People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.
Re: IF Benched/IVF Limbo
Diagnosis: PCOS
Why are you benched/in IVF limbo right now: Money. I bumped up my HSA contributions to the maximum amount I'm allowed so that will definitely help over a few months. Not sure how I want to be supported, just looking for others in a similar situation.
Any upcoming appointments? Not until I'm ready to financially commit. Looks like that'll be August.
How are things going? I have a really fun summer ahead of me so I'm excited about that. I'm afraid it will go by too fast. I mean, that's a good thing because then I get to start IVF and hopefully (HOPEFULLY) close this chapter of my life for good. But it's also sad because I love summer and when we pack so much in over the summer the weeks fly by and then before I know it the fun ends and it's back to reality.
In the meantime, I'm gonna start up my supplements again and bump my exercise routine and focus on eating well and dropping some more weight.
Any questions? Not yet.
GTKY: I can't "binge" necessarily because Hulu won't allow it but I'm watching the Handmaid's Tale and loving it! I tried Harlots but it didn't really pull me in that much. It's an entertaining show but not as addictive as others.
Why are you benched/in IVF limbo right now and how would you like to be supported here? April had a failed FET. Waiting on May's cycle so can do an ERA cycle.
Any upcoming appointments?: Not until sono when starting ERA cycle, hopefully Mid-May
How are things going?: Good...staying busy!
GTKY: What show are you binge watching currently? Soaps! If that counts?
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
Why are you benched/in IVF limbo right now and how would you like to be supported here?
After the conversation with her yesterday, we are self benched for at least 3 cycles so we can research clinics and ivf options. My body needs a break and so does our marriage, from ttgp. We've been trying a lonnnnnnng ass time even before we knew about the one year rule. My RE says she doesn't consider the one positive hpt and blood beta cycle to be a success because we have no idea where the embryo was trying to implant. It could've been in one of my tubes. We've done 4 iuis since being diagnosed with infertility, and one medicated trying on our own cycle with soft cups.
She also said that we've done everything we could, that there is definitely a problem, but as it stands, only ivf will be able to see what the problem is. She doesn't recommend mini ivf because we don't know if there is an egg quality issue or not.
How I would like to be supported? I don't know. I just need lady friends on here that I check in with regularly and I'll do the same. I had a few but they have all moved on to their bmbs. I'm so thrilled for them but it also makes me very sad that I won't get to see them in regular threads anymore. I do have one lady left who is in the same position as me @wishiwaspreggo you have been an immense support to me. I love reading your novels and love that you love reading mine. Thank you for being here for me
Any upcoming appointments?: A tsh check tomorrow morning since it was found that I am subclinically hypothyroid which never happened until after my mc a couple of cycles ago. I've been on levo for 42 days now. I'm also gonna have another hsg between 6-11 days of this cycle since I haven't for a long time to check for any tube abnormalities. That will be next week too. She wants to do this in case they need to remove a tube prior to ivf. Apparently, if there is any dilation, unhealthy fluid can back flow into the uterus making implantation impossible. We are also gonna recheck amh tomorrow as well as the next cd3 tests for egg quality, which won't be until whenever my next cycle starts.
How are things going?: Alright I guess. I've been feeling depressed about this. We are also looking into foster adopt options because we've always wanted to do that anyway.
Any questions?: I read on a lot of ivf clinic sites that meds aren't included in the prices and can cost anywhere from $3K-$5K. My current RE says she doesn't think we will pay much more than we pay now on iui cycles because I respond so well to them. Are there any other ladies here that can chime in on what she said? Also, we won't be able to stay with her because the clinic she works at is a university clinic. Their ivf and mini ivf costs exactly the same. We are reading that a clinic should be chosen by success rate. Is that true? We found one nearby that has a 60% success rate and offers two fresh cycles for $7500, not including meds. Embryo freezing and one year storage, which is also not included, is $800.
GTKY: What show are you binge watching currently? Shadowhunters.
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
Anyways, coming to the decision to do IVF, esp after failed IUI's, etc can be difficult. Last June, after our last failed IUI cycle, we took several months off to regroup as well. It was a blessing!! I don't think my heart could have dealt with any ore let downs / heartache. We did get a 2nd opinion as well, but stuck with my originally RE. Do you due-diligence and research. Read all the reviews from actual patients as well...I felt like those were the most honest and how I made the decision to stick with my 1st doctor.
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
I can relate to the over prescribe. My current RE did that in the beginning after I told her that I know my body and know that I don't need that much. It took her two cycles to admit that I was right lol
You said many with pcos can be immature, do you mean poor quality, or immature follicles? If you mean the latter, can't we tell them we don't want them taking eggs from follicles that aren't mature, or is there not that option because the follicle will disintegrate anyway? I haven't the slightest clue how this works!
How did your second opinion go? Did they tell you anything new?
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
IVF is so all over the place! Trust your doctor and nurses. Everyone's situation, even if have so diagnosis can be so different.
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
Married: 5/09 ~ TTC Since: 10/10 ~ PCOS ~ Progesterone from 10/10 - 2/11 ~ HSG on 3/18 - Clear ~ Started Metformin 1000mg & Clomid 50mg 2/11 ~ Metformin upped to 1500mg 4/6 ~ 6/7 Now going to SG and put on Clomid, Ovidrel, Gonal F, Prometrium, Estrace ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP!!!!!! March 6th our little man was born.
6/17/13 - Ovidrel, Follistim, Prometrium ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP! March 17th our St. Pattys day baby arrived
10/29/17 - Started process for IVF, got pregnant & miscarried a 2nd time since summer. 2/22 started stims - Menopur, Gonal F, Cetrotide - retrieval 3/6 - , PIO, estrace 3xday - FET 4/18 = Beta 1: 616; Beta 2: 1342 = BFP
Diagnosis: MFI and searching...
Why are you benched/in IVF limbo right now and how would you like to be supported here?
We just had our first FET in April. It worked but HCG only went up from 100 at first beta to 101 at second beta. I was instructed to stop all meds and HCG is down to 73 as of yesterday. They think it will be down to zero by Friday. Taking a break while I get tested for a bunch of stuff.
Any upcoming appointments?: A ton of blood work. Weekly HCG monitoring until I hit zero. Then a bunch of more blood work to test for blood disorders. At some point another SHG. If all of that comes back normal hopefully another FET in July. If there is a problem with my blood it needs to be confirmed after six weeks of waiting so another transfer wouldn’t happen until August or September.
How are things going?: not the best. Waiting for this period is the worst. I honestly wish the transfer just wouldn’t have worked. His past week has been the best week (positive beta of 100 on Sunday) and the worst week (finding out it’s a CP) of my life. I’m getting there. But the fact that I have to wait and can’t just jump right in to another FET is the worst.
GTKY: What show are you binge watching currently? Nothing now, but thanks for the suggestions
@suzycupcake $7500 sounds amazing even if meds aren’t included. Our package was $12,500 included ICSI, one FET, 1 year of embryo storage, no meds and no PGS. My RE requires PGS so that was another $2000. My meds was where it hurt. About $7000. Originally it was only about $3000 but they had to double my Menopur and triple my Gonal F because I wasn’t responding to the lower doses. At one point I was taking about $700 in meds every night. We took success rates j to consideration when choosing or clinic. The one we went with had better rates. Our RE isn’t a warm and fuzzy person but her staff is great! It’s not that she’s rude or anything but very straight forward and serious. She did give me a hug though at our appointment this week after we found out this pregnancy failed.
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
Diagnosis: Low morphology, unexplained
Why are you benched/in IVF limbo right now and how would you like to be supported here?
First FET with PGS embryo failed. Doctors and nurses all stunned because everything seemed perfect and I'm young(26).
Not sure how I want to be supported here, I guess I'm just looking for others to talk to this about.
Any upcoming appointments?:
Doctor wants me to do a scratch this month after I ovulate. But my ovulation kits have all been negative and its CD 23, so frustrating! I usually have regular 28-31 day cycles but IVF and possibly stress have thrown everything out of whack
How are things going?:
Better now that the weather is finally getting nicer. Im hoping to go on more walks and get some Vitamin D in. I read that vitamin D is linked to fertility.
Any questions?: not at the moment
GTKY: What show are you binge watching currently? Looking for a funny tv series to start watching on netflix. Any suggestions?
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
It seems like my doctor is the opposite of yours. Mine doesn't believe in ERA. Does ERA only apply to medicated cycles?
I'm worried about the cost of my meds, too. It's such a crap shoot. With my last IUI I took what seemed like gallons of FSH but I only produced 1 follicle But I know the dr was being cautious with me since I have PCOS and she didn't want me to over-respond. I'm curious to know what protocol my new doctor will use on me. I wish I could know before having to financially commit... but I guess I'd rather have more money than I need saved up than not enough, and a few months won't make a huge difference in the scheme of things.
@linxyz - I am so sorry your first FET didn't work out what horrible news to find out your PGS embryo didn't make it... I can't understand how these things fail when all precautions are taken but clearly there are things at work beyond our control. I wanted to suggest the show Schitt's Creek if you have Netflix and are looking for something funny. That show makes me laugh until I tear up. A solid dose of humor helps lift my spirits!
I always say, it's your money and it's a lot of money. A doctor not believing in era testing should not prevent you from getting it if that's what you feel that you need for your journey.
@wishiwaspreggo They should be able to tell you what protocol they would recommend for you before you spend your money. That's what I'm doing with scheduling consults, letting them know I'd like to know what their plan would be for me before I choose this or that doctor. Nobody seems to have an issue with it, so far. I mean, it's kind of like if you needed knee surgery and you have consulted with two orthopedic surgeons. They go over your scans with you and tell you what they would plan to do during surgery, etc. Maybe ivf is different, but it shouldn't be and we have the right to know information.
Can you tell I'm in protective mode today?
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
@wishiwaspreggo How much follistim / gonal-f did they give you for your IUI? I know my last IUI I was on 600iu of Follistim and only got 3-4 eggs. Then when I did IVF, the Menopur added in made me follicles go crazy! I also have polysistic ovaries with a lot of follicles. With IVF, they aren't as careful. I did over-stimulate with less meds than I needed so have over 1k still sitting in the fridge. My dr did say if we do another round, she'd back down on the amount ordered, etc. But I get it...I wish I had that $$ in my account and not my fridge right now! Have you signed up with Compassionate Care or First Steps? Both give discounts on meds based on income. We didn't get a discount with them, but I know MDR Pharmacy will still give 5% off for cash paying people that don't qualify. It saved us a few hundred at least.
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
@suzycupcake - Do you have to pay for a consult with each doctor or can you just ask and they tell you? I don't want to have to go up to the doctor and ask questions if they're going to charge me $150 for the pleasure. That's money that can go towards my medications, dammit
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
@kristimh80 My financial rep at my clinic told me the scratch would be considered part of the office visit and I only need to pay copay. I think it might be pretty cheap if you are paying OOP. Maybe you can ask?
@suzycupcake I think if this cycle fails, I will push for ERA testing. I hope that it won't get to that point. I can't imagine switching clinics. My current clinic is the closest one to my work, where I can easily step in for quick monitoring and still get to work at a decent time.
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
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Graded color codes
Green is a grade A
Yellow is a grade B
Darker yellow is a grade C
Orange is D
Red is F
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My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
Diagnosis: PCOS with insulin resistance
Why are you benched/in IVF limbo right now and how would you like to be supported here? I went through 2 IVF cycles and only have 1 embryo that has yet to be PGS tested. I dont know that I can afford to do another cycle or if I would even want to the way this last one went. Only 6 eggs retrieved, they were all mature and all fertilized but none of them made it to blast. I told my nurse 3-4 days before the trigger that I was very scared that this exact thing would happen and was not very comfortable with keeping going (honestly we only thought we would get 4 based on the follicle sizes). With my history of embryo survival rate, how they decided that it would be ok to continue instead of cancel is beyond me. But of course I went against my better judgement because the dr really hasnt steered us wrong yet...until now. And now 10k down the drain with nothing to show for it. At least the first 10k resulted in 1 embryo. I am not really sure how I want to be supported other than letting me get my frustration out so I am not unreasonably rude to my nurse when she finally returns my call. Its not her fault outside of maybe not carrying my concerns to my dr before he made the choice to go ahead and trigger for the ER with only 4 follicles.
Any upcoming appointments?: A next step consult on May 23rd, but let me tell you what....I am going to get some answers before that
How are things going?: I am straight in the Anger stage of all of this. I am so pissed I can barely contain myself.
Any questions?: Anyone looked into embryo adoption at all? My clinic takes donated embryos from couples that have "finished building their family" and charges 5500 for another couple to use them. That sounds completely outrageous to me. The donating couple will not be compensated for their embryos and the clinic has already been paid for the services to get those embryos. How in the hell does it cost soo more than a simple FET. I know they will need some extra beyond the FET costs for the physiological eval and for the person to actually do the matching...but come the hell on...5500 for all of that? No that is double dipping crap going on there.
GTKY: I am catching up on The Originals on netflix.
Me-PCOS DH-nothing wrong
History in the spoiler (child and pregnancy loss mentioned)
FET #1 - March 2015 -- BFP twin boys
Lost one twin June 2017
FET #2 - August 2017 -- BFP single girl
Miscarriage Oct 2017
IVF #2 - Jan 2018 - 13 eggs retrieved down to 1 blast
IVF #3 - June 2018 - BFN (transferred 2, 1 from previous cycle and 1 adopted embryo)
Break from TTC and IVF
FET # 4 - Unknown start date, waiting to finalize everything
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
Me-PCOS DH-nothing wrong
History in the spoiler (child and pregnancy loss mentioned)
FET #1 - March 2015 -- BFP twin boys
Lost one twin June 2017
FET #2 - August 2017 -- BFP single girl
Miscarriage Oct 2017
IVF #2 - Jan 2018 - 13 eggs retrieved down to 1 blast
IVF #3 - June 2018 - BFN (transferred 2, 1 from previous cycle and 1 adopted embryo)
Break from TTC and IVF
FET # 4 - Unknown start date, waiting to finalize everything
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
@linxyz...you mentioned vitamin D. If they haven’t already ask your doctor to run a blood test to check your levels. I wasn’t deficient yet, but was in that insufficient category. They put me on an extra 2000 units per day in addition to what I was already taking.
I agree with kristim, get a second opinion if you aren't satisfied after pushing them for answers. I have read that the embryologist is just as important as the doctor doing your ivf so that's something to look into also. I'm so sorry this happened. My heart hurts for you.
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
Not the happiest about being here but thank you @suzycupcake this board was much needed. So long story short our FET is on hold due to many factors. It was one of the most painful decisions of my life Bc I was So close. I am Sad to have to be here but am thankful that I have so much love and support through my IF girls! How Id like to be supported hmmmm just need people who understand this sort of pain to listen and not judge... this whole process is hard enough. People in my life just don’t understand and I just need someone who empathizes, not someone who judges right now.
Any upcoming appointments?: Have to talk to the clinics social worker next wed and then first appointment to move forward is June 6th, which normally i’d Be pissed it was so far away BUT since I’ll be taking this cycle off and 6/6 will be right before my next cycle is to begin so I can deal. Of course I’ll be calling every week to see if there’s any cancellations Bc, ya know , I’m kind of a control freak.
How are things going?: BLAH! It was a tough pill to swallow but I am Here, I’m alive , I’m healthy and though I want To kill him sometimes I’m am thankful i have the support of my H who sat home with me yesterday as we mourned what should have been.. many tears were flowing, went out for lunch(got drunk Bc you know I’m not PUPO so why not?), laid in bed all day and watched movies while we cuddled with our a-hole dog( I say that in the most loving way lol)
Any questions?: none I can Think of
GTKY: What show are you binge watching currently? Right now there’s quite a few but I think I’ll go with Scandal, Westworld, and Blacklist ... I love me some shows
@mandurz I am so So sorry about what is going on. Yes , $5500 for embryo adoption is absurd! These people donated them with the intention for some other family to have them NOT pay out the a*s for them!
@suzycupcake I’m in a green state! I have To say I’ve have nothing but good things to say about my clinic, they hooked me up with a social worker Bc of the cancelled cycles I’m guess to help ease the transition of my disappointment , and probably to make sure I’m not INSANE... which is still TBD
@kristimh80 Soap opera lovers UNITE!
@j1006 Hoping your levels drop to zero next blood test!
@wishiwaspreggo the wait can be brutal but your mind seems to be the right place, enjoy the summer!!!
@linxyz I’m so sorry your FET failed. I’m telling you the universe must have something planned for all of us with cancelled cycles, failed FETs and whatever else out hold ups are we’ve all been through hell and back to get to this point and to have it ripped away, well in my mind there’s a bigger picture we have yet to see. Sending love and light doll.
Thanks again @suzycupcake...this thread is way over due and needed! I was jumping around boards not "fitting in" anywhere, so it was frustrating.
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
Me-PCOS DH-nothing wrong
History in the spoiler (child and pregnancy loss mentioned)
FET #1 - March 2015 -- BFP twin boys
Lost one twin June 2017
FET #2 - August 2017 -- BFP single girl
Miscarriage Oct 2017
IVF #2 - Jan 2018 - 13 eggs retrieved down to 1 blast
IVF #3 - June 2018 - BFN (transferred 2, 1 from previous cycle and 1 adopted embryo)
Break from TTC and IVF
FET # 4 - Unknown start date, waiting to finalize everything
But in any case, yes, $5500 is crazy. I'm with @suzycupcake, you should ask for a breakdown of what that cost entails. I could see them charging the recipient for the storage fees, thawing/transfer, medications, and legal paperwork but I can't imagine it would add up to that much... curious to know what they come back with and I hope you get your answers soon!
@ndz2018 - I'm sorry your FET was put on hold I'm sure you're very frustrated. If it's for the best, though, another month could make all the difference. I hate waiting, too. I wish I could make money grow on trees. Or at the very least win a couple thousand bucks on a scratch-off lotto ticket or something lol... but all I can do is save my pennies. I'm working on an Etsy business to sell cross-stitch pillows. Dunno how lucrative that will be but I figured it was worth a shot since I like to craft anyway. Stress relief + making money is not a bad combo
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
Hugs to you. I get the control freak part. It's like we have to be. If we aren't, we will fall through the cracks unfortunately. Every time I've let my guard down, that's what happens so I've given up caring how I'm seen at any clinic. If my tenacity isn't seen as a strong desire to have a baby and that's it, then they can go F themselves! Hugs hugs hugs
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
Me-PCOS DH-nothing wrong
History in the spoiler (child and pregnancy loss mentioned)
FET #1 - March 2015 -- BFP twin boys
Lost one twin June 2017
FET #2 - August 2017 -- BFP single girl
Miscarriage Oct 2017
IVF #2 - Jan 2018 - 13 eggs retrieved down to 1 blast
IVF #3 - June 2018 - BFN (transferred 2, 1 from previous cycle and 1 adopted embryo)
Break from TTC and IVF
FET # 4 - Unknown start date, waiting to finalize everything
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19