It's Monday. Things are happening. What's got you riled up and ready to complain? As a bit of a GTKY how about we talk about pet peeves too while we get our bitch fest on?
Dunkin already stopped making the brownie batter donut and the girl got feisty with me for even asking for it. A) yes, I realize it is a February special for Valentine’s Day, but we are still in the month of February b) it is still on your menu board. Pretty sad morning. I wait for that flavor all year and only got two this year.
Bad drivers. Whether from incompetence or not being aware. Brought to you by the tractor trailer that turned right on red causing me to hit my breaks, the lady driving 30 in a 45, and the other lady who cut me off twice after getting in the left turn only lane and cutting back into mine.
_______________________________________________________________________________________________ MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks DS born 9/13/16 BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
And Monday needs to slow its fucking roll. I was up every hour to pee, until 2am. At 2am, I got a fucking robocall. So, then I was up until 6 and managed to sleep until 7:30.
I also grabbed the wrong toilet paper yesterday. DD is throwing a tantrum because it isn't fluffy.
@knitknitread haha I'm right there with your DD and also get grumpy about toilet paper. My college roommates were super cheap and would steal the basically see through stuff from campus to use at our house. I ended up buying my own secret TP stash of nice stuff
@EErin86 to this day I keep my toliet paper stash to myself. My husband always bulk orders ok-ish stuff so I don't feel bad putting in his bathroom and the guest bathroom, but I'm super picky about what goes in my bathroom and I don't share. Cause if he's happy using the cheap stuff I'm not going to waste money buying stuff for him he doesn't care about.
Good TP is so important! We added a half bath to our basement and because it needs to pump up and over to the main drain we have to be careful about what we use for TP in that specific bathroom. So it's 1-ply trash. I hate it. But it keeps the plumbing working. You bet we have better stuff in the rest of the house!
_______________________________________________________________________________________________ MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks DS born 9/13/16 BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
Spare seconds left on the microwave. Just hit clear people!!
Guilty....and I can't just claim pregnancy brain. It's really just forgetfulness and being in a rush. However, I will clear it at work. Just not at home.
I normally buy the soft stuff and I'm not particularly happy about the scratchy paper either. I wasn't paying attention and Wal-Mart moved around their inventory. So, I wasn't really paying attention to what I grabbed
I have to complete my self-evaluation at work today. I always feel accomplished once I'm done, but it is so tedious and annoying because there are a million different sections.
Pet peeve: my DH leaves his shoes in random places around the house, and my DD is picking up the habit! Argh.
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
MM- nothing exciting or unique. Just real real damn tired as per usual. Got my toddler to preschool almost 40 minutes late and I was really embarrassed. Oh and the lunch I packed him is ridiculous too, adding to my embarrassment.
Pet Peeve- making yourself too at home when visiting. I do like when my guests feel comfortable at my house but I don't want shoes and dirty socks kicked off wherever, dirty dishes left out all over, empty water bottles/soda cans whatever left on the counters. By all means help yourself and make yourself at home but clean up after yourself. Especially if you are supposed to be helping me out while you are here.
DS wouldn't go back to sleep for an hour when he woke up at 3. Finally got him down a bit after 4. So I was up for 2 hours.
PP: shitty toilet paper, TP the wrong way on the roll, extra seconds on the microwave, but really-it's not leaving the tires straight when you park the car. Only one of our cars is kid-safe, so both of us take both cars out. Husband has a tendency to just leave wheels cut, and the radio loud.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@pourmeamocktail I always straighten out the wheels and try to take a second and reset everything in the car. Volume down, air turned down, ect. My husband gets frustated that I leave MY seat in MY car pulled up in the position that works best for me and likes to make comments about "short" people. I'm 5'6". I'm not short. Hubby is 6' so it's not like he's a giant, but no we will not keep the seat in the same place, but it's my car so hush your face and move my seat back when you are done.
PP- not washing the baby's highchair tray after a meal. If you fed the baby you clean the tray. Don't set up the next person for failure. I consider meal prep, feeding the meal, and then cleaning up the meal all part of the same "task," so complete the damn task.
Kinda like doing the dishes means putting away the clean, washing the dirty, then cleaning the sink and counter where the dirty dishes were. Bugs me to no end when people don't clean the counter where the dirty dishes were. It's dirty!
I had a nanny take dirty baby bottles and wash them in a sink that she didn't clean first and then set the "clean" bottles back into the counter where the dirty dishes were. And she didn't fill the sink with soapy water just set the bottles in the sink and ran some water and added a bit of soap to the bottles and set the bottles back in the sink while she was working. Am I the only person that thinks that's unsanitary? I mean if I'm cooking the night before and set bowls or knives that I used to prepare raw chicken in that sink or on that counter, then she just put the baby's bottles in/on two places potentially coated in raw chicken germs. I always wash the sink before doing dishes and I always clean the counter where the dirty dishes were and I still only put the clean dishes on the drying rack on one side of the counter and not on the side where dirty dishes go.
When someone walks into a relatively empty restaurant with multiple young children and upon noticing I am obviously working, laptop out and on a call, still sitting right next to me instead of literally anywhere else in the restaurant! This morning I got up and moved and in the section I was in there were 3 of working and where I moved there was no one working!
MM: I still can’t pack my lunch for work because nothing ever sounds good when we’re meal planning and grocery shopping. I never know what I’ll be in the mood for by lunchtime so I’m wasting money by eating out everyday. Even when I’m hungry food usually doesn’t sound good so I just have to get in my car and pick a direction to drive and force myself to eat something.
Pet peeve: I’m going to second @stothi ‘s about house guests that make themselves too comfortable. MIL and her SO were just in town last weekend and it was like having to clean up after 3 toddlers instead of 1 with all the crap they leave around the kitchen. At least this time, her SO didn’t insist on bringing home takeout boxes from EVERY.SINGLE.MEAL and taking up all our fridge space (bc he’d bring the food home and not eat it). He would box up leftover food from everyone’s plate (barf) and insist that he’d eat it later. Of course since he never did eat it, we ended up having to toss it all when they left after their weeklong visit. Rude. He also dug our magazines we didn’t want from our recycling without asking and just left them on the counter which icked me out.
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me: 27 | husband: 35 IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16 baby #1born 2.19.16
OH MY GOSH I thought of my biggest pet peeve ever. People eating my leftovers (and good snacks)!!! I don't care if you're family, that is my food and if you eat it I may not speak to you for a week. If you do this while I'm pregnant, I may disown you.
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
@southernlady07 My H knows better to ask me about specific food now to make sure it's fair game, especially while pregnant. I've been known to cry if something of mine was eaten without my approval.
@stothi I loatheeeee when guests are over dont push dining table chairs or stools in when they get up. Or wear shoes in my house with white carpet. or leave empty beer bottles and caps on the counter, bc my DS loves to put small things in his mouth and most certainly would choke on a cap. I thought these things were all common sense! or at least, ask!
BFP #2 4/3/15= ectopic treated with methotrexate 5/1, YET ruptured 5/18/15= One Tube Wonder!
2 Cycles of Femara, Ovidrel, & Progesterone= BFP #3 DS born 5/17/16 TTC #2 March 2017 (initially med free) BFP #4 8/14/17 *natural cycle* EDD= 4/25/18, MC @5-6w D&C 9/22/17 BFP #5 12/29/17 w/ Femara/Ovidrel/Progesterone/Synthroid, EDD= 9/11/18 found out 1/18 ITS di/di TWINS!!! DS and DD born 8/21/18
BFP #2 4/3/15= ectopic treated with methotrexate 5/1, YET ruptured 5/18/15= One Tube Wonder!
2 Cycles of Femara, Ovidrel, & Progesterone= BFP #3 DS born 5/17/16 TTC #2 March 2017 (initially med free) BFP #4 8/14/17 *natural cycle* EDD= 4/25/18, MC @5-6w D&C 9/22/17 BFP #5 12/29/17 w/ Femara/Ovidrel/Progesterone/Synthroid, EDD= 9/11/18 found out 1/18 ITS di/di TWINS!!! DS and DD born 8/21/18
Noooooooo! I just bought an entire crate of oriental flavor ramen noodles cause they are the only thing I crave and they are perfection, and just now not even halfway though a bowl I almost barfed all over!!! No. No. F you morning sickness! Don't take this from me!!!
Oh No @stothi I hate to find something I will actually eat and then shortly later get sick. Ruins it for me. Hopefully oriental ramen is not ruined for you now.
@stothi oh no girl! I'm so sorry! I hate it when something sounds SO GOOD, and then thank you hormones.. I can't even look at it. Makes meal planning so hard! Hopefully that salty goodness isn't ruined for you. I find really slowing down my eating helps a little.
Me: 34 DH:33 TTC since Oct 2016 DX: Undetermined possible PCOS+MFI July 2017-Dec 2017 Letrozole+TI Dec 2017 CP Jan 2018 BFP:EDD 9-25
I wanted to be enterprising and cook a real dinner so I bought a chicken (raw to take the effort to actually roast on my own). It would have been half as much to buy the roasted one and not have to mess with it. And now I have to go home and put in the effort to cook dinner and the yuck factor of facing a raw fucking chicken. I lose. Wtf was I thinking?!?
It feels weird to complain about it here but I need to vent. Does anyone have experience with a loved one, whether a parent, sibling, or close friend, just absolutely showing no emotion about anything (like, your pregnancy)?
I was never one to have “daddy” issues, and I know that getting older changes people...but man...my dad has just become awful in his old age. My parents are out here visiting me and literally all of my health problems, physical and otherwise, are back. It seemed weird and coincidental until suddenly I realized - OMG, he really makes me unhappy! I’ve never seen someone look less excited to find out they are having a grandson. He barely looks up from his iPad, and when my mom said “did you hear that?” He snapped at us all and said “WHAT? No! I’m reading an article.” I know obviously he loves me - I had a great childhood and I am very fortunate to have good parents. But good lord, he’s turned into such a jerk. I know he’s getting old, and the burden is on me to learn to manage my expectations. But that doesn’t mean I’m not sitting in my office alone crying about it. I’m sorry if this is weird and inappropriate or AW to post, I just had to get it out.
@ashh2018 I can relate somewhat. My H is very mellow, so much so that our priest who married us joked about having to set the church on fire to get a reaction out of him. I have to coax a lot out of my H to get a better reading on his mood/mental state. But in general, I think that growing up before you have kids of your own, so much of what we do is to please our parents. When they don't give you the reaction you're hoping for it's disappointing, not that you're having a baby to make your dad happy, but you might expect him to be happy to be a grandfather. I've found parenthood to be liberating in that I care so much less about what others think about what I do/don't do, including my parents. Life is too busy to be questioning if you're doing the right thing for someone else when you have a new life depending on you. I hope this shines through for you later on, too. No advice for how to cope now, just an internet hug.
Thanks @nlc8424 and you’re right. It’s always been a struggle for me in that I worry too much about how everyone else feels about things. (I actually put off TTC so I wouldn’t inconvenience everyone based on when my brother is getting married lol). It’s time for me to stop worrying about them!
@ashh2018 my people in general are low key and fairly stoic. I didn't get much in the way of reactions from anyone. *Shrugs* Some people just don't really get excited about stuff. I get excited! But apparently my idea of excited is pretty much other people's idea of barely reacting, but it seems like a lot to me compared to how my people are since they really don't react at all!
@stothi I guess my dad’s lack of reaction was just the last straw haha. He’s really just turned into a mean old man. My mom is great - but this whole week feels like when you’re hanging out with a couple, and one of them clearly doesn’t like you, but the other one dragged them haha.
@southernlady07 omg! me too!!! MIL and SIL visited recently and we took them grocery shopping to get their own food and MIL ate almost all of the snacks I could tolerate at the time.. That's when I was getting occasional morning sickness. DH and SIL didn't seem too concerned at all. but I was LIVID. Needless to say, I was super excited when they flew back to their home 21 hours away.
I just wish someone would invent a sedative that’s safe for pregnancy. Like...pregnancy Xanax. Is that a thing and I just don’t know about it? Lol. Ugh.
@ashh2018 you can certainly talk to your doctor about Zoloft, I'm not sure about anything like Xanax, but my doctor will prescribe Zoloft whenever I feel like I'm ready to start. This can help with anxiety, but there are some GI symptoms that go along with the start up that aren't so pleasant.
@ashh2018 you can certainly talk to your doctor about Zoloft, I'm not sure about anything like Xanax, but my doctor will prescribe Zoloft whenever I feel like I'm ready to start. This can help with anxiety, but there are some GI symptoms that go along with the start up that aren't so pleasant.
I just stopped my Zoloft - long story. I have severe anxiety and for years, I took trazodone and clonazepam. I had taken antidepressants when I was younger but wasn’t any more. When I decided to TTC, I tapered off the two anxiety meds and my doctor, and NP at the time, suggested the sertraline (Zoloft) bc it was a good option during pregnancy. Well, we ended up putting off TTC until December, in that time I settled into my new medication. Went to the doctor when I got pregnant (also in December, yeah) and my original doc is out on medical. New doctor immediately said I need to stop sertraline. Didn’t even ask about my current mental health, but went on and on about my risk for PPD. Like, do you want to know how I am now?? My dose of sertraline was so small it didn’t matter much, but at times like this, I really remember why I had an “emergency” medication for Xanax or clonazepam for bouts like this.
My MM- office work and project work is building up and I just am having a hard time getting started.
PP- when people don't set up their voicemail on their phones. I don't care if you hate voicemail, it's necessary for doctors offices to leave messages at times. Then you call back saying you have a missed call from this number, WTF.
Re: Monday Moans- Pet Peeve Edition
A) yes, I realize it is a February special for Valentine’s Day, but we are still in the month of February
b) it is still on your menu board.
Pretty sad morning. I wait for that flavor all year and only got two this year.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
And Monday needs to slow its fucking roll. I was up every hour to pee, until 2am. At 2am, I got a fucking robocall. So, then I was up until 6 and managed to sleep until 7:30.
I also grabbed the wrong toilet paper yesterday. DD is throwing a tantrum because it isn't fluffy.
Edited, words are hard
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
Pet peeve: my DH leaves his shoes in random places around the house, and my DD is picking up the habit! Argh.
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
Pet Peeve- making yourself too at home when visiting. I do like when my guests feel comfortable at my house but I don't want shoes and dirty socks kicked off wherever, dirty dishes left out all over, empty water bottles/soda cans whatever left on the counters. By all means help yourself and make yourself at home but clean up after yourself. Especially if you are supposed to be helping me out while you are here.
PP: shitty toilet paper, TP the wrong way on the roll, extra seconds on the microwave, but really-it's not leaving the tires straight when you park the car. Only one of our cars is kid-safe, so both of us take both cars out. Husband has a tendency to just leave wheels cut, and the radio loud.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
My husband gets frustated that I leave MY seat in MY car pulled up in the position that works best for me and likes to make comments about "short" people. I'm 5'6". I'm not short. Hubby is 6' so it's not like he's a giant, but no we will not keep the seat in the same place, but it's my car so hush your face and move my seat back when you are done.
PP- not washing the baby's highchair tray after a meal. If you fed the baby you clean the tray. Don't set up the next person for failure. I consider meal prep, feeding the meal, and then cleaning up the meal all part of the same "task," so complete the damn task.
Kinda like doing the dishes means putting away the clean, washing the dirty, then cleaning the sink and counter where the dirty dishes were. Bugs me to no end when people don't clean the counter where the dirty dishes were. It's dirty!
I had a nanny take dirty baby bottles and wash them in a sink that she didn't clean first and then set the "clean" bottles back into the counter where the dirty dishes were. And she didn't fill the sink with soapy water just set the bottles in the sink and ran some water and added a bit of soap to the bottles and set the bottles back in the sink while she was working. Am I the only person that thinks that's unsanitary? I mean if I'm cooking the night before and set bowls or knives that I used to prepare raw chicken in that sink or on that counter, then she just put the baby's bottles in/on two places potentially coated in raw chicken germs. I always wash the sink before doing dishes and I always clean the counter where the dirty dishes were and I still only put the clean dishes on the drying rack on one side of the counter and not on the side where dirty dishes go.
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
Pet peeve: I’m going to second @stothi ‘s about house guests that make themselves too comfortable. MIL and her SO were just in town last weekend and it was like having to clean up after 3 toddlers instead of 1 with all the crap they leave around the kitchen. At least this time, her SO didn’t insist on bringing home takeout boxes from EVERY.SINGLE.MEAL and taking up all our fridge space (bc he’d bring the food home and not eat it). He would box up leftover food from everyone’s plate (barf) and insist that he’d eat it later. Of course since he never did eat it, we ended up having to toss it all when they left after their weeklong visit. Rude. He also dug our magazines we didn’t want from our recycling without asking and just left them on the counter which icked me out.
me: 27 | husband: 35
IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP
BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16
baby #1 born 2.19.16
TTC #2 in April 2017
BFP 12.30.17 - EDD 9.6.18
Fertility Friend Chart
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
TTC #2 March 2017 (initially med free)
BFP #4 8/14/17 *natural cycle* EDD= 4/25/18, MC @5-6w D&C 9/22/17
BFP #5 12/29/17 w/ Femara/Ovidrel/Progesterone/Synthroid, EDD= 9/11/18 found out 1/18 ITS di/di TWINS!!!
DS and DD born 8/21/18
TTC #2 March 2017 (initially med free)
BFP #4 8/14/17 *natural cycle* EDD= 4/25/18, MC @5-6w D&C 9/22/17
BFP #5 12/29/17 w/ Femara/Ovidrel/Progesterone/Synthroid, EDD= 9/11/18 found out 1/18 ITS di/di TWINS!!!
DS and DD born 8/21/18
TTC since Oct 2016
DX: Undetermined possible PCOS+MFI
July 2017-Dec 2017 Letrozole+TI
Dec 2017 CP
Jan 2018 BFP:EDD 9-25
I was never one to have “daddy” issues, and I know that getting older changes people...but man...my dad has just become awful in his old age. My parents are out here visiting me and literally all of my health problems, physical and otherwise, are back. It seemed weird and coincidental until suddenly I realized - OMG, he really makes me unhappy! I’ve never seen someone look less excited to find out they are having a grandson. He barely looks up from his iPad, and when my mom said “did you hear that?” He snapped at us all and said “WHAT? No! I’m reading an article.” I know obviously he loves me - I had a great childhood and I am very fortunate to have good parents. But good lord, he’s turned into such a jerk. I know he’s getting old, and the burden is on me to learn to manage my expectations. But that doesn’t mean I’m not sitting in my office alone crying about it. I’m sorry if this is weird and inappropriate or AW to post, I just had to get it out.
I get excited! But apparently my idea of excited is pretty much other people's idea of barely reacting, but it seems like a lot to me compared to how my people are since they really don't react at all!
me: 27 | husband: 35
IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP
BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16
baby #1 born 2.19.16
TTC #2 in April 2017
BFP 12.30.17 - EDD 9.6.18
Fertility Friend Chart
PP- when people don't set up their voicemail on their phones. I don't care if you hate voicemail, it's necessary for doctors offices to leave messages at times. Then you call back saying you have a missed call from this number, WTF.
ETA words to clarify.