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July 2018 Moms
foxbaby2016
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Weekday Randoms - 4/9
foxbaby2016
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Ahhhh....Monday, we meet again.
Re: Weekday Randoms - 4/9
Per previous discussions (if anyone remembers), we also made the final decision to keep DS in the daycare he is currently in this weekend and NOT switch him to the at-home daycare we were looking at. I couldn't ignore my gut feeling that something was off and we also noticed that she kept advertising herself to others, even though she already had 7 kids (counting my son). I walked down to her house the other week and I counted 14 kids. FOURTEEN!!! There is NO way I could trust to drop my son off there....nor could I drop my infant daughter off there either this October. The daycare I am keeping DS at is REALLY expensive (especially for an infant) but we are just going to have to make it work somehow. If anyone has any lucrative ideas, send them my way...we will be needing the extra cash but it's totally worth a piece of mind!
Plus, we called her last weekend and asked if my parents could bring my DS down last Monday to play with the kids and "transition" a bit. (I wasn't comfortable just dropping him off at her house without having a little bit of a transition because he doesn't do well with strangers). She was totally fine with it and said to come around 2:30 - 3pm. So my parents drove 45 minutes to get to her house and when they showed up at 3pm, she answered the door, shut it behind her and said that the kids were still sleeping and she only had two kids so "today isn't a good day" ---- It felt rude and a little "off" that she would do that. She never even called us to follow up after that either. I think that was the final straw for me.
We also finally gave in to a scale. Two wks ago i was 136, on Sat night i was 140 (feeling disappointed), Sun morning i was 138 (ok i can live with that), and first thing this morning i was 136.6. Crazy how much bloat really adds on at the end of the day. Glad i can keep the 1lb/wk.
I also have my follow appointment today to see what my doctor says from my recent L&D visits.
I made the most perfect bagel and cream cheese for breakfast.. Then DS ate half of it. With zero shame, just a “mmm bagel” and snatched it off my plate piece by piece. I was really hoping to enjoy what might have to be my last delicious carby breakfast bagel because I take my 3hr GD test tomorrow morning.
I might have cried... Which is ridiculous because I could have just made another bagel.
So much mom guilt for possibly sending him off but at the same time I think it would be great for his speech and socialization and his birth-3 teacher is really encouraging it.
Also, a bagel sounds insanely good right now *drooling*
I always say that having kids is a great diet plan. I can't remember the last time I ate my entire meal without part of it being snatched away from me from my son.
@foxbaby2016 happy birthday to your DS!! Also I totally don’t blame you for keeping him in the expensive school. It really sucks to have to pay more for something when you *could* pay less but if it’s a better environment then it’s totally worth it! 14 kids seems like 3x the kids one person could handle all on their own!
Today is my DD’s 3rd birthday!! All the mom feels for me today too. It is helpful that she’s being a little bit of a PITA today though lol.
@wildtot the scale can really mess with your head. Try not to stress too much over weight gain - I know, easier said than done.
I really want a bagel now. @cseley321@acunamatada Don't feel bad about sending your kids to pre-k! Think how good it will be for the whole family for you to be able to just focus on the baby for those hours - in return you will be less stressed, and everyone will be happier. My son is turning 2 in September and we went ahead and enrolled him in a 2's preschool program. It's only 5 hours a week (over 2 days) but I do think being around other kids their age is important, and it might actually help him during the transition of getting a sibling - he will have a routine, and those hours will be time during the week when the focus is on him instead of being home and fighting for attention.
Watching Hoarders makes me feel WAY better about my house lol
It would only be part time if we do send her. I am just so torn. I know it would be great for her development, but I don't want her to feel pushed aside.
@hillbillywife that’s sort of where I’m leaning, I know there’s no way I can teach him and enrich him as much as he would be in pre k while also juggling a newborn. @zande2016 I like the fact that I’ll have more time to bond with the baby like I did with DS, then that nagging mom guilt in the back of my head is saying I’m sending him off and replacing him. I just have to keep telling myself he’ll probably love pre k more than he would sitting around trying to occupy himself even though I’ll miss him.
@wildtot hoarders makes me feel soo good about my house, even on my worst day lol. But I find myself cleaning way more when I watch it because I don’t want to let it get that bad (not that it would lol). I can’t do bugs!
Backstory is im highly allergic to dust - the lady that was cleaning had surgery and then just kept canceling. Found out I was pregnant and decided to try and save money and just clean myself. Did it three times and each time hives (as before but I was hoping it had changed). It sucks because the cost is more for this lady and basically anyone else. But I was over the other lady not following through.
@acunamatada Mom guilt is hard but sending DS will be great for him (socialization, fun activities, getting out of the house a while), you (your sanity and recovery) and July baby (more 1:1 bonding time with Mommy).
I am sending my DS to daycare two times a week while I am on maternity leave....I think it'll be good for everyone.
I'm a working mom, so my DD has gone to school full time since she was 4 months. I don't feel like I can relate to some of the conversation above, but I'll say that my DD definitely learns a TON at school and she loves it. While she can't tell me word for word what they do, we see signs constantly that she loves it: she runs to her teachers to hug them, she doesn't cry and cling to us when we leave, etc.
I shared some concerns I had about her school and teachers a few weeks ago. I met with the regional director a couple weeks ago, then with her primary teacher on Friday. They're making a lot of changes in the classroom that I'm very excited about. If they all go as planned, it will be the changes we needed to feel comfortable leaving her there this fall!
TTC December 2016
BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17
MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017
BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18
TTC January 2019
BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
On the daycare line - we had to switch in October because my MIL who did daycare hurt her back and decided to quit. We love our new place, it's in home but has two providers so it is larger with 18 kids at the most on no school days. Our kids love it and have made so many great friends and their policy is only one infant at a time so she's holding the spot for me which just makes it 1000X better. Price is obviously high compared to what MIL charged us but it's worth it for our kids happiness and our peace of mind!
- Now i totally want a cleaning lady...wonder if I can get a dr's note...but clutter is more our issue than dust
- any other STM's already feeling that wishbone/split in half pelvic pain? I know OB said the pressure/pain earlier was normal with second because you already start lower, but I'm feeling 40 week baby about to fall out waddle level at 24 weeks already...
Our reasons are that we do not want to completely change her schedule, she LOVES going to school and has a ton of fun, more fun than everyday with mom and newborn would be and we do not want to risk losing our spot. On days that she's home I will try to do fun outings with both kids. I feel like I am doing what is best for her and what she will have the most fun with so I don't really feel guilty.
TW LOSS
When we lost dd I took mat leave still and sent ds to daycare 3 days a week and would have done the same if things had gone normally.
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@gingerbride26 inam having the pelvic pain...ibfind in bed if I try and use my lower body to turn myself over I get the pelvic pain, and I have it on one side while walking sometimes and when I wake.
+1 to preschool struggles. Vt does free preschool 10 hrs per week but my town doesn't operate one at their school so I get to find my own and they pay. One in my town just got back to me after 4 emails and a fb message and they are full, another has 1 day open I want, and another in the neighboring town has a 12 person wait list! IN A TOWN OF 900. My town is similarly small. I found a preschool with openings 2 towns over and we go visit next week, hopefully the days match up. It sounds really great! I have a few great activities that DS and I love to do in the fall so I don't want to take those days and fill them with preschool, bit it's making it hard to find a good fit.
I normally hate chicken salad, but just ordered some from McAllister's because it sounded good. I'm trying to minimize my carbs and sugar intake the next couple days before my glucose test because I was borderline high last time. Of course - what did DD and I do yesterday?? Made a double batch of oatmeal raisin cookies. LOL. I had several yesterday but will avoid them completely until after my test on Wednesday.
We are pulling my son out of daycare regardless, but even if we weren't doing that right now (due to the issues we had with them), we'd be keeping him home while I'm on leave. It's purely financial - it would be too much of a struggle to pay for daycare without my income, I only get less than half pay during leave, and we can't afford to have both kids in daycare so we'd be pulling him out eventually anyway. We'll be paying my mom to be their nanny, and possibly hiring someone to fill in a day or two, but the toddler will be in preschool for a few hours a week. I might have someone like a mother's helper come a few days a week while I'm on leave to help me out a bit though. Child care decisions are hard, no matter what you might end up questioning if you're doing the right thing....I'm just trying to go with my gut and our finances, and keeping in mind that kids are resilient and will thrive as long as we love and support them....or some mushy b.s. like that
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I second that people will get confused about the gender no matter what you have the baby in. I hung out with a couple of mom’s with baby girls. All had bows in their hair and dresses on while my son had pants on with a dinosaur onesie. A woman said, “oh SHE is so cute.” We kind of chuckled because one was not like the others. Oh well.