My doctor made it to my appointment (she was on call for other laboring women) and she said i should be ok as long as the bleeding is not worse. No limitations given at the moment. I also scheduled all my appointments til delivery. Things just got real!
@zande2016 agree with the others. Get the design you want, but I guarantee everyone will think it's a girl... I hsd the same issue with everyone thinking my DD was a boy since she had no hair until about 1 and a half. I never let it get to me and didn't correct people, but some people get super annoyed by it.
@zande2016 one time I got caught off guard... the conversation went like this: Old man: He is so cute. Me: Thank you. Old man: what's his name? Me: ....Olivia?
@cseley321 I have had so many of those conversations for both DD and DS. I usually don't correct their mistake outright--I prefer to let them slowly realize it. Like the one time a nurse thought DD was a boy because of her gender neutral outfit, until I watched her realize that DD was also wearing pink and purple shoes, had a pink pacifier, and was in a pink stroller...
DS is already awake. I woke up at 5:20 to see his light was on but he was asleep. I noticed the staircase light was also off. I forget to turn it back on because DH is a light nazi and turns lights off all the time, and I tend to leave that one on so I don't forget to turn it on when DS goes to bed, because the light shines in JUST enough to make it lighter in DS"s room. Last night DS woke up crying and went back to sleep but I think he must have been scared because it was so dark, so he turned on his light. Didn't want to open his creaky door so I left it, and here I am paying for it! Oh well. Gonna buy a night light today when I hit up Walmart.
Well my midwife appointment did not go well. The midwife told me the OB who oversees their group and owns the birth center reviewed my chart and determined in high risk and can’t deliver there. I guess their reason was since I have GD and am on metformin. The part I don’t understand is they always told me as long as I controlled without insulin I could still deliver at the birth center. But apparently the metformin is viewed the same as insulin. I told her I’ve literally been on metformin my entire adult life for pcos, I was on it all through my last pregnancy and I was on it the day I walked in the door at the birth center. I just feel so blindsided by this, I thought as long as I stayed off insulin I’d be fine. I put so much effort into staying off insulin and apparently it never mattered. I just burst into tears in the exam room and I don’t really feel like this midwife is very understanding. She just handed me tissues and measured my uterus and left. The hospital they deliver at doesn’t allow water births and that’s the whole reason I wanted to use them, because I really want to avoid an epidural and I want to try for a water birth. The hospital is in a different state so they won’t be in network with the insurance plan I was planning on putting the baby on, so now i’m Considering changing to a different practice that delivers at a hospital that allows water birth and will be in network with the insurance I’ll be putting my son on. Last pregnancy I had a $12,000 hospital bill, with insurance, and I just finished paying that off. I literally can’t afford another hospital bill like that. Ugh I’m just so upset. And now I have to go see the MFM and I’m terrified my baby will be measuring huge or the doctor will yell at me for not tracking my blood sugar while I had the flu.
Has anyone ever changed doctors at 27 weeks? Would they even take me?
@zande2016 that really sucks, it seems to me like they should have known about this already instead of waiting this whole time? I don't have experience switching but I'm sure it can be done even this far along. Keep us posted!
I think I'm seeing some light after 4 consistent days of coughing. I should have taken the syrup waayyyy sooner. Still woke up super early and the first 10 minutes were hell. Cough sorry throat runny eyes...once I washed my face and coughed out stuff for a bit I felt better. Milking the sickness and havong DH bring be breakfast in bed again since I don't have to work for another hour and change.
@zande2016 I'm so sorry - I would feel blindsided as well. I don't have personal advice to share - I know my girlfriend was also planning on a more gentle birthing center experience but sometime between 27 and 32 they determined baby was breech and she had to go to the connected hospital for c-section. She was bummed but it passed fairly quickly. That is weird that the hospital is in another state... I think it will be stressful to switch now, but agree the reward if you can get hospital and water birth you want and better insurance coverage is worth it!
@gingerbride26 I live in NY but my midwife group (with birth center attached) is in CT, it’s only 30ish mins from me. They use a hospital that’s right across the street and while it’s a good hospital, I have my son on a NY exchange plan and will put this baby on one too. So the CT hospital won’t take the NY plan. They do take my insurance but I know from past experience that when you birth in a hospital th baby gets its own bill. With the birth center it wasn’t an issue because they charge a fleet fee and it all gets billed on mom’s insurance. They allow laboring in water but make you move to the bed for birth. I’m not positive I want a water birth but I want the option of it. So I guess I have some decisions to make.
@zande2016 AHH gotcha! I'm in CT, but way more central so I'll be delivering in Hartford. I would think you'd have some nice options in NY if that's what you decide. Completely agree on wanting options! I felt the same way about laboring positions/options. Could you keep baby on your insurance from birth until annual enrollment and THEN switch to the NY exchange plan? Or is it a one shot kind of thing? Could you use your insurance as a secondary until annual enrollment to pick up what NY exchange won't? Of course this is assuming your annual enrollment is in the Fall or that as part of your change of life event you can change 2018 and 2019 enrollments. (can you tell i'm the kid of an medical insurance person?).
@brittG13 - so i totally remember Seth's story about his older son...my husband and I laughed because we said if we'd waited for things to happen naturally that would have been us. This is exactly why my dr's are going to avoid spontaneous labor for our second - Def a good giggle but also gives me a little rage - She already had a history of precipitous labor with her first and they ignored it? in the land of subways and ubers? WTF?
@brittG13 - so i totally remember Seth's story about his older son...my husband and I laughed because we said if we'd waited for things to happen naturally that would have been us. This is exactly why my dr's are going to avoid spontaneous labor for our second - Def a good giggle but also gives me a little rage - She already had a history of precipitous labor with her first and they ignored it? in the land of subways and ubers? WTF?
I also thought it was strange, given her history it would not have hurt to go to the hospital maybe that morning...
@kissableviv maybe it was one of those centers that turns you away before a certain point? My girlfriend went to a birthing center that sent you home if you weren't at 6 cm yet...but then again if you have a history of fast labor, I would think you'd be referred out of the birthing center to the hospital and not turned away during early labor...
Oh man @zande2016, that completely sucks!!!! Definitely research your options, maybe you'll find something that makes you even happier. In theory, your insurance plan should cover your baby for his first 30 days without you enrolling him - that's a federal mandate, but I can't remember exactly how it works. It's probably easier on your mind to research other facilities! Might be easier to make a clean break from this birthing center too after this experience. I'm sorry they did that to you!
Y'all, I'm in the office today and I literally have nothing to do. I even resorted to going through my sent box and sending follow up emails to people who haven't responded to me. Maybe I should just wander around and talk to people?!?
Also @gingerbride26 did your friend have other issues aside from the baby being breech? 27-32 weeks seems awfully early to suggest a c section just because baby is breech .was baby very big? My chiropractor and doulas have told me not to worry about it until at least 33-35 weeks because baby can still turn naturally. I would nix that decision about a c section unless there were other concerns.
@kissableviv no, just breech. maybe it was first mentioned as a *possibility* of getting kick out of BC that early? total brain fog here... I know she tried EVERYTHING from headstands, ice/heat, ECV...nothing worked and cs was scheduled for 39 w...which is why I felt it was earlier than 36 that they made the preparations... But she probably would have gone right back across the street if DD turned last min.
As someone who labors for 27 hours after being induced 10 days over, I don’t understand anyway and I was GBS+ last time so I have to have the IV but that is crazy! I would have left at the first sign of labor! But also...very sweet how he teared up thinking of his wife!
@gingerbride26 that might be an option to put the baby on my plan and then take him off during open enrollment....my plan through work is really expensive, whereas the NY exchange plan for kids is cheaper and everything is free. My husband's insurance might also be an option but we have to look into pricing. But regardless, that hospital still takes away my option to have a water birth, and there is a hospital 15 mins from me that does water birth. I am also kind of turned off from my practice now, but maybe it's just this one midwife who I am having issues with. I have a lot to think about .
@MichelleAG05 I did some research and I thought the baby automatically gets covered under yours for first 30 days, but that is assuming you will enroll baby on yours. So if you don't end up enrolling baby on your plan, it will get run through whatever plan you end up enrolling them on. I could be wrong though. Insurance stuff is very confusing.
@zande2016, I think you're right. I'm likely thinking of situations where the baby doesn't get enrolled in a plan at all, or only gets enrolled in Medicaid so the mom's insurance still covers the 30 days.
@zande2016 that does seem like something they should have known already and warned you about! I'm so sorry you felt blindsided. I think the hospital with the water births near you sounds fab...and as far as moving at 27 weeks...I'm 25 weeks and if I could find a closer hospital that had all my requirements I would totally switch at this point, so I wouldn't worry about that. They will transfer your records and spend your first appt talking to you about everything you went through at the old place and why you switched, etc.
I was reading more birth stories last night from November I think and nearly everyone was given pitocin after doctors broke their water. I am so confused about why they would do that? For ME and I assume my entire OB practice, breaking the water alone did enough to get things going and there was no need to add pitocin on top of that.
@zande2016 so sorry you’re going through all that stress. Unbelievable that they knew you were on merformin from the start and didn’t make any mention that it would risk you out.. That’s so unfair.
@flockofmoosen3 did they stall out between 6 and 8? Did they get a ripening agent first? I've heard about issues of stalling or similar if your cervix isn't really ready to dilate. I do think sometimes pitocin is over-used and can cause a more intense contraction. I believe there's a # hours they let you labor before they intervene due to concerns of fetal distress.
@flockofmoosen3 it definitely seems like pitocin is overused these days. I obviously had it since I was induced, but it seems like if labor isn't going as fast as they want it to, they just start pitocin. The whole cascade of interventions thing is exactly why I wanted to use a birth center.
Now I'm thinking about sucking up the price tag and hiring a doula. I feel like I need someone to help advocate for me if I'm going to pull off the med free birth I want. I thought with a midwife group I wouldn't need one, but really don't feel my midwife is advocating for me at all. Has anyone ever used a doula to help decide on an actual practice/hospital? Could this be part of their job description?
@lindsayleigh1989 it hasn't been mentioned to me yet. I assume you still need it even if you got it during a recent pregnancy so immunity passes to baby? I think last time I was much closer to 30-35ish weeks but not entirely sure.
DS has been in bed since 1, prolly didn't go down to nap til around 1:45. He's still in bed. I tried to get him up at 2:30 as per my rule and he wouldn't get out of bed. Then I tried 3, he cried. Door is open, sound machine is off, he still hasn't come out. I hope he's not getting sick! I think he had a nightmare last night and slept with the light on from 1:30 on so maybe he's just real tired.
@lindsayleigh1989 grats! I will be there on Saturday, although it scares me to think 11 weeks...that's 11 weekends...better make the best out of it!!! The shot has not been mentioned to me either but I will be going for my next check-up just a few days shy of 30 weeks and also doing a growth scan (due to marginal cord insertion) so we'll see what happens then.
@zande2016 I would think a doula can make suggestions, they probably can't force you in one direction or the others or specifically advertise some places maybe? I already knew where I wanted to give birth and I just asked them about their experience which was pretty positive so they were helpful in telling me what the hospital was or wasn't offering. Let us know what you decide!
@lindsayleigh1989 I’ll be getting mine in two weeks at my 28wks (almost 29) appointment along with my GD test. Sounds about right timing for the booster if i remember correctly with DS. Congrats on 3rd tri!!
@lindsayleigh1989 my MW said I’d be getting it at my next appt, which is at 29 weeks I think? Things are moving quickly now! I’ll meet you in the 3rd tri on Thursday!
Re: Weekday Randoms - 4/9
Old man: He is so cute.
Me: Thank you.
Old man: what's his name?
Me: ....Olivia?
Has anyone ever changed doctors at 27 weeks? Would they even take me?
I think I'm seeing some light after 4 consistent days of coughing. I should have taken the syrup waayyyy sooner. Still woke up super early and the first 10 minutes were hell. Cough sorry throat runny eyes...once I washed my face and coughed out stuff for a bit I felt better. Milking the sickness and havong DH bring be breakfast in bed again since I don't have to work for another hour and change.
I’m mobile, apologize in advance if the link doesn’t work! If not, google it. His wife gave birth in their lobby!
https://youtu.be/BYG1qf3XJNM
Y'all, I'm in the office today and I literally have nothing to do. I even resorted to going through my sent box and sending follow up emails to people who haven't responded to me. Maybe I should just wander around and talk to people?!?
@MichelleAG05 I did some research and I thought the baby automatically gets covered under yours for first 30 days, but that is assuming you will enroll baby on yours. So if you don't end up enrolling baby on your plan, it will get run through whatever plan you end up enrolling them on. I could be wrong though. Insurance stuff is very confusing.
Now I'm thinking about sucking up the price tag and hiring a doula. I feel like I need someone to help advocate for me if I'm going to pull off the med free birth I want. I thought with a midwife group I wouldn't need one, but really don't feel my midwife is advocating for me at all. Has anyone ever used a doula to help decide on an actual practice/hospital? Could this be part of their job description?
My doctor mentioned the shot at my last appointment and I'm getting it next time I'm there around week 29 so I don't think it's too early?
DS has been in bed since 1, prolly didn't go down to nap til around 1:45. He's still in bed. I tried to get him up at 2:30 as per my rule and he wouldn't get out of bed. Then I tried 3, he cried. Door is open, sound machine is off, he still hasn't come out. I hope he's not getting sick! I think he had a nightmare last night and slept with the light on from 1:30 on so maybe he's just real tired.
@zande2016 I would think a doula can make suggestions, they probably can't force you in one direction or the others or specifically advertise some places maybe? I already knew where I wanted to give birth and I just asked them about their experience which was pretty positive so they were helpful in telling me what the hospital was or wasn't offering. Let us know what you decide!
TTC December 2016
BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17
MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017
BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18
TTC January 2019
BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19