Oh, @BostonBaby1 we do tell her the minimum. She also knows to just not bring up her opinion on a few things because she got shut down hard when we had DD.
She would just not shut up with the food suggestions and alternatives to medicines no matter how many times I tried to calmly and firmly shut her down.
Oh, @BostonBaby1 we do tell her the minimum. She also knows to just not bring up her opinion on a few things because she got shut down hard when we had DD.
She would just not shut up with the food suggestions and alternatives to medicines no matter how many times I tried to calmly and firmly shut her down.
How does she know you’re on meds? Personally, I would stop spending time with her if she continues to be so miserable.
@ashh2018 I am behind on my reading of this post. Your line " Like yes bitch I’m good, thanks for your concern." made my day!!!!! I needed that so much. Thank you!
@AdmiralKitty My hypothesis (not sure if you plan to BF or not) is that it’s good to start the caffeine train now so that when you need copious amounts to feel human when you are sleep deprived with a newborn, they handle it well in the BM!
@knitknitread my kid also drinks water (or milk) 99% of the time. He gets watered down juice once a week as a treat when we have dinner at my parents house. He also has mostly healthy snacks. He loves fruit and would eat it all day long if we let him, so it’s pretty easy. We were at a party a few months ago and he was pointed to something on the food table he wanted. Another person came up and informed me that he wanted some Cheetos and could she get him some. She was shocked when I told her he didn’t know what Cheetos were and thought he was asking for baby carrots. Which is what I gave him. But now I’m going to have to think twice about the carrot situation.
i don’t get why anyone would judge you for feeding your kid healthy. Although with DS we got a lot of snark about making all his baby food. Not sure why it matters to anyone else if I want to spend the time doing that
@BostonBaby1 We were visiting on weekend and she asked what foods were agreeing with me because she remembered how sick I got with DD. She was planning to stock up the house so I'd have some food options. And I told her that it was really hard to know what I would be able to eat and that I honestly just hadn't been able to think about food. And somehow DH brought up that I was taking medicine and yup. I could have smacked him on the back of the head. So then she started talking about cashews and ginger...and there we are.
@knitknitread Oh that's so frustrating. I had some of that too and I ended up having to tell my mom, "If I don't take meds I will be hospitalized and what good is ginger going to be if the baby gets MRSA?!?!?!?!?!"
(which is obviously an exaggeration on the MRSA but it did shut her down)
@adirat haha...I like that argument! Ginger ale made me sick once so I haven’t been able to drink it the rest of my pregnancy. Luckily, my mom said take the medicine!! Even when I was saying I was trying not to take it.
MIL is concerned we give DS miralax because “it’s been linked to behavioral disturbances in children.” Says a small group of moms on Facebook, and no study ever. There is an ongoing study through CHOP that I’ll gladly review when data is published, but nothing has come out yet prompting pediatricians stop recommending it in children. The alternative in my child is severe constipation, possible bowel obstruction and surgery. Those are very real risks! We feed him tons of fiber, water, etc to no avail. Sorry MIL, he needs this right now. Andplusalso he is the sweetest kid without any evidence of “behavioral disturbance.”
Im pretty sure she believes vaccines cause autism too, but won’t admit it out loud. She believes anything she googles.
@Wishilivedinflorida. I have a friend in the anti-miralax camp! She side-eyes me all the time for how much dairy I give dd and the amount of miralax she is on... I admit it is a lot on both counts(3-4 caps a day, 24oz of milk w heavy cream added, and cheese/yogurt at every meal) BUT we were one step away from having dd get a g tube for her growth, and currently she is thriving with what we are doing. All her doctors know the numbers, no one is concerned, and none of dd’s behaviors have been unmanageable once I actually try to parent.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
@jhjocelyn You are absolutely doing the best you can. DS is a dairy junky, which I’m sure contributes to this, but his diet is as balanced as a toddlers diet can be. I’m sure these kids have real problems, but why pin it on Miralax? I’m hoping this study will debunk the claims. Millions of infants and children are prescribed this every day. While my heart goes out to these parents, a small faction of kids who have these issues need real help, not just a scapegoat. The science behind how miralax works doesn’t lend itself to any reasonable explanation as to how this theory could be true.
Pretty sure my LO likes coffee! I have been limiting to 1-2 cups in the morning, with milk, but when I was at Costco this afternoon, they had samples of cold brew. Heck yes, I would like a sip. I swear I felt baby move avout the minute it hit my bloodstream! Lol. Luckily, MIL is Brazilian, so while she knows I'm limiting caffeine, I'm pretty sure there would be zero fox given if I asked her for a cup when we're over there. Lol
So I did all the shopping and loading everything into the jeep, and back out again at home, which was all a big pita, but it got done. I drew the line at the 40 lb bag of dog food. It's still sitting on the porch by the back door, and it will probably be waiting there for DH to bring in when he gets home! Lol
@Wishilivedinflorida I’m relieved to hear of this study! In all honesty, said friend also has a cfer and when we were struggling, her kiddo was doing fine. Now things have changed, and we’re doing great, while they are having some struggles(not the serious scary kind). It’s hard not to point out that maybe we’re on to something with our methods...
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
@BusinessWife mine too!!! I had to stop drinking it at home... Because it was so tempting. I really crave iced coffee. I used to drink a small amount everyday but since expecting, I literally want it all the time. When I'm out and get a cup, this child goes wild.
It's funny and sad to see how similar judgements are out there. I've probably got a bit of everything I'm just not one to really care. However I have to admit the one that amused me most came from my teacher. I'm doing my master's degree in nursing and at the end of the school year I had to tell the teacher because they were giving me a hard time about a vaccine booster I needed but was refusing to get. Her first reaction was "is it a good thing you're pregnant? Was it planned?" It was so inappropriate I almost laughed.
The thing that has yet to happen but I fear will happen is my mom invading with her "natural medicine" ideas. She always imposes her ideas and remedies on us which we don't care much for but I don't want my child brain washed against actual medicine to the extent she is. I'll have to sit down and have a serious talk with her eventually.
@tpeci I have an aunt that’s super into natural medicine to the point of believing that vaccines cause autism. Every time I mention that I took DS to the doctor for something (which happens a lot- he’s 2) she tries to convince me that all he needs is honey or ginger or something. It gets annoying fast, I hope you can shut your mom down before she gets too obnoxious.
Oh finally thought of one that's been driving me nuts!
I think I've mentioned on here before that I'm mostly vegan (vegetarian for the pregnancy because I need so much more protein right now). H and I have long agreed that our LO will be mostly vegan, since that's what I am comfortable with. Well MIL thinks that's nuts and "jokes" about how when she babysits she'll be taking LO to Chik-fil-a for nuggets since he'll need the protein. Like, before he's even a year old. She also "jokes" about sneaking him chicken and fish broth when he starts solids.
Oh finally thought of one that's been driving me nuts!
I think I've mentioned on here before that I'm mostly vegan (vegetarian for the pregnancy because I need so much more protein right now). H and I have long agreed that our LO will be mostly vegan, since that's what I am comfortable with. Well MIL thinks that's nuts and "jokes" about how when she babysits she'll be taking LO to Chik-fil-a for nuggets since he'll need the protein. Like, before he's even a year old. She also "jokes" about sneaking him chicken and fish broth when he starts solids.
WTF. Wouldn't that just make him sick??
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@DanyTargaryen I can only hope I never find out. I would think the broth would be ok? It makes me sick but I’ve been vegetarian a lot longer than an infant. H put his foot down a few weeks ago and told her she couldn’t feed LO anything without having cleared it with us first. Which is kind of sad. I expect grandparents to give LOs treats every now and then but her “jokes” were getting too frequent and serious sounding.
@SkilledSailor - I'm glad YH is jumping in already. She could have still treated LO while staying within the bounds of how you're raising your child. Good idea cutting it off now.
I almost ripped my moms head off (well as much as you really can in a public place without making a big scene) when I caught her almost give DS (18 months at the time) a sip of Diet Coke back in March. Her response? "At least it wasn't a beer." Honestly, a sip of Guinness would probably have been "better" for him than a sip of Diet Coke. The things you don't think you'll need to actually lay out for someone...
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Oh finally thought of one that's been driving me nuts!
I think I've mentioned on here before that I'm mostly vegan (vegetarian for the pregnancy because I need so much more protein right now). H and I have long agreed that our LO will be mostly vegan, since that's what I am comfortable with. Well MIL thinks that's nuts and "jokes" about how when she babysits she'll be taking LO to Chik-fil-a for nuggets since he'll need the protein. Like, before he's even a year old. She also "jokes" about sneaking him chicken and fish broth when he starts solids.
I eat all the meats and so does my kid but omg my eyes almost popped out of my head reading that because NO!!! I don't think her "jokes" are funny at all, as I'm sure neither do you! I would be so raging pissed if someone snuck my kid food that I said not to. With my kid it was people trying to feed him sweets before he was 1. I have always said that he would eventually eat all the garbage in the land, but NOT before he was one. Cake on his birthday would really be the first time. And it drove people nuts or they ignored me and tried to feed him cakes and cookies and crap cause they didn't want him missing out or something. Argh!!!! No! I'm the mama! I set the diet gosh darn it!!! I hope your MIL really was just joking cause that's so massively disrespectful.
@DanyTargaryen I feel like I'd rather kid have a sip of beer than diet soda as well. I feel like the tiny bit of alcohol scares me less than then chemical fake sugars do.
@DanyTargaryen I feel like I'd rather kid have a sip of beer than diet soda as well. I feel like the tiny bit of alcohol scares me less than then chemical fake sugars do.
Exactly!!
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@stothi My SD wanted a sip of wine. She's 8. I told her mom, and her mom let her have one sip and then was clear that she needed to wait until she was older to have more. I'm in the same camp as @danytargaryen and you, that sip of beer is better than a diet soda.
@skilledsailor I'd slap her. Seriously? Your child, your choice. We had a lot of these issues with my inlaws. We eat "clean" and don't really buy a lot of snacks to keep around the house. We also have rules that you must try everything on your plate. You don't have to love it, but you have to try it. My SD was starting to not eat items that she had previously loved, and we found out that it was because Burger King, Wendy's and other snack food were what was being eaten all the time with the ILs. It's their choice to eat however they want, but we chose to eat differently, and that was a problem. And in that situation it was hard, since they were helping us out by watching her when we needed help, so it was a difficult conversation to have with them.
@Redpuma119 we are super low pressure about trying foods but the other night my toddler wouldn't even look at some of the food on his plate and I really wanted him to try it. I finally asked him to just lick it. Then to put a little in his mouth and he could spit it right back out, "blah," if he didn't like it. Buddy put a bit in his mouth, did one chew, then spit it out in my hand and said, "blah. No thanks." Fair enough, kid, fair enough. My husband laughed hysterically the whole time.
@stothi. Our only rule is that you have to try it, not finish it. The faces he makes when he doesn’t like something are hysterical though so that makes up for the pleasure of having him spit it out in my hand.
@nackie yeah same here. I never tell her when I go to appointments or meds I take otherwise I'll get bombarded with "natural" solutions for it. I remember when I got asthma 4 years ago she was trying to convince me it was in my head and I could cure it with herbs. Good times. I know her intentions are good but it's just too much. Then she starts insulting modern medicine and how fake it is etc. And I'm like gee mom thanks I work in that and I can actually tell you that a lot of drugs are actually derived from plants and that "natural" supplements are actually not regulated and can be harmful because their content and concentrations vary so you don't even really know what you're taking. But I have preferred the route of let's just not discuss this anymore.
Geez this rant ended up being way longer than anticipated, sorry!
@tpeci I’m sure it’s even worse for you since you work in medicine. But I totally get not telling her about doctor visits. This winter I called my aunt to tell her we weren’t going to be able to make the trip we had planned to see her since DS was really sick. She tried to convince me I should treat his fever with honey and cinnamon. I was like, thanks but I’m going to stick with the treatment plan they gave us in the ER. That did not go over well.
Oh I feel like I have heard it all.... My fav's are running is bad for the baby ( um.. are you my OB? didn't think so!!! since I have a high placenta placement, no risk of PP, NO cervix issues, no bleeding, cramping or spotting and feel fine other than larger and kinda tired ) I'm good to continue and listen to my body thank you, been a serious runner for 15 years so I kinda know my body/my limits. @SkilledSailor totally with you on the belly comments. At 22 weeks, I am definitely bumping and people are commenting on my belly too. Like i'm 5'4 pre pregnancy weight 120lbs was pretty lean before and a short torso... so this babe has nowhere to go but out. Also on track for 30lb weight gain so thankyouverymuch lol. Geez, what are they going to say in Sept?
Me: 34 DH:33 TTC since Oct 2016 DX: Undetermined possible PCOS+MFI July 2017-Dec 2017 Letrozole+TI Dec 2017 CP Jan 2018 BFP:EDD 9-25
@nackie ugh yeah. Especially for important stuff or child related stuff. Like no, I can follow the advice for more trivial things.... this is a big part of why I didn't want her to be in the delivery room either. We will see how it plays out!
All of these things. Hell, I've gained 25 lbs already, and I know I'm going to end up with more than the 35 I'd prefer, but my only way to cope with first trimester was carbs. And, my only way to cope with second trimester low blood sugar, low blood pressure, and a toddler was more food. and my pelvis stops me from being more active, so oh well.
I get serious crap over cloth diapers (he's only had a rashes in his life, and one he got in the hospital before we started cloth, so obviously that's the issue), over nursing a toddler, nursing while pregnant, not potty training yet, and the fact that my kid doesn't drink anything but water. He's never had milk. Not that I care if anyone else's kid lives on dairy-mine had a serious intolerance as an infant, I can really only eat dairy comfortably while pregnant and he is a great freaking eater-he does NOT need extra calories. He eats more than a lot of women I know, and some men. We don't drink milk at home. Or juice, I think it's important to learn to drink water because I didn't until I was in college. He can have juice boxes on special occasions-but he loves them and typically downs them and doesn't want to eat those days....so maybe later in life when he doesn't throw tantrums when I say no to more, we can work on healthy amounts of juice. Instead he gets jelly beans for behaving during diaper changes or sitting on potty. He gets plenty of other treats, we just make sure to give things in small pieces or amounts so we can ration.
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@pourmeamocktail I know your guy was born a few weeks before mine but no way are we even close to potty training over here. I would be surprised if they were potty trained.
@pourmeamocktail and @BostonBaby1 my son turns 2 June 16th and we aren't close to potty training either. As far as I can tell right now he has no interest so I'm not going to rush it!
@BostonBaby1 and @nlc8424 Yup, turns 2 June 6, and some people are already wondering why it didn't happen at 18 months...a, he's not ready, he JUST stopped being terrified of all toilets and potty chairs, and b-his communication JUST this week is good enough to tell us AFTER diaper is dirty. But, people are crazy. And I still remind everyone weekly that I'm not due in June, or having twins
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@pourmeamocktail 18 months seems crazy early for potty training! We’re doing it this weekend, but DS is almost 2.5 and frequently tells us before he poops and pees that it’s going to happen. He’s also been going on the potty sporadically for several weeks now, so I know he’s ready. He’s funny, when he tells us he has to poop, I’ll ask if he wants to sit on the potty. Sometimes he says yes and sometimes he says No, I poop in my diaper today. It cracks me up.
@nackie I agree, and it sounds like your son might be ready. Mine just isn't, he could be close, but we can't talk yet about "need to poop" vs "already pooped" because he can only say "poop". We just don't have enough word skills for the difference. But people are crazy. And honestly, we are 100% in cloth, so it's not costing money really to stay in diapers, and I'm going to be washing diapers for baby soon anyway. I figure I'm avoiding a potty regression at birth. :shrug
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*snip* I'm guessing that most people who know me know that I'm fairly knowledgeable and that I wouldn't knowingly do something to put me/baby at risk. Or maybe they just think I'm bitchy and know I'll snap back at them if they do say something hah.
@nlc8424 YES I have had this exact thought (well, both of them ) This is totally me.
@SkilledSailor I dealt with some similar questions/judgment beginning when I got pregnant with my DD and it was so frustrating. My MIL mentioned several times "how worried" she was about my DD not eating meat. I have a feeling (even though I haven't eaten meat in almost a decade and my DD has never had meat) that I will still get questions about whether we plan to feed this baby meat. I am here if you need to vent!
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
-When I was pregnant with my DD, two different middle-aged men I didn't know well commented to me at work events that "it won't be worth it for you to continue working once you have your second child, because daycare is expensive." 1) I enjoy working and don't want to stay home FT. 2) How do you know how much money I make?
-My MIL and Mom both made numerous comments to me about my plan to have an epidural with my first. My FIL (divorced from my MIL) later told me my MIL had WANTED an epidural but her labor was so short, she didn't have time to get one!!! I fully plan to pull this fact out of my back pocket if she makes comments about me having another epidural.
-Apparently one of my Mom's ultrasounds/techs was wrong about the sex of one of her babies, and 30+ years later, she still doesn't 100% believe people when they tell her they *know* the sex of their baby after their anatomy scan.
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
I pulled up to the door at Walmart today just to drop off bags for recycling. So my son was in car, but I put hazards on and left it running in the fire lane. Literally walked in just the first door, dropped bags, turned around-didn't pause at all, and got an older woman who was looking at my son in his car seat shaking her head and glaring at me. Literally gone from car less than 30 seconds, window DOWN car running. He was giggling. Screw her.
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Re: The crazy judgement thread!
She would just not shut up with the food suggestions and alternatives to medicines no matter how many times I tried to calmly and firmly shut her down.
He also has mostly healthy snacks. He loves fruit and would eat it all day long if we let him, so it’s pretty easy.
We were at a party a few months ago and he was pointed to something on the food table he wanted. Another person came up and informed me that he wanted some Cheetos and could she get him some. She was shocked when I told her he didn’t know what Cheetos were and thought he was asking for baby carrots. Which is what I gave him. But now I’m going to have to think twice about the carrot situation.
i don’t get why anyone would judge you for feeding your kid healthy. Although with DS we got a lot of snark about making all his baby food. Not sure why it matters to anyone else if I want to spend the time doing that
(which is obviously an exaggeration on the MRSA but it did shut her down)
Im pretty sure she believes vaccines cause autism too, but won’t admit it out loud. She believes anything she googles.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
So I did all the shopping and loading everything into the jeep, and back out again at home, which was all a big pita, but it got done. I drew the line at the 40 lb bag of dog food. It's still sitting on the porch by the back door, and it will probably be waiting there for DH to bring in when he gets home! Lol
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
However I have to admit the one that amused me most came from my teacher. I'm doing my master's degree in nursing and at the end of the school year I had to tell the teacher because they were giving me a hard time about a vaccine booster I needed but was refusing to get. Her first reaction was "is it a good thing you're pregnant? Was it planned?" It was so inappropriate I almost laughed.
The thing that has yet to happen but I fear will happen is my mom invading with her "natural medicine" ideas. She always imposes her ideas and remedies on us which we don't care much for but I don't want my child brain washed against actual medicine to the extent she is. I'll have to sit down and have a serious talk with her eventually.
ETA: it posted before I was done
I think I've mentioned on here before that I'm mostly vegan (vegetarian for the pregnancy because I need so much more protein right now). H and I have long agreed that our LO will be mostly vegan, since that's what I am comfortable with. Well MIL thinks that's nuts and "jokes" about how when she babysits she'll be taking LO to Chik-fil-a for nuggets since he'll need the protein. Like, before he's even a year old. She also "jokes" about sneaking him chicken and fish broth when he starts solids.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
I almost ripped my moms head off (well as much as you really can in a public place without making a big scene) when I caught her almost give DS (18 months at the time) a sip of Diet Coke back in March. Her response? "At least it wasn't a beer." Honestly, a sip of Guinness would probably have been "better" for him than a sip of Diet Coke. The things you don't think you'll need to actually lay out for someone...
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
I hope your MIL really was just joking cause that's so massively disrespectful.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
@skilledsailor I'd slap her. Seriously? Your child, your choice. We had a lot of these issues with my inlaws. We eat "clean" and don't really buy a lot of snacks to keep around the house. We also have rules that you must try everything on your plate. You don't have to love it, but you have to try it. My SD was starting to not eat items that she had previously loved, and we found out that it was because Burger King, Wendy's and other snack food were what was being eaten all the time with the ILs. It's their choice to eat however they want, but we chose to eat differently, and that was a problem. And in that situation it was hard, since they were helping us out by watching her when we needed help, so it was a difficult conversation to have with them.
Geez this rant ended up being way longer than anticipated, sorry!
My fav's are running is bad for the baby ( um.. are you my OB? didn't think so!!! since I have a high placenta placement, no risk of PP, NO cervix issues, no bleeding, cramping or spotting and feel fine other than larger and kinda tired ) I'm good to continue and listen to my body thank you, been a serious runner for 15 years so I kinda know my body/my limits.
@SkilledSailor totally with you on the belly comments. At 22 weeks, I am definitely bumping and people are commenting on my belly too. Like i'm 5'4 pre pregnancy weight 120lbs was pretty lean before and a short torso... so this babe has nowhere to go but out. Also on track for 30lb weight gain so thankyouverymuch lol.
Geez, what are they going to say in Sept?
TTC since Oct 2016
DX: Undetermined possible PCOS+MFI
July 2017-Dec 2017 Letrozole+TI
Dec 2017 CP
Jan 2018 BFP:EDD 9-25
I get serious crap over cloth diapers (he's only had a rashes in his life, and one he got in the hospital before we started cloth, so obviously that's the issue), over nursing a toddler, nursing while pregnant, not potty training yet, and the fact that my kid doesn't drink anything but water. He's never had milk. Not that I care if anyone else's kid lives on dairy-mine had a serious intolerance as an infant, I can really only eat dairy comfortably while pregnant and he is a great freaking eater-he does NOT need extra calories. He eats more than a lot of women I know, and some men. We don't drink milk at home. Or juice, I think it's important to learn to drink water because I didn't until I was in college. He can have juice boxes on special occasions-but he loves them and typically downs them and doesn't want to eat those days....so maybe later in life when he doesn't throw tantrums when I say no to more, we can work on healthy amounts of juice. Instead he gets jelly beans for behaving during diaper changes or sitting on potty. He gets plenty of other treats, we just make sure to give things in small pieces or amounts so we can ration.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
He’s also been going on the potty sporadically for several weeks now, so I know he’s ready. He’s funny, when he tells us he has to poop, I’ll ask if he wants to sit on the potty. Sometimes he says yes and sometimes he says No, I poop in my diaper today. It cracks me up.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@SkilledSailor I dealt with some similar questions/judgment beginning when I got pregnant with my DD and it was so frustrating. My MIL mentioned several times "how worried" she was about my DD not eating meat. I have a feeling (even though I haven't eaten meat in almost a decade and my DD has never had meat) that I will still get questions about whether we plan to feed this baby meat. I am here if you need to vent!
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
-My MIL and Mom both made numerous comments to me about my plan to have an epidural with my first. My FIL (divorced from my MIL) later told me my MIL had WANTED an epidural but her labor was so short, she didn't have time to get one!!! I fully plan to pull this fact out of my back pocket if she makes comments about me having another epidural.
-Apparently one of my Mom's ultrasounds/techs was wrong about the sex of one of her babies, and 30+ years later, she still doesn't 100% believe people when they tell her they *know* the sex of their baby after their anatomy scan.
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green