@katelynrae86 right?? I told DH I wish I had the nerve to just walk out if no more people showed up this time... I guess I’m too conscientious of an employee
I'm also done with SS's school waiting until the last minute to close. Or forcing the kids to go in for 3 hours and then send them all home when it starts snowing heavy.
@bearmoons my first was a girl and we learned the hard way to go neutral or to avoid all this pink bc my next was a boy. We had to rebuy so many clothes and things we could have reused if we didn’t get so much “girly” stuff. With my son we bought all neutral so now we can reuse with the current baby.
Our dryer stopped spinning on Monday and DH said he was going to look at it to see if it’s just a broken belt. But he hasn’t yet. Normally, I’d just do it myself but I can’t move it right now. I really need to do the laundry but I hate the feeling of line dried clothes. I’m about to let my dad come handle it.
@dinodna3 Sorry about your dryer. Hopefully it gets fixed soon, one way or another.
DD and I had a Come to Jesus meeting yesterday after she decided to cut her hair again. I didn't fix it last time because I didn't want to have to cut it short, but I ended up having to last night. It was just below her shoulders; now, it's just below her ears. I told her next time, she'll have to get a haircut like dad's. I would like to once again reiterate that I am so thankful #3 is a boy. DD wears me out!
I bolted up out of bed this morning as I realized I forgot to set an alarm to check into my flight for tomorrow. Checked the clock and was happy to see I was only 10 minutes late. Checked in and still got C9 which essentially guarantees that this 27 week pregnant chick will be flying middle seat on a 5 hour flight. Shoot me now.
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
@dinodna3 threatening to call my dad always gets my DH moving on things lol. I think he gets scared my dad will judge him for not doing stuff around the house.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@kfren we had that talk last fall. DD cut her hair 3 times! We're still suffering repercussions from it, because she cut part of the sides super short and they're only just now long enough that they stick out funnily. I can't do much other than give her a bob, which she doesn't want (Queen Elsa doesn't have a bob). As long as I put it up, it looks okay, but if it's down.. oh man.. it looks crazy.
@May14th2011 What is with girls and hair-cutting?!?!?! She initially cut the side, while her hair was up. We had a chat and I started just putting that side up. I figured I'd let it grow a little, then even it out. Last night, it was up and she cut the side to just aboveher ear, so I really didn't have a choice, since I couldn't put it up and I couldn't leave it down. When I was 5, my hair was in a french braid when I decided to give myself my first haircut. I took the braid behind my back and cut by feel. Little did I know that 31 years later, I would receive payback.
@May14th2011 and @kfren OMG! I never even thought of girls cutting their own hair! When I was a kid, my mom always kept my hair cut short and/or permed, so cutting my own was never really an option. FX no more hair cutting and that it grows quickly.
@LaceyBee522 Yup, it's a thing. (DD is also really into my makeup, which I seriously need to put somewhere out of her reach. She gets into it and ends up looking...scary.) Luckily, she has DH's thick, fast-growing hair, so this should be a distant memory in no time.
@dinodna3 calling my dad use to work on DH back before we got married, its doesn't really work anymore. Plus my dad lives in another state. DH does always pull the I'm going to ask my grandma/ auntie card on me whenever I ask him to do anything new around the house, I just roll my eyes if you want to be a 30 something year old who can't decide on what laundry detergent to buy without your grandma go ahead.
It doesn't work with trash either, we are the only house on the street where the trash can will sit out for days before DH brings it in. Its really embarrassing, sometimes the neighbors' kid will just bring it up for us. I can bring the trash can up myself but DH is home all day, and walks pass it numerous times.
@kfren it's like girls have an uncanny knack for finding scissors. I hid them all after the first time and she still managed to get them 2 more times. Good grief! My son has a knack for finding sharpies, so our walls will never be quite the same ugh.
@May14th2011 You said it! I am seriously considering imposing a scissor ban in my house, but I just know she would find the one pair I would overlook. As for the sharpies, I am hesitant to even discuss them, as I don't want to put that out into the universe, given my luck this week. Let's just say I am not excited at the thought of all the things DS1 and eventually DS2 will be getting into.
People on the tram who don't give their seats to pregnant ladies. Especially the seats marked as priority for elderly/disabled/pregnant people.
I would give the benefit of the doubt and say they can't tell because of my winter coat, but (1) I wore the same coat during my first pregnancy, right up to the end when I was very obviously pregnant even while wearing it...and the same thing happened; (2) a couple of people have totally noticed I'm pregnant despite the coat in the past 2 weeks.
Luckily it isn't usually too painful to stand yet, unless the tram is full and I'm forced to stand in an awkward position, so I'm hesitant to ask. But it would be nice if people here were more "on it." Probably I will have this same rant again once it really is a physical problem.
@kfren and @May14th2011 I'm so scared for the hair cutting stage to start. I was horrible with the hair cutting- I must have cut my hair over 5 times. Worse, once as a 3 year old my mom was wrapping a present and I pick up the scissors and went behind her and cut off some of HER hair. Lock up the scissors and good luck to you both!
@=caenis= agree with the people not getting up for obviously pregnant women on public transportation. I'm so glad I don't have to deal with it this time.
I cannot concentrate today- my to do list is a mile long, and I can't seem to focus... can this week just be over already?
@Amphibious22 I would totally try to talk to the gate person before they start boarding. Maybe just tell them that you're 6 months pregnant and need to be on an aisle to get up frequently. Most of the time they are more than willing to be accommodating.
@kfren I'm pregnant with a boy, but man if hair cutting pay back is a real thing, I'm gonna end up getting mine one day. I was 5 years old and took the largest chunk of hair ever, pulled it forward in front to my eyes, hacked it off and then hid the evidence behind my dresser, you know as if my new hair do wasn't going to give me away. It led to me having the thickest most ugly bangs for years.
@amys614 Ugh, bangs! I always hated them, but kept getting them anyway. They do not look good on my round face, as I have super-fine hair. They always parted like the Red Sea. I know my nephew has cut his hair once before, but once was all it took, and it really wasn't that bad. I plan on keeping my boys' hair short anyway, so if they cut it, meh.
@kfren oh yes. Me too on the thin hair, round face and also have a terrible cowlick in front. I blow dry it out now that I don't have bangs, but man it's a force to be reckoned with if I don't, so you can imagine what the stupid thing looked like in bangs. Have you seen the funny video with boys shaving their heads? It's a riot!
My sister was gifted a free photography session by a parent of one of her students and she wants to do family photos with her/her H, me/DH/DD, and our parents. The trouble is she lives 3.5 hours away and wants to wait until MAY to do this! So I will be 36ish weeks and I’m really not okay with that kind of a drive that late! I’m trying so hard to politely make it known that I’m not really down for this. My sister and I always get along really super well so I’m having a hard time flat out telling her no... but I don’t understand why she doesn’t see that it’s a problem and my mom who’s usually a worry freak won’t say anything to her about it either.
@2589 has she been pregnant before? I had a similar mindset as hers before being pregnant. I was perturbed that my brother and SIL wouldn’t come to family weekend when she would be about 36 weeks. Well she had to be induced at 37 weeks for pre-e. Now that I’m pregnant I’m not committing to anything in May. You just never know. Not to mention how uncomfortable you would be in the car for that long. I would just ask if it’s possible to do the photos in April or wait until after baby is born that way they would get to meet them too.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke no she hasn’t been so I think if she had she wouldn’t be pushing about it so hard. She’s usually so level headed that I’m just really surprised she isn’t thinking of the big picture here. I finally got it out of her that the reason she wants to wait until May is so it will be nice enough to take them outdoors. But you’re in MN so you know that in this area even May isn’t a guarantee for good outdoor weather! I told her now we really need to be done with this by the last week of April so if she’ll consider indoor I can make it work. Otherwise thanks for the suggestion for waiting until summer and including baby- I may have to pitch that one next.
@2589 yeah May is still a gamble around here! I honestly don’t think there will be any difference in April and May. Can’t you kind of play the location by ear depending on the weather? That’s what we’re doing for our maternity photos on 4/14. Our photographer has a studio space if it’s too cold but hopefully we can get some shots outside too.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@2589 does she want outdoor for natural lighting? If so maybe there is a botanic garden that allows photos to be taken? It’ll be warm inside with beautiful greenery but you’ll still get natural lighting...
@doxiemoxie212 thank you! I will have her look into that in her area! And like you said @krashke hopefully the photographer would be flexible on location if it turns out to be a nice day but at the rate it’s been going I’m still envisioning muddy snow on the ground
My mom just stormed out of apt yelling that I’m a bitch. I guess I am in her eyes since she doesn’t remember anything unless we get in a fight about it. It’s like being in Groundhog Day except the only way to make it stop is to be a huge bitch. But she doesn’t remember the 70 times I was nice. I am trying to be more patient but it drives me fucking nuts. And I don’t even think anything is clinically wrong with her memory. Her memory is fine when she’s “on” if that makes sense. Like at work or with a new person. But with me, I feel like she functions on auto pilot and everything goes to that weird part of your brain where you sorta wake up halfway through your commute and wonder how the fuck you got there. In one ear, out the other.
Anyway, I know all she wants is to be helpful. I know that. And she hates just sitting around the house (which is what I love doing) so I proactively made a to do list so that when she asked what she could do to help I’d have a list. But then a simple task like folding laundry becomes as challenging as if I just did it myself because she has so many questions. And then she doesn’t listen or understand or remember the basic answers, and then I’m “hyper critical” when I point that out. But how is it helpful to “help” and then I have to redo everything? The clothes don’t fit in the drawers unless they’re folded a certain way. What? You think I like having to be that particular? You try getting my husband to throw out his collection of graphic tees.
Ughghghgh I just want my mom to be..... more like I would be?? Identify problems, come up with solutions and then execute the plan. I just can’t do as much with this stupid SPD pain, and I over did it cleaning so aggressively yesterday, so today I’m couch bound and of course it’s her first day here. Blargh.
@doxiemoxie212 hopefully your mom comes around and can focus on what you need of her! Whether that’s helping in the way you want things done, or seriously getting out of your hair if she can’t sit still.... good luck ironing out those little wrinkles with her now so to speak, so that you’re not in this position with her again in a couple months when you have a newborn!
@catlady1215 idk why she’s in such a hurry to get it done because no it doesn’t expire. Sounds like my mom is now leaning toward we should wait til summer when this baby is here so that the pictures would actually be more “current” for longer. We’ll see. I just kind of mentally exploded over the whole thing because she had mentioned it once at Christmas and never heard of it again until now it kind of came out of nowhere.
@2589 hopefully your mom can talk some sense into her. I mean, if you guys can.. why not wait for baby so everyone's in it?! Not that taking a 3.5 hr trip with a newborn is a piece of cake but if it was me, I'd feel safer. Since she hasn't been pregnant, maybe she just doesn't get it. But how, I mean really now.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@doxiemoxie212 mom issues suck. Hope you get it resolved quick!
AFM: My mom is mad that I won't let her come visit next month. We live in the actual middle of nowhere and have to drive 45 minutes to get to the nearest town (which is a meth ridden pit stop). The nearest mall is 1.5 hours away, the nearest zoo is 3 hours etc. Driving that far, and then doing anything is miserable for me between SPD and general pregnancy discomfort. If my mom would be content to sit around and play with the kids, take them to the park etc, I'd be all for her coming out, but she wants to go places and do things. She will whine the whole time about not going anywhere. Plus, she constantly complains about not having money, so how is she getting here? You can't tell me you have no money for mortgage payments in one text and then say you have money for airfare and rental car in the next. She doesn't treat my kids okay anyway- she dotes on my daughter and ignores my son. He's old enough now to notice and when I point it out to her, she pretends like I'm making stuff up. But everyone else sees it happening, so I know it's really happening.
So four girls are theoretically planning our baby shower. The main girl who was really pushing it and finally convinced me to agree, has said in the last week she actually doesn’t have time to help plan. Okay, whatever, weird but fine.
I just got a Facebook invite from her for her own bachelorette weekend on my due date.
Her wedding is in November so... it’s not like it has to be early June...? Also okay, you don’t have time to plan this event that was your idea and didn’t think invites really needed to go out more than three weeks in advance, but your own bachelorette party that you’re planning yourself needs a three month advance invite? Okay. Right. I’m not even mad at all. Just bewildered. Like, I was totally going to try to throw her a wedding shower or bachelorette party later in August if things go smoothly with the baby, but this doesn’t even give anyone a chance to offer. It’s weird.
@doxiemoxie212 that is so bizarre. Like I don't even actually know how to comment on the situation but kudos to you for staying chill about it. When you got the bachelorette invite, did you say it was your due date?
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
@Amphibious22 yes I declined and commented with a joke about being in labor, but my being due in early June is actually mentioned IN her invite. Like she actively knew about it as she wrote it lol. There’s another chick mentioned in the invite due around then too. And some other girls birthday? It’s an entire WEEKEND she’s invited us to but no plan. Like is it a getaway? Who knows!
Im sure she figured I just wouldn’t go sort of no matter what, but I probably could’ve done something local in late August or September at least... certainly October. Aren’t bach parties usually like within 60 days of the wedding...? Last hurrah and all...
Re: Things That Rumple My Stiltskin! (Rants 3/5)
I'm also done with SS's school waiting until the last minute to close. Or forcing the kids to go in for 3 hours and then send them all home when it starts snowing heavy.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
DD and I had a Come to Jesus meeting yesterday after she decided to cut her hair again. I didn't fix it last time because I didn't want to have to cut it short, but I ended up having to last night. It was just below her shoulders; now, it's just below her ears. I told her next time, she'll have to get a haircut like dad's.
I would like to once again reiterate that I am so thankful #3 is a boy. DD wears me out!
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
DS born 9/24/2020
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
When I was 5, my hair was in a french braid when I decided to give myself my first haircut. I took the braid behind my back and cut by feel. Little did I know that 31 years later, I would receive payback.
It doesn't work with trash either, we are the only house on the street where the trash can will sit out for days before DH brings it in. Its really embarrassing, sometimes the neighbors' kid will just bring it up for us. I can bring the trash can up myself but DH is home all day, and walks pass it numerous times.
TTC: 08/2017 EDD: 6/11/2018 FTM
My son has a knack for finding sharpies, so our walls will never be quite the same ugh.
As for the sharpies, I am hesitant to even discuss them, as I don't want to put that out into the universe, given my luck this week. Let's just say I am not excited at the thought of all the things DS1 and eventually DS2 will be getting into.
I would give the benefit of the doubt and say they can't tell because of my winter coat, but (1) I wore the same coat during my first pregnancy, right up to the end when I was very obviously pregnant even while wearing it...and the same thing happened; (2) a couple of people have totally noticed I'm pregnant despite the coat in the past 2 weeks.
Luckily it isn't usually too painful to stand yet, unless the tram is full and I'm forced to stand in an awkward position, so I'm hesitant to ask. But it would be nice if people here were more "on it." Probably I will have this same rant again once it really is a physical problem.
@=caenis= agree with the people not getting up for obviously pregnant women on public transportation. I'm so glad I don't have to deal with it this time.
I cannot concentrate today- my to do list is a mile long, and I can't seem to focus... can this week just be over already?
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
@kfren I'm pregnant with a boy, but man if hair cutting pay back is a real thing, I'm gonna end up getting mine one day. I was 5 years old and took the largest chunk of hair ever, pulled it forward in front to my eyes, hacked it off and then hid the evidence behind my dresser, you know as if my new hair do wasn't going to give me away. It led to me having the thickest most ugly bangs for years.
I know my nephew has cut his hair once before, but once was all it took, and it really wasn't that bad. I plan on keeping my boys' hair short anyway, so if they cut it, meh.
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
Anyway, I know all she wants is to be helpful. I know that. And she hates just sitting around the house (which is what I love doing) so I proactively made a to do list so that when she asked what she could do to help I’d have a list. But then a simple task like folding laundry becomes as challenging as if I just did it myself because she has so many questions. And then she doesn’t listen or understand or remember the basic answers, and then I’m “hyper critical” when I point that out. But how is it helpful to “help” and then I have to redo everything? The clothes don’t fit in the drawers unless they’re folded a certain way. What? You think I like having to be that particular? You try getting my husband to throw out his collection of graphic tees.
Ughghghgh I just want my mom to be..... more like I would be?? Identify problems, come up with solutions and then execute the plan. I just can’t do as much with this stupid SPD pain, and I over did it cleaning so aggressively yesterday, so today I’m couch bound and of course it’s her first day here. Blargh.
@doxiemoxie212 ugh that's so frustrating. And for it only being night one. Hope she comes back with a new attitude. Lots of luck!
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
AFM: My mom is mad that I won't let her come visit next month. We live in the actual middle of nowhere and have to drive 45 minutes to get to the nearest town (which is a meth ridden pit stop). The nearest mall is 1.5 hours away, the nearest zoo is 3 hours etc.
Driving that far, and then doing anything is miserable for me between SPD and general pregnancy discomfort.
If my mom would be content to sit around and play with the kids, take them to the park etc, I'd be all for her coming out, but she wants to go places and do things. She will whine the whole time about not going anywhere.
Plus, she constantly complains about not having money, so how is she getting here? You can't tell me you have no money for mortgage payments in one text and then say you have money for airfare and rental car in the next.
She doesn't treat my kids okay anyway- she dotes on my daughter and ignores my son. He's old enough now to notice and when I point it out to her, she pretends like I'm making stuff up. But everyone else sees it happening, so I know it's really happening.
I just got a Facebook invite from her for her own bachelorette weekend on my due date.
Her wedding is in November so... it’s not like it has to be early June...? Also okay, you don’t have time to plan this event that was your idea and didn’t think invites really needed to go out more than three weeks in advance, but your own bachelorette party that you’re planning yourself needs a three month advance invite? Okay. Right.
I’m not even mad at all. Just bewildered.
Like, I was totally going to try to throw her a wedding shower or bachelorette party later in August if things go smoothly with the baby, but this doesn’t even give anyone a chance to offer. It’s weird.
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
Im sure she figured I just wouldn’t go sort of no matter what, but I probably could’ve done something local in late August or September at least... certainly October. Aren’t bach parties usually like within 60 days of the wedding...? Last hurrah and all...