@dragonette505 I understand what you mean. Don't worry about it. Even if you're not going to be on this board, I will stalk you wherever you may be and give you hugs and support when you need them.
Afm I got my AF yesterday and I'm starting with Premalin today until CD4.
@Bababatty Dr had me on Duphaston since Jan, it helps prevent/treat that chocolate cyst from getting bigger. I think there is still no meds that would prevent them from building up, probably because no one actually really knows how or why they appear to begin with? They are terrible little mysterious things and I'm on a mission to get to the bottom of this.
Yay! I'm back on the game! I had my u/s on 3/1 and dr found 15,15,9,8 follies and got a 150 iu Ferring HMG shot. We went back on 3/3 but follies still not that big so we scheduled my IUI #2 on 3/5 (Mon). I just had my nasal spray (its like Lupron) and feeling so hopeful. I really want to join you guys on the other side, I'm getting so jealous seeing your updates there ... so I just limit myself to stay there for 5 minutes
Thanks @BusinessWife Monday is just tomorrow for me. I'm on my way to church now, will try to solicit prayers from the only two friends I mentioned my situation to. We have a potluck party today after the church service so I brought chicken gratin (the only dish I'm confident to contribute )
Oh that sounds like so much fun! @tinjp78. I am sad to admit how long it's been since we've been at church, but I want to start going back... that's so great you have a nice group like that you can connect with! Will be sending up prayers from all the way over here, too!
We just got back home from the clinic and my overall assessment of today's procedure is 'it DIDNT go so well'. DH got his sperm sample here at home. Just by the look on his face, I knew that he didn't get a good sample. He kept the sample in the cup provided by the clinic, and carried it under his coat so as to keep it warm, but the temperature in the city today is -1 deg Celsius! And it's a 40 minute commute by subway to the clinic. As expected, he was asked to take another sample in the clinic and it took him some time to get our guys. The IUI procedure itself was a breeze though. I didn't feel as uncomfortable as iui#1. I was a bit giggling over some crazy thoughts as I was lying there for my 3-minute rest. The whole procedure just took 5 minutes i think. During our consult, dr said that my dominant follie has not ovulated yet and it grew to 21mm. And since DH's SA was terrible today, she suggested we do another IUI tomorrow. I had a 3000iu HCG trigger. With that said, I'll have a back to back IUI.
DH really tested my patience this morning. He acted like a jerk and I was so annoyed with him. I wanted to put it behind me because I didn't want to get stressed out and wanted my procedure to be a success, but how was I supposed to do it? we were together and I had no escape. Then it hit me, he was prob acting like that bc he was frustrated by his SA. Then I just felt sorry for him.
I'm sorry @tinjp78 - hopefully it all works out and you get KU-ed! I can see why you'd be frustrated with your DH for acting like a jerk - sometimes these IF situations do not bring out the best in us. I hope you talk about it and it doesn't happen again!
Thanks @funkykey I'm not sure about talking about this with him. Last year all I did was to help him get through his depression to the point of me suppressing lots of my feelings (so hard esp with all the IVF hormones/drugs) and prayed every minute for him to be better. Now that things are calmer, I'm not sure how to talk to him about these things (e.g. my true emotions, anxiety). I'm afraid he'll be affected and be depressed more. Sigh.... I'm getting some counseling on this matter and still learning.
Now, off to the fun stuff, I'm at the clinic now again for the 2nd part of my back to back IUI#2/3. I just got my us and dr said I O'd. DH now is getting our champion swimmers.
Btw, @funkykey How are you doing today? I'm thinking about you and hoping that you are feeling much better now
Ugh @tinjp78 - my H has had a couple of bouts with depression, and it was awful. Sounds like you have been very patient with your H. I honestly don't know how you do it. I mean, I don't know the whole situation, but during my H's last bout with bad depression, we definitely had a few really bad days where I lost my temper, and we had some nasty fights. When he was down, he didn't treat me that well. And even though I knew he was struggling, sometimes he acted like a real jerk, and I have a pretty sharp tongue at times. Anyway, all that is to say, I know how tough it is, and I hope you are taking good care of yourself.
We have our follow up with the RE tomorrow, so hopefully I will feel better then. I'm hopeful that we'll be able to figure out why this is happening, but I'm still devastated that this FET failed. It was a hard weekend. I'm very grateful for the support I get on this board - it's wonderful, and it's really helped me during some dark times.
Hi everyone, I guess I should say “lurking” since I haven’t posted here since my 4th IVF failed last fall and I guess I figured this thread wouldn’t still be going but it’s so great to have read some of the news from you all and I’ve missed you! @BusinessWife@Hopeful_mom so happy for you!!!
I wanted to share a positive story. And no, I’m not PG but I’m hopeful. Anyone who remembers me on this thread from a few months back knows that for four cycles of IVF I never got past day 3 with any of our embryos so it just got really tough to feel like I would never get past that hurdle and I’m 43 so I got doubtful. I had changed my diet completely and strictly prior to that failed fourth cycle, about 6 weeks before it. All the books say it takes three months. Anyway, my DH moved out of state last Labor Day but I stayed here just due to IVF benefits so we’ve been living apart 6 months and this 5th cycle brought us to our lifetime cap so we knew this was our last try. I thought about posting on an IF thread but for some reason just kind of closed off it was just too hard to do again and I meditated a lot. Forgive my long absence from here please, I just got tired emotionally. Well, ER was February 1st and they got 9 eggs, 6 mature, about the same as I always get. All 6 fertilized, which was not abnormal for us, still a nervous wreck for that dreaded day 6 Call. But THIS time, for the first time ever, it wasn’t the dr who called me with his condolences on day 6, it was someone in THE LAB!!! 3 of our 6 made it to blast and we actually got to finally use the PGS testing we had planned to do! It got even better in that we now have 2 normal blasts frozen and I’m still in shock. I realize we still have hurdles but to finally be able to share this, I don’t want to jinx anything, but just to say to anyone still on here, keep that hope alive!
@funkykey thanks! I went full organic and cut out white flour, white sugar, and all processed foods even if they were organic. I think the pressure of knowing it was my last chance gave me the discipline to do this because I’m isually high carb high sugar so this was a flip! I ate tons of bell peppers and berries for those antioxidants and ate two Brazil nuts a day for the selenium. Of course no caffeine or alcohol. I need to get back to this before my FET. I gave myself a little cheat break after retrieval.
Edited to add: some more changes made after reading tons of books (I literally checked out the entire sections at two libraries, lol) were using unscented everything like shampoo, body wash, face wash, lotion. I literally went to our local co-op after reading up on the Environmental Working Group website for which brands were without the toxins and bought new body products, toothpaste, deodorant, makeup...I truly believe that this made the difference at a cellular level. My stats of ivf’s 1-4 are night and day compared with this 5th cycle so I wanted to spread the word especially for those of us 40-plus who have steeper odds of having the necessary egg quality. My RE was skeptical that I could do much, saying my issue was poor egg quality and that was just a given due to my age, so that’s what sent me on this path of learning how I could take some control here. It was really very empowering!
@Momifbysea Thanks for sharing your good news in here, I'm so glad that things are working out well for you and I'm encouraged by your story. I also want to change some things in my diet and the products that I'm using. I've stopped buying drinks in pet bottles and processed food as well. When do you plan to do an FET? I'm rooting for you!
Thanks @tinjp78! I am supposed to call my RE on CD1 after a cruise we booked a long time ago to Mexico, due to Zika. DH and I are going to stay on the ship the whole time still due to recommendation from my primary care dr but it will still be fun! Anyway, the nurse says the FET process is 7 weeks so I’m thinking it will probably be in June? It’s still so surreal to think of this, seems like a dream or somebody elses’s life and I’m a nervous wreck during this long wait but trying to keep the faith. In the meantime I don’t know where to hang out on IF since there’s obviously no June FET thread yet! I am active on the TTCA35 board which is a good support. How are you doing? I think I read you did an IUI this time?
Congratulations!!! @Momifbysea. That is an incredible victory, and great commitment to your health and your future family! Wow! It kind of makes me wonder tho, we had such high attrition, that maybe it was my fault, because we were just going at this like, "we have mfi, but I'm fine," so while my normal diet was never really that bad, it hadn't been that great of late, either. And by that time I was just so exhausted from all we had been through up to that point, finally doing my cycles just seemed like this last hoop to go thrudging through, one foot in front of the other... so we did it... but to go from 18 eggs to 3 blasts the first time, and 21 eggs to 4 blasts the second time... I still wonder. If hopefully at the end of it all, most of them stick and we get our nice, big family, then great! That will make it easier to shake the regret. But the fact that we still don't know how our other blasts may do definitely gnaws at me... I know I'm rambling, but anyway your story gives me so much hope, too! Bc we still have two more of DHs vials left, so hypothetically, if the rest of our blasts were to not do so well, maybe we could still get some more good ones, even if it were to be a few/several years down the road. Idk, but it's really encouraging, your happy outcome! and I'm so excited for you!!!! Is it June yet??? Lol
@tinjp78. Ah! Sorry I'm just getting caught up, and that the first apt was a bit underwhelming. Fx your body sounds like it was right on board tho, and between his couple of samples, everything can fall into place! I know it is so, so stressful, and really incredibly draining, not just for you, but for them too, and sometimes its hard to know the best way to reach them... how much longer till beta???
@funkykey. How did it go at the RE yesterday??? I hope you all were able to come up with a plan you feel good about, going forward. ❤
@BusinessWife - Ugh. I dunno. I mean, I feel ok about our plan, but I'm still super sad about the failed FET.
We're going to do an ERA this month, and then a transfer right after that, in April. We have 2 embies left. Our RE thinks that we've just been unlucky and transferred 2 bad embies in a row; he thinks that's the most likely scenario. I'm scared that he's wrong and it's something else - like all our embies are bad or that there's something with my uterus - so that's why we're going to do the ERA first.
I've really been thinking about whether or not to do another round of IVF. I think if our next transfer fails, we will do another round of IVF with the PGS testing. But I'm going to give this batch of embies one more shot first.
@funkykey yeah, how can you not be sad and disappointed. :'( It's so hard. I hope the RE is right, and that's all it was, just stinks to be unlucky two times back to back. I don't blame you for wanting to try another cycle if this third one doesn't go as well. So how soon would you be transferring again? March ERA cycle, April FET?
@Momifbysea hey! so good to hear from you!! Being over 40 and doing countless IVF cycles is not fun. I am over the moon reading your update. The changes you made are inspiring!! I think through all the IUIs and trying and cycles you just get tired of no everything! Its great the changes you made and the products you bought as you'll want to use then once you to get KU 2 normies is such a huge accomplishment, so excited for you to get to FET! I hope you'll come back to update us! Will you be staying here for the FET or do it with your hubby overseas. You're going to be a great mom - so happy to this news!!
@funkykey I'm really sorry this FET failed this process is so hard. I still remember how excited we were when you first got your 4 blasts. It sucks that you have to go with the blasts probably weren't great, I hate that rational but that is what they go with. Doing another cycle isn't unheard of or crazy, it can be smart. Look how many cycles I did to first bank before moving on especially when all I wanted to do was get back to being pregnant. I hate all the delays you've had which makes the process even more frustrating. We never know which cycles will give us our golden batch and probably do to my age made it tougher. Having a cycle with not one normie was shocking to me...I thought I would at least get one BUT the more I read and the more stats I find from others regardless of age its not uncommon and just sux. Hoping this next cycles brings your miracle. Good luck with the ERA, please keep us updated!!
@tinjp78 can I say guys are whimps without sounding mean and uncaring?? I don't mean to insult at all but I hate that they can be so selfish at times?? My first ER was cancelled cause my OH didnt show up with his sample, so all the stemming, time and money wasted. Yes he had a family issue come up, he still couldve done it but whatever. I was infuriated because I missed previous IUIs because of no samples and BEGGED him to just leave a sample to freeze so we dont run into this issue again...cut to cancelled ER. It upsets me that woman have so much to go through in this process and we still have to be the woman to carry it all and understanding and stroke their egos when they are down. Really hoping your IUI went smoothly! I did the same as you and did back to back IUIs as the samples were not great for whatever reason AND technically he isn't an MFI status. I think after the wash I had 2mil each day...it didn't work for me and I dont know your amount BUT on that same board with me another girl had 3mil and got her BFP. It can happen and I will be so happy for you!! I'm sorry for all us woman that have to be the stronger ones. Am I thrilled to be pregnant 100% but I have to say my OH hasn't made things easier just more difficult and stressful to the point where I haven't seen him in a few weeks...so obviously I'm not all lovey dovey about men right now. He truly was causing me so much extra stress thats very unsafe for the baby and I so I prefer him to just stay away and take care. Depression is so hard and I"m glad you have someone to talk too, I have had some issues with it myself at times so I get it!! It just bothers me that men take everything to the next level! For years they have always said that if men had the babies we would have no population and its so true!!!! Hope you're doing well!!
History of TTC in spoiler box
TTC since 2014 Unexplained Infertility - but I am 40...Low AMH .30 7 - IUI (50mg-150mg Clomid) Feb - August 2016 all BFN IVF#1 August 2016 (Antagonist protocol 4/5 eggs) Cancelled cycle RE thought I would get at least 10. IVF#2 Sept 2016 (microdose luporn pro - disappearing follies, ONLY ONE, convert to IUI) BFN IVF#3 November 2016 (4 ER, 3 F, 3DT)-BFP with TWINS // MC both at almost 10wks IVF#4 March 2017 //EPP (10 ER (1 wonky so 9 ER) 7F, 3B (5AB, (2)5BB) PGS tested- ALL abnormal IVF#5 April 2017 // EPP (7 ER, 7F yes! 6B) 2/5 day 4/6 day - 2 PGS normal! yes!! IVF#6 May 2017 // Antagonist didn't have time for Estrogen Priming...(4 ER, 3 F, 3B) (5AB, (2) 5BB) 2 PGS normal, yes!! IVF#7 June 2017 // EPP praying this is it and then on to an FET!
@BusinessWife - yep, that's the plan! April FET, March ERA.
@Hopeful_mom . - OMG: "I don't mean to insult at all but I hate that they can be so selfish at times?? My first ER was cancelled cause my OH didnt show up with his sample, so all the stemming, time and money wasted. Yes he had a family issue come up, he still couldve done it but whatever."
Honestly, I don't know that my marriage could have survived that. That is really selfish! I'm sorry for the stress your H has caused lately, too. I hope it gets better soon.
@funkykey I'll be stalking you at the April FET board. Fx that it will be you blessed month
@BusinessWife Thanks for chiming in. Yes, my IUI #2b went fine. Actually miraculously DHs SA was 20x better than the previous day's sample, and he just provided ONE batch (he's usually asked to give 2)! I gave him a high five when we got the news. Sorry I don't have the figures. I'd still have to ask for the charts to be translated, they're all in Jap.
@Momifbysea Yes, I moved to a new clinic/Dr and I was put on a 3-IUI plan before going back to IVF.
For years they have always said that if men had the babies we have no population and it's so true!
I find it funny that since I started TTC, I always hear the phrase 'every woman/woman's case Is different' well probably all in every aspect seem different. But as I encounter other's posts about their DH, the main statement that surface is 'All men are the same!'
I'm very sorry that your OH isn't so helpful especially during this precious time. I do hope that you and baby will not get any more stress like this.
@Hopeful_mom sorry forgot to answer your question...I’ll drive the 4 hours back to where my insurance still is for the FET in June and crash with friends for my follow ups then drive back down here. So worth it even though the distance was hard, we do what we have to do! So good to get down to only one rent/utilities etc again though!!!
Hi all, just a quick update (*TW* loss mentioned) We did a fresh transfer off of this 2nd IVF cycle and found out on Saturday it’s another CP. Our follow up is on Friday, and I’ve spent most of the weekend and today alternating between crying and anger (our RE was so confident last week that it wouldn’t be another CP). So lots of work getting done, obviously.
@Bababatty that's so hard I'm so sorry to hear!! Hope you have a bunch more to transfer when you're ready! Big hugs!!
History of TTC in spoiler box
TTC since 2014 Unexplained Infertility - but I am 40...Low AMH .30 7 - IUI (50mg-150mg Clomid) Feb - August 2016 all BFN IVF#1 August 2016 (Antagonist protocol 4/5 eggs) Cancelled cycle RE thought I would get at least 10. IVF#2 Sept 2016 (microdose luporn pro - disappearing follies, ONLY ONE, convert to IUI) BFN IVF#3 November 2016 (4 ER, 3 F, 3DT)-BFP with TWINS // MC both at almost 10wks IVF#4 March 2017 //EPP (10 ER (1 wonky so 9 ER) 7F, 3B (5AB, (2)5BB) PGS tested- ALL abnormal IVF#5 April 2017 // EPP (7 ER, 7F yes! 6B) 2/5 day 4/6 day - 2 PGS normal! yes!! IVF#6 May 2017 // Antagonist didn't have time for Estrogen Priming...(4 ER, 3 F, 3B) (5AB, (2) 5BB) 2 PGS normal, yes!! IVF#7 June 2017 // EPP praying this is it and then on to an FET!
@tinjp78 I'm so sorry to hear!! Anytime AF shows it's tough! Sending hugs!
History of TTC in spoiler box
TTC since 2014 Unexplained Infertility - but I am 40...Low AMH .30 7 - IUI (50mg-150mg Clomid) Feb - August 2016 all BFN IVF#1 August 2016 (Antagonist protocol 4/5 eggs) Cancelled cycle RE thought I would get at least 10. IVF#2 Sept 2016 (microdose luporn pro - disappearing follies, ONLY ONE, convert to IUI) BFN IVF#3 November 2016 (4 ER, 3 F, 3DT)-BFP with TWINS // MC both at almost 10wks IVF#4 March 2017 //EPP (10 ER (1 wonky so 9 ER) 7F, 3B (5AB, (2)5BB) PGS tested- ALL abnormal IVF#5 April 2017 // EPP (7 ER, 7F yes! 6B) 2/5 day 4/6 day - 2 PGS normal! yes!! IVF#6 May 2017 // Antagonist didn't have time for Estrogen Priming...(4 ER, 3 F, 3B) (5AB, (2) 5BB) 2 PGS normal, yes!! IVF#7 June 2017 // EPP praying this is it and then on to an FET!
Thanks for the support ladies! I'd have my next appt on Mon in prep for IUI#3. This would probably be our last IUI, as our dr suggested that we take 3IUI's and if they won't work, we'd move to IVF.
I think I will be starting IVF this July. I did one IUI and need 2 more for my insurance to authorize IVF, even though I was told IUI will have about a 2% chance of being successful.
My FSH is 14 and my AMH is .65. So numbers aren't great, but RE said don't get caught up in numbers. I'm 37 about to be 38 in 3 weeks.
@lm0729 Welcome! This July/Aug thread is actually from 2017. Since there isn't a July 2018 IVF thread yet, won't you like to hang out at the April 2018 IUI thread for the meantime? Or you can start the July thread yourself if you'd like. Any which way you choose, I wish you get lots of support and love from everybody you meet.
Welcome and GL @lm0729 ! I remember waiting and being so anxious for "my" threads to start... but yeah like @tinjp78 said, we cycled together in 2017 and try to stay in touch on this thread, after all this time! There is some amazing community to be found and built here... I think you'll fit right in. ;)
AFM - BR ***TW*** <div class=" Spoiler">I'm 17 weeks today, and I can hardly believe it! I was trying on my Easter dress for DH yesterday, and he was like, uh, you look pregnant! And I'm like, well, everyone knows now, it's not like I need to hide it!
Our announcements came in, but not yet the stamps I ordered to send them, but those will go out this week to extended family we dont see as much, and I told my last two co-workers who didn't know yet on Friday. That will be a relief, too, bc it's getting harder to dress the blump without looking obvious. So it will be nice to be able to just wear whatever works and breathe a little easier...
I had a sad moment, doing some spring cleaning, and I came across my old tests... :'( so we just tossed those out - better not to hang on, I guess. </div>Anyway, that's about it from our side - no appointments for several weeks, so that's actually kind of a nice break, too.
@tinjp78. How have you been!?? Hope you are enjoying a Very Happy Easter!!! ❤❤❤
How's everybody else? Anyone care to update this weekend?
@tinjp78 sending super sticky vibes!! best of luck to u!!
History of TTC in spoiler box
TTC since 2014 Unexplained Infertility - but I am 40...Low AMH .30 7 - IUI (50mg-150mg Clomid) Feb - August 2016 all BFN IVF#1 August 2016 (Antagonist protocol 4/5 eggs) Cancelled cycle RE thought I would get at least 10. IVF#2 Sept 2016 (microdose luporn pro - disappearing follies, ONLY ONE, convert to IUI) BFN IVF#3 November 2016 (4 ER, 3 F, 3DT)-BFP with TWINS // MC both at almost 10wks IVF#4 March 2017 //EPP (10 ER (1 wonky so 9 ER) 7F, 3B (5AB, (2)5BB) PGS tested- ALL abnormal IVF#5 April 2017 // EPP (7 ER, 7F yes! 6B) 2/5 day 4/6 day - 2 PGS normal! yes!! IVF#6 May 2017 // Antagonist didn't have time for Estrogen Priming...(4 ER, 3 F, 3B) (5AB, (2) 5BB) 2 PGS normal, yes!! IVF#7 June 2017 // EPP praying this is it and then on to an FET!
Re: Anyone doing IVF in July/August?
Afm I got my AF yesterday and I'm starting with Premalin today until CD4.
@Bababatty Dr had me on Duphaston since Jan, it helps prevent/treat that chocolate cyst from getting bigger. I think there is still no meds that would prevent them from building up, probably because no one actually really knows how or why they appear to begin with? They are terrible little mysterious things and I'm on a mission to get to the bottom of this.
We just got back home from the clinic and my overall assessment of today's procedure is 'it DIDNT go so well'. DH got his sperm sample here at home. Just by the look on his face, I knew that he didn't get a good sample. He kept the sample in the cup provided by the clinic, and carried it under his coat so as to keep it warm, but the temperature in the city today is -1 deg Celsius! And it's a 40 minute commute by subway to the clinic. As expected, he was asked to take another sample in the clinic and it took him some time to get our guys. The IUI procedure itself was a breeze though. I didn't feel as uncomfortable as iui#1. I was a bit giggling over some crazy thoughts as I was lying there for my 3-minute rest. The whole procedure just took 5 minutes i think. During our consult, dr said that my dominant follie has not ovulated yet and it grew to 21mm. And since DH's SA was terrible today, she suggested we do another IUI tomorrow. I had a 3000iu HCG trigger. With that said, I'll have a back to back IUI.
DH really tested my patience this morning. He acted like a jerk and I was so annoyed with him. I wanted to put it behind me because I didn't want to get stressed out and wanted my procedure to be a success, but how was I supposed to do it? we were together and I had no escape. Then it hit me, he was prob acting like that bc he was frustrated by his SA. Then I just felt sorry for him.
Now, off to the fun stuff, I'm at the clinic now again for the 2nd part of my back to back IUI#2/3. I just got my us and dr said I O'd. DH now is getting our champion swimmers.
Btw, @funkykey How are you doing today? I'm thinking about you and hoping that you are feeling much better now
We have our follow up with the RE tomorrow, so hopefully I will feel better then. I'm hopeful that we'll be able to figure out why this is happening, but I'm still devastated that this FET failed.
I wanted to share a positive story. And no, I’m not PG but I’m hopeful. Anyone who remembers me on this thread from a few months back knows that for four cycles of IVF I never got past day 3 with any of our embryos so it just got really tough to feel like I would never get past that hurdle and I’m 43 so I got doubtful. I had changed my diet completely and strictly prior to that failed fourth cycle, about 6 weeks before it. All the books say it takes three months. Anyway, my DH moved out of state last Labor Day but I stayed here just due to IVF benefits so we’ve been living apart 6 months and this 5th cycle brought us to our lifetime cap so we knew this was our last try. I thought about posting on an IF thread but for some reason just kind of closed off it was just too hard to do again and I meditated a lot. Forgive my long absence from here please, I just got tired emotionally. Well, ER was February 1st and they got 9 eggs, 6 mature, about the same as I always get. All 6 fertilized, which was not abnormal for us, still a nervous wreck for that dreaded day 6 Call. But THIS time, for the first time ever, it wasn’t the dr who called me with his condolences on day 6, it was someone in THE LAB!!! 3 of our 6 made it to blast and we actually got to finally use the PGS testing we had planned to do! It got even better in that we now have 2 normal blasts frozen and I’m still in shock. I realize we still have hurdles but to finally be able to share this, I don’t want to jinx anything, but just to say to anyone still on here, keep that hope alive!
What diet changes did you make?
Edited to add: some more changes made after reading tons of books (I literally checked out the entire sections at two libraries, lol) were using unscented everything like shampoo, body wash, face wash, lotion. I literally went to our local co-op after reading up on the Environmental Working Group website for which brands were without the toxins and bought new body products, toothpaste, deodorant, makeup...I truly believe that this made the difference at a cellular level. My stats of ivf’s 1-4 are night and day compared with this 5th cycle so I wanted to spread the word especially for those of us 40-plus who have steeper odds of having the necessary egg quality. My RE was skeptical that I could do much, saying my issue was poor egg quality and that was just a given due to my age, so that’s what sent me on this path of learning how I could take some control here. It was really very empowering!
@tinjp78. Ah! Sorry I'm just getting caught up, and that the first apt was a bit underwhelming. Fx your body sounds like it was right on board tho, and between his couple of samples, everything can fall into place! I know it is so, so stressful, and really incredibly draining, not just for you, but for them too, and sometimes its hard to know the best way to reach them... how much longer till beta???
@funkykey. How did it go at the RE yesterday??? I hope you all were able to come up with a plan you feel good about, going forward. ❤
We're going to do an ERA this month, and then a transfer right after that, in April. We have 2 embies left. Our RE thinks that we've just been unlucky and transferred 2 bad embies in a row; he thinks that's the most likely scenario. I'm scared that he's wrong and it's something else - like all our embies are bad or that there's something with my uterus - so that's why we're going to do the ERA first.
I've really been thinking about whether or not to do another round of IVF. I think if our next transfer fails, we will do another round of IVF with the PGS testing. But I'm going to give this batch of embies one more shot first.
@funkykey I'm really sorry this FET failed this process is so hard. I still remember how excited we were when you first got your 4 blasts. It sucks that you have to go with the blasts probably weren't great, I hate that rational but that is what they go with. Doing another cycle isn't unheard of or crazy, it can be smart. Look how many cycles I did to first bank before moving on especially when all I wanted to do was get back to being pregnant. I hate all the delays you've had which makes the process even more frustrating. We never know which cycles will give us our golden batch and probably do to my age made it tougher. Having a cycle with not one normie was shocking to me...I thought I would at least get one BUT the more I read and the more stats I find from others regardless of age its not uncommon and just sux. Hoping this next cycles brings your miracle. Good luck with the ERA, please keep us updated!!
@tinjp78 can I say guys are whimps without sounding mean and uncaring?? I don't mean to insult at all but I hate that they can be so selfish at times?? My first ER was cancelled cause my OH didnt show up with his sample, so all the stemming, time and money wasted. Yes he had a family issue come up, he still couldve done it but whatever. I was infuriated because I missed previous IUIs because of no samples and BEGGED him to just leave a sample to freeze so we dont run into this issue again...cut to cancelled ER. It upsets me that woman have so much to go through in this process and we still have to be the woman to carry it all and understanding and stroke their egos when they are down. Really hoping your IUI went smoothly! I did the same as you and did back to back IUIs as the samples were not great for whatever reason AND technically he isn't an MFI status. I think after the wash I had 2mil each day...it didn't work for me and I dont know your amount BUT on that same board with me another girl had 3mil and got her BFP. It can happen and I will be so happy for you!! I'm sorry for all us woman that have to be the stronger ones. Am I thrilled to be pregnant 100% but I have to say my OH hasn't made things easier just more difficult and stressful to the point where I haven't seen him in a few weeks...so obviously I'm not all lovey dovey about men right now. He truly was causing me so much extra stress thats very unsafe for the baby and I so I prefer him to just stay away and take care. Depression is so hard and I"m glad you have someone to talk too, I have had some issues with it myself at times so I get it!! It just bothers me that men take everything to the next level! For years they have always said that if men had the babies we would have no population and its so true!!!! Hope you're doing well!!
Unexplained Infertility - but I am 40...Low AMH .30
7 - IUI (50mg-150mg Clomid) Feb - August 2016 all BFN
IVF#1 August 2016 (Antagonist protocol 4/5 eggs) Cancelled cycle
IVF#2 Sept 2016 (microdose luporn pro - disappearing follies, ONLY ONE, convert to IUI) BFN
IVF#3 November 2016 (4 ER, 3 F, 3DT)-BFP
IVF#4 March 2017 //EPP (10 ER (1 wonky so 9 ER) 7F, 3B (5AB, (2)5BB) PGS tested- ALL abnormal
IVF#5 April 2017 // EPP (7 ER, 7F yes! 6B) 2/5 day 4/6 day - 2 PGS normal! yes!!
IVF#6 May 2017 // Antagonist didn't have time for Estrogen Priming...(4 ER, 3 F, 3B) (5AB, (2) 5BB) 2 PGS normal, yes!!
IVF#7 June 2017 // EPP praying this is it and then on to an FET!
@Hopeful_mom . - OMG: "I don't mean to insult at all but I hate that they can be so selfish at times?? My first ER was cancelled cause my OH didnt show up with his sample, so all the stemming, time and money wasted. Yes he had a family issue come up, he still couldve done it but whatever."
Honestly, I don't know that my marriage could have survived that. That is really selfish! I'm sorry for the stress your H has caused lately, too. I hope it gets better soon.
@BusinessWife Thanks for chiming in. Yes, my IUI #2b went fine. Actually miraculously DHs SA was 20x better than the previous day's sample, and he just provided ONE batch (he's usually asked to give 2)! I gave him a high five when we got the news. Sorry I don't have the figures. I'd still have to ask for the charts to be translated, they're all in Jap.
@Momifbysea Yes, I moved to a new clinic/Dr and I was put on a 3-IUI plan before going back to IVF.
@Hopeful_mom This made me laugh!
For years they have always said that if men had the babies we have no population and it's so true!
I find it funny that since I started TTC, I always hear the phrase 'every woman/woman's case Is different' well probably all in every aspect seem different. But as I encounter other's posts about their DH, the main statement that surface is 'All men are the same!'
I'm very sorry that your OH isn't so helpful especially during this precious time. I do hope that you and baby will not get any more stress like this.
We did a fresh transfer off of this 2nd IVF cycle and found out on Saturday it’s another CP. Our follow up is on Friday, and I’ve spent most of the weekend and today alternating between crying and anger (our RE was so confident last week that it wouldn’t be another CP). So lots of work getting done, obviously.
Unexplained Infertility - but I am 40...Low AMH .30
7 - IUI (50mg-150mg Clomid) Feb - August 2016 all BFN
IVF#1 August 2016 (Antagonist protocol 4/5 eggs) Cancelled cycle
IVF#2 Sept 2016 (microdose luporn pro - disappearing follies, ONLY ONE, convert to IUI) BFN
IVF#3 November 2016 (4 ER, 3 F, 3DT)-BFP
IVF#4 March 2017 //EPP (10 ER (1 wonky so 9 ER) 7F, 3B (5AB, (2)5BB) PGS tested- ALL abnormal
IVF#5 April 2017 // EPP (7 ER, 7F yes! 6B) 2/5 day 4/6 day - 2 PGS normal! yes!!
IVF#6 May 2017 // Antagonist didn't have time for Estrogen Priming...(4 ER, 3 F, 3B) (5AB, (2) 5BB) 2 PGS normal, yes!!
IVF#7 June 2017 // EPP praying this is it and then on to an FET!
Unexplained Infertility - but I am 40...Low AMH .30
7 - IUI (50mg-150mg Clomid) Feb - August 2016 all BFN
IVF#1 August 2016 (Antagonist protocol 4/5 eggs) Cancelled cycle
IVF#2 Sept 2016 (microdose luporn pro - disappearing follies, ONLY ONE, convert to IUI) BFN
IVF#3 November 2016 (4 ER, 3 F, 3DT)-BFP
IVF#4 March 2017 //EPP (10 ER (1 wonky so 9 ER) 7F, 3B (5AB, (2)5BB) PGS tested- ALL abnormal
IVF#5 April 2017 // EPP (7 ER, 7F yes! 6B) 2/5 day 4/6 day - 2 PGS normal! yes!!
IVF#6 May 2017 // Antagonist didn't have time for Estrogen Priming...(4 ER, 3 F, 3B) (5AB, (2) 5BB) 2 PGS normal, yes!!
IVF#7 June 2017 // EPP praying this is it and then on to an FET!
My FSH is 14 and my AMH is .65. So numbers aren't great, but RE said don't get caught up in numbers. I'm 37 about to be 38 in 3 weeks.
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AFM - BR ***TW***
<div class=" Spoiler">I'm 17 weeks today, and I can hardly believe it! I was trying on my Easter dress for DH yesterday, and he was like, uh, you look pregnant! And I'm like, well, everyone knows now, it's not like I need to hide it!
Our announcements came in, but not yet the stamps I ordered to send them, but those will go out this week to extended family we dont see as much, and I told my last two co-workers who didn't know yet on Friday. That will be a relief, too, bc it's getting harder to dress the blump without looking obvious. So it will be nice to be able to just wear whatever works and breathe a little easier...
I had a sad moment, doing some spring cleaning, and I came across my old tests... :'( so we just tossed those out - better not to hang on, I guess.
</div>Anyway, that's about it from our side - no appointments for several weeks, so that's actually kind of a nice break, too.
@tinjp78. How have you been!?? Hope you are enjoying a Very Happy Easter!!! ❤❤❤
How's everybody else? Anyone care to update this weekend?
Afm, I had my IUI#3 this morning and I'll have another one tomorrow since I haven't ovulated yet.
Unexplained Infertility - but I am 40...Low AMH .30
7 - IUI (50mg-150mg Clomid) Feb - August 2016 all BFN
IVF#1 August 2016 (Antagonist protocol 4/5 eggs) Cancelled cycle
IVF#2 Sept 2016 (microdose luporn pro - disappearing follies, ONLY ONE, convert to IUI) BFN
IVF#3 November 2016 (4 ER, 3 F, 3DT)-BFP
IVF#4 March 2017 //EPP (10 ER (1 wonky so 9 ER) 7F, 3B (5AB, (2)5BB) PGS tested- ALL abnormal
IVF#5 April 2017 // EPP (7 ER, 7F yes! 6B) 2/5 day 4/6 day - 2 PGS normal! yes!!
IVF#6 May 2017 // Antagonist didn't have time for Estrogen Priming...(4 ER, 3 F, 3B) (5AB, (2) 5BB) 2 PGS normal, yes!!
IVF#7 June 2017 // EPP praying this is it and then on to an FET!