@kfren Sorry to hear about the disappointing GD test results, but glad you have a massage to look forward to. @elsie42 Happy anniversary and enjoy your own massage tonight!
@momac1919 That sounds like a rough 3 hours. Hope you've been freed and have eaten all the things!
It's MH's birthday tomorrow, and his gift isn't going to make it here in time. I've been scrambling to come up with something I can get him as a placeholder and after this thread I'm convinced a couple's massage is just the thing! I'll take one for the team and join in, just, you know, to keep him company...
My mom's early birthday present to me (my birthday is in May) is to send her house cleaners to our house for a day. All I need to do is make a list and they'll take care of it. Yay! So far I've got cleaning windows, cleaning light fixtures/ceiling fans, wiping down baseboards, and stuff like that on the list. Essentially, I'm looking at having them do some of the deep cleaning we never get around to. We just moved into this house December, but we really should have had cleaners come between the previous owners moving out and us moving in. I didn't think of it in my eagerness to move in before Christmas.
First Son - born 2013
Second Son - born 2014 - Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome (HLHS) and Double Outlet Right Ventricle (DORV). First open heart surgery at 5 days old. He's had 3 open heart surgeries and several other procedures and is currently doing amazing. Third Son - due June 9, 2018
sorry to hear that @kfren but keeping my fingers crossed the 3 hour turns out ok.
I think I need an UO here.. I don't like massages. not even from DH. Nothing about them feels good to me, just hurts. DH even bought me one years ago.. I went.. wasn't impressed. I've been getting DH massage giftcards though and he loves them. And I've never had a pedicure and have no interest in one. I don't like people touching my feet even in the slightest bit. so, nope!
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@2589 - May is a busy month for our family. My birthday, Mother's Day, DS1's birthday, our wedding anniversary, and very likely this new baby's birthday as well since I never make it to my due date. This is also a bit of a belated housewarming gift. So it's a lot all wrapped up in one. Regardless, I'll take it!!
First Son - born 2013
Second Son - born 2014 - Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome (HLHS) and Double Outlet Right Ventricle (DORV). First open heart surgery at 5 days old. He's had 3 open heart surgeries and several other procedures and is currently doing amazing. Third Son - due June 9, 2018
y'all, can I just post all of the remaining product spotlights? Is that going to annoy anyone? I just feel like we bump ones as needed anyway, and the board is pretty slow soooo who cares? But maybe someone does. Speak now!
@catlady2015 - I'm not huge on pedicures either. I get manicures once every few years (for weddings, special occasions, etc) but the 2 times I had pedicures I HATED it.
First Son - born 2013
Second Son - born 2014 - Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome (HLHS) and Double Outlet Right Ventricle (DORV). First open heart surgery at 5 days old. He's had 3 open heart surgeries and several other procedures and is currently doing amazing. Third Son - due June 9, 2018
@catlady1215@mytinc I prefer pedi vs mani - I change my finger nails so often, it's just not worth it lol I'm super ticklish, so I always warn my nail tech.
@elsie42 Happy anniversary!! Your couples massage sounds fantastic! I cannot convince MH to get a massage - he does not like the idea of a stranger touching him. I think he's crazy.
@kfren Blargh, that sucks. I'm sorry. FX for the three hour.
@mytinc That is an awesome present! I'd add a deep clean of the fridge and microwave to that list. I hate wiping out all the fridge shelves and love it when my housekeeper does it for me.
@doxiemoxie212 I don't see why not - we don't have many left, right?
My friend unexpectedly lost her mom over the weekend. They were super close and she has a daughter who is the same age as my DD. The obituary came out today featuring a picture of her holding my friend’s daughter, and spoke of this granddaughter being the light of her life, and all I can think of is how I would explain to my DD at this age that her grandma or papa is gone and how devasted she would be, and my pregnant self has just been crying and crying.
Also still feeling kind of shocky from a coworker yelling and becoming hostile at me yesterday while I was sorting out staffing issues. I can totally understand people want to go home early to be with family on a holiday, but she was totally uncalled for and aggressive like I’ve never seen in the workplace before and I’m just feeling kind of shut down on the whole situation. Like I printed the maternity leave paperwork this weekend and my emotional self is wondering if I really want to fill it out or just find something new when LO is a couple months old. But this is a job I’ve been at (as a CNA prior to being a nurse) for almost 12 years and I’m not sure if I can walk away from the seniority.
@2589 Sorry about your friend. That's tough. As far as your coworker goes, hopefully she'll apologize to you. Did you report her behavior? I know how you feel about walking away from seniority. Filling out the paperwork doesn't necessarily commit you to anything. You can always look around while on leave.
@2589 I'm so sorry!! For both the loss and the co-worker situation. There's never any reason to get hostile like that and that is sooo uncool. Did you let HR know what happened??
So I knew I was gonna cry with the crib set up. My H sent a photo, cue some tears. Later he sends me a photo of our basement he's also been working on. WHY AM I CRYING AT THAT BEING CLEANED!?
@2589 I just worry that if you let her get away with this, she'll do it again. Please do not let her think that what she did to you was acceptable behavior. You deserve better than that.
@2589 Agree with @kfren said. Also, if she talks to you like that, she's probably done it to other people. I always feel like it is good to start a paper trail on people like that.
Have you guys talked to your parents/MIL and FIL about what they want to be called as Grandma and Grandpa?
My mom asked me about it today - she was seriously considering Wine-Mom and Wine-Pop....not happening. She did say she saw one that Grandma was Lolly and Grandpa was Pop, which is cute.
@LaceyBee522 I asked them and they were pretty indifferent so we started out with just Grandma and Grandpa but then when DD started talking, she started calling them "Grammy and Papa" all on her own and that's what stuck so we went with it.
@kfren Ah that's unfortunate All hope isn't lost though, fx for your 3 hour!
@catlady1215 Same, I've never had a pedicure. I'm so self conscious about the bottom of my feet that no stranger will ever touch them. /
@2589 Sorry to hear - sounds like you had a tough weekend. Try not to let one person ruin it for you - I agree with @kfren, you deserve better than that.
Chiming in on the couples massage... DH and I had our first couples massage in Jamaica for our 1st anniversary. DH finds it very hard to relax (like it took him 4 days to get into vacation mode at the resort) and kept talking during the massage and even got up to pee. I was quite sunburned and had like a salt scrub put on me which was so agonizing. It was not romantic by any means! Plus it was my first "normal/relaxing" massage, with the hot stones thing, and I thought it was overrated. Prior to that the only massages I ever had were the sports therapy/deep tissue ones I needed as my leg/knee used to do this funny pop thing where sometimes I'd have to be hospitalized to get it back into place. Those massages were so painful (I would sweat) but it was the good pain and I much preferred those over the leisurely type ones.
@LaceyBee522 we basically just let DD decide and none of them have said anything about it...she calls both our parents gramma and paga (not sure where that came from bc she can say grandpa but just doesn't). You can ask them if you think they would really care, but the reality is your kids will call them whatever they're going to and grandparents love everything their grandkids do so there's a 99% chance they won't care.
@LaceyBee522 We didn't have a choice with my ILs (SIL's son named them) but my aunt who raised me decided on Gigi. My dad is Papaw and my SM is GrandMary and my SF is GrandPaul.
@LaceyBee522 same as @kfren in that we didn’t get a choice with my ILs. They are Granmom and Pap. My parents don’t care but my step mom calls herself Grammy. My dad is waiting for DD to pick. I use Grandpa for now.
Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
@2589 Oh dear, hugs about the loss and the crying As for coworker, you should mention it to someone. Regardless of reasoning, no one needs to act that way to a coworker!!
@LaceyBee522 My mum is gonna be grandma. I've referred to her as that for years with the cats. MIL I'm not sure. She's talked about grandma, but I want to find something else ... I'm kinda thinking 'mimi' FIL I'm torn on. He wants to be 'popa/poppa' and that was his dad's name for the grandkids.
This isn't gonna be easy lol part of me wants them to decide but it's gonna be like "Oh you decide. No not that. No not that .... nevermind how about X?"
@LaceyBee522 good question idk what my ILs will be called. MH calls them by there first names, its so weird. But he was raised in his grandma’s house (his mom still lives with his grandma) so i think he uses what his grandma says.
My niece already calls my mom “nana” And my mom even refers to this baby as “nana’s boy.” My dad wants to be called grandpa bait. My cousins call him uncle bait already. In my family all the aunties & uncles have nick names. My late grandfather went by “papa bear.” My stepmom will probably use a nickname, my step grandma is called “pumpkin” and hates being called grandma.
@LaceyBee522 my ILs are Oma and Opa (I think it's German?), and my parents are Nana and Papa. I'm a little disappointed because I wanted my kids to have Grandma and Grandpa like I did, but my mom insisted she's too young for grandma.
@LaceyBee522 my ILs are Oma and Opa (I think it's German?), and my parents are Nana and Papa. I'm a little disappointed because I wanted my kids to have Grandma and Grandpa like I did, but my mom insisted she's too young for grandma.
I always feel it's kinda crazy when people say this. Not judging, my granny said the same thing {my mum was 26, my granny was 47}
@kfren sorry about the results. Fx for passing the 3 hour with flying colors!!
I can't remember who else I wanted to tag!!!!
Dd ended up deciding what she wanted to call grandparents. My mom and dad tend to be mimi and papa. Mil and fil tend to be grandma mil first name and grandpa fil first name. Sometimes she will do opposite or a mixture of both.
DD actually ate an entire serving of spaghetti tonight (she is so picky and a terrible eater) and there was great rejoicing in our house. We celebrate small victories here. She even likes spaghetti but that doesn't make any difference... she will refuse to eat this she previously liked....
This LO will most likely be the last on both sides of the family so the grandparents already have names. My mom is Memaw, my dad is Opa, my step dad is Pops and my in laws ( father/step mother) are grandma and grandpa.
I can't wait to get a massage after this baby. I know they say prenatal massages are good, but I don't think I could fully relax and enjoy. I really want SO to get a pedi with me but he refuses...but he's really ticklish so I get it.
@mytinc I asked for a deep cleaning from a cleaning lady for the Xmas around DDs birth and it was the best gift ever. Maybe I should ask for a repeat for Mothers Day this year.
@kfren sorry about the glucose test- good luck with the 3 hour
for the grandparent names both sides decided on Grandma and Grandpa, but MIL changed to Grammy and my mom calls my dad grandpop. Not sure if DD will change them once she is speaking.
@May14th2011 and @hjungk84 we've got omas and opas here too! MIL and FIL are Oma and Opa. Technically plus their first names, but they live close by and see my son a lot so it doesn't usually happen. My mom and dad are Grammy and Opa, also technically plus first names. And my grandmother is also Oma + first name. You need the first name to differentiate between all these omas and opas, with the exception of a grammy.
@dinodna3 - I'm dying at the Moon Pie issue! I'm sorry, that's just hilarious! I love that your dog stashed them everywhere so they could hopefully be opened later.
@kfren - I'm so sorry you failed. Keeping everything crossed you pass the 3 hour, though. Do you know how "badly" you failed by?
@emiliadkay - Happy birthday to Mr. emiliadkay! I hope he enjoys the massage
@2589 - Definitely speak with upper management regarding her behaviour. We all want to go home and be with family on the holidays, but that behaviour is uncalled for and should be nipped in the bud. I'm sorry you had to deal with that *hugs*
@izza2 I got a 155. I stressed myself out about it though, since I didn't get to eat before I went to bed and DD was moving at a snail's pace that morning and I ended up in tears before even getting in the car. I doubt that was the reason I failed, but I don't doubt that it did affect my sugar.
@May14th2011 Love it! Similar to what my mum said - only my mum is a tad more snarky with her mother "It's not my fault you had me at 21, I'm 26 and married. Get over it" lol
I've been avoiding this thread because I was so busy yesterday that I didn't have a chance to read. When I logged on last night and saw the number of new messages, I just closed the website.
@kfren sorry about your results. Hopefully you pass the three hour. And if not, just think about how good that ice cream will taste once the baby arrives!
@mytinc have them scrub the toilets and bathtubs too. Ours has also done our oven and our fridge.
@2589 I totally get the concept of wanting something new (I'm struggling with this right now). But, I keep thinking that having consistency and familiarity will be important coming back from leave. So even if I dislike my job, do I really want to find a new one sleep deprived and have to prove myself? Also, I'm so sorry for your loss.
@laceybee522 I lean towards having your kid pick the names. My MIL picked a name and no one can spell it. She technically pronounces it wrong. I'm constently having to explain what it is. It would be easier if DS just naturally came to something.
@sabby2 I get the celebrating little food victories. DS ate two bites of shrimp last night. He has gotten so picky in the past 6-12 months, it's ridiculous. He ate everything from 12-18 months and now he eats mac and cheese (but not elbows) and pizza.
on the topic of massages - - my H and I are going away this weekend and have massages book. Given the amount of gas my body produces on a daily basis I'm actually terrified of the massage.
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@kfren Sorry to hear about the disappointing GD test results, but glad you have a massage to look forward to. @elsie42 Happy anniversary and enjoy your own massage tonight!
@momac1919 That sounds like a rough 3 hours. Hope you've been freed and have eaten all the things!
It's MH's birthday tomorrow, and his gift isn't going to make it here in time. I've been scrambling to come up with something I can get him as a placeholder and after this thread I'm convinced a couple's massage is just the thing! I'll take one for the team and join in, just, you know, to keep him company...
My mom's early birthday present to me (my birthday is in May) is to send her house cleaners to our house for a day. All I need to do is make a list and they'll take care of it. Yay! So far I've got cleaning windows, cleaning light fixtures/ceiling fans, wiping down baseboards, and stuff like that on the list. Essentially, I'm looking at having them do some of the deep cleaning we never get around to. We just moved into this house December, but we really should have had cleaners come between the previous owners moving out and us moving in. I didn't think of it in my eagerness to move in before Christmas.
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
I think I need an UO here.. I don't like massages. not even from DH. Nothing about them feels good to me, just hurts. DH even bought me one years ago.. I went.. wasn't impressed. I've been getting DH massage giftcards though and he loves them.
And I've never had a pedicure and have no interest in one. I don't like people touching my feet even in the slightest bit. so, nope!
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
I'm super ticklish, so I always warn my nail tech.
@kfren Blargh, that sucks. I'm sorry. FX for the three hour.
@mytinc That is an awesome present! I'd add a deep clean of the fridge and microwave to that list. I hate wiping out all the fridge shelves and love it when my housekeeper does it for me.
@doxiemoxie212 I don't see why not - we don't have many left, right?
So I knew I was gonna cry with the crib set up. My H sent a photo, cue some tears.
Later he sends me a photo of our basement he's also been working on. WHY AM I CRYING AT THAT BEING CLEANED!?
My mom asked me about it today - she was seriously considering Wine-Mom and Wine-Pop....not happening. She did say she saw one that Grandma was Lolly and Grandpa was Pop, which is cute.
@kfren Ah that's unfortunate
@catlady1215 Same, I've never had a pedicure. I'm so self conscious about the bottom of my feet that no stranger will ever touch them. /
@2589 Sorry to hear - sounds like you had a tough weekend. Try not to let one person ruin it for you - I agree with @kfren, you deserve better than that.
Chiming in on the couples massage... DH and I had our first couples massage in Jamaica for our 1st anniversary. DH finds it very hard to relax (like it took him 4 days to get into vacation mode at the resort) and kept talking during the massage and even got up to pee. I was quite sunburned and had like a salt scrub put on me which was so agonizing. It was not romantic by any means! Plus it was my first "normal/relaxing" massage, with the hot stones thing, and I thought it was overrated. Prior to that the only massages I ever had were the sports therapy/deep tissue ones I needed as my leg/knee used to do this funny pop thing where sometimes I'd have to be hospitalized to get it back into place. Those massages were so painful (I would sweat) but it was the good pain and I much preferred those over the leisurely type ones.
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
@LaceyBee522 My mum is gonna be grandma. I've referred to her as that for years with the cats. MIL I'm not sure. She's talked about grandma, but I want to find something else ... I'm kinda thinking 'mimi'
FIL I'm torn on. He wants to be 'popa/poppa' and that was his dad's name for the grandkids.
This isn't gonna be easy lol part of me wants them to decide but it's gonna be like "Oh you decide. No not that. No not that .... nevermind how about X?"
My niece already calls my mom “nana” And my mom even refers to this baby as “nana’s boy.” My dad wants to be called grandpa bait. My cousins call him uncle bait already. In my family all the aunties & uncles have nick names. My late grandfather went by “papa bear.” My stepmom will probably use a nickname, my step grandma is called “pumpkin” and hates being called grandma.
TTC: 08/2017 EDD: 6/11/2018 FTM
Not judging, my granny said the same thing {my mum was 26, my granny was 47}
I can't remember who else I wanted to tag!!!!
Dd ended up deciding what she wanted to call grandparents. My mom and dad tend to be mimi and papa. Mil and fil tend to be grandma mil first name and grandpa fil first name. Sometimes she will do opposite or a mixture of both.
DD actually ate an entire serving of spaghetti tonight (she is so picky and a terrible eater) and there was great rejoicing in our house. We celebrate small victories here. She even likes spaghetti but that doesn't make any difference... she will refuse to eat this she previously liked....
This LO will most likely be the last on both sides of the family so the grandparents already have names. My mom is Memaw, my dad is Opa, my step dad is Pops and my in laws ( father/step mother) are grandma and grandpa.
I can't wait to get a massage after this baby. I know they say prenatal massages are good, but I don't think I could fully relax and enjoy. I really want SO to get a pedi with me but he refuses...but he's really ticklish so I get it.
@kfren sorry about the glucose test- good luck with the 3 hour
for the grandparent names both sides decided on Grandma and Grandpa, but MIL changed to Grammy and my mom calls my dad grandpop. Not sure if DD will change them once she is speaking.
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
@elsie42 - Happy belated anniversary!!
@catlady1215 - Yay for awesome thyroid results!
@kfren - I'm so sorry you failed.
@emiliadkay - Happy birthday to Mr. emiliadkay! I hope he enjoys the massage
@2589 - Definitely speak with upper management regarding her behaviour. We all want to go home and be with family on the holidays, but that behaviour is uncalled for and should be nipped in the bud. I'm sorry you had to deal with that *hugs*
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
"It's not my fault you had me at 21, I'm 26 and married. Get over it" lol
@kfren sorry about your results. Hopefully you pass the three hour. And if not, just think about how good that ice cream will taste once the baby arrives!
@mytinc have them scrub the toilets and bathtubs too. Ours has also done our oven and our fridge.
@2589 I totally get the concept of wanting something new (I'm struggling with this right now). But, I keep thinking that having consistency and familiarity will be important coming back from leave. So even if I dislike my job, do I really want to find a new one sleep deprived and have to prove myself? Also, I'm so sorry for your loss.
@laceybee522 I lean towards having your kid pick the names. My MIL picked a name and no one can spell it. She technically pronounces it wrong. I'm constently having to explain what it is. It would be easier if DS just naturally came to something.
@sabby2 I get the celebrating little food victories. DS ate two bites of shrimp last night. He has gotten so picky in the past 6-12 months, it's ridiculous. He ate everything from 12-18 months and now he eats mac and cheese (but not elbows) and pizza.
on the topic of massages - - my H and I are going away this weekend and have massages book. Given the amount of gas my body produces on a daily basis I'm actually terrified of the massage.