What are y’all planning to do with your older kid(s) when you go into labor? Obviously, it’s early to be thinking about this, but.. our families live 2.5 hours away, and our closest friends are moving next month .
All of our other friends have kids that are younger than DS, so none of them are a convenient option if I go into labor in the middle of the night like I did the first time.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
@saltedcaramel518 when I was pregnant with my daughter we planned for my mom come and get my son. He was 22 months and is very protective of me so I didn't know how'd he do with it. However, when I went into labor, I was home alone with him (my husband was at work, he did so well, he encouraged me through contractions. It was the sweetest thing.
My mom did come get him though before we headed to the hospital and met us at the hospital. With this one we'll probably bring both kids with us to the birthing center and have a family member get them and meet us to watch them. My son will be 3.5yo and my daughter be 17.5 months. My little dude was so encouraging at 22 months I'm open to him staying in the room (away from the action down under) if he's interested.
@saltedcaramel518 I have no idea. O_O Maybe I need to start thinking about that soon though. My fam is in the Midwest & we’re in VA sooo I might make some phone calls to our friends later on.
We are fortunate to have family nearby or I'm not sure what I would do. My sister counted on my mom watching her son despite being a 2.5 hour plane ride away and my mom only made it there 1 hour before the baby was born. I don't think I could do that, that would stress me out.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? I am a WAHM right now, and every day is already a struggle in terms of managing everything. I try not to think about how I am going to manage with a newborn and a toddler, because it just gives me anxiety.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I am really excited for DS to have a sibling. He says he thinks its a sister, and her name should be Margaret like Daniel Tiger's baby sister. But in reality I know he has no idea what is about to happen. He is a sweet boy, and I know he is going to be a sweet big brother.
@oldiebutgoodie80 my DD has also made the connection between Daniel Tiger having a baby and a baby coming to live in our house. Although yesterday she was playing with her DT figurines and I saw her take Margaret away from the rest of the family... LOL
@saltedcaramel518 do you have friends without kids you could ask or a babysitter/nanny that could be on call for you?
Also, how fast was your labor with your first? It’s not like contractions start and you have to run to the hospital in most cases. 2.5 hours may be very realistic for your parents to make the drive in, even if they have to swing by the hospital to pick up your oldest. My parents are a good 4 hour plane ride away but I think a 2.5 hour drive you could work with if nothing else presents itself.
@MrsDho11 omg I didn’t even really think of the aspect of keeping up with both of them (I mean I did, but I guess ignored it). I’m having trouble keeping up with DD right now with just general first tri exhaustion. Today I feel like I got hit by a Mack truck and have been a useless potato since I got home. I am making H do everything. He deserves it though because he told me I looked old when I got home (to which I replied ‘I’M GROWING A HUMAN, NAUSEOUS, AND FUCKING EXHAUSTED).
Me: 28 DH: 26 Married: November 2015 TTC#1: January 2016 BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16 BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17 DD Born 06/23/17 TFAS: April 2018 BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? I'm worried about how Dylan will handle sharing the attention not only from me but especially his grandma my MIL. She is a great grandma and gives him a ton of attention and I think he may end up being more upset about sharing her than me. Also potty training. I plan to try before the baby comes so we will see how that goes
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I think Dylan will be a great big brother once everything settles down and I know in a few years he will have so much fun playing with the little one
@UnbreakableKimmySchmidt Ah! Poor Margaret! I’m just so glad that DT deals so much with having a new baby in the house. He has no other frame of reference! Lol
@MrsDho11 omg I didn’t even really think of the aspect of keeping up with both of them (I mean I did, but I guess ignored it). I’m having trouble keeping up with DD right now with just general first tri exhaustion. Today I feel like I got hit by a Mack truck and have been a useless potato since I got home. I am making H do everything. He deserves it though because he told me I looked old when I got home (to which I replied ‘I’M GROWING A HUMAN, NAUSEOUS, AND FUCKING EXHAUSTED).
NO HE DIDN’T!!!!!
and yeah, I mean, right?
Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016 TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
AFM, I’m not going to stress yet about the labor thing. We have friends who can probably help including the people who live in the other half of our duplex. But also I think I need to wait until I see how things are starting shake out in the third tri. If I’m having BP problems again and looking at an early induction again vs. going into labor on my own. They’re just two very different scenarios to me. *shrug*
Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016 TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
@MrsDho11 omg I didn’t even really think of the aspect of keeping up with both of them (I mean I did, but I guess ignored it). I’m having trouble keeping up with DD right now with just general first tri exhaustion. Today I feel like I got hit by a Mack truck and have been a useless potato since I got home. I am making H do everything. He deserves it though because he told me I looked old when I got home (to which I replied ‘I’M GROWING A HUMAN, NAUSEOUS, AND FUCKING EXHAUSTED).
@BitterBetty12 Noooo he didn't! How rude. Men will never understand what we women go through during pregnancy. My last one was pretty easy-peasy, and didn't have much morning sickness, nor did I rely on my husband for much. I'm thinking this go around I want to be dramatic as possible with him... and be extra needy.
@melly-melly OMG I did not even think about that happening. My first it started at 20 weeks, my second at 12. Now I'm worried. I'll let you know if it starts early. It definitely feels better to know you are not alone. Nursing pads, lol
@texasmommie they really don’t! I try to explain to him that when he tells me he’s exhausted, pregnancy is like that but about a million times worse. He doesn’t seem to believe me though. Thankfully he’s normally not a doofus so I’ll keep him.
Me: 28 DH: 26 Married: November 2015 TTC#1: January 2016 BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16 BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17 DD Born 06/23/17 TFAS: April 2018 BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
How old are your other kids? DD just turned 3 in March
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? I'm slightly concerned about DD's transition with new brother or sister. I'm also a bit concerned about the space in our house. We only have one room for kids. I know we'll have the baby in our room for awhile, but I don't know how it will go after that. I suppose other people manage, and we will too.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I am actually googling MUCH less frequently than the first pregnancy, which is a success for me. I was terrified about everything the first time. I am looking forward to how this helps shape our family, and of course to see my children interact with one another.
@canichangethislater I'm anxious about the space in our house as well. DS's room is small, and the other spare bedroom is H's office, where he works from home 4 days out of the week. But I am a little encouraged when I remember that my grandparents raised 3 kids in this same tiny house years ago. It can be done! Just wish they had left behind a how-to...
@katethemom That is encouraging! Right now we're extra stretched because my sister and her three sons are staying with us, so I think that's adding to my anxiety. Also my mom lives with us full-time. It's crazy how life takes up your space. When we moved in to this house, I had an office and we had a spare room. Now my office is in our bedroom and people are sleeping in what used to be our dining room.
How old are your other kids? DS turned 3 last month and DD turns 2 in September
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? Not terribly concerned about a third yet. Mostly just afraid nobody's gonna want to babysit all 3 lol.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I feel like a third will make our family feel complete and I'm so happy
Re: STM+ Check-In w/o 5/21
All of our other friends have kids that are younger than DS, so none of them are a convenient option if I go into labor in the middle of the night like I did the first time.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
My mom did come get him though before we headed to the hospital and met us at the hospital. With this one we'll probably bring both kids with us to the birthing center and have a family member get them and meet us to watch them. My son will be 3.5yo and my daughter be 17.5 months. My little dude was so encouraging at 22 months I'm open to him staying in the room (away from the action down under) if he's interested.
How far along are you? 7+1
How old are your other kids? DS is 2 1/2
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? I am a WAHM right now, and every day is already a struggle in terms of managing everything. I try not to think about how I am going to manage with a newborn and a toddler, because it just gives me anxiety.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I am really excited for DS to have a sibling. He says he thinks its a sister, and her name should be Margaret like Daniel Tiger's baby sister. But in reality I know he has no idea what is about to happen. He is a sweet boy, and I know he is going to be a sweet big brother.
Also, how fast was your labor with your first? It’s not like contractions start and you have to run to the hospital in most cases. 2.5 hours may be very realistic for your parents to make the drive in, even if they have to swing by the hospital to pick up your oldest. My parents are a good 4 hour plane ride away but I think a 2.5 hour drive you could work with if nothing else presents itself.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
How old are your other kids? DS is 20 months
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? I'm worried about how Dylan will handle sharing the attention not only from me but especially his grandma my MIL. She is a great grandma and gives him a ton of attention and I think he may end up being more upset about sharing her than me. Also potty training. I plan to try before the baby comes so we will see how that goes
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I think Dylan will be a great big brother once everything settles down and I know in a few years he will have so much fun playing with the little one
and yeah, I mean, right?
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
@texasmommie they really don’t! I try to explain to him that when he tells me he’s exhausted, pregnancy is like that but about a million times worse. He doesn’t seem to believe me though. Thankfully he’s normally not a doofus so I’ll keep him.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
7+0
How old are your other kids?
DD just turned 3 in March
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now?
I'm slightly concerned about DD's transition with new brother or sister. I'm also a bit concerned about the space in our house. We only have one room for kids. I know we'll have the baby in our room for awhile, but I don't know how it will go after that. I suppose other people manage, and we will too.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
I am actually googling MUCH less frequently than the first pregnancy, which is a success for me. I was terrified about everything the first time. I am looking forward to how this helps shape our family, and of course to see my children interact with one another.
How old are your other kids? DS turned 3 last month and DD turns 2 in September
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? Not terribly concerned about a third yet. Mostly just afraid nobody's gonna want to babysit all 3 lol.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I feel like a third will make our family feel complete and I'm so happy
BFP #1 5/5/13 MC confirmed 5/9/13
BFP #5 5/16/18 EDD 1/29/19