So I found out I’m knocked up over the weekend. I’m super excited and based on my last period, I’m 4 weeks and 3 days.
I talked to my OB’s nurse today and she said that she wouldn’t see me for my first appointment until I’m 9 weeks and that my OB typically doesn’t see new moms until 12 weeks. She scheduled an ultrasound during my 8th week. But that’s it.
I’m a little disappointed that I have to wait so long. I’m only 4 weeks, and although I’m starting to have some symptoms (fatigue, increased urination) I just don’t “feel” like it’s really real yet. I’m just anxious and impatient to get started.
Anyone else dealing with or dealt with this kind of frustration before?
Re: First appointment later than I thought...
I don't have my first appointment until 10+2 and I don't have an ultrasound until week 18-20.
Trust your OB knows what they are doing.
Most of the ladies who have a million appointments right off the hop are because they have a history of loss or they are high risk. Count your blessings that your OB does not put you in that category.
ETA: if you want support / want to stick around, considering introducing yourself in the introduction thread pinned at the top. Then you can jump in and post these type thoughts in weekly randoms, weekly questions or weekly appointments thread.
We have a planned parenthood type non profit agency that does ultrasounds if you schedule them and another company that does ultrasounds for a cost that some people choose to do.
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Together Since 04/21/2009; Married Since 05/29/2013
Baby Boy born 11/30/16
Baby #2 Due December 4
Kade Wayne born July 23, 2015
MC in February 2017
MC in November 2017
Oliver Dean (Ollie) due December 17, 2018
I apologize in advance for how I’m about to respond to you. I’m not normally the type of person who would even say anything back, but I took your reply personally and you came off as rude and condescending. Maybe you don’t realize that’s how you came off. Maybe it wasn’t your intention. But regardless, I posted looking for insight from people in a similar situation, not judgement from a complete stranger.
I DO trust that my OB knows what he’s doing. I have just read others posts about seeing their OB sooner than what I was told. At least for blood work, or to confirm the pregnancy.
And I AM counting my blessings, 1. Because I was able to get pregnant at all, 2. Because I am relatively healthy overall and am hoping for a healthy pregnancy as well. Please don’t tell me to “count my blessings” because you don’t know me and you have no idea what my conception journey has been.
And I DID post in the introduction thread...yesterday. I’m sorry you missed it. Maybe then you wouldn’t feel the need to post a passive aggressive response to a person you don’t even know. I didn’t realize I needed to follow a certain set of rules before posting a question. Good thing you’re around to set people straight and tell them what to do.
In addition to the weekly Questions thread, we have Symptoms, Appointments and Randoms (which is kind of a catch all for things that don't fit in the other threads, plus a fun way to get to know everyone as they post little bits about their daily lives.) We also have a bunch of great weekly threads like PGAL (pregnant after a loss) and FTM or STM check ins. If you haven't already, it would be good to read the Read This First thread (it's pinned toward the top) to find all the places to post and connect with everyone.
Sorry if you were upset by Kristah's post and that you found it condescending, but I think if you re-read your reply you'll see that your reply was pretty hurtful. I'm glad you're here and you're excited! But maybe it would be good to take a breath and reengage in a more positive way. (Not meaning this to be condescending - I am 100% being genuine here.) Hope this helps and is taken in the positive way it was meant!
We are THRILLED for everyone here, but everyone could enjoy it more if we were all considerate of the forum.
Congratulations on your BFP and I hope the next few weeks fly by for you!
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
Thank you for your response. I didn’t realize there were so many rules for the message boards. I am new to all of this and just found out on Saturday that I am pregnant. I have never been pregnant before and a friend told me to use this app because I’d find support and help with any worries and questions. I will re-read the intro thread and try to only post where appropriate from now on.
I realize my response to @kristah2 could have come off hurtful, but I was pissed off and annoyed by her less than helpful response to my post. I truly don’t ever even respond to people like that, but she genuinely rubbed me the wrong way and I felt I should say something.
I consider myself a very positive and upbeat person and I felt like she was trying to “put me in my place” rather than try to be genuinely helpful.
Thank you again for your input.
I had given you my experience with my appointment dates from both of my pregnancies. And since I remember feeling the same way as you during my first pregnancy (when I wasn’t seen until 8 weeks and only had an ultrasound at 10 weeks that time due to severe pain) I thought I would clarify as to why so many of the women on this group do have appointments and ultrasounds earlier in pregnancy.
So I gave my shared my experience and some facts on early appointments, thinking I answered your question. But instead I rubbed you the wrong way.
Sorry I missed your intro and sorry I pissed you off. But also be aware your response was very rude (on purpose). That said, we don’t have to be friends.
Thanks to @maureenmce @texas_t and @Rosebud2587 for having my back and knowing im actually a nice person!
Another word of support to @kristah2 It’s hard too read tone through text, but I assure you kristah2 did not mean it the way you took it. Stick around and you’ll find out she’s pretty awesome.
Thanks for the welcome! I don’t know that I will stick around honestly, because I haven’t felt welcomed. If I do keep this app, will probably lurk more and post less.
Thanks again for the kind words. I hope your pregnancy is going well, too.
@good_nurse You're welcome! And whether or not you decide to contribute or not (I hope you do!) just want to point out that multiple people actually bent over backwards to be nice and welcoming to you and explain the rules of the board, even after a rough start. I mean, no one can make you feel welcome if you don't, but multiple people certainly tried!
DS2 due 12/12/18
it certainly appears that way to me as well.
DD2 | June 2011
DS1 | Oct 2013
ADD3 | Oct 2014 (April 2001)
DS2 | June 2016
DS3 | Dec 2018
Due with baby blob August 2021
There’s been literal years of single posts like this with amazing community...
DD2 | June 2011
DS1 | Oct 2013
ADD3 | Oct 2014 (April 2001)
DS2 | June 2016
DS3 | Dec 2018
Due with baby blob August 2021
I get it. I’ve been around for a long time too and I bitched about this a few weeks ago. But then I decided that I’d go with the flow or gtfo.
And I have to agree with @littlewhitecottage on her point about give and take. If you don’t want to read through the questions the rest of us have had, why would we want to read your question?
(But seriously. I 100% agree with you, @littlewhitecottage.)
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
DD2 | June 2011
DS1 | Oct 2013
ADD3 | Oct 2014 (April 2001)
DS2 | June 2016
DS3 | Dec 2018
Due with baby blob August 2021
Also I’ve been waiting on snark like,
“Where am I? Is this The Bump?”
This bmb is way tamer than most.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
Generally, conversations are more organic than structured the way the forums try to make them these days. And I'll admit I have been having a hard time keeping the Randoms, Questions, and Symptoms threads all straight. But.... it's also really not that difficult to adjust, because typing up discussions and responses IS more structured than just blurting out whatever is on your mind. I guess I never had a problem with the way it was before, but if someone decided to make a change, they must have had their reasons. And it seemed worthwhile to me to give it a shot instead of dismissing the board as uptight and rigid out of hand.
And I'm glad I'm not the only one who's noticed the lack of snark!!
DS2 due 12/12/18
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018