IVF with donor eggs

c-town18 · April 2018

JamieH2000 - If you've got 9 days that's a good amount of time yet. I know at one point my lining was thinner than the check before and blood estrogen had decreased, so they increased my estrogen dosage and it bounced right back up by the next check. I bet the increased dosage with do the trick for you!

JamieH2000 · April 2018

@c-town18- thanks girl. I know there is still time, so just trying to pass the days as quick as I can. I normally get between 8-10mm, so just hoping it was a super slow start from my sickness last week.

cmiller73 · April 2018

**lurking**
The good news that is growing in here since my last login has boosted my spirits, and the challenges some have had remind me that even though many of us are struggling through this process, it is AWESOME to have so many ladies here for support and knowledge.

Sooooo, we reserved a donor a week ago, had the donor rejected and had to go back to the drawing board. Luckily, we were able to go back to our top 3 and our second choice happened to be just finishing a cycle and came available/agreed to donate for us a few days after we cancelled with our first choice. So now we start the whole process over again (paperwork paperwork PAPERWORK!) and we begin the prep for when the donor is ready to cycle again after 2 periods.

I guess that would put me cycling with a possible transfer in June? Ish? Would they count the period the donor has post retrieval or is it two FULL periods post stimulation?

Is anyone else looking at a timeframe this summer??

adc0417 · April 2018

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@cmiller73 sorry to hear that your 1st donor was rejected but happy to hear that you were able to lock down your second choice. We too have a donor reserved but she found a new job and is moving to California next week. She needs to come to our clinic for her final screening/donor day and then will go through her cycle. So, I’m thinking June/July. We might be cycle buddies.

knottie7777 · April 2018

@cmiller73 I may be this summer as well ! Hoping at least , we are doing frozen eggs but still haven’t found a donor so by the time we find one thinking it may be summer time .

c-town18 · April 2018

cmiller73 - Glad you were able to line up another of your top choices so quickly

I would think they would count the period she gets a couple weeks after retrieval as one, but that's just a hunch. It may take a little while to get everything in order from the legal and medical standpoint anyways, right? We reserved our donor in late October and her retrieval happened the second week of January. If you happen to be using an in-house donor at a clinic I bet it moves faster; we were using an outside agency. I don't know if that helps give you an idea of when your transfer might happen.

knottie7777 - How is your search going?

Sounds like it's going to be a big summer on this board! Can't wait to hear more updates from everyone!

cmiller73 · April 2018

@c-town18 its not an in-house donor, but this donor just finished a cycle through the clinic I use so they have all of her recent tests, medical records, ER and fert results and social/psych work ups. I hope this will speed things along!

@knottie7777 where are you looking for your frozen?? We contemplated that route as well...

c-town18 · April 2018

cmiller73 - ah, I bet it will move faster then. My donor had never cycled at my clinic before and they made her do some additional testing which she had never had done, and that slowed things up. Also her psych eval wasn't recent enough so she had to do a new one, etc. Anyways, I'm excited for you! I'm sure you're ready to get moving. Is the plan to do a fresh transfer or is that TBD?

JamieH2000 - I'm thinking of you! Hoping you get good lining news in the next couple of days here.

JamieH2000 · April 2018

@c-town18- thank you! Tomorrow morning I should know more. I feel my estrogen is much higher, just praying my lining has responded and is at least 8mm tomorrow. I know it can grow 1mm or more today with the right estrogen levels, so just praying for no more roadblocks!

@cmiller73- its always devastating when a donor choice doesn't work out, but so happy you were able to get going with your second choice pretty quickly. This process is just NEVER quick, so I hope you have no more delays! I would hope they count the period after ER as one period.

@adc0417- i hope your donor is able to come soon! That is great she is still willing to donate even though she is moving.

Looks like it should be an exciting spring/summer for this group

knottie7777 · April 2018

@cmiller73 we are using My Egg Bank , my clinic is really impressed with the success rates they have been getting with that agency so we are just going with their recommendation . We are hoping to find one that clicks with us in the next month or two .

adc0417 · April 2018

@JamieH2000 keeping fingers crossed for your lining check. I can totally understand the frustration behind it. AFM, we’ll find out in a day or two when our donor can come in for a donor day. I’m so ready to get the show on the road. We reserved her in February and now it’s almost May and she’s not completely screened. She seems like a real nice girl but I’m just getting antsy. Everyone around me seems to be getting pregnant and I’m just feeling the void more and more

JamieH2000 · April 2018

@adc0417- thank you!! I agree, its time for your clinic/donor to get this show on the road! have they told you what the hold up is? Have you started legal? That part took a few weeks for me.

adc0417 · April 2018

@jamieh2000 Luckily, our clinic does not require a legal paper. So, once she’s screened, she’s good to move on to the next step.

rachelh0912 · April 2018

@tosh24 I am so sorry I have been MIA! *TW* my sister went into labor several days ago and my family has been running crazy ever since the new arrival *end TW* but oh my goodness I cannot believe your RE won’t warrant what you’ve been through as “enough” and let you go on with a lap! Especially if it will help with some questions you have! My RE wanted to be sure to take care of as much endo as he could before a transfer because he mentioned that some studies have shown that women with endo can also have some abnormal cells in the uterine lining and said it could reduce the number of cells that work as “the other side of the Velcro” as he put it that helps an embryo implant. So, that being said, I’m on Femara for 2 straight months! I’m taking 5mg instead of 2.5 which he said he normally prescribes. After that, we will prepare for another attempt at a transfer now that the fluid issue is *hopefully* resolved! I won’t be on anything other than Femara for the next 2 months. He had me stop Lupron and estrogen (he had me wearing one patch all the time prior to surgery.) I REALLY hope things work out for you the next transfer but a lap may be something to really push for if you feel strongly about it! All of my information is coming from my RE so some of the other ladies may have other information that I’d love to hear too! I’m pulling for you and here to help anyway I can! Be sure to keep me updated on how things are going! This is such a tough process and it’s so nice to have all of you guys supporting me! Again, so sorry I was MIA for awhile but I’m back and I’ll keep checking!

@JamieH2000 praying things go great at lining check tom tomorrow! Getting excited for you! Yay! Let us know how it goes! I’ll be checking all day!!

adc0417 · April 2018

She’s starting a new job and so I guess she needs to speak to her boss as to when she can take a day off. Hopefully will have an answer in a day or so.

fivetimesnoluck · April 2018

@knottie7777 We used My Egg Bank and I was really pleased with the process and the outcomes!

So excited to see so much happening for all of you.... busy summer indeed!

knottie7777 · April 2018

@fivetimesnoluck that’s so encouraging that you had a positive experience with them ! I’m hoping if we get 12 eggs that we will get a few embryos. When I was doing my IVF cycles with my own eggs , I only had 3,4 eggs retrieved at a time so starting with 12 good quality definitely seems like a step in the right direction !

radmom27 · April 2018

@JamieH2000 Lurking...I hope you had a great lining check today!!

JamieH2000 · April 2018

Thanks for all the thoughts ladies. Unfortunately my gut was right and this is somehow my worst cycle ever for lining. It only grew from 5.0 to 5.5 in a week, despite being on 3 pills per day and patches. I guess they want to give it two more days before cancelling, but I am 99% certain its a waste of time. Overall just devastated that yet another thing could go wrong and did. Today is one of those days where I just feel like giving up again. I know it will pass, but if we cancel I won't be able to transfer until June since we have a trip 5/26-5/30. anyways, thanks again for everything.. i feel bad I keep have disappointing news to share.

c-town18 · April 2018

JamieH2000 - Ugh, I'm so sorry. It's beyond frustrating that so much of this is outside of our control. Sending a big hug your way. Nothing to feel bad about re: sharing disappointing news....we're here for you!

prudence9-2 · April 2018

Oh no @JamieH2000 I’m so sorry to hear about that

I was really hoping the increase in meds will do the trick. Sending you hugs

rachelh0912 · April 2018

@JamieH2000 oh I am so sorry sweet friend. I am familiar with the feeling and it never gets any easier. Praying for a miracle in the next two days but I also understand your concern. I’m with you in feeling like June is forever away! I hate that the delays keep coming! Does your RE have any idea what could be causing your lining to respond like it does?

laurad75 · April 2018

@JamieH2000 I'm so sorry you have more disappointing news. FX for a miracle for you.

adc0417 · April 2018

Oh no @JamieH2000 I can totally understand these miserable setbacks. So close and yet so far. But, pls keep believing that it will happen

fivetimesnoluck · April 2018

@JamieH2000 I am sorry that you've hit another roadblock. It just sucks. I will keep you in my thoughts.

cmiller73 · April 2018

@JamieH2000 ARGGGGHHHHH!

So sorry to hear the news. Never apologize for posting your reality! That is why this space is so awesome. We are ALL here to support you, through the great news and tough!

radmom27 · April 2018

@JamieH2000 UUUUGGGHHHH. I'm so sorry to hear about this...I'm still holding out hope for rapid improvement. I'm frustrated for you.

adc0417 · April 2018

Arghhhh so our donor cannot take time off her work till May 30, and therefore not be able to come out for her screening day before then. And then it’ll take 2 weeks to get her results back putting us in mid June. What do you guys think?? Should we look for another donor who is more readily available and has some previous records to share??

laurad75 · April 2018

@adc0417 That's annoying. We had a similar situation when we picked our donor over the summer but she would not be available until she was back in the area for school. I was pretty stuck on that donor so we opted to wait it out but there is just so much waiting in this process you don't want to add more. Can you take 24 hours or so to look through other potential donors and if there is a better fit switch? Otherwise, May 30 is not that far away and it's not like she would be able to go in for her screening tomorrow so you may realistically only be adding 2 or 3 weeks.

JamieH2000 · April 2018

@adc0417- aww delays SUCK sooo bad! What I would consider is how committed she seems. another month or so isn't a big deal, but are other things going to come up now that she has moved? Is it going to be hard for her to get off for the cycle or will she monitor remotely? I would just hate for something else to come up and for you to be starting over in June. But I also think you won't get another going before then either, so maybe it makes sense to wait.

AFM- well ladies, I can't thank you enough for your kind words. The last two days were hard and they REALLY helped! so today..... my lining today somehow grew from 5.5 to over 8mm in 48 hours! I was FLOORED. However, when it grew, the nice trilameter look went away some... They classified it as "faint" and I have always had a beautiful 3 line look, even from my first monitoring this month. If I was going to transfer on Monday, I needed to do my first PIO at 10am today. So my RE called at 945am and wanted to discuss. She said it was thick enough, but was a little concerned the trilameter didn't look as nice as it did earlier in this cycle and during my receptive ERA cycle last month. She was fine with transferring, but left it up to me since it wasn't perfect and this whole cycle has been off. I could tell she was hesitant, and I made the call to cancel It probably would have been fine... but if it didn't work I would have lost 2 more embryos and blamed myself. a 5-6 week delay won't hurt nearly as bad as another negative I figured. Still questioning my call a little, but in my gut this cycle just seemed off and I figure its better to be safe than sorry. Waiting for my calendar now and hoping for an early June transfer.

laurad75 · April 2018

@JamieH2000 Even though it was a tough decision it was likely the right one. Early June will be here before we know it.

Joslynj11 · April 2018

@JamieH2000 **Lurking** stay strong lady! I am hoping the days fly by so June can get here already!

prudence9-2 · April 2018

@JamieH2000 such a tough decision to make. But I think I would have made the same decision as you. The thought of "wasting" 2 embryos on a non optimal conditions... I hope the time will go by fast for you! Sending you a big hug!

adc0417 · April 2018

@jamieh2000 I know it’s a tough call, but I think you made the right decision given the situation. No point in wasting 2 more embryos.

So, we are looking at another donor(who has donated before) but not cancelling with the first donor yet. My donor coordinator and the agency person both think this is the safest thing to do. We’ll get the 2nd girls medical records and RE will take a look to see who might be a better donor.

c-town18 · April 2018

@JamieH2000 - That's such a hard decision but I think I would have done the same thing as you. That's a lot of money and heartbreak to risk on suboptimal conditions, ya know? I know you really trust your RE too, and if she sounded hesitant then I think you made the right decision.

adc0417 - I'm with Jamie, can you get a sense of whether this donor may bail later on? Or can you ask the agency what they think? That's what I would worry about more than just the 1 month delay in her screening. If she agreed to this envisioning that it would be a local cycle, and now has to travel in order to do it while working a new job, I'd be worried she might change her mind and you would have waited for nothing. I would ask the agency to have a conversation with her and confirm that she is still committed despite the change in circumstances (if they haven't already).

JamieH2000 · April 2018

@laurad75 and @joslynj11- thank you ladies! You are so awesome to continue to support us from the "other side"! Hope everything is going great for both of you!

@prudence9-2- thanks for the hug Hope everything is progressing good for you. I can only imagine how nerve racking the first tri is after everything we have gone through. Hope to join you on PAIF soon

@adc0417- I think that is a good idea to have another donor option! Its great to have them review both and see which they think would be a stronger donor. Did you have your IUI beta yet? Thinking of you!

@c-town18- Thanks chica. It was a hard call and I kinda doubted myself, but I figured if the RE wasn't like lets do this! its not really much of a choice you know? Its hard to have to make these big calls yourself... I can only hope following my gut was right this time.

adc0417 · April 2018

@jamieh2000 Thanks for your support girl!! Beta is on monday

@c-town18 No the donor has not actually given us a hint that she’ll back out, but I’m just concerned because of the way she’s handling coming in for screening. The agency and clinic both think that way also, which is why we are looking into having a back up. For now, our donor is scheduled for may 30 screening, which just seems sooooo far away. How are you doing? Have you had your US yet?

tosh24 · April 2018

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@rachelh0912 Thank you so much for your response. Funny thing, I was reading a Reddit AMA where two REs were answering questions a few days ago (I think the link was posted in this forum), and there was a lady that asked about endo and the RE said he's seen some promise with femara! I have a second opinion consult with another RE in June who is known for being way more "creative" than my conservative clinic, so if my RE is not willing to start trying some more things that aren't as evidence based as her current protocols, I may make the switch. If this FET turns out to be a fail, then I will for sure be pushing for a lap. I won't transfer again until I get one. It will probably mean a few months of sitting on the bench which sucks, but c'est la vie, I guess. I really hope that your lap and femara treatment is just what was needed to bring you your THB GL!

c-town18 · April 2018

adc0417 - I didn't realize you are in the TWW right now. Keep us posted! Sorry, I somehow missed your post saying that you were already looking into getting a back-up donor. I think that's a smart move.

*TW* Had u/s on Wednesday at 5w5d. Saw a fetal pole that is measuring on track and saw a blip of a HB but couldn't hear it yet. It's really early I know but with my past losses they were always measuring behind right from the beginning, so I'm relieved that this little one is at least measuring as it should. Go back next Wed. and then again the one after. I'll keep you guys posted.

JamieH2000 · April 2018

@adc0417- Hoping you get your miracle IUI BFP today! I think our group is due for one of those and it should be YOU!!!

@c-town18- that is great that you are on track!! I'm sure its so much anxiety these first few weeks, but Wed is almost here! Keep us posted

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