Does anyone else experience random anxiety? The last two days, I've had so much anxiety. I think part of it is the baby isn't as active the last couple days and for some reason it terrifies me. I even downloaded one of those crappy doppler apps on my cell phone. Of course I couldn't hear her heart beat (she kicked the phone at one point and I couldn't even find my own heart beat but still). Then I overate cookies because that usually makes her kick and now I feel completely bloated. I'm wondering if I should spend $80 and go to the doctor or just relax. I go to the OB Monday for a regular appointment....
Me: 36 DH: 33
TTC since June 2016
Me: PCOS DH: Morphology 1%
3 TI with Famera and trigger shots-BFN
3 IUI's with Famera and trigger shots- BFN
IVF August 2017 25 eggs retrieved, 19 mature, 13 fertilized (ICSI), 5 frozen, 3 PGS normal
FET November 2017 Transferred one 6 day blast (a little GIRL) BFP EDD 8/4/18
@irisheyes81 if $80 will give you piece of mind I say go for
it. For me though as long as the baby is
giving a random kick now and again I figure all is ok but whatever you can do
to keep yourself calm is what is right for you so if you know you’re going to
be driving yourself crazy without a check-in get the check!
I FINALLY finished my baby blanket today...YAY!!! I was doing this one as a little car seat
blanket and figured I’d have it finished in no time but pregnancy seems to make
me take longer to get things done. Its
super soft and I’m so happy with it Still
hoping I make another one hopefully crib sized before the baby arrives.
Me:38 DW:33 TTC History in Spoiler ***Trigger Warning*** Losses/Child Mentioned
Dx: My wife has no sperm and apparently my embryos aren't as good as they look 2016 * April IUI#1 - BFN * June IUI#2 - BFN * July IUI#3 - CP :'( * Sept IVF#1 - 4 Retrieved & Mature, 4 Blasts. Fresh Transfer 1 - CP :'( * November FET #1 - Transferred 1 Blast - CP :'( 2017 Switched REs - Recurrent loss testing for me - all normal, remaining 2 frosties sent for PGS - both abnormal * April/May IVF#2: 9 retrieved, 8 mature, 7 fertilized, 7 blasts! Sent for testing - 2PGS Normals (0 remaining) * November IVF #3 12R, 8M, 6F, 4 blasts! - All 4 PGS normal! * November FET# 2 (Transfer a PGS normal from IVF#2) - BFP!!! 2018 DD born 8/20/18 20195PGS frosties ( 4 remaining) * September FET#3 (1PGS normal) - Beta#1: 139.7 Beta#2: 322.6
I'm sorry you're struggling with anxiety @Irisheyes81 my next apt is Monday, too, and it's been tough sometimes, the wait, but I canusually talk myself down. If you're really worried tho, definitely go in! Even if nothing's wrong, you will sleep better between now and Monday. But if you think you're just working yourself up over nothing and really you ought to find other ways to calm yourself, maybe a nice walk outside, or a bath, or phone a friend. Idk. Trust your gut tho, and whatever you choose will be the right thing. ❤
....And now I have a Doppler ap on my phone! Lol
@2MomsHoping. That's beautiful! I really want to get to some maternal sewing here before we get too much farther.... so meaningful to have such a precious thing made by mommy herself! ;) I love it!
@irisheyes81 I definitely experience tons of anxiety that something is going to go wrong. I think when you have gone through trauma in the past (loss, infertility) it's hard not to worry. I definitely have to repeat to myself that babies sometimes nap and movement is inconsistent and every pregnancy is different. You are not alone. Hugs friend.
@Irisheyes81 I do as well. You are not alone. I try to tell myself baby will be less active some days and that’s normal. As long as I do still feel him kicking from time to time. I think it gets much more regular in the third trimester. Maybe you can call and ask to move up your OB appointment to tomorrow if it will help put your mind at ease.
Btw if you haven’t already, check out the carters sale like @hottietoddy said. Got my order today and realizing what a good deal it is. I want to buy more stuff but DH won’t let me until after the baby shower. I tried to buy different sizes so we are not overwhelmed with newborn stuff. All this came in at under $100.
Eep it’s happening! Nursery has been painted and new carpet installed! My mom’s BF repurposed an old dresser we had to make this changing table and painted it to match the crib our friend is giving us and 3 different people gave us boxes of hand me down baby clothes this week. I will not need to buy any clothes for this kid!
TTC since May 2013
Mild PCOS, Compound Heterozygous MTHFR No Folic acid/pharmaceuticals/supplements (too many to list- private message me if interested), IVIL infusion
@Irisheyes81 yes to random (or constant) anxiety. You are not alone there. But go see them if you feel you need to, no need to spend the next 3 days worried. My doc said yesterday that babies are not supposed to move every hour. She asked if I was feeling it move more, and I said yes, but not 10x an hour. And she was like you're not supposed to. So that eased my mind. Also I had my glucose test yesterday and the little bugger did not move after all that sugar. Regarding anxiety I feel like we have all been in that state since IF and the FET board, waiting for the other shoe to drop right? were a group of worrywarts, and you're in good company.
@Irisheyes81 I have random anxiety all the time, and it's especially worse first thing in the morning or at night. I agree with others that it's harder to believe everything is going well when we've already experienced such a hard time getting pregnant and that you should definitely call your doctor if it will make you feel reassurance!
Small vent...I'm having tons of anger and anxiety after talking to my mom last night. She was asking me all sorts of questions and then asked if I'm eating lean protein and watching how much dairy I'm eating (have never heard that pregnant women are suposed to avoid eating dairy?!?!) and then asked how much weight I've gained and warned me that I'm only supposed to gain 25 lbs. This was so triggering to me because of my years of body dysmorphia and disordered eating (that she knows nothing about because we've had a broken relationship for the last 10 years) and also my anxiety that I'll never lose weight after being pregnant. It just made me so upset like, how dare you ask me these questions? And on the flip side, my brother and his wife, who have a 9 month old daughter, are obese. I was so tempted to ask if she was quizzing my SIL about what she was eating and how much weight she had gained, or if it's only okay to ask a thin person that?
Me: 31 DH: 34 Together Since 5/07, Married 5/13 TTC Since 8/15 3 Cycles Clomid/Ovidrel/TI-11/16, 12/16, 1/17-All Failed Switched RE's 1/17 4 IUIs-2/17 through 6/17-All Failed ER-8/30/17-25 Eggs Retrieved=7 PGS Normal Embyros FET#1 of 1 Embryo-10/3/17-Chemical FET#2 of 2 Embryos-11/16/17-Failed FET#3 of 1 Embryo-12/22/17-BFP! Carter Wright arrived 9/5/18
@sarzee2 so sorry your mom said that. You don’t need that. You have a doctor that will tell you if there is something you should or shouldn’t have and about weight. The last thing you need are those old thoughts creeping up. Everyone has all the opinions and apparently think they are doctors!
@lablover78 love the nursery!!! That dresser is a dream. I especially like the handles.
@BusinessWife did the Doppler work on your phone? That made me laugh so hard.
@2MomsHoping you made that blanket?? It’s just beautiful.
Thank you everyone so much for your support about my anxiety. It helped me so much. Especially knowing that babies aren’t supposed to move 10x per hour every hour. She kicked a lot last night and I felt silly. I worked myself in to a total frenzie and made an appointment to get acupuncture. I was so stressed, I didn’t drink water and had Braxton Hicks contractions last night for the first time. I’m shocked at how much of a difference mental state can have. So today, I’m not working. I’m getting my hair done and watching funny movies and drinking water. This making a human thing is no joke. I’m so glad I have you guys to ‘talk’ to. Xoxo
Me: 36 DH: 33
TTC since June 2016
Me: PCOS DH: Morphology 1%
3 TI with Famera and trigger shots-BFN
3 IUI's with Famera and trigger shots- BFN
IVF August 2017 25 eggs retrieved, 19 mature, 13 fertilized (ICSI), 5 frozen, 3 PGS normal
FET November 2017 Transferred one 6 day blast (a little GIRL) BFP EDD 8/4/18
@sarzee2 I can relate to the body image anxiety. I have always been thin but my mother (who eats whatever she wants and never exercises) has always been incredibly thin. She loves to share that she only gained 14 lbs when she was pregnant with me. I can't help worrying that as my body changes she will make comments that will make me feel bad about it. I can already feel myself obsessing over getting a work out in each day because it allows me some control over what is happening to my body. The struggle is real.
History and blog link in spoiler
2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI, 2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks May 2020 FET; BFN July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate Oct 2020 BFP!
@Irisheyes81. Lol who even knew that was a thing!? I did get it to pick up my own hb, just in one particular spot, but baby's, notsomuch. The headphone jack sticks out of the bottom very near where the microphone is, so it's very hard to get the microphone to touch your skin without also pressing the headphone jack and creating interference! But I was surprised it even worked on my own hb, sort of. Glad baby was kicking up a storm to ease your mind last night, and you're taking it easy today. ❤
@sarzee2. <img alt="" src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/sz/ua8bde45snua.gif"> I'm so sorry your mother said that. 1. Nobody needs that noise. 2. Babies actually do need calcium, so restricting dairy for ku people is not actually a thing. 3. Just no. Totally out of line. I was so mad when I got comments about my weight from the last midwife, I rescheduled my AS so I didnt have to see her again. That's honestly the biggest thing I'm worried about at my appointment, and hoping this other midwife doesn't give me grief over it too. :/ try not to let her get to you. ❤❤❤
@BusinessWife my mom gave me her old sewing matching a
couple years ago…I opened it once and couldn’t figure out how to thread it and
haven’t even gone back. Crocheting seems
to be my one and only crafty skill. I
was browsing Pinterest and wanted to try to make some curtain panels and a crib
bed skirt but that’s probably way above my skill level of never making anything. Might have to import my mom for the weekend
to help (ahem or more likely just do it for me).
@lablover78 it looks great!
I love that you have the holder for the changing pad on the dresser so
it doesn’t slide around. I want to add
something like that to mine. Did you buy
it as an attachment or did you guys make it custom?
@sarzee2 commenting on any woman’s weight…is ridiculous and
that goes double if you are pregnant. Totally
uncalled for. I’ve also been eating way
more dairy than usual, and even mentioned it to my OB because I was worried I
was overdoing it and they had no problem with it.
@irisheeyes81 I did make the blanket. I’ve made so many for others over the years I
can’t even count them, it such a I can’t believe this is real moment to finish
it and just walk it upstairs instead of shipping it off at the post
office. I’ve finished so many wishing
they were for my baby it was a really nice change of pace to have happy tears
at the end instead of sad ones. What to
the Braxton hicks feel like? A couple
times this week I had what felt like a cramp but it was only on one side of my
uterus which didn’t make sense to me for Braxton hicks. Lasted maybe a minute than went away. It hurt but not like hurt-hurt. Didn’t really feel like a strong kick. Yay for a relaxation day. Nothing like good hair to improve the mood J
@irisheyes81 & @businesswife I think I must try this
app. DW has one of the fancy phones
without an ear phone jack maybe I’ll make her download it to try to avoid the
interference.
Me:38 DW:33 TTC History in Spoiler ***Trigger Warning*** Losses/Child Mentioned
Dx: My wife has no sperm and apparently my embryos aren't as good as they look 2016 * April IUI#1 - BFN * June IUI#2 - BFN * July IUI#3 - CP :'( * Sept IVF#1 - 4 Retrieved & Mature, 4 Blasts. Fresh Transfer 1 - CP :'( * November FET #1 - Transferred 1 Blast - CP :'( 2017 Switched REs - Recurrent loss testing for me - all normal, remaining 2 frosties sent for PGS - both abnormal * April/May IVF#2: 9 retrieved, 8 mature, 7 fertilized, 7 blasts! Sent for testing - 2PGS Normals (0 remaining) * November IVF #3 12R, 8M, 6F, 4 blasts! - All 4 PGS normal! * November FET# 2 (Transfer a PGS normal from IVF#2) - BFP!!! 2018 DD born 8/20/18 20195PGS frosties ( 4 remaining) * September FET#3 (1PGS normal) - Beta#1: 139.7 Beta#2: 322.6
@Irisheyes81 as you can see, you're not alone! That anxiety is REAL. Whatever you can do to help calm you down is the best -- meditation, breathing techniques, etc... I remember reading a forum where someone suggested that you visualize holding your baby and smelling his or her head while taking deep breaths. My therapist also gave me some grounding and breathing techniques. I have really liked the prenatal yoga classes at a studio nearby. I've heard awesome things about acupuncture! I hope it helps. *hugs*
@2MomsHoping That is amazing!!! It's so pretty. Right now I don't have to monitor my glucose as my sugar levels were a side effect of medications while at the hospital, but I get to take my 3hr test on Tuesday so we'll see how it goes! A close friend had GD and I just learned one of my aunts had GD so I feel like while it sucks, it's not uncommon and I'll try not to stress over it.
@hottietoddy I completely understand!! And I appreciate your support. I once tried to watch a tv show back in Feb not knowing that the first scene was about a pregnant woman and I started crying and fumbling on how to turn it off. LOL It took me several weeks before I could watch it on my own. And I love the affirmations. Thank you so much!
AFM, I'm back home!
Wednesday: I unfortunately still had contractions but they weren't regular and it sounds like they were due to some uterine irritation from the partial placenta abruption. What's really hard with this diagnosis is that there weren't any concrete answers -- there were just so many unexplained issues. Anyways, I hadn't bled since Monday night, which was very good, but the contractions were still there so they kept me overnight again. I moved rooms, first from a big Labor & Delivery room to a smaller L&D room because a lady had just given birth in a triage room across the hall (and oh yea, did I hear her yell!). Then later that afternoon, a room in the antepartum floor, which is for pregnant women, finally opened up so they moved me there. My mom was with me at lunchtime when that happened so that was nice to have her company. They kept making my drink more water!
DH came over after work and we had a "private maternity tour" with one of the hospital staff. We're scheduled for the maternity tour with a group next Tuesday night but I asked that since we were already there, if we could go ahead and do it now, especially since we've seen most of it. She came to our room and it was so helpful to hear and read all the information. I feel more prepared now. Then I took a shower (yay for being human!) and one of my girlfriends and her daughter visited for a little bit in the evening. After everyone left, I thought I'd get more work done but the exhaustion caught up, and I surprisingly slept through the night. The nurses woke me up a few times for vitals and tests but I somehow fell back asleep each time.
Thursday: I drank a TON of water. They said that would help get rid of the contractions. During rounds, the dr was optimistic that I could go home, dependent on the non-stress test results. She said my belly felt better (it's so hard for me to tell though, but I trust her!) so after breakfast and more vitals, they did the stress test. I love love love listening to my baby's heartbeat. They came back and said that there were no more contractions and I could go home! There were some dips in the baby's movement because of the way I was lying down, so they said to start doing kick counts. They weren't concerned about that though because the baby's fhr has been so steady and ultrasound showed the baby was sooooo active. I'm thinking though that my OB might increase my follow-ups to once a week instead of every two weeks. We'll see.
As for the sugar/insulin tests, I didn't have to take them anymore after they said I could go home. So I had a smoothie for lunch. :P These tests were due to the side effect of the steroid shots, which should go away now, and I'll be able to take the 3hr glucose test at my OB office next Tuesday. I also went ahead and got my Tdap in the butt and it's so sore now! I guess it's a good thing my butt is a huge muscle.
Anyways, I went home! My mom picked me up in the early afternoon. It was wonderful to see my dog. DH later came home and I just passed out, I was so exhausted. I don't have to be on bed rest, but I don't think I can currently manage the activity that I used to do. For example, I have to clean up the office and baby's room and it's tiring just to think of it. DH will have to help me with our office and I've asked my mom to help me this weekend with the baby's room. It's really just putting things away since everything is just stacked on the guest bed. I'll plan to work remotely when I'm tired, but I'm hoping to go back into the office on Monday. Then glucose test and OB follow-up on Tuesday.
I really just want to have my energy back so I can help keep the house tidy and prepare for the baby and still get work done (gotta pay for those hospital bills!). We were supposed to go out of town this weekend but we cancelled those plane tickets and just need to transfer them before the end of the year to another itinerary. After this scare, we won't travel far from home anymore until after the baby is here.
P.S. don't ever google placenta abruption. My sister did so and was mortified. What I had was nothing to that extent, just a partial one, and while unexplained, it's not uncommon. But yea, the internet is helpful and dangerous at the same time!
What a week! I hope you all have a restful weekend.
I just realized that after this Sunday, I'll officially be in my 3rd trimester, so I'll move to the next thread. I want to say how grateful I am for all of you and your support and for letting me rant, and it's so good to know I'm not alone. Wishing you all the best in your 2nd trimester and seeing you in the 3rd trimester thread!
@jr102217 so so so happy to read your update!! And yes you're coming with me to the third tri board this weekend. None of this having the baby early stuff ok, thanks! in all seriousness though, glad the worst is behind you, rest up as much as you need to. Listen to your body, everything will get done in time.
@lablover78. I love it! Looks like a neat celestial changing pad cover, too! :love:
So we were talking more about this on the BMB, but I pulled the trigger and ordered my breastpump and pump bag! And those both came in! So excited! ...but now I have no idea how the thing works, or if I need any other parts for it etc. I have heard people mention changing out the flanges for a better fit, or trying different settings?? Do I bring it with me to the hospital, or will they have one there for me if need be? <img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/j7/9m1i775iv34y.gif" alt="" title="Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/j7/9m1i775iv34y.gif"> I know we have a few STMs here, so maybe someone can weigh in? I feel so clueless. :s
@jr102217 That's wonderful news! So glad you are home.
@businesswife I second all your questions about pumps! Which brand did you select?
Also, question for all of you -- when I see ads saying that I can pick a pump and the pump company will do all the legwork with my insurance company to get it paid for, is that real? It seems too good to be true but I definitely would love to have someone else do this for me....
*lurking from 3rd tri* at my last OB appt at 30 weeks they gave me one for free through insurance so I would definitely ask your doctor before buying one. I heard most insurance agencies give you free ones at around 30+ weeks. It’s a nice one as well. They did say to bring it to the hospital so they can show you how to use it.
TTC 4 years. 7 failed IUI's with either Clomid, Femara and/or Trigger Shots. Started IVF journey in February 2017. Polyps removed in May. 1st IVF Transfer September 26th. BFP. Expected due date 6/14/18. Baby boy born 5/25/18 at 6 lb 9 oz. My bundle of joy.
@adirat I paid $95 (on my flex card) to upgrade to the Spectra1, which when the time comes if I needed to use it at work, I might need to do it in a room that may not have access to an outlet. (Apart from the bathrooms, we also have the safe deposit box rooms, which are basically just little closets with a countertop and a couple chairs.) So I thought it woukd 've worth it to have the battery.
I did go through one of those companies (I think there's a way we can maybe both get a discount if I send you the referral somehow? Maybe? Even though I already purchased mine so idk) but they did make it very easy, just by giving them my insurance info and EDD, next thing i knew, I had been approved and had a link to the pumps with their respective prices <i>for me</i>. Best part is I was able to use my flex card for the copay, and for the bag, too! I am just holding my breath to see if the flex card people will in fact cover the bag, but I called the company, and the lady said it should be fine and to call them if the flex card declined the bag.
@BusinessWife they will have one at the hospital for you to use and give you parts you can keep. Keep in mind milk usually doesn't come in until 2-5 days after birth, so don't panic if nothing comes out at first!
@BusinessWife@adirat I brought mine to the hospital, but it was just a waste of space. My intention was to have the lactation consultant help me, but they just demonstated and helped me on the hospital owned Medela (i had a spectra).
Truth be told, it was pretty self explanatory after using the Medela. So in hindsight, I shouldn't have brought it. If I were you, I would leave it at home but if you have any specific questions and feel you want the consultant to look at it, have your husband go pick it up.
Regarding the flanges, don't order anything yet. Your boobs can change drastically from now until then, and the lactation consultant should tell you what your best fit is after birth. Pro tip, my hospital let me keep all of the flanges and tubes that I used while in the hospital.
@lablover78 loveeeee the dresser and the wall color @2MomsHoping the blanket is beautiful, I want one!!! @BusinessWife i called my insurance company two weeks ago and they gave me phone numbers to companies that provide free pumps. I'm still waiting to get mine, so awesome you got yours already. Also wanting the spectra, and planning on upgrading to the Spectra1. @adirat def call your insurance company and ask them about the pump. They'll give you phone numbers to other companies like McKesson and Medline, you call them to order your pump. They did ask me for a prescription from my OB. So next time you see your doctor ask for an RX for a pump.
As far as pumps go- @businesswife@adirat I used one of those companies (Edgepark Medical Supplies) last time and I literally had to do nothing besides fill out my name, address, insurance info on their website. It was the easiest thing ever and I got it super fast! Your insurance will have a list of websites to use... check a few different ones because mine had some different offerings through different sites! I used the Medela Pump in Style Advanced and I liked it... I breastfed for a year and pumped sometimes. I am debating getting a different pump (if insurance covers it) this time. I have heard great things about the Spectra as well.
As far as the flanges go- measure and make sure you are getting the correct size, don't assume you will fit what is included!! I needed to order a smaller size and once I did it was way easier to pump. This is a chart from Medela but it will be similar with whatever pump. https://blog.medelabreastfeedingus.com/2015/05/medela-breastshield-sizing-guide/
And I didn't bring my pump to the hospital but this time I may or maybe a manual pump. My milk didn't come in until a few days after birth (besides colostrum). It was super stressful because my son lost a ton of weight and wasn't getting enough to eat. Thankfully once it came everything went great but there was one day I was so worried. My number one tip would be see a lactation specialist... seriously! I will be asking for one in the hospital this time, but last time I just went to one at his pedi a few times. They are soooo valuable and helped me immensely!!!
Me: 28, DH: 30 Married July 2014 DX: Severe MFI- 3 failed IUI's, IVF #1 Egg retrieval June 4th 2016, 5 day transfer- BFP Baby Boy! EDD 2/25/2017. Our sweet miracle Carter Bennett arrived 2/12/2017 6 lbs, 2 oz 19 inches. Surprise BFP!!! Baby Girl due 10/1/2018.
@chicandbubbly is exactly right on the delay for milk to come in... I had a CSection so mine took a while to come in. Another thing to remember is supplementing during this time isn't the end of the world... looking back now I was pretty much torturing myself and my new born by not supplementing sooner. My lactation consultant had told me not to do it, so I was going off of her advice. My milk was super slow to come in though so after like 2 hours straight of my baby screaming at night, a nurse talked me into letting het drink supplement milk. She went straight to sleep after guzzling the whole bottle I still feel supet guilty about that.
I signed up for a 2 year sample program at Destination Maternity yesterday... there will be formula and diaper samples, amongst other things, so I'm like, you know, having a little formula on hand in case we need to combo in the beginning is not such a bad idea. And the disposables, too, you never know. Even if I just end up taking them to Church, not a bad thing At All.
Meanwhile, I think I'm about set to order a few joovy (ppsu) bottles to pump into, with the joovy adapter, and forego the Spectra bottles that came with the pump. They gave me a free avent bottle, too, yesterday, so I guess if we have a few extra plastic bottles, can't hurt to give them to MIL or SIL so in a pinch they have <i>something</i> at their house. ...even if it's not glass :#
Re: 2nd Trimester Check-in | Week of April 16th
@irisheyes81 if $80 will give you piece of mind I say go for it. For me though as long as the baby is giving a random kick now and again I figure all is ok but whatever you can do to keep yourself calm is what is right for you so if you know you’re going to be driving yourself crazy without a check-in get the check!
I FINALLY finished my baby blanket today...YAY!!! I was doing this one as a little car seat blanket and figured I’d have it finished in no time but pregnancy seems to make me take longer to get things done. Its super soft and I’m so happy with it
Still
hoping I make another one hopefully crib sized before the baby arrives.
TTC History in Spoiler ***Trigger Warning*** Losses/Child Mentioned
2016
* April IUI#1 - BFN
* June IUI#2 - BFN
* July IUI#3 - CP :'(
* Sept IVF#1 - 4 Retrieved & Mature, 4 Blasts. Fresh Transfer 1 - CP :'(
* November FET #1 - Transferred 1 Blast - CP :'(
2017 Switched REs - Recurrent loss testing for me - all normal, remaining 2 frosties sent for PGS - both abnormal
* April/May IVF#2: 9 retrieved, 8 mature, 7 fertilized, 7 blasts! Sent for testing - 2PGS Normals (0 remaining)
* November IVF #3 12R, 8M, 6F, 4 blasts! - All 4 PGS normal!
* November FET# 2 (Transfer a PGS normal from IVF#2) - BFP!!!
2018 DD born 8/20/18
2019 5PGS frosties ( 4 remaining)
* September FET#3 (1PGS normal) - Beta#1: 139.7 Beta#2: 322.6
....And now I have a Doppler ap on my phone! Lol
@2MomsHoping. That's beautiful! I really want to get to some maternal sewing here before we get too much farther.... so meaningful to have such a precious thing made by mommy herself! ;) I love it!
Btw if you haven’t already, check out the carters sale like @hottietoddy said. Got my order today and realizing what a good deal it is. I want to buy more stuff but DH won’t let me until after the baby shower. I tried to buy different sizes so we are not overwhelmed with newborn stuff. All this came in at under $100.
Eep it’s happening! Nursery has been painted and new carpet installed! My mom’s BF repurposed an old dresser we had to make this changing table and painted it to match the crib our friend is giving us and 3 different people gave us boxes of hand me down baby clothes this week. I will not need to buy any clothes for this kid!
No Folic acid/pharmaceuticals/supplements (too many to list- private message me if interested), IVIL infusion
Regarding anxiety I feel like we have all been in that state since IF and the FET board, waiting for the other shoe to drop right? were a group of worrywarts, and you're in good company.
Small vent...I'm having tons of anger and anxiety after talking to my mom last night. She was asking me all sorts of questions and then asked if I'm eating lean protein and watching how much dairy I'm eating (have never heard that pregnant women are suposed to avoid eating dairy?!?!) and then asked how much weight I've gained and warned me that I'm only supposed to gain 25 lbs. This was so triggering to me because of my years of body dysmorphia and disordered eating (that she knows nothing about because we've had a broken relationship for the last 10 years) and also my anxiety that I'll never lose weight after being pregnant. It just made me so upset like, how dare you ask me these questions? And on the flip side, my brother and his wife, who have a 9 month old daughter, are obese. I was so tempted to ask if she was quizzing my SIL about what she was eating and how much weight she had gained, or if it's only okay to ask a thin person that?
Together Since 5/07, Married 5/13
TTC Since 8/15
3 Cycles Clomid/Ovidrel/TI-11/16, 12/16, 1/17-All Failed
Switched RE's 1/17
4 IUIs-2/17 through 6/17-All Failed
ER-8/30/17-25 Eggs Retrieved=7 PGS Normal Embyros
FET#1 of 1 Embryo-10/3/17-Chemical
FET#2 of 2 Embryos-11/16/17-Failed
FET#3 of 1 Embryo-12/22/17-BFP!
Carter Wright arrived 9/5/18
@lablover78 love the nursery!!! That dresser is a dream. I especially like the handles.
@BusinessWife did the Doppler work on your phone? That made me laugh so hard.
@2MomsHoping you made that blanket?? It’s just beautiful.
Thank you everyone so much for your support about my anxiety. It helped me so much. Especially knowing that babies aren’t supposed to move 10x per hour every hour. She kicked a lot last night and I felt silly. I worked myself in to a total frenzie and made an appointment to get acupuncture. I was so stressed, I didn’t drink water and had Braxton Hicks contractions last night for the first time. I’m shocked at how much of a difference mental state can have. So today, I’m not working. I’m getting my hair done and watching funny movies and drinking water. This making a human thing is no joke. I’m so glad I have you guys to ‘talk’ to. Xoxo
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
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@sarzee2.
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I'm so sorry your mother said that. 1. Nobody needs that noise. 2. Babies actually do need calcium, so restricting dairy for ku people is not actually a thing. 3. Just no. Totally out of line. I was so mad when I got comments about my weight from the last midwife, I rescheduled my AS so I didnt have to see her again. That's honestly the biggest thing I'm worried about at my appointment, and hoping this other midwife doesn't give me grief over it too. :/ try not to let her get to you. ❤❤❤
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@safire3 wow that’s quite a haul! Awesome
@lablover78 it looks great! I love that you have the holder for the changing pad on the dresser so it doesn’t slide around. I want to add something like that to mine. Did you buy it as an attachment or did you guys make it custom?
@sarzee2 commenting on any woman’s weight…is ridiculous and that goes double if you are pregnant. Totally uncalled for. I’ve also been eating way more dairy than usual, and even mentioned it to my OB because I was worried I was overdoing it and they had no problem with it.
@irisheeyes81 I did make the blanket. I’ve made so many for others over the years I can’t even count them, it such a I can’t believe this is real moment to finish it and just walk it upstairs instead of shipping it off at the post office. I’ve finished so many wishing they were for my baby it was a really nice change of pace to have happy tears at the end instead of sad ones. What to the Braxton hicks feel like? A couple times this week I had what felt like a cramp but it was only on one side of my uterus which didn’t make sense to me for Braxton hicks. Lasted maybe a minute than went away. It hurt but not like hurt-hurt. Didn’t really feel like a strong kick. Yay for a relaxation day. Nothing like good hair to improve the mood J
@irisheyes81 & @businesswife I think I must try this app. DW has one of the fancy phones without an ear phone jack maybe I’ll make her download it to try to avoid the interference.
TTC History in Spoiler ***Trigger Warning*** Losses/Child Mentioned
2016
* April IUI#1 - BFN
* June IUI#2 - BFN
* July IUI#3 - CP :'(
* Sept IVF#1 - 4 Retrieved & Mature, 4 Blasts. Fresh Transfer 1 - CP :'(
* November FET #1 - Transferred 1 Blast - CP :'(
2017 Switched REs - Recurrent loss testing for me - all normal, remaining 2 frosties sent for PGS - both abnormal
* April/May IVF#2: 9 retrieved, 8 mature, 7 fertilized, 7 blasts! Sent for testing - 2PGS Normals (0 remaining)
* November IVF #3 12R, 8M, 6F, 4 blasts! - All 4 PGS normal!
* November FET# 2 (Transfer a PGS normal from IVF#2) - BFP!!!
2018 DD born 8/20/18
2019 5PGS frosties ( 4 remaining)
* September FET#3 (1PGS normal) - Beta#1: 139.7 Beta#2: 322.6
@2MomsHoping That is amazing!!! It's so pretty.
@hottietoddy I completely understand!! And I appreciate your support. I once tried to watch a tv show back in Feb not knowing that the first scene was about a pregnant woman and I started crying and fumbling on how to turn it off. LOL It took me several weeks before I could watch it on my own. And I love the affirmations. Thank you so much!
AFM, I'm back home!
DH came over after work and we had a "private maternity tour" with one of the hospital staff. We're scheduled for the maternity tour with a group next Tuesday night but I asked that since we were already there, if we could go ahead and do it now, especially since we've seen most of it. She came to our room and it was so helpful to hear and read all the information. I feel more prepared now. Then I took a shower (yay for being human!) and one of my girlfriends and her daughter visited for a little bit in the evening. After everyone left, I thought I'd get more work done but the exhaustion caught up, and I surprisingly slept through the night. The nurses woke me up a few times for vitals and tests but I somehow fell back asleep each time.
Thursday: I drank a TON of water. They said that would help get rid of the contractions. During rounds, the dr was optimistic that I could go home, dependent on the non-stress test results. She said my belly felt better (it's so hard for me to tell though, but I trust her!) so after breakfast and more vitals, they did the stress test. I love love love listening to my baby's heartbeat. They came back and said that there were no more contractions and I could go home! There were some dips in the baby's movement because of the way I was lying down, so they said to start doing kick counts. They weren't concerned about that though because the baby's fhr has been so steady and ultrasound showed the baby was sooooo active. I'm thinking though that my OB might increase my follow-ups to once a week instead of every two weeks. We'll see.
As for the sugar/insulin tests, I didn't have to take them anymore after they said I could go home. So I had a smoothie for lunch. :P These tests were due to the side effect of the steroid shots, which should go away now, and I'll be able to take the 3hr glucose test at my OB office next Tuesday. I also went ahead and got my Tdap in the butt and it's so sore now! I guess it's a good thing my butt is a huge muscle.
Anyways, I went home! My mom picked me up in the early afternoon. It was wonderful to see my dog. DH later came home and I just passed out, I was so exhausted. I don't have to be on bed rest, but I don't think I can currently manage the activity that I used to do. For example, I have to clean up the office and baby's room and it's tiring just to think of it. DH will have to help me with our office and I've asked my mom to help me this weekend with the baby's room. It's really just putting things away since everything is just stacked on the guest bed. I'll plan to work remotely when I'm tired, but I'm hoping to go back into the office on Monday. Then glucose test and OB follow-up on Tuesday.
I really just want to have my energy back so I can help keep the house tidy and prepare for the baby and still get work done (gotta pay for those hospital bills!). We were supposed to go out of town this weekend but we cancelled those plane tickets and just need to transfer them before the end of the year to another itinerary. After this scare, we won't travel far from home anymore until after the baby is here.
P.S. don't ever google placenta abruption. My sister did so and was mortified. What I had was nothing to that extent, just a partial one, and while unexplained, it's not uncommon. But yea, the internet is helpful and dangerous at the same time!
I just realized that after this Sunday, I'll officially be in my 3rd trimester, so I'll move to the next thread. I want to say how grateful I am for all of you and your support and for letting me rant, and it's so good to know I'm not alone. Wishing you all the best in your 2nd trimester and seeing you in the 3rd trimester thread!
@2MomsHoping he built the top and attached it to the dresser but first went to target to see what the real ones look like
No Folic acid/pharmaceuticals/supplements (too many to list- private message me if interested), IVIL infusion
So we were talking more about this on the BMB, but I pulled the trigger and ordered my breastpump and pump bag! And those both came in! So excited! ...but now I have no idea how the thing works, or if I need any other parts for it etc. I have heard people mention changing out the flanges for a better fit, or trying different settings?? Do I bring it with me to the hospital, or will they have one there for me if need be?
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I know we have a few STMs here, so maybe someone can weigh in? I feel so clueless. :s
@businesswife I second all your questions about pumps! Which brand did you select?
Also, question for all of you -- when I see ads saying that I can pick a pump and the pump company will do all the legwork with my insurance company to get it paid for, is that real? It seems too good to be true but I definitely would love to have someone else do this for me....
I did go through one of those companies (I think there's a way we can maybe both get a discount if I send you the referral somehow? Maybe? Even though I already purchased mine so idk) but they did make it very easy, just by giving them my insurance info and EDD, next thing i knew, I had been approved and had a link to the pumps with their respective prices <i>for me</i>. Best part is I was able to use my flex card for the copay, and for the bag, too! I am just holding my breath to see if the flex card people will in fact cover the bag, but I called the company, and the lady said it should be fine and to call them if the flex card declined the bag.
Truth be told, it was pretty self explanatory after using the Medela. So in hindsight, I shouldn't have brought it. If I were you, I would leave it at home but if you have any specific questions and feel you want the consultant to look at it, have your husband go pick it up.
Regarding the flanges, don't order anything yet. Your boobs can change drastically from now until then, and the lactation consultant should tell you what your best fit is after birth. Pro tip, my hospital let me keep all of the flanges and tubes that I used while in the hospital.
@2MomsHoping the blanket is beautiful, I want one!!!
@BusinessWife i called my insurance company two weeks ago and they gave me phone numbers to companies that provide free pumps. I'm still waiting to get mine, so awesome you got yours already. Also wanting the spectra, and planning on upgrading to
the Spectra1.
@adirat def call your insurance company and ask them about the pump. They'll give you phone numbers to other companies like McKesson and Medline, you call
them to order your pump. They did ask me for a prescription from my OB. So next time you see your doctor ask for an RX for a pump.
As far as the flanges go- measure and make sure you are getting the correct size, don't assume you will fit what is included!! I needed to order a smaller size and once I did it was way easier to pump. This is a chart from Medela but it will be similar with whatever pump. https://blog.medelabreastfeedingus.com/2015/05/medela-breastshield-sizing-guide/
And I didn't bring my pump to the hospital but this time I may or maybe a manual pump. My milk didn't come in until a few days after birth (besides colostrum). It was super stressful because my son lost a ton of weight and wasn't getting enough to eat. Thankfully once it came everything went great but there was one day I was so worried. My number one tip would be see a lactation specialist... seriously! I will be asking for one in the hospital this time, but last time I just went to one at his pedi a few times. They are soooo valuable and helped me immensely!!!
Meanwhile, I think I'm about set to order a few joovy (ppsu) bottles to pump into, with the joovy adapter, and forego the Spectra bottles that came with the pump. They gave me a free avent bottle, too, yesterday, so I guess if we have a few extra plastic bottles, can't hurt to give them to MIL or SIL so in a pinch they have <i>something</i> at their house. ...even if it's not glass :#