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STM+ Check-In w/o 5/21

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How far along are you? 

How old are your other kids? 

Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now?

Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: 
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  • Duckie678Duckie678 member
    How far along are you? 
    6 weeks

    How old are your other kids? 
    My ds is 5
    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now?
    My son is super attached to me, so I'm curious how its gonna be when new baby comes. We haven't told him yet, but I think I will tonight. We also need to work on him being more independent. They will be close as far as birthdays go, so I'm a little concerned, but I think they'll be alright.
    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: 
    ds is so good with his 2 year old cousin, so I'm happy thinking about all of them being close in age. I'm looking forward to feeling movement, it was my favorite part of being pregnant last time. 
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  • pttomatopttomato member
    How far along are you? 4 + 6

    How old are your other kids? I have a 21 month old daughter.

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? We need to get her to fall asleep without us in the room before the baby gets here. Right now I am sitting next to her bed so she actually stays in it. I worry about the next baby’s sleep. I spent most of my time in DD’s first year trying to get her to sleep. I put a lot of effort into trying to establish good sleep habits and failed at that, we sleep trained and that mostly failed too. She didn’t STTN until like 18 months and it’s still only about half the time and she never gets more than 10 hours of sleep at night. She also only naps about 75% of the time. 

    I can’t decide if I want to try and be really really strict about trying to establishing good sleep habits with this one or do whatever works so they might like sleep and maybe it won’t be as big of a battle. The hard part about being super strict is that DD needs to get outside a lot in order to sleep so we can’t stay home all day. I also hope this baby isn’t MSPI too.

    DD also tends too be aggressive with other kids. We work on it a lot, but it does concern me with having a little baby around.

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: She points at my belly and says “baby in tummy. Drink milk.” She loves other kids and is really interested in the little babies we know. I think overall she will like having a sibling.
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  • pttomatopttomato member
    @AliKay20 We are potty training DD right now. It’s taking longer than I thought it would considering before we started she would sometimes ask to go potty and actually go, including when we were out of the house. She totally gets it and asks to go sometimes and even goes completely on her own occasionally. But she is stubborn so she doesn’t respond well to my prompting even if she needs to go.
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  • olivemommaolivemomma member
    @AliKay20 yes! Potty train while pregnant! I highly recommend the book ‘oh crap! Potty training’. Basically you have to devote at least a couple of days to staying home. You let your toddler run around naked, watch them like a hawk to learn their cues, and teach them to use a potty. It’s a roUgh couple of days but it works like a charm! DD was about 80% trained after one weekend. Occasional accidents but she really had it down and was a little over 2 (probably 2yr 3mo) when we did it. I think it would have been impossible with a newborn. No matter what strategy you go with, they need a lot of attention from you and I just don’t think you’ll want to put your energy and focus into that and cleaning up a lot of accidents with a new baby. Luckily, your little one is a good age right now to do it while you are pregnant!  

    @sfgiantsgamerbabe I didn’t find going from 1-2 as hard as I feared it would be. I knew how to handle a newborn at that point. For us, it was just key to make sure our DD didn’t feel left out. I went out of my way to make sure she got a little one on one mommy time each day and DH really stepped up with her too. We also had the baby bring her a big sis present which she loved and I tried to incorporate her into helping with the new baby as much as she could. 
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  • ladystout08ladystout08 member
    How far along are you? 4w3d

    How old are your other kids? Turns 5 on Tuesday

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now?  Idk when to tell him. After the anatomy scan?We've had several losses so we've never actually told him. 
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    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: too nervous to think about it actually happening.
    TW

    M/C 06/09/2011
    DS 05/29/2013
    M/C 02/14/2017 
    M/C 06/05/2017 
    C/P 03/01/2018
    BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019 
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  • ladystout08ladystout08 member
    Has anyone been team green with a second one? Is it easier to tell your LO they're having a brother or sister instead of just saying you're having a baby? Our LO will be five, almost six by the time this LO arrives. 
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    M/C 06/09/2011
    DS 05/29/2013
    M/C 02/14/2017 
    M/C 06/05/2017 
    C/P 03/01/2018
    BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019 
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  • emmaaaemmaaa member
    How far along are you? 7w2d

    How old are your other kids? DD is 20 months old

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? I'm nervous for the transition from 1 child to 2 children. I've heard some say it's a big change and hard transition. I hope DD won't be upset about a new baby and attention being shifted from her. I feel like once the new baby is here, DD will officially be a daddy's girl because the newborn will require a lot of my attention while being breastfed. Also, it's weird to think about going through all the newborn stuff again. I almost don't remember how much it sucked or how tired I was or how painful it was. Like, I was in tears every day for almost a month while getting the hang of breastfeeding between me having no clue what I was doing and DD not latching properly and  bleeding nipples. Why put myself through it again???? But I keep reminding myself how it got easier and everything came natural eventually.

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I am excited to see DD be a big sister. I think once she gets over the initial shock of a new baby being around, she will love it. She loves helping and being independent which will be a good trait for a big sister. Also, kind of related to above, I hope and think some things may be easier this time since we've done it before. Like, I know it will take some time to just get back in the swing of newborn life, but hopefully it all comes back to me and DH pretty quickly. I also felt proud of myself with DD for BF for 15 months and hope to do that again
    DH: 29 | Me: 29 
    Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
    TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
    DD: 10/5/16
    TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
    DS: 1/9/19
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  • AliKay20AliKay20 member
    Thanks @pttomato & @olivemomma!! 

    My DD is really stubborn and is the type to not do something just bc we told her to. I’ll check out the book @olivemomma suggested and try over a long weekend! 
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  • pttomatopttomato member
    edited May 2018
    @AliKay20 We have actually had a lot of success with a timer. It’s like if something else is telling her to go she is way more willing than if I am. 
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  • UnbreakableKimmySchmidtUnbreakableKimmySchmidt member
    @AliKay20 my DD is 25 months, we are PT her this weekend following the Oh Crap method. Book is pretty straight forward and DH even read it without my prompting so he is on board. I’ll let you know how it goes. I don’t want two in diapers!
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  • melly-mellymelly-melly member
    How far along are you? 5+6

    How old are your other kids? 1 DS 21 months

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now?
    I am really worried about needing to have another c-section. I will obviously do whatever is best for baby when the time comes, but I am so worried about coming home from the hospital with a new baby and not being able to even pick up my son for a month. He's definitely a mama's boy, and I know that a new baby will be enough of an adjustment without being told that he's not allowed to climb on me or be carried. Going to do my best for a VBAC, but I learned with DS that having a birth plan doesn't really mean that much.

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: 
    I'm so happy imagining DS as a big brother. Like others have said, I'm sure he'll be a really good brother. He absolutely loves other kids and has a reputation as the resident "hugger" at daycare.
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  • molosmilesmolosmiles member
    I wish I had some good advice about growing from 1 to 2, but there is an 8 year difference between my current 2 and it made the world of difference as far as understanding and not having any regressions. I'm just as nervous as the rest of you about how the 19 month old will react. She loves babies and is pretty independent. But you just never know. The newborn stage is so overwhelming. 
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  • Mandamay1414Mandamay1414 member
    How far along are you? 
    4+2
    How old are your other kids? 
    DD is 22 months
    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now?
    Add me to the potty training group. I plan to do it within the next month, but I'm worried about MS and fatigue while trying to deal with tons of toddler accidents, lol. I tried back in Feb and the first day went ok, then she became terrified of the potty, so we put in on hold for a few months.
    I'm also concerned about how DD will react to having a sibling. I've been asking her if she wants a brother or sister for a few weeks now and it's always a resounding NO. She is very attached to me and I'm worried she will be very jealous. Hopefully they will become best friends, though. 
    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
    DD spread out an old receiving blanket on the floor yesterday and had a "picnic" with her baby doll and plastic food. She is really starting to use her imagination and play more by herself! It was so cute.
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  • MrsPyrowizMrsPyrowiz member
    edited May 2018
    How far along are you? 8 weeks today.

    How old are your other kids? Brian will be 3 in September and Theia turned 10 months yesterday. 

    Eta: I had a long thing typed out, but the app sucks, so this all that posted.
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  • olivemommaolivemomma member

    How far along are you? 7+ 3

    How old are your other kids? 4 and 2

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? 

    So since we are on the potty training train this round I am also nervous about attempting it with DS. I’m just scared boys are a whole different ballgame - I think it’s because the flow in an accident is more unpredictable. Who knows what my son will pee on when I let him run around naked! Anyone do the oh crap method with a boy? I fully intend to because it worked so well with DD. I’m just nervous my house is going to become a pee factory!

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: 
    My two are starting to play really well together and it’s so fun seeing them smile and laugh at each other. There is a lot of love there!

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  • UnbreakableKimmySchmidtUnbreakableKimmySchmidt member



    How far along are you? 
    6 + 6

    How old are your other kids? 
    DD just turned 2

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now?
    How to get two out the door and do things like grocery shop.  I know it will be hard at the beginning/impossible but hoping I get the hang of it.  I'm a SAHM and DD and I are constantly on the go.  We will have to slow down the first few months so hoping that DD is ok with that (she is very social!). 

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: 
    It's nice to know what is coming (somewhat...).  We don't have to buy all that baby stuff so I feel like there's not as much to "prepare."  I'm excited for DD to be a big sister!
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  • kns1988kns1988 member
    How far along are you? 5 weeks! (I'm a check in whore. PGAL, weekly, STM... lol) 

    How old are your other kids? 13 month DS

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? Our big decision is whether DH will leave his job and be a SAHD once we have a second. He has a high stress but low paying job (camping industry), and I make 3 times his salary. Being a SAHD has always been the plan, but it's still a big leap to make because we currently save his whole paycheck. 

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I am so excited that my kids will be 21 months apart just like my sister and I. I can't wait to see DS as a big brother, although I'm sure there will be some jealousy to deal with. I think you'd have that at any age, though. I keep thinking "my boys," but of course I have no idea if I'm having a boy or girl (I'd be thrilled with either). 
    Me: 29, DH: 31
    Married: October 2014
    Began TTC: April 2015
    BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
    BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
    BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 <3
    BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19. 


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  • JackiemxoxoJackiemxoxo member
    How far along are you? 6+2

    How old are your other kids? 5 yrs and 22 months (both girls)

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now?
    We just moved 5 months ago so it has been a challenge with new doctors, new area, new everything. I actually had to go to the ER for spotting because the new doctor would not see me because i'm not an established patient. I really just wanted them to prescribe progesterone because I felt it helped my last pregnancy and luckily the PA I had was awesome and he did. 

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: 
    We ended up telling DD1 early about the pregnancy because she was at the ultrasound (due to spotting) with all sorts of questions. She is super excited and asked if we could name the baby "home depot" then busted out laughing. I love how random kids can be. 

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  • emmaaaemmaaa member
    I also want to add that we are planning on potty training DD very soon. She is showing interest and readiness and I don't think she would do well too soon after the baby is here. I'd rather go ahead and try and see how she does. If she's not ready, then I will wait a month or so and try again 
    DH: 29 | Me: 29 
    Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
    TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
    DD: 10/5/16
    TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
    DS: 1/9/19
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  • saltedcaramel518saltedcaramel518 member
    +1 on the potty training train. idk how "ready" DS is (he does pee on the potty about once a day), but DH only works 4 half days/week during the summer and is crazy busy in the fall, so I'd like to knock it out this summer. 
    Married: May 2012
    DS1: May 2016
    DS2: Jan 2019
    Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24


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  • gorgeousarielgorgeousariel member
    +1 for potty training. We have been for months
     She actually started peeing on her potty at 15m but life happened and I slacked on keeping up with it. She goes multiple times a day and had started to wear underwear for a little bit. But she is afraid to go poop on it. She has before but thats us basically holding her down. I'm hoping we will be 100% by the end of summer. 
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  • luckymay2xluckymay2x member
    @saltedcaramel518 yay, fussybabymoms unite! Not a club people want to join tho
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  • sfgiantsgamerbabesfgiantsgamerbabe member
    Add me to the potty training posse. Once school is out, the potty training begins. Oy...
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  • MrsDho11MrsDho11 member
    Did is 18 months but ready according to “Oh, Crap Potty Training.” We have a decent amount of travel and such coming up, so I’m going to wait for that to settle and train her in mid-August.

    I’ll try to remember to come out and fill out the rest of the form later when/if I make it onto the computer!
    Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016
    TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019





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  • jandd2014jandd2014 member
    How far along are you? 8 weeks today

    How old are your other kids? DD is 18 months

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? starting to feel like we have a pretty comfortable routine as a little family of three and what are we going to do when there’s four of us?? Also, DH is working a lot lately and I’m basically single parenting most days. How will I manage two by myself when he gets busy?!

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: DD finally cut the dang molars she’s been working on and isn’t so miserable anymore which makes life easier. Also, add us to the thinking about potty training group. Hoping to work on that this summer.   
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  • AliKay20AliKay20 member
    Hey @texasmommie - just came across your comment under Symptoms 5/13 thread. I bled from week 5 to week 14 or so with DD. First it was brown discharge and sometimes it was bright red. For that reason, I was diagnosed w a threatened miscarriage but one day, I just stopped bleeding completely. I am hoping for the best at tomorrow’s ultrasound. And I totally get what you mean by worrying a lot at second pregnancy. You’d think we’d be more relaxed about it and I’m hoping we feel better after first trimester. I haven’t bled at all yet w this pregnancy but any discharge I see or feel, my mind goes to the dark place. Thinking of you & hoping for the best tomorrow!
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  • MrsDho11MrsDho11 member
    How far along are you? 
    4+5 (may change after dating scan at the end of June)

    How old are your other kids? DD is 18 months

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now?
    DD is super high energy, and I’m worried about being able to keep up with her as the pregnancy progresses. I’m also a bit concerned about sleep and such once the new one arrives. I ended up with bad PPD the first time (add that to the list of concerns), and I know not getting enough sleep makes it way worse. And I don’t think we even had it that bad with DD sleep-wise. My husband works a ton a ton though, so once he goes back to work it’ll get tough, and that makes me nervous to think about.

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: 
    Over the last several months, I’ve put a lot of work into getting into much better shape than I was, mentally and physically. I’m excited about starting this pregnancy in much better shape than my last, and I’m hoping it makes some of the things that were issues for me last time (especially blood pressure) go more smoothly this time.

    And add me to the list excited to see the sibling dynamic. I love watching DD play with our neighbor’s girl, and I’m excited to see how that translates to a brother or sister.
    Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016
    TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019





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  • sweetyjenjsweetyjenj member
    How far along are you? 6 + 2

    How old are your other kids? 15 months

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? I don't know how I'll survive the first 3 months with a newborn and a toddler. I remember with my daughter I thought "I don't know how the hell they do it"

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:  i think my daughter will be a great big sister, so I'm really excited for that! 
    Me: 30 |  DH: 33
    Married: 8/11/2007
    DD: Born 2/3/17
    BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
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  • texasmommietexasmommie member
    AliKay20 said:
    Hey @texasmommie - just came across your comment under Symptoms 5/13 thread. I bled from week 5 to week 14 or so with DD. First it was brown discharge and sometimes it was bright red. For that reason, I was diagnosed w a threatened miscarriage but one day, I just stopped bleeding completely. I am hoping for the best at tomorrow’s ultrasound. And I totally get what you mean by worrying a lot at second pregnancy. You’d think we’d be more relaxed about it and I’m hoping we feel better after first trimester. I haven’t bled at all yet w this pregnancy but any discharge I see or feel, my mind goes to the dark place. Thinking of you & hoping for the best tomorrow!
    Thank you @AliKay20 That does provide some relieve that you went through that as well with your DD. I am hoping to hear a strong heart beat tomorrow morning. :) I will definitely update once I find out. 
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  • saltedcaramel518saltedcaramel518 member
    MrsDho11 said:
    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: 
    Over the last several months, I’ve put a lot of work into getting into much better shape than I was, mentally and physically. I’m excited about starting this pregnancy in much better shape than my last, and I’m hoping it makes some of the things that were issues for me last time (especially blood pressure) go more smoothly this time. 
    I’m 15+ pounds lighter now than I was before I got pregnant with DS, and I hope it makes my pregnancy smoother as well.
    I started consistently working out 5-6 days/week in January, and I’ve never felt better! 

    I have to get up at 5 am to exercise, and I’m not sure how that’s going to go once the first tri exhaustion settles in. 
    Married: May 2012
    DS1: May 2016
    DS2: Jan 2019
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  • sweetyjenjsweetyjenj member
    DD will be 2 a few weeks after this baby is born, so she'll be right around that age where I need to think of either trying to potty train before the baby comes, or wait until after the transition. I've heard the birth of a sibling can cause regression, but I also don't want to hold her back if she's showing all the signs. Or maybe she won't show all the signs right away... Who knows. But it's something I think about!
    Me: 30 |  DH: 33
    Married: 8/11/2007
    DD: Born 2/3/17
    BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
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  • Whitmore1027Whitmore1027 member
    Sorry I have been MIA for a couple weeks. I have been SO SICK that I just don't even like to sit at the computer. So I'll probably still just be in and out until this morning (24/7) sickness goes away.

    How far along are you?     7w3d

    How old are your other kids? 21 months

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things you are going through now? I think the only concerns I have been thinking about is being able to care for a newborn and toddler during the first few weeks, to couple months of NO sleep whatsoever. I never slept those first couple months when DS was born, and I am terrified of how difficult that is going to be.

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: Definitely just excited in general to have another baby in the family. Getting to go through all the "firsts" again, and to see my son be an awesome big brother.
    Me: 32 | DH: 33
    Met: 2005 | Started Dating: 2009 | Married: 2013

    TTC#1: 06.2014;   BFP: 12.2015; DS Born: August 16, 2016
    TTC#2: 12.2017; BFP: 02.26.2018; CP 03.02.2018
                                BFP: 04.26.2018 DD Born: December 26, 2018
    Surprise Pregnancy #3; BFP: 01.11.2020; Due Date: September 19, 2021




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  • MrsDho11MrsDho11 member
    saltedcaramel518 said:
    MrsDho11 said:
    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: 
    Over the last several months, I’ve put a lot of work into getting into much better shape than I was, mentally and physically. I’m excited about starting this pregnancy in much better shape than my last, and I’m hoping it makes some of the things that were issues for me last time (especially blood pressure) go more smoothly this time. 
    I’m 15+ pounds lighter now than I was before I got pregnant with DS, and I hope it makes my pregnancy smoother as well.
    I started consistently working out 5-6 days/week in January, and I’ve never felt better! 

    I have to get up at 5 am to exercise, and I’m not sure how that’s going to go once the first tri exhaustion settles in. 
    Thats awesome! I’m 35+ pounds lighter! I havent had problems waking up to exercise yet because I seem to be doing the whole “stop being able to sleep in the wee morning hours” version of insomnia that is ringing vague bells from last time but I though was much later. Which is to say the exhaustion is hitting me in the afternoons so far.
    Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016
    TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019





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