Weekly Randoms 6/4

emmaaa · June 2018

I think I'm at the point that my prenatal is making me pretty nauseous. Last time, it wasn't as bad if I took it before bed but then it keeps me up all night.

ladystout08 · June 2018

sfgiantsgamerbabe said:

DS had been a pill today. It’s not the “terrible twos” it’s THREE! Two was a breeze. Now he has an opinion about everything and I’m trying to get the courage to start potty training him.

Ahhh threenagers.

mainemama_ · June 2018

@sfgiantsgamerbabe three is the worst! I would take two over and over again if we could just skip the threes!

kns1988 · June 2018

I feel enormous. I'm so sick that I have to eat every two hours. So far this morning, I've had an apple, a donut, 2 pieces of toast, and bbq potato chips, and it's only 9:45.

In other news, my kid took his first steps last night, so that was really exciting. I'm ready for him to get up and go!

julesf817 · June 2018

kns1988 said:

I feel enormous. I'm so sick that I have to eat every two hours. So far this morning, I've had an apple, a donut, 2 pieces of toast, and bbq potato chips, and it's only 9:45.

In other news, my kid took his first steps last night, so that was really exciting. I'm ready for him to get up and go!

Things get so much easier (in most ways haha) when they can walk solidly. That mobile, but not actually walking yet stage is so hard.

saltedcaramel518 · June 2018

julesf817 said:

kns1988 said:

I feel enormous. I'm so sick that I have to eat every two hours. So far this morning, I've had an apple, a donut, 2 pieces of toast, and bbq potato chips, and it's only 9:45.

In other news, my kid took his first steps last night, so that was really exciting. I'm ready for him to get up and go!

Things get so much easier (in most ways haha) when they can walk solidly. That mobile, but not actually walking yet stage is so hard.

Yesssss. I loved the "can sit up but not crawl stage," but I felt like DS and I were both constantly frustrated in the stage between that one and solidly walking.

sparkymcgeee · June 2018

I think I'm just going to push this kid over every time s/he tries to walk. It's my last baby. I want it to stay a baby as long as possible.

eleven_ · June 2018

@sparkymcgeee Me too. I'm feeling really emotional about this pregnancy because it will be my last.

gorgeousariel · June 2018

@sparkymcgeee @eleven_ it's my last pregnancy too. We've even discussed me not getting the rhogam shot this pregnancy because there's no point if there's no baby #3. Which makes me sad.

ladystout08 · June 2018

Also #teamlastpregnancy. If this one doesn't stick I think I'm just done but hopefully it does and we'll be done kid wise.

sparkymcgeee · June 2018

ladystout08 said:

Also #teamlastpregnancy. If this one doesn't stick I think I'm just done but hopefully it does and we'll be done kid wise.

We're done either way. DH and I already discussed how mentally and emotionally I can't keep doing this. He really can't either. If for some reason it doesn't succeed he'll get the V and we'll be good with our two. But even with my losses I'm feeling more confident this time around. I hope it doesn't bite me in the ass later.

MrsDho11 · June 2018

kaf1788 said:

So I have a borderline obsession with my houseplants. Been collecting rare plants for a while, name them, talk to them, completely invested in their wellbeing. After the past few weeks of exhaustion I've killed about half of them. Just can't be bothered to even think about watering them.
And for that reason I am so totally in awe of all you second (third, fourth, etc) time moms. I'm sure you're about fifty times more exhausted than I am and you're keeping HUMANS alive! You are all amazing superhero goddesses and I hope you know that!

If it makes you feel any better, I am definitely not winning any momming awards today.

#ThankGoodnessForSesameStreet

ladystout08 · June 2018

sparkymcgeee said:

ladystout08 said:

Also #teamlastpregnancy. If this one doesn't stick I think I'm just done but hopefully it does and we'll be done kid wise.

We're done either way. DH and I already discussed how mentally and emotionally I can't keep doing this. He really can't either. If for some reason it doesn't succeed he'll get the V and we'll be good with our two. But even with my losses I'm feeling more confident this time around. I hope it doesn't bite me in the ass later.

Same. He was done after our CP in Feb but I wasn't ready to quit so he agreed to keep going. I too feel good about this so I hope we're both in it for the long haul!

sparkymcgeee · June 2018

TW - suicide - TW

Kate Spade was found dead. This makes me sad. I love her handbags.

tosh24 · June 2018

Who's used a fetal doppler before? I never have but this is also the first promising pregnancy after RPL so I'm worried that I will go crazy once the ultrasounds stop. How far along do you have to be until you can hear the HB with the doppler?

sparkymcgeee · June 2018

@tosh24 I do. Typically you have to be between 10 and 12 weeks and it's pushing it at 10 for a lot of people. I'm just counting down the days until I can use it.

nononorman · June 2018

Can’t imagine feeling this way with two little babies so I might be done after this ...and I definitely will not be sad about it. Sometimes I think I’m broken because I don’t get all the MOM FEELS but sometimes it’s nice? Just want this pregnancy to be over so I can have my real life human babe who I can actually see/feel/borderline understand. For now I’m just blindly directing my rage at a “peanut sized” fetus which seems very unfair.

And thats unfortunate about Kate spade but tbh I didn’t realize she was a real person

or at least didn’t realize the real person would still be alive... guess KS is a younger brand than I thought?

sparkymcgeee · June 2018

It's so worth it Potterphile. And looking back pregnancy was a blink of the eye. I don't do pregnancy well either. Like it's rough for me (preterm labor, bedrest, significant symptoms) but here I am on my sixth pregnancy hoping for take home baby 3 because this is just a blip in the process. And the whole time it's not this bad. You don't feel like utter crap the whole time. You get a nice break there in the middle. First tri and the end of third tri are bad but the in between can be a lot of good.

eleven_ · June 2018

+1 for all of this being worth it. The first trimester and the last couple of weeks of the third are the hardest. The second trimester is so incredible. You get so much of your energy back and you have a cute little bump and you finally get to feel LO move.

nononorman · June 2018

@sparkymcgeee understood, I’m just... struggling. With DD I was congested for 8-9 months... I think my immune system just hates me while pregnant? I also had a stomach flu in the second tri. This time already I’ve been congested (like I cough up mucus and then I puke Bc of that... probably should have TWed that, sorry) for a few weeks now

definitely worth it but maybe only twice for me!! Not sure how I’ll feel after this one but I didn’t have a feeling of incompleteness or longing for another baby after DD was born- I’d like for her to have a sibling because that is so important to me in my life- but it would be hard to decide on 3 unless I really FEEL something.

saltedcaramel518 · June 2018

Re: Kate Spade

This podcast episode of How I Built This is really interesting and worth a listen.

sparkymcgeee · June 2018

I forgot you went through this before. Lol I was thinking, I hope she doesn't think this is how the whole nine months goes!

nononorman · June 2018

@sparkymcgeee haha yes I have a July 17 Baby so I remember pregnancy pretty vividly. It will get better in some ways and worse in others (reflux, peeing all night and day, being too huge to sleep!) Just have to get through it. I do think that since I don’t have losses I don’t have the same perspective as some of the ladies on here - I’m less appreciative and more irritated probably.

ladystout08 · June 2018

My husband doesn't want to talk baby names at all and it's annoying me.

*for reference we had a name picked out for DS but he got cold feed and changed his mind at 35 weeks. DS wasn't named until after he was born so I don't think he wants to commit and back out again*

UnbreakableKimmySchmidt · June 2018

I just did Target drive up pick up...you place your order on line, drive to Target and someone brings your purchases to your car. Game changer for winter + toddler+ baby.

eleven_ · June 2018

@ladystout08 DH never wants to talk about baby names. I feel like if I didn't force the conversation, none of our kids would have names

AliKay20 · June 2018

I turn 30 on 6/20 yet all I’m looking forward to really is my first appt on 6/15. It used to make me sad thinking time is flying by and I’m closer to 30 than I want to be but this pregnancy makes me want time to fly by indeed! Can’t wait to hopefully see babe and hear the heartbeat. 6/15 cannot get here fast enough! Ten more days but who’s counting?

sparkymcgeee · June 2018

DH and I just applied to get a new place. The housing market is ridiculous here as I'm sure @eleven_ can attest. So we just applied to get a new place because when we moved out here a few years ago we just needed a place and found a quick apartment.
I'm so nervous about this new place. I want to get it but I also don't want to pay a ton. I'm stressing out.

eleven_ · June 2018

@sparkymcgeee The housing market is SO stressful right now. My BIL has put so many offers on houses, but has always been outbid. It's crazy! We bought our house 4 years ago, but if we would have bought it now it would have been 100 grand more

Do you like the house?

kgg2241 · June 2018

@sparkymcgeee good luck! The housing market is absolutely nuts here. Part of my job is helping cities along the Front solve the housing affordability crisis. It doesn't look like it is going to get better anytime soon, so I would definitely find a place you love now before prices keep rising.

Edit: that probably didn't make you feel better and now I feel like a jerk! I just always hear people say that we'll have a crash and they'll get in while it's cheap, but that just isn't going to happen anytime soon. So fx that you get this place.

sparkymcgeee · June 2018

we do like it. It's in AF and so a good area and super convenient to work (we both work in that tech bubble area). Since it's the same district the kids can stay where they are as well.

luckymay2x · June 2018

Just want to say that some people really do feel terrible their entire pregnancy. It is not just the first tri and last few weeks that can be unpleasant. Last time I was so bitter that I never felt better during 2nd trimester. I kept thinking "when will I start feeling better?" People kept telling me I would feel better soon and it made me more upset when i didnt feel better. I didn't feel better until close to 32 weeks. I had a few weeks where i was not miserable, and then the nausea, vomiting, and aversions came back from 36 onwards. 3rd tri in general was my "favorite" because the end was in sight and that was a huge mood boost. Many people complain how uncomfortable they are in 3rd tri, but I was happiest during that trimester and felt better overall than any other point in pregnancy.

My main point to this is that telling people they will feel better in 2nd tri isnt a great approach - because it is not always true and it gets your hopes up.

It is true that pregnancy is a relatively short time and that your children make the experience worth it.

MrsDho11 · June 2018

luckymay2x said:

Just want to say that some people really do feel terrible their entire pregnancy. It is not just the first tri and last few weeks that can be unpleasant. Last time I was so bitter that I never felt better during 2nd trimester. I kept thinking "when will I start feeling better?" People kept telling me I would feel better soon and it made me more upset when i didnt feel better. I didn't feel better until close to 32 weeks. I had a few weeks where i was not miserable, and then the nausea, vomiting, and aversions came back from 36 onwards. 3rd tri in general was my "favorite" because the end was in sight and that was a huge mood boost. Many people complain how uncomfortable they are in 3rd tri, but I was happiest during that trimester and felt better overall than any other point in pregnancy.

My main point to this is that telling people they will feel better in 2nd tri isnt a great approach - because it is not always true and it gets your hopes up.

It is true that pregnancy is a relatively short time and that your children make the experience worth it.

I agree with this. My last pregnancy I had morning sickness the. Entire. Time. It did not end until I was induced and subsequently gave birth. In hindsight I think I started suffering from some depression in second tri because everyone had told me I would feel better then and I didn’t.

Now, I later went on to suffer PPD, so I may be overly prone to that, and I’m definitely not saying being told I’d feel better in the second tri and then not was a contributing factor for getting PPD or anything at all. Just that at the end of the long PPD tunnel, I looked back at second tri and think I suffered from some depression there as well, largely due to not feeling better and being upset about tgat, feeling guilty for not appreciating the pregnancy experience more, etc.

hopefully that made some sense because it’s 5am and I’ve been up a while. #pregnancyinsomnia *eye roll*

eleven_ · June 2018

@luckymay2x You're totally right. I didn't mean to say that all women will feel better in the second trimester. I guess I was just sharing my experiences. I have a few friends who have hated every moment of their pregnancies so I definitely understand that it's not all women.

luckymay2x · June 2018

@MrsDho11 yes, I hated it when people told me "treasure these moments" while I was pregnant. I started telling people "I'm thankful to be pregnant, but I do not enjoy it". Sometimes people would get snarky at me for that.

I was lucky that I had a friend who was miserable for all of her 3 pregnancies, so she was always sympathetic. She would tell me "it is ok not to enjoy being pregnant." And she would say "I hated every minite of pregnancy, but I love my children."

I was worried in 3rd tri that I wouldn't bond with the baby, but in the end bonding was not an issue at all. But a difficult pregnancy is a dark place emotionally. Postpartum can be a dark place, too. There were times i cried for days, like after I found out I had permanent pelvic floor damage. Cried.for.days.

Guys, I'm so anxious about how all this will go. It was so hard last time, physically and emotionally. We waited this long because we werent sure we could go thru all this again. In some ways we are a million times better prepared, but we are shell shocked, too.

nononorman · June 2018

Agree with all of the last ten posts

hated all of pregnancy even when I technically felt okay. I always felt like my body wasn’t mine and I couldn’t physically do the things I wanted to even though I was very active. Might have been psychological?

Also I can commiserate with the housing thing... we’ve been looking for 4 months and haven’t even seen anything we want to put an offer in on. We know we have to move on something we like in less than 24 hours which is fine, but can’t believe that we’re looking at expensive houses (for this area) that need full renovations. Good luck @sparkymcgeee - I hope you get it and this process can end as quickly as possible for you. I keep thinking we’re finally gonna find something and I’m going to be 7+ mo pregnant

sparkymcgeee · June 2018

But there are levels of awfulness. I didn't feel good at any point during my pregnancies because as I mentioned, I have terrible pregnancies. But it's relative. First tri is awful for a lot of reasons and 2nd tri was awful for different reasons but I would take 2nd tri over 1st easy because the awfulness was easier to deal with. At no point was I ever puppies and rainbows.
To be fair I wasn't nauseous all throughout the 2nd tri with either of mine that made it that for though so I can't speak to that.

ladystout08 · June 2018

Eating spicy pickles at 9 am sums up this pregnancy fairly well.

kns1988 · June 2018

ladystout08 said:

Eating spicy pickles at 9 am sums up this pregnancy fairly well.

That sounds delicious. I ate an entire bag of pickle potato chips the other day. Those were totally made for pregnant women.

eleven_ · June 2018

I don't understand the love of pickles while pregnant. I've heard pregnant women like to drink pickle juice too. NO. Just no.

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