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Official Crazy Family Thread (May/June)

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Re: Official Crazy Family Thread (May/June)

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  • cjx95cjx95 member
    Totally agree with @hellopartyof5 watch your shows!! No one is forcing her to watch them and she has her own space she can go watch what she wants, you shouldnt be put on the back burner for your bfs mom. I'm glad you get to have date night in peace but you shouldn't have to ask for that in your Own home. 
  • @SawyerRichardson Thank you for that compliment! It's not easy when every part of my brain is screaming about all the crazy going down. Lol

    @sliztee I've decided, if it's what you guys want, I'll just add little bits of crazy that have happened in the last 11 years (yup, 11 years of this crazy shit! We started dating when I was 12. His cousin was my best friend and introduced us. We have been together most of the last 18yrs. The last 11 of that living together/engaged/married) to keep you (and everyone else) entertained, between things happening, in current life. Although I'm sure there will be plenty of new crazy, through SIL's pregnancy and their crazy that will pop up  during the rest of mine. There's lots of it :joy:

    @sammierose464 thankfully it was at a big park type thing, and I could easily get away, or else I'm pretty sure my head would explode! It's never easy when dealing with them. And I've not always been nice. Lol  Thankfully I don't have to deal with them much. Mostly the walkie talkie app, holidays and maybe a random visit with SIL to see nephew. But because summer and family situations happening, I forsee at least more SIL and GMIL interactions in the future. 

    @jynjer91 Yes, definitely! And she relishes that title as well. And it will only get worse as she gets farther along. She has always been the "golden child" because she almost died as a little kid (freak accident that DH blames himself for,  and because she is a girl, but that's a whole other can of worms.). But now that she's an adult and continues to make questionable choices, people aren't as enthusiastically catering to her and the crazy show. And she can't not be the center of attention! So having to "share" the pregnancy light, with me (despite the fact that I'm almost halfway through and it's not a competition) should be interesting to say the least.

    @britvahok which part/one? Lol Most all of them are damn crazy and selfish assholes. Our time with them is limited, but with us both being pregnant and summer coming, I will at least have to listen to more of her crazy via the walkie talkie video app, if not a few more visits than normal (I do love my nephew, and so does LO. So we tolerate SIL occasionally for that reaaon.) MIL I only see usually once a year (sometimes 2 days in like a 4/5 day span, if they stay with GMIL for 4th of July). And she doesn't get on the walkie talkie app/call much. I had lots of training with crazy and toxic from my bio dad/his family/step family before I even met DH, so I was well armed to deal with this from the beginning, thankfully! 
  • cjx95cjx95 member
    @jomama1618 MIL sounds as peachy as SIL. It sounds like SIL was the type to peak in high school and is trying everything she can to get that attention back
  • @jomama1618 I'm sorry that you have to deal with all of this, but man do I get excited when I see you post in this thread!
  • @jomama1618 oh my goodness. You are a Saint! And I too enjoy hearing the crazy anytime you post!
    :smiley:
  • @drurose I might just retreat into your bedroom when she comes up, and have bf like go start cleaning the kitchen or something. Passive aggressive “I’m just being in my apartment... I can’t act like I have company every time you’re here if you’re ALWAYS here” shit. Not sure that’s the best way to handle it but it is probably what I would do.
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  • @jomama1618 Wow! This is more drama than a TV show! So this is her second "who's the daddy" pregnancy....
    DS1: 8/2012 <3 DS2  8/2017 <3 DS3 10/2018 


  • cjx95cjx95 member
    Good lord @jomama1618 I don't know how you do it
  • @jomama1618 wow. i seriously love reading your updates LOL! 

    I have a semi-similar way less dramatic story to share. DH cousin who was 20 at the time, got his gf pregnant just a few weeks apart from when DH and I were due with DS. They kept the baby, had a beautiful little girl and her and my son are now 3 weeks apart in age and get along great. We don't see them a ton, but it's nice when we do. We all kindof questioned whether or not that pregnancy was actually an 'oops'. This cousins gf comes from a family of multiple teen moms (no judgement, just saying this is something she has been around her whole life), and had even mentioned before that she wanted to be a young mom. I really do believe the pregnancy was planned. These cousins are young, are not financially stable, and are currently living in government assisted living. They were so afraid to tell my husbands family about the pregnancy that they didn't announce until she was 7 MONTHS ALONG!! Must be nice to be 19 and still able to hide that sh*t LOL. 

    Fast forward 2 years and now DH and i are obviously expecting #2. We find out that they are ALSO expecting #2!! Big shocker there. Again, they are claiming this was an 'oops' and that they weren't sure what they were going to do. TW** I guess they had talked to their parents about the possibility of abortion/adoption' End TW** They are going to keep the baby, she is due in December. So now they will have 2 little ones, with very little income, living in government assisted living. I just couldn't imagine that situation at the age of 22. 

    We of course wish them the best, but know this is not going to be an easy road ahead for them.
  • cjx95cjx95 member
    @nasalot188 that's stressful and does sound like they try getting pregnant when you do.. I'd question if it was planned or not too honestly. 
  • Oh my gosh @jomama1618 I do not know how you have the energy for her.

    That's a lot of stress for them @nasalot188. I hope they can handle it!
  • @britvahok it definitely is! :joy: And the crazy part is this is actually WAY more calm then the past because now MIL is states away, and a little more preoccupied with stuff (I thank the distance and her new husband for that!) And the drama from my side of the family (which is less than in laws but still very there!) Is calmed more because some people moving/changes in circumstances. And yup, 2nd who's baby daddy craziness, but she won't admit to anyone but me that there is a possibility. I hope he asks for a DNA test at the hospital!

    @mamabearcj I have no answer. Lol If I had to deal with it anyore, I'd probably not deal so well. Thank goodness for at least a little distance!

    @nasalot188 I'm just glad it serves more good than making me ask WTF?! a whole lot. Lol
    And definitely sounds like it was intentional. I too, hope they can handle everything that will be going on for them!

    @chopchop25 Some days I definitely don't, and have to ignore her til I can deal with her level of crazy. And then I usually have like 37 texts and at least 3 phone calls, when I do that.

    So this will be the last post on this thread (at least for me) Since tomorrow is the 1st of July! When something new happens (which I'm sure will be quickly because the 4th, since I have to spend the day with SIL and DS's birthday is that week as well.) I will start the new thread for July/August, unless someone has some crazy they need to share before then and starts it!

    So MIL's surgery was Wednesday. GMIL drove down Tuesday morning (it's about 6-8 hours drive from what I'm told) and will be staying with her until sometime between Saturday and next Tuesday (she wants to be he for the 4th because that's where the remaining family celebrates the 4th). MIL told her husband not to waste his days off because her mom would be there to help. GMIL videoed the family group a few minutes after the Dr talked to them and told them everything went well, and she was just waking up in recovery before being moved to her room. Apparently that wasn't good enough, so MIL had to video us all herself, after getting in her room (still hazy) and talk to everyone. (About how sore she was, and how long she would be there, and how they had to pack her with a ton of packing etc). So in response SIL has to respond (remember, this a family group, so we all get these) and goes on dramatically about how she's glad her mom is ok, but she can't even bare to look at her without crying, because *sobs* she is supposed to be there. (No reason why she is supposed to, other than she's her daughter. Kicker is she didn't attempt to get it off and go there. She could have. Her son in with his dad right now. She's caring for bf's kids while he works (when she's home) but they could stay where ever they do when they both work. Or you know, where they went before her.) More dramatics, more tears. Then goes on about how sick she is, and just getting out of bed at 3:30pm *eye roll* because she just didn't feel good at all. (But her video before that, from last night was just talking about how great she was doing with the meds she was given, and being able to do stuff and have energy). Apparently not even surgery let's you keep some spotlight around here!
    Oh and she's already started in on the dramatics that she has to have that stitch put in, and has to go to a big hospital, with a more specialized Dr. (Again, funny how they did the same thing in our small hospital here last time...)
    Oh! So then, after I refuse to acknowledge her attempted guilting to agree I'll do the shower, she decides she needs to take matters into her own hands. Y'all, she posted on FB!!! At 11-12 weeks pregnant "So just going to throw this out there, cuz I guess I got no clue. Is anyone going to throw me a baby shower?!?!?!" Yup, she really just asked everyone she knew if one of them was going to throw her a shower, and in the first trimester at that! I was mortified!!! She doesn't even get how tacky and horrid that was! It literally took every inkling of my being and walking away from fb and my phone to not call her out on how damn ridiculous that shit was! Then someone she knows was all "Oh, I've never planned a shower, that sounds like fun! I'll do it!" I vaguely know her because of SIL, and she's kind of naive. I am willing to bet all the internet dollars she doesn't realize planning a shower means you are usually the one paying for it! Then she offered to do their "gender reveal party" *cringe* The crazy continues, friend asks when she is due, gets response and says "so we should do it in November or December then". The first thing that goes through my head is, there is ZERO chance I am taking my newborn to a baby shower in flu season!" (I already know she expects me to be there. She wants us to be like sister best friends and is upset when we aren't at every possible family type thing or don't want to/can't go do stuff together.) Then the super petty part of my brain (you know, the shady part that tells you to do mean shit lol) laughed and thought, can you imagine how crazy jealous she would go if baby and I DID show up, and suddenly the spotlight wasn't on her? Because, you know, newborn and people we/she knows are baby crazy! LMAO I don't think she has thought that through (not that I want to risk baby's health anyway). As if that's not enough, she then comments "we need to get lots and lots of people to come! *Smiley face*" My mouth hung open. I was like you did not just seriously say that...
    She also said I should "keep everything for her" meaning anything I have from Ds and all things from October baby. I am all for passing stuff down, but that annoyed me. Especially with her "huge shower with lots and lots of people". And as far as I know, we aren't having any kind of shower/sprinkle etc because this is our second kid in 2 years. Around here/our back ground you don't do that having 2 close together (unless special circumstances like multiples). Although my cousins sent 2 boxes of clothes from their girls (which was so sweet, despite the fact that I'm still stain treating a bunch of them on the 3rd wash. I love them, and am thankful for them passing stuff on. Which has basically became tradition in our very large family, I sent lots to them as well. But guys, I would be mortified to send anything to someone in the conditions of some of those. Sorry if that seems petty/mean, just one thing my anxiety/OCD messes with me about. I'm a little crazy about mine, DH included, not wearing stained or misfitting/messed up clothes.) We will be re-buying all other necessities on our own. (We got rid of most everything. We were told DS was medically impossible (getting pregnant with/carrying), so despite trying (and having another loss) we figured it would be years again, if ever.) I think it just bothered me that she is already expecting everyone to provide everything, despite them both working full time (which is more than most those around us.) 
    On an unrelated note, I've been trying to weeks to set up stuff for DS's birthday party, so as much family could make it as possible, yet all the in laws basically refuse to even comment on if they are going to attempt to come (even when we do everything imaginable to accommodate them, including making sure the party is at a central easy to get to location that is a short drive for all)... you can be sure everyone has drove all over hell's half acre (including more than an hour away to damn Chuck e cheese) for every one of nephew's birthdays. I should be used to it, and maybe it's the pregnancy hormones, but this is pissing me off more than normal.
  • @jomama1618 dang, girl. Hugs to you for dealing with that level of crazy. I even cringed at you just mentioning her asking for a baby shower via facebook. yikes.
  • cjx95cjx95 member
    @jomama1618 holy hell I feel like I went through a soap opera! First I'm glad MILs surgery went well. As for SIL I would find anyone you could possibly give stuff to instead of her but I'm super petty so *shrugs* I don't think I'd bring a newborn to her shower in the middle of flu season but if your up to it that'd be great to steal her spotlight, if not she'd definitely be pissed you didnt go but that's her problem, not yours. She already has a child why is she expecting a second shower?? It's too bad someone doesn't comment that its tacky or gift grabby to her but I don't think she'd get it if they did.. you have the patience of a saint momma!
  • @jomama1618 - Thanks for offering to start next month’s thread!
  • I was thinking the same thing about the shower....she already has a kid. I definitely think it's tacky.
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