him just in time, then called 911. Her second daughter was in the dock a tot in their bed and almost chocked to death laying flat, so they recommended sleeping at a slight incline. This is why we did the RnP initially (also because SO MANY STM's in my last BMB recommended it)
@alikay20 DD was born Feb 3rd..in Minnesota..it was freezing. Baby's shouldn't be wearing a thick snowsuit or coat in the carseat, though, since it makes it unsafe. She wore layers with a cute newborn sweatshirt, then after buckling I put a little muslin blanket on her and a thick carseat cover over the whole carseat.
As to classes, we didn't take any, but I watched documentaries on netflix. I don't wish that I had taken any classes, and it wouldn't have made any difference I think. I already knew CPR for my job, so that didn't matter, but it's a good class to take if you don't know CPR.
I wore a hospital gown during labor, birth, and a little while after birth. I had DS in the late afternoon so I slept in a clean gown. I wore yoga pants and a cami the next day.
Yes to the adult diapers. Soooo much better than the mesh undies. I think I wore the mesh underwear at the hospital but diapers at home. The spray bottle and tucks pads are a must too.
A great book and DVD is The Happiest Baby on the Block. It really helped me understand the “4th trimester.”
I wore a hospital gown and cardigans with yoga pants during and after birth. I found nursing tanks with a robe or cardigan extremely helpful.
I took a lamaze class, and breastfeeding class, I don't know that either were overly helpful. I did use the techniques suggested in lamaze during my labor. I plan to take infant cpr, even though I'm a nurse and know cpr.
I took opiods the first day, I had precipitous labor and tore pretty good. I did ask for colace when I was admitted because I needed to take it even when taking my prenatal.
@galactickates I'm lucky because my sister is a midwife but will be acting as my doula. In my experience though, it's good to start early. Interview multiple doulas so that you can find someone that you really feel comfortable with. Not every doula is going to be a person you want rubbing your back or telling you to get through it. Usually doulas like to meet with you a few times just to get to know you.
Once you've determined to go to the hospital are you leaking fluids up until delivery? Do I need a pad for the drive? Sit on a towel? Nothing after your water breaks? I have no idea.
Also I've read so many people had their water break in bed. Is it a lot? How do you clean your mattress after? Do people put a mattress cover on their bed just in case? I know these questions sound stupid i'm just trying to be prepared and I haven't seen anyone talk about it or ask these questions. I don't want to get home and have to worry about changing sheets and getting our mattress cleaned up
Once you've determined to go to the hospital are you leaking fluids up until delivery? Do I need a pad for the drive? Sit on a towel? Nothing after your water breaks? I have no idea.
Also I've read so many people had their water break in bed. Is it a lot? How do you clean your mattress after? Do people put a mattress cover on their bed just in case? I know these questions sound stupid i'm just trying to be prepared and I haven't seen anyone talk about it or ask these questions. I don't want to get home and have to worry about changing sheets and getting our mattress cleaned up
The majority of women actually don’t have their water break until transition, which is right before you start pushing. If I remember correctly, only about 10% of women have their water spontaneously break earlier in labor. Unless the doctor breaks your water, which I would be very wary of consenting to due to the risk of cord prolapse if the baby’s head is not engaged in the pelvis when the water breaks.
But yes, if your water breaks early on, you will leak fluid after that, and should probably have a towel under you or wear a pad.
@galactickates I only had my water break on its own once. It did happen in bed, but it wasn’t a lot. I wasn’t even sure that that’s what happened. I made it to the bathroom just fine without drenching anything. A pad worked until I got to the hospital. I did sit on a towel on the way there, but only because our truck has towels on the seats to protect them from the kids.
@galactickates I'm in the 10% that my water broke early. That was my first sign of labor. It was just a little gush like I had peed myself and then I had another little gush about a minute or two after. I went to the bathroom and my underwear was soaked. I put in a pad but I was leaking a good bit so I kept changing pads while we were wating at the house for about 2 hours. For the drive, I put on a Depends and sat on a towel. That worked well. And Depends after birth. Message: don't be afraid of Depends
@galactikates My water broke spontaneously at 38 weeks with both my kids. With one of them I was having early labour signs all day, and the other one was completely out of the blue. Gushes both times. Also, both times it happened in bed/on the way to bed. I was worried about ruining my mattress so I put a waterproof mattress cover on our bed at around 36 weeks. With DD I just sat on the toilet until the gushing slowed down and then put on a pad. My contractions with her started immediately. With DS, the leak was a bit slower and I didn't have contractions yet so I just put on a pad, took 2 Tylenol and went to bed. Contractions started the next morning and I had him in 1.5 hours.
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
@galactickates my water didn't break, but I had 3 rounds of false labor. I had been walking around dilated to a 3 for about 2 weeks, at 39 weeks doctor said her head was engaged and I was going to go early. I didn't go early...at 5 days late they had me go in for induced labor because it wasn't kickstarting. They broke my water first, since I was already dilating, her head was enagaged, and I was 80-100% effaced. I had some uncomfortable cramps at first, then contractions began soon after. Of the women I know who's water breaks on it's own before labor starting (not many), contractions get really intense once it breaks. And it's USUALLY not a gush of water. And for some reason, it's often laying down in bed or going pee MOTN.
@galactickates My water broke when I was at home in bed. I was actually having a dream that a waterfall was coming out of my vagina. Our bed was soaked. We had a feather mattress pad that saved our mattress (but we had to throw the mattress pad away).
My MIL thankfully went to our house and washed the bedding before we came home. I will 100% buy a waterproof mattress cover this time around.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
My water did not break on its own, but I have a friend who had the dramatic gush at home and ruined the passenger seat in her car on the way to the hospital. They had to have it replaced. Moral: invest in puppy training pads and keep them in the car just in case. A towel is a great idea too!
My water broke at home in the middle of the night. IF that happens to you, most doctors want you to come on in to the hospital because they want you to deliver within 18-24 hours due to risk of infection.
I'm 99% certain that my body wasn't ready for labor when my water broke because I wasn't having real contractions and had not dilated.
IF your water does break, I would highly suggest taking a shower (unless your contractions are too strong and close together). My water broke at 12:15 am and we got to the hospital around 2:30 or so. I took a shower and changed sheets and just took my times getting ready to leave.
I wore comfy shorts and a tshirt (it was warm, October). I wore a pad on the way there and was glad I did because I was still leaking quite a bit. Also, the triage nurses had to check to make sure my water actually broke and that I didn't pee myself lol
Gosh, yes, please take a shower if your water breaks. When it happened to me, DH was in full freak out mode (“YOU DO NOT HAVE TIME TO TAKE A SHOWER!”), but it was so gross, I needed to at least rinse off.
Funny story: when my water broke, I was 1.5 hours into an Ambien-induced sleep. I was so out of it that I just walked right out of the bathroom totally naked and told DH I was ready to go. He suggested that I put pants on.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
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@DLpanda08 We put DD in the crib from day 1, but in our room. Being in the same room is recommended until 6 months because it lowers the risk of SIDS. The bigger reason I did it was that I couldn't deal with having to get up and go to another room every 2 hours all night, it made it harder for me to go back to sleep. She never slept well in the crib though, so I'm torn on putting the second one in it from the beginning. I know people that do the crib in another room from day 1 though and have had success with that.
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
I took a birthing class with DD 1 , that was 10 years ago. It was helpful but I don't think I used anything I learned. I found my own coping mechanisms for the pain. I would rub my fingers together and focus on that feeling, somehow that worked for me. I think it was in the 3rd tri. I didn't take any classes with DD 2.
I read a lot about being pregnant but not enough about newborns when I had the time to read, so don't forget to read about those first few weeks/months because you'll be too tired to read once baby is born.
DS 05/29/2013
M/C 02/14/2017
M/C 06/05/2017
C/P 03/01/2018
BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019
People are already meeting/ have a midwife or doula are they covered under insurance? How much does it typically cost?
@galactickates my midwife is covered under insurance because she practices at an in-network hospital & in-network practice. It's also worth noting that she is my primary care provider rather than an OB. My doula on the other hand is not covered under insurance but I *may* be able to pay her fee from my HSA account (which is supposedly a gray area...)
ETA: I plan to pay her fee from my regular account then submit it for reimbursement from my HSA and see if it gets approved or not. Great if it does, but be prepared to cover it out of pocket if not
BFP April 24, 2018 | EDD December 29, 2018
@KLS123 I just took ibuprofen. I had a second, borderline third degree tear so they offered me percocet but I didnt want to take it. I used about of tucks pads, spray, and ice and that helped a lot.
@AliKay20 I delivered my first in November. DS wore just a long sleeve onesie with pants and then I had a carseat cover. The car is right outside the front door so he was outside for about 5 seconds total.
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*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
DD slept in the rock n play in her room for the first 5 months and then we transitioned her to the crib. Our rooms are close together so I heard her if she was crying. We had her in our room for the first couple nights and no one got any rest. I'm sorry recommendations, I can't sleep with my baby in my room.
As far as classes, we took a Newborn class, a birth class and a BF class. The birth class was kind of pointless because the nurses tell you what to do and I had an induction and epidural so I didn't use any of their labor tips. I felt the other classes were worth it and gave DH a good idea of what to expect too. I took the classes in my 2nd trimester, which was good because I had weekly appointments starting at like 34 weeks and ultrasounds/NST and then DD was born at 37 weeks. If I would have waited too long it would have been too overwhelming to do the classes and all the appointments. Check the class schedule now, with the holidays you may have to take them in Sept/Oct/Nov.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
@galactickates I wore the hospital gown while delivering because I didn't want my own clothes getting nasty, and I don't have to wash the delivery items! I brought a comfy robe (knee length) that I wore around the hospital after that, but still had the hospital gown on underneath. It is loose and flowy and that was nice, then just had my nice robe on over it for when guests were there. I hate wearing pants in general, so I'll probably do that again, ESPECIALLY since the hospital gown is way easier to nurse with.
ETA: I forgot about them checking my vag a ton. I had like 1 or 2 tiny stitches, but they still had to check frequently to make sure it was healing or not infected. pants would be uncomfortable, especially if you were already lying down and have to pull down pants verses just rolling over.
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
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@KLS123 I was fine after the epi wore off. They gave me alternating tylenol and advil, but I don't even think I needed that. The highest my pain was a 3 after birth, and it felt like more of a dull ache in my vagina from being stretched. I didn't have a C-section, though, which I hear hurts way more.
@dlpanda08 we slept DD in our room in the Rock N Play next to the bed until about 4 months, then moved her into the Pack N Play in our room until about 6-7 months. The Rock N Play next to the bed was AMAZING! I was there for every spit up (she spit up A LOT, which was scary for me while she was sleeping), and feeding was so easy. I didn't even have to get out of bed..just grabbed her, nursed her, laid her back down, and laid down. When you have to wake up every 1-3 hours to feed, every minute counts.
They recommend sleeping in the parents room the first 6-12 months to reduce the risk of SIDS....I THINK it's because you're right there to hear any breathing struggling and right there to assist if needed. My sister's 1st born was BLUE one time when she went to check on him and was able to help him just in time, then called 911. Her second daughter was in the dock a tot in their bed and almost chocked to death laying flat, so they recommended sleeping at a slight incline. This is why we did the RnP initially (also because SO MANY STM's in my last BMB recommended it)
@alikay20 DD was born Feb 3rd..in Minnesota..it was freezing. Baby's shouldn't be wearing a thick snowsuit or coat in the carseat, though, since it makes it unsafe. She wore layers with a cute newborn sweatshirt, then after buckling I put a little muslin blanket on her and a thick carseat cover over the whole carseat.
As to classes, we didn't take any, but I watched documentaries on netflix. I don't wish that I had taken any classes, and it wouldn't have made any difference I think. I already knew CPR for my job, so that didn't matter, but it's a good class to take if you don't know CPR.
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
I wore a hospital gown during labor, birth, and a little while after birth. I had DS in the late afternoon so I slept in a clean gown. I wore yoga pants and a cami the next day.
Yes to the adult diapers. Soooo much better than the mesh undies. I think I wore the mesh underwear at the hospital but diapers at home. The spray bottle and tucks pads are a must too.
A great book and DVD is The Happiest Baby on the Block. It really helped me understand the “4th trimester.”
I took a lamaze class, and breastfeeding class, I don't know that either were overly helpful. I did use the techniques suggested in lamaze during my labor. I plan to take infant cpr, even though I'm a nurse and know cpr.
I took opiods the first day, I had precipitous labor and tore pretty good. I did ask for colace when I was admitted because I needed to take it even when taking my prenatal.
Also I've read so many people had their water break in bed. Is it a lot? How do you clean your mattress after? Do people put a mattress cover on their bed just in case? I know these questions sound stupid i'm just trying to be prepared and I haven't seen anyone talk about it or ask these questions. I don't want to get home and have to worry about changing sheets and getting our mattress cleaned up
But yes, if your water breaks early on, you will leak fluid after that, and should probably have a towel under you or wear a pad.
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
My MIL thankfully went to our house and washed the bedding before we came home. I will 100% buy a waterproof mattress cover this time around.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
I'm 99% certain that my body wasn't ready for labor when my water broke because I wasn't having real contractions and had not dilated.
IF your water does break, I would highly suggest taking a shower (unless your contractions are too strong and close together). My water broke at 12:15 am and we got to the hospital around 2:30 or so. I took a shower and changed sheets and just took my times getting ready to leave.
I wore comfy shorts and a tshirt (it was warm, October). I wore a pad on the way there and was glad I did because I was still leaking quite a bit. Also, the triage nurses had to check to make sure my water actually broke and that I didn't pee myself lol
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
Funny story: when my water broke, I was 1.5 hours into an Ambien-induced sleep. I was so out of it that I just walked right out of the bathroom totally naked and told DH I was ready to go. He suggested that I put pants on.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24