UO Thursday 2/1

dirtanddiamonds · February 2018

calimom2524 said:

@dirtanddiamonds DUH! He argues that their colors are red, white, and blue and their name is The Patriots that it doesn't get more "America" than that. He knows it annoys me so he continues to argue it. Like I said, Cowboys fan here, so I believe they're totally America's team.

Yeah I heard a conspiracy theory once that the only reason the pats won post 9/11 was because they were the patriots. And it was patriotic. So the US government asked the NFL to let them win. Lol. Hahahaha. No. It did nothing for my patriotic spirit. And I’m a vet. Lol. Maybe that’s where the America’s team theory comes from.

I wanna see the Browns win. Just once in my lifetime. Haha.

pghctwife · February 2018

I’m overall with whomever it was who said they are morally opposed. Watching the super bowl isn’t my hill to die on... I like the ads and snacks. For me my fight (which luckily dh agreed with but he would be way more inclined to let them if they wanted) is that football is not.happening. Hard line. No. I’m hoping to avoid soccer too due to the microconcussions. So that may be an uo. I don’t want my kids to play soccer (or football).

Dh is a Steelers fan so he haaaates the pats. I’m secretly happy for New England to win anything over Pittsburgh lol. Early in our relationship we agreed that our family would be Steelers fans, and uconn fans. I haaaaaate Pitt (which fil adores) and I’m more into b-ball anyhow. So I keep mum on the pats and get them huskies gear.

elsieisamoocow · February 2018

@pghctwife Oh yes I'm 100% with you on no football or soccer. Thankfully DH and I aren't sports people and so far DS loves ballet class and music instead of throwing balls, but who knows what'll happen once he's in school.

ladygali · February 2018

@dirtanddiamonds lol, I live in Ohio and I’m pretty sure Cleveland would implode upon itself from joy if the Browns actually had a decent season, much less won any titles!!!

@pghctwife and @elsieisamoocow no soccer or football for us, either. We aren’t sports people, and I’d rather just avoid the whole scene.

hardlyhannah · February 2018

I’m okay with little tiny soccer where they’re just running in packs around the ball because it’s funny but I agree on no competitive soccer or football too. I really hope DS goes into the arts swimming or tennis.

My DHs Family is super huge into hockey, my FIL played professionally and coached college for a while. They really want to get DS into it and that’s another hard no for me. We’ve actually gotten comments from others about his hockey legacy and how can we deny it and blah blah blah. Sorry. Pass. Not sorry.

pghctwife · February 2018

Yeah I’m a big fan of participating in sports - I ran D1 Xc and track, and I think sports are important. I have my oldest trying lacrosse, and I am hoping I can get them running too. I hope that I can get them excited for other stuff before they beg for soccer (which is already happening). I’m worried my almost 7 would start soccer now and then if I try to say ‘no more’ once they start heading the ball at 12 it’ll be hard - and kinda mean tbh.

I ket my 5 yo do prek soccer this fall, he’s less active and needed something to get him moving. It worked but now he talks about it all this time... ugh.

lalala2004 · February 2018

I’m not hard set against any sport except football. Any sport can lead to injury, but football is just so high risk for life-altering/shortening brain injuries. Hoping to encourage basketball, but if DS is anything like his parents, he’s more likely to be in scouts than play a sport. But I hope he will stay active. I was kind of a sedentary kid.

pghctwife · February 2018

Footballs easy to avoid - New England. Soccer though it is just ubiquitous

jsnakehole · February 2018

DH said absolutely no football for the kids, which I agree with. We'll probably do soccer, little league baseball, and basketball. My dad coached my brother's peewee basketball team and said if we have a boy he'd probably want to coach again. We'll probably also put our kid in gymnastics and dance (but not competition dance- the dance moms in my neighborhood could give the reality show ones a run for their money... Not that I didn't watch a lot of 'Dance Moms').

lalala2004 · February 2018

@pghctwife here in Texas if your kid comes out larger than average they already start saying what football position they’ll play. *eyeroll*

And I cant lie, as disinterested as I am in pro football, the culture surrounding high school football here is so nostalgic for me, I have a lot of mixed feelings about it. I don’t want it to go away, I just want them to make it safer.... and not include my kid. He can be in the marching band or something!

pghctwife · February 2018

Dh loved wrestling and would really like the kids to get into that for a winter sport… The kid program for it here is pretty intense though so I won’t sign them up until probably third grade or so

Sports are really big in my town, and the high school is pretty big so there are tons and tons of options for kids. It’s pretty nice because if they’re not going to make the soccer team or whatever… There are lots of options to take all comers. There’s a crew team we have girls ice hockey we have badminton team we have a rugby team… Lots and lots of options! It’s nice because then kids can find a sport that suits them even if they are the most athletic etc.

princesslockness · February 2018

Hmmmm, interesting to hear all of the ‘hard no’s, while we are hoping to get them both to play football or rugby. If played and coached correctly the injury risks are minimal.

brzvice · February 2018

@hardlyhannah I grew up in a hockey household and was never a fan of the sport.
Tennis though? I love to play and especially love to watch. If I ever could get to see Serena play at the US open I will be one happy woman. Bucket list!

hezzer78 · February 2018

I'm a soft no against football - if it's what he (or she!) really wants to do, we'll have that discussion, but i would really prefer no. My husband is a huge soccer nut - he played in high school and LOVES it now. I imagine our LO will end up on a soccer team - although I agree with @lalala2004 - I would much prefer they be in marching band!

Secretstapler · February 2018

I totally agree with no football. I told DH years ago that my kids would not play football. Luckily, he agreed. And my initial concern was just the head injuries, but DH pointed out that there is (or can be) a pretty unhealthy culture around football. You get team performance prioritized over academic performance or personal safety. And it can contribute to a culture where hazing, sexual harassment, and sexual assault are considered normal. I know that's not necessarily true everywhere, but it is awfully widespread in professional and college football, so it's hard to completely decouple local football from all of it.

All that being said, I was in marching band and had a blast. Although, at my school, our football team was so lousy, they pretty much just provided the band a venue.

*Edited to finish the last sentence that got cut off.

pghctwife · February 2018

Dh played HS football and believes he has sustained brain injury from the concussions he had. He didn’t play for any longer than HS. Newp.

Unfortunately younger than college its pretty hard to guarantee proper coaching and the avoidance of concussions and micro concussions. Using your head as a weapon is integral to the game now.

We we don’t live in football land so it shouldn’t be a big deal. I know very few kids my sons age playing yet.

ecwk · February 2018

Five years living here and still pause momentarily when reading “football” to decipher which sport is being referred to! Lol.
Also on team No Football but DH is really into sports and always talks about how he can’t wait to coach DS’s Little League team so I do imagine we will encourage him to play whatever (other) sport he wants!

legallykate · February 2018

lalala2004 said:

@pghctwife here in Texas if your kid comes out larger than average they already start saying what football position they’ll play. *eyeroll*

And I cant lie, as disinterested as I am in pro football, the culture surrounding high school football here is so nostalgic for me, I have a lot of mixed feelings about it. I don’t want it to go away, I just want them to make it safer.... and not include my kid. He can be in the marching band or something!

All of this. It’s so huge at the high school I want to send our kids to. And DH also played in high school. I’d like to think there will be even better awareness and safety protocols by the time we would have a kid old enough to play tackle though (and the fact that this one is girl certainly helps haha).

pghctwife · February 2018

@lalala2004 @legallykate totally totally get that. 100%. I’m a sucker for nostalgia too!

even here in the northeast, ppl have been commenting on my youngest wrt football since he was born. He has huge hands - first thing I noticed when he was born. At 2 months old his pediatrician called him ‘a very muscular baby.’ He has visible abs at 2. He’s sturdy and solid - not huge but big. He’s agile and has good coordination, and he has 2 big brothers and is BY FAR the toughest of them.

I have no doubt he’ll be an athlete, and frankly he’d probably grow up to be good at football. Hopefully we’ll find another sport that will suit him just as well because he’s smart too and I want to protect his brain.

His brothers don’t really scream football so hopefully he’ll be into whatever they do.

dirtanddiamonds · February 2018

I’m team “Let them do what their heart desires”. They want to play football or they want to compete in math club. It doesn’t matter either way. Let them follow their passion. I’ve never tried to push them into anything. I have had to push them to finish something. They started and then grew bored with it - we’ll finish the season. No quitting.

lolog531 · February 2018

I am also a soft no on football. If it is what DS shows interest in and wants to play, we will discuss, but the risks do terrify me. We live in MI, and our small town is known for their football team in the area. They’ve won state a few times in the past 10 years and everyone joked when we moved here last summer how DS would dominate in football (he’s >90% in height and weight!).
I would much rather he do lacrosse or baseball or soccer, but we will just have to cross that bridge when we get there!
DH and not are not artsy or musically inclined, so I’ll be shocked if he goes down that path because no idea where the talent would come from! Lol

lalala2004 · February 2018

dirtanddiamonds said:

I’m team “Let them do what their heart desires”. They want to play football or they want to compete in math club. It doesn’t matter either way. Let them follow their passion. I’ve never tried to push them into anything. I have had to push them to finish something. They started and then grew bored with it - we’ll finish the season. No quitting.

I mean, kids these days are trying to eat tide pods, so I wouldn't let them follow their passion too hard

aj1327 · February 2018

I’m making DS do swimming right now because we have a pool so water safety and learning to swim is a non negotiable.

I’d prefer no football and DH and I are both long and lanky so I don’t think we’ll have football players but you never know. We are also in Texas where football is huge.

ETA: @lalala2004 my mind was seriously blown when I heard about kids eating tide pods. WTF

7425cait · February 2018

^ bwahahahaha!

I am a moderately firm no on football and cheerleading. Both for the culture and risks.
DH has a rule that our kids need to do some kind of physical sport/activity every season. I agree. Right now DD is in dance, and loves it. I'm artsy and super unathletic. I'll be happy if my kids can run in a straight line.

hfooter · February 2018

@hardlyhannah after watching a hockey game by the winter hawks where they are like 16-18 years old I think, hockey is a hard no for us. The audience encourages fighting! Kids! Encouraging the kids to fight. It’s just gross.

We are pushing for baseball all the way. Till they can play tball they will do swim. Knowing how to swim is more important to me at this point. The rest will follow. Both DH and I are average height. DH was so small in high school that I doubt i have to worry about the boys being cut out for football

poor things but okay with me! Lol

pghctwife · February 2018

Ha yeah I have zero issue with the idea of having certain things we don’t allow, whether it be eating detergent or participating in a sport that’s been shown to frequently cause brain damage. I’m ok being a mean mom on both fronts. Shrug.

Hockeys a no too - and it’s pretty popular here. And I’ll admit that the primary reason isn’t safety (though yes) rather the cost and the 5am ice time. Yeahhhh no.

hfooter · February 2018

Wait. Are like teenagers eating tide pods? I’ve seen some memes and i was confused because a toddler getting into them is a serious and scary thing so why would there be all these jokes?

lalala2004 · February 2018

hfooter said:

Wait. Are like teenagers eating tide pods? I’ve seen some memes and i was confused because a toddler getting into them is a serious and scary thing so why would there be all these jokes?

Yeah, apparently there is a “Tide Pod Challenge”.

dirtanddiamonds · February 2018

lalala2004 said:

dirtanddiamonds said:

I’m team “Let them do what their heart desires”. They want to play football or they want to compete in math club. It doesn’t matter either way. Let them follow their passion. I’ve never tried to push them into anything. I have had to push them to finish something. They started and then grew bored with it - we’ll finish the season. No quitting.

I mean, kids these days are trying to eat tide pods, so I wouldn't let them follow their passion too hard

Well. Clearly. I wouldn’t support them in drugs or alcohol or anything of the sort. But if I had a child eager to try football, I wouldn’t tell them no.

My oldest wanted pink hair a couple years ago. So, we did hot pink ombré with my beautician. Not my style but she was expressing herself. And I’m all about that. She’s very much into fashion. Nothing like me.

Of course kids need boundaries. I won’t be signing any waivers for tattoos or piercings.

hfooter · February 2018

lalala2004 said:

hfooter said:

Wait. Are like teenagers eating tide pods? I’ve seen some memes and i was confused because a toddler getting into them is a serious and scary thing so why would there be all these jokes?

Yeah, apparently there is a “Tide Pod Challenge”.

Omg I hope I raise my kids better than that.

kburg15 · February 2018

We’re also a soft “no” on football. I’m so unathletic, but agree kids should be pushed to participate in something—I also loved marching band so for me that counts! DS is 18 months and has already done swim lessons, baby wearing dance class, and is now in a mommy and me dance class. He needs the energy release because he’s a big personality kid, and I think it’s nice to introduce things with other kids early on (plus he’s our first so easier said than done sometimes).

scottishlass1213 · February 2018

DS does soccer and basketball. Honestly he’s really good at anything he’s tried. He’s got an awesome throwing arm but as of right now doesn’t seem to want to go back to baseball as of yet.

DH just got him a legit kid set of golf clubs because he plays and DS is interested. I played softball growing up and DH did tennis and ran.

melprop · February 2018

DS does soccer here through the YMCA. If he likes it we’ll let him join a more competitive league in a few years. He tried wrestling this winter but wasn’t a fan. It was novice - no weigh-ins - and since he’s tall, he was always paired with kids 20-30lbs heavier than him. So the other kids could just pick him up & throw him around. Football isn’t a hard no, but I doubt it’ll interest him. If anything I could see him being a kicker. He’s too concerned about hurting other kids to actually tackle someone.

That being said, DH & his friends rock climb, and we have a homemade climbing wall in the backyard. DS loves it and is begging to go “real” climbing with DH & the guys this summer. I have a feeling DS will be more interested in pursuits like climbing, mountain biking, hiking, camping, etc, and those come with their own risks.

laufisch · February 2018

I also agree that kids should be active. I played rugby for 4 years and if people know how to tackle it can be done safely. I told DH that the only way I'm letting DS play football is if I teach everyone how to tackle and take a hit.

At least right now I'm thinking DS will want to do swimming, diving or rock climbing but who knows?

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